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Post by aj2hall on Jul 22, 2022 2:56:07 GMT
The New York Times has an interesting series by 8 different journalists - I was wrong about. I started thinking. I'm sure there are a lot of things I was wrong about. Off the top of my head - I was wrong about teaching my boys how to drive. Somehow, I naively thought we would spend a lot of time with them behind the wheel, they would get their driver's license and we would be done. We did spend a significant amount of time with them driving and by the time my youngest gets his license, all of them will be close to 18 when they got their license. But I was definitely wrong. Not so fast, it's an ongoing process. There are moments now when I still feel like I'm teaching the older 2 how to drive. Mostly the finer points or highway driving where they just haven't had a lot of experience. My minivan. I procrastinated and put off buying one for the longest time because I didn't want to be the soccer mom driving a minivan. And I loved my Ford Explorer. Well, now I love the minivan (although I will definitely be ready to downsize whenever the boys are out of the house) I will think about it and more more later. So, what were you wrong about? Something small like the price of coffee or something bigger? www.nytimes.com/interactive/2022/07/21/opinion/nyt-columnists-i-was-wrong.htmlI Was Wrong About: Inflation by Paul Krugman, Al Franken by Michelle Goldberg, Capitalism by David Brooks, The Power of Protest by Zeynep Tufekci, Trump Voters by Bret Stephens, Chinese Censorship by Thomas Friedman, Facebook by Farhad Manjoo, Mitt Romney by Gail Collins |
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Post by Legacy Girl on Jul 22, 2022 5:08:26 GMT
The length of time we would live in our first home. I anticipated five years. It's been 22. We have the best neighbors in the world, and the only reason we'll move is to go to a single-story home that's more easily accessible as we age.
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Post by cindytred on Jul 22, 2022 6:59:25 GMT
I was wrong when I said I'd never never never move back to my home town (Pensacola, FL). I bought a house in Pensacola in April 2022 and I am very happy here. It's good to be home again.
Cindy
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Post by Basket1lady on Jul 22, 2022 12:26:14 GMT
I listen to the podcast as well. It's quite good and I always come away learning something new, even on a subject that I thought I fully understood.
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Post by librarylady on Jul 22, 2022 12:29:16 GMT
I was wrong when I thought ex would make a good life partner.
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Post by melanell on Jul 22, 2022 12:30:24 GMT
Oh gosh, I've been wrong about countless things. Thank goodness life is always willing to teach us new things and offer us new perspectives.  |
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Post by smalltowngirlie on Jul 22, 2022 12:44:05 GMT
I listen to the podcast as well. It's quite good and I always come away learning something new, even on a subject that I thought I fully understood. What is the podcast called? Thank you. |
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Post by luvnlifelady on Jul 22, 2022 12:48:09 GMT
I was wrong when I thought my marriage could survive my ex's early affair.
I was wrong when I told DH that I wanted to move and I was wrong in selecting the house with a pool.
I was also wrong when I picked out my PT Cruiser. Then 13 yo DS said not to get it. I didn't listen.
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Post by tc on Jul 22, 2022 13:07:35 GMT
We had a hire at work somewhere in the middle of the 00 decade. I still remember thinking when I met her, "Wow, this is going to be a fantastic hire." I'm still shocked to this day about how wrong my impression was. By the time she left only about 6 months later, she had alienated all of the staff members and put us about 1.5 years behind in recordkeeping from when she started. I'm really not sure how she did it. I was so very, very wrong.
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Post by keithurbanlovinpea on Jul 22, 2022 13:35:09 GMT
I was wrong to think that when my kids graduated from college they would be less dependent on me (emotionally, financially, practically) than they really are
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Post by paulao on Jul 22, 2022 13:37:13 GMT
I was wrong when I thought ex would make a good life partner. What she said! |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2022 13:50:55 GMT
I think I've been wrong about a lot but I can see why it was and how I worked out what I thought at the time. Mostly due to being naive or just not knowing all the facts. A lot of things I worried about never happened. A lot of things I maybe should have paid more attention to but who can really say...it is life and it moves pretty fast!
