How about from now on...i.'ll just nod my head and smile

Post back "sorry if I offended you, that wasn't my intent at all" and leave it alone.

Maybe she thought you were trying to teach her something she didn't know. That makes some people defensive.

ive seen people who get defensive if someone doesn't post the perfect response they want, I think your response was fine. Maybe shes having a bad day, I wouldnt let it bother you

I think you're both being overly sensitive to be honest. Your post wasn't offensive, but it did seem a little pedantic and probably wasn't in keeping with her post. Her response also not offensive - wasn't in keeping with your desire to educate her. It just seems that you guys weren't on the same page - move on and don't let a minor exchange escalate any further.

I don't think what you wrote was all that offensive or anything other than what it was...you parting some knowledge on the piece. I didn't know that, so I learned something. I would have just thanked you for your insight and say I didn't think about that. For her to answer back in that way is way more offensive. I'd just let it go. If her snarkiness continues, consider your friendship to be coming to a close. Sorry.

I really struggled with being pedantic when I was younger - hopefully I've improved in real life, but know that I can still come off that way in certain interactions.  I've learned that frankly most people don't ever want to be corrected and rarely educated.  It's really easy to fall into making the other person feel stupid - which no one likes.  In this case "but the emotional release" is a bit awkward.  It insinuates that you know better than her why she's responding to something - even if it's true - she might not like it.  Like I said earlier - just realize that your post might have also stung - when people respond to us in a way that seems out of left field, it's probably for a reason.


 

You liked the song and you seemed to be complimenting the song in your response. Maybe she didn't like it as much as you! I don't know why she would criticize your response. I love your response!

I agree with Darcy that perhaps both of you are being a bit oversensitive. She was rude in her response to you, but honestly if I had seen it I would have rolled my eyes a little. I understand that you were just trying to share something that you learned and found interesting, but sometimes that can come across as a know it all. I don't think that was your intention AT ALL, but I can see how it may have come across that way. Is this something that you find yourself doing a lot? My DH is very smart, well educated, and frankly he can get like that sometimes. (And I learned a new word today- Pedantic! That describes some interactions with him perfectly!) He doesn't think everyone around him is an idiot, but sometimes in his talking it comes across that way. He just finds these little things SO fascinating, whereas the rest of us just really don't put that much thought into it, and want to just enjoy things on a surface level. He can't understand why the rest of us DON'T want to delve deep into everything, but sometimes we just don't.

Here's one example: Don't get him started on U2. He loves everything U2 and has analyzed every album to death and could give you the most random intellectual insights on the band. But the rest of us just want to feel the beat and sing along loudly and off-key, KWIM? So when we are listening to U2, and he starts in with his random facts, we all glaze over. One or two random facts are okay, but when he gets going, he can go on for a while. And honestly the rest of us just wanted to listen to the music. The running joke in his family is "The interesting thing about...", because you know when he says that, he's going to be going for a while.

So I guess my question for you would be this: Is this something you do often? If so, those around you might be feeling like you are putting them down, or frankly they might just be tired of it. No question about it, your friend was rude to call you out like that. I would have felt bad too. But I wonder if perhaps you are a little like my husband? Maybe you need to find some like-minded people to talk to about these things that appreciate them as much as you do. DH is a professor, which is perfect for him. He can be around the ultra-intellectuals by day and engage in stimulating conversation with them, then come home and talk about the latest Survivor with me. And in case I gave you the impression that I think being intellectual and analytical is a bad thing, he's awesome to have around too. I often ask him about things that I want to understand more, and he is very good at helping ME think more analytically. We don't ask google around here, we ask dad. And he is learning to better read our cues because even when we ask him a question, that doesn't mean we want a 20 minute lecture on the history, evolution, and deeper inner meaning of the subject.

I know it's tempting to over-think this... believe me, I am definitely an over-thinker.

But honestly, it boils down to
-- You didn't make a comment that sat well with her.
-- And her response to it didn't sit well with you.

Chalk it up to "oh, well" and move on.

I don't find it offensive FWIW... I tend to like facts and articles and discussion type posts on fb though so maybe that disqualifies my comment...

Off to google appoggiatures... There are some songs that have a feel I can identify but not easily explain and I'm curious if this might be what I'm sensing... Thanks for the new word

Nope.  In fact, my reaction to your statement was to head off into the interwebs and find out what the heck an appoggiature was...I thought it was fascinating commentary! And I learned something today. 

Your "friend" is cracked.  Ignore her.

I literally just finished listening to this song and I really, really loved it. I think the music is feel good, for sure. I like the words that he used because it tells the story of Jesus' birth.

I was not at all offended by your response. I think that sometimes we are in a certain place in our own mind and can take things in a way that we wouldn't at other times. And this is coming from someone who has been grouchy all afternoon. LOL!