How about from now on...i.'ll just nod my head and smile

I think the issue is much more basic --- your friend was making a religious statement. You thought she was making a musical statement and so educated. She was pissed because you diluted her spirituality with base knowledge.

I'm like Sister BBQ -- leave that song alone ... it is fabulous just as it was written!!

Depending on my mood I could have taken it as an interesting point of discussion or an irritation from a know it all.  That said, had it irritated me I would have not responded, had I been interested I might have discussed it further.

Could it be that your friend just had one of these days when she couldn't be bothered discussing a song that gave her the warm, fuzzy feeling or could it be that you often try to educate others?  I have a friend who is a know it all and for the most part I find her interesting and we have great discussions BUT sometimes she annoys me no end. The times she annoys is when she is only semi-knowledgeable on a subject that I know more about than her.... she blusters and twists and turns and eventually says what I originally said, claiming that is what she meant all along. Gah!!

I had to laugh at the Pea who's husband is into U2.  My husband is like that with The Joshua Tree. He would analayise to death and I would have to tell him to STFU and let me enjoy the music   He is also a huge Queen fan, as am I, but when we first met his constant yapping about what the song meant almost had me running for the hills..... 38 years later I'm glad I stayed put.

I don't always want to be 'educated' especially on Facebook and the more I think of what you wrote, makes me think that maybe you were being a bit of a know it all.  I mean no offence with this, I have a 20 year old son who is one. It makes him who he is but I often have to 'slap' him back into normality

ETA:  I don't think you should just nod your head and smile though, you are who you are, embrace that BUT be prepared for not everyone to like it.  Not everyone likes everything anyway so yeah be who you are.

From one pedant to another:

I had to look up appoggiaturas (apparently, they're more than just grace notes), and promptly slipped down the internet rabbit hole.

Seems there was an "appoggiatura imbroglio" a couple years back. The Wall Street Journal and NPR both did stories explaining research that attempts to examine why songs like Adele's "Someone Like You" elicit tears and chills. In response, there's a spate of internet rebuttals from music nerds <term used lovingly> refuting the idea of a musical magic bullet for emotional response. An example:

Nerdly link

So, no, your response was not inappropriate. I'm guessing I'm not the only reader who learned something because of it. But now I'm going to be late for work, so I'm blaming you for that, instead. 

I say it's all in the presentation and knowing your audience. if you always get called out for being a know-it-all then you need to look at yourself and not just assume everyone around you is shallow and unwilling to learn something new.

Gina,

Your last post rings so true for me. I absolutely agree, though I still think it's sad that someone would have to reign themselves in because others aren't interested in learning (and not in a lecture way) something new.

I think it has far more to do with her and her possible insecurities than you being a know it all.

I am not able to put my thoughts into words as well as I would like. While I might say "this song is pretty" I mean so much more and I feel like a simpleton when someone "corrects" me and expands on my thought more eloquently than I ever could. It's my deal, because I wish I could articulate my thoughts better. I don't always have that reaction, but if I were having a bad day I could see myself being a little sensitive over your comment.

But again, I think you have to realize that one flawed interaction does not mean you need a wholesale change in your behavior.  It may be that even this friend 99% of the time enjoys your helpful and informative information - but THIS post rubbed her the wrong way - maybe as someone above mentioned because she was feeling religious and felt you were being dismissive, maybe because she hadn't had her morning coffee, maybe because she was just in a bad mood.  Every interaction isn't going to go perfectly - and that's okay.  I mentioned previously that I've worked on not being pedantic - that's not the same as not sharing information or interesting facts - I still do that.  It's trying to see when your information is being perceived as ostentatious and not in keeping with the discussion.  I had a HORRIBLE habit of always believing that my knowledge was so freaking awesome everyone wanted to hear it.  I had a great friend in my 20s that helped give me some perspective.  One day we were chatting, and I went off on one of my tangents and she looked at me and said, "who the hell cares?"  It was blunt, it hurt, but damn it was so true.  It was the wakeup call that I needed that human interactions require more than sharing knowledge - which is frankly kind of how I saw the world.  She was the same one who bluntly told me that when I corrected her she felt like an idiot.  It really opened my eyes to how I was interacting with others. Now this doesn't mean that we only discuss "shallow" topics - we've had some wonderful discussions - and we disagree about a lot of topics, but are still really good friends.  It's just about making sure I'm not using a discussion to "puff" myself up.  But am genuinely interested in EXCHANGING ideas and LISTENING.  

Gina, I'm really glad you posted this.  Not only can you add me to the list of people who have learned a new word (haven't had time to delve into it more and really "grok" it yet, but thanks to those who provided links), but I've learned a bit more about Gina.

At any rate, your normal posting style is so short and abrupt; this discussion and your posts and been the most words I think I've ever seen come from you.  There's a lot more to Gina than I ever knew!  By the time I got to your comment about "the shallow end of the pool" I laughed and didn't take it as "bitchy or looking down on people" at all.  As a matter of fact, I thought "what a great way to phrase it!"

I tend to struggle with being too wordy in my effort to convey a conversational tone, but in your case a few more words might have conveyed your interesting factoid without coming across as pedantic.  So I'd encourage you not to just nod your head and smile, but continue to add to the discussion.  Remember that people can't read your tone on the Internet and adding a few more words here and there can really help to convey your point in the manner in which you mean to come across.