One area I'd like to change...mostly how I relate to people. I would like to change that for the second half, just be more and interested in them ask more questions...which is not in my introvert playlist. I think I can do it if I try real hard! Because I do care, but I get overloaded sometimes.
Also in another area I've been very wrong on remembering things. I've totally confabulated /imagined my husband gave me a CD for my birthday, for example and been totally wrong, he actually bought it for himself but I liked it so much I confused it with another CD in my mind. And we will make little bets on things like this and he wins! It's pretty hilarious in this case, but also sobering. Memory is a very funny thing and can be very wrong.
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Post by aj2hall on Jul 22, 2022 14:00:13 GMT
I was wrong about southern NJ. DH was in the Coast Guard and stationed in Atlantic City. When we first heard, both of our reactions were please, no, we don’t want to live there. We ended up staying for 8 years and loved it.
South Dakota was not what I pictured. 25 years ago, we drove cross country on a northern route and Badlands National Park was really cool and unexpected.
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Post by iowgirl on Jul 22, 2022 14:21:25 GMT
What is the podcast called? Thank you. The podcast is called You're Wrong About. It is not related to the NYT editorials. It's an interesting podcast, but I have a hard time staying with it, solely because I don't care for the hosts vocal fry... that's just me. It is a well researched podcast. I was also wrong when I picked out my PT Cruiser. Oh boy! We had so much fun with our PT Cruiser, but what a piece of garbage. It had a hell of a run for us. Had to do a few major repairs to it, but it made it through me and then two kids... I think every kid in their school learned how to drive a stick in that thing. It survived two 14 year old drivers! HA! I told my daughter I swore she hit 4 gears up and 4 gears down coming up our lane, which isn't that long! It was such a dog in the snow/ice. I mean a DOG! We finally put studded snow tires on it. I still hear stories from my kids and their friends. Oh lord. I'm glad I didn't know at the time! Sold it with over 100K on it. |
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Post by Basket1lady on Jul 22, 2022 15:23:30 GMT
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Post by zella on Jul 22, 2022 15:59:50 GMT
Many things through the years. But here's a big one. When I first heard "Black Lives Matter," my knee jerk reaction was "All Lives Matter." I quickly educated myself, and I am a HUGE BLM supporter now. I get it. My (black) husband being racially profiled made me SO angry and cemented my understanding of this concept real fast. It takes a lot for this social democrat lefty to admit this.
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Post by scrapcat on Jul 22, 2022 16:15:08 GMT
I was wrong about southern NJ. DH was in the Coast Guard and stationed in Atlantic City. When we first heard, both of our reactions were please, no, we don’t want to live there. We ended up staying for 8 years and loved it. South Dakota was not what I pictured. 25 years ago, we drove cross country on a northern route and Badlands National Park was really cool and unexpected. Glad to hear you like southern NJ. Although, AC has seen better days! I find most judgments about NJ are from ppl who have never been here. My ex-in laws assumed all of NJ was urban/city and were surprised to see the horse farming country I grew up in. I was wrong about so many things....but the biggest is probably thinking that I wanted to mimic the life my parents made. While I appreciate and love it and benefit from it, I am glad I figured out that I actually did not want to have kids. I had to blow up my life for a bit in my 20s to reset, and regret hurting others, but I came out stronger and more myself. I also enjoy that NYT series and ppl who admit when they are wrong. Unfortunately I work with a lot of ppl who are never wrong! |
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Post by sharlag on Jul 22, 2022 16:30:23 GMT
I was wrong about myself when I concluded that I was just wired differently and would never 'fall in love'.
I just hadn't met the right person! It took 58 years, BTW.
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Post by luvnlifelady on Jul 23, 2022 1:32:58 GMT
What is the podcast called? Thank you. The podcast is called You're Wrong About. It is not related to the NYT editorials. It's an interesting podcast, but I have a hard time staying with it, solely because I don't care for the hosts vocal fry... that's just me. It is a well researched podcast. I was also wrong when I picked out my PT Cruiser. Oh boy! We had so much fun with our PT Cruiser, but what a piece of garbage. It had a hell of a run for us. Had to do a few major repairs to it, but it made it through me and then two kids... I think every kid in their school learned how to drive a stick in that thing. It survived two 14 year old drivers! HA! I told my daughter I swore she hit 4 gears up and 4 gears down coming up our lane, which isn't that long! It was such a dog in the snow/ice. I mean a DOG! We finally put studded snow tires on it. I still hear stories from my kids and their friends. Oh lord. I'm glad I didn't know at the time! Sold it with over 100K on it. Ours also made it through 2 teen drivers. It was just so cheaply made. I later learned that it was made for fleets. Uncomfortable and under-powered. We also bought it used at Carmax after my Honda Odyssey kept having too many problems (with only 100,000 miles and 10 years old). |
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Post by FuzzyMutt on Jul 23, 2022 3:41:17 GMT
I've been thinking all evening about the laundry list of things I've been wrong about. And, those are only the ones that stand out.
Like other Peas:
NC will only be 2 years max... turned out to be 12.
The red flag flares my ex was throwing were only because of... omg.. pick the reason lol. Turns out.. he was an ass.
It was too expensive to pay for an atty to revisit child support because it would be complicated. Biggest resentment in my life.
This found stinky nasty dog is only temporary (fix her up and find her a home...) 10 years later... She is literally life.
Done with serious dating (serial monogamist... ) met guy.. here we are 5 years later happy as hell!
I have legitimate career path goals. Circling the moon. No direction in sight.. the work guys think it's cool as hell though.
I LOVE this house. Have to have it!!============ >>>> The best thing about this house is that we can both say bye easily.
Honestly... the car choice have been spot on. I know from the time the key turns. 250k miles, 175k miles....
I'm the best, most supportive, well researched parent. My kid will launch happily. Kid is 20, at home.. with no plan. And I'm ok with it!!
But damn... Why isn't he Ivy League? Well.. neither was I.. but that is small comfort!!
I will live in huge, beautiful home (on a lake.) Yeah, no. I live in great condo in New England where association guy has a vendetta against snow. <3
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Post by FuzzyMutt on Jul 23, 2022 3:45:57 GMT
Funny you say that luvnlifelady !! I took possession of a shitty fleet car. The car was great mechanically. The car was GREAT performing in snow and rain and cold in New England. But. It looked like 3 16 year olds learned to drive in it. In a hail storm, in a Boston parking garage. A color I would have never ever chosen on the exterior. The interior color (90k miles in less than 1.5 years....) made a coffee stain look like poop on a tan seat!! Traded it in after nearly 100k miles (was supposed to be temporary!!) for a literally 3 miles 2022 Rav4. I was soooooooo excited. Then. I figured out I lost power seats. Heated seats. Alllll the things. I never would buy a fleet car ever again!! |
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Post by lisae on Jul 23, 2022 12:08:04 GMT
Buying a Honda. It's dependable in that it hasn't yet (knock on wood) left me on the side of the road but it has been far more expensive to maintain than any Ford I've had. And it is uncomfortable and the controls are just a poor arrangement.
I was wrong not to really pursue my favorite career after the recession of the early 2000's ended. The economy was slow to restart here and by the time it had, I'd moved onto another career, one I never made as much money in or enjoyed as much as what I was doing in the late 1990's.
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Post by iowgirl on Jul 23, 2022 13:52:10 GMT
Uncomfortable and under-powered. Ha! Underpowered is an understatement! Ours was a 5 speed, and I had to shift to 4th to pass a car! I went to a track meet once, and it was SO windy that day - I honestly had to shift to 4th to keep up highway speed going into that headwind. One of our friends also had a PT Cruiser (bought it before we did). Their daughter rolled it with 5 girls in there. Seriously rolled it - one girl came out with a sprained wrist, that was it. Also knew someone else who's kid flipped one end over end - decimated the car. Kid walked away. I couldn't believe that piece of crap tin can could be that safe, but they were! |
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Post by garcia5050 on Jul 23, 2022 14:44:33 GMT
I decided to go part time at work when I had my babies. I stayed part time for 10 years. This move totally set back my career, prevented me from transferring or getting promoted. I was sometimes resentful, because I felt I was more ambitious than my husband. He didn’t yearn for promotions and moves the way I did. I really thought I would have a lot of regret about that once my kids were older. I don’t.
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