edie3
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Post by edie3 on Aug 5, 2022 21:57:53 GMT
I am more form over function, DH is of course function over form. He bought a stick up spice rack holder he attached to our refrigerator. Not my cup of tea and it keeps you from opening a cabinet all the way now. And they are not spices that we use alot. A little thing, I know, but it pisses me off when I see it.
Might just be I am crabby today, and just venting.
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Post by Zee on Aug 5, 2022 22:22:56 GMT
I always win, he implicitly trusts my judgment. But if he felt strongly about something I would compromise.
I would NOT like a stick on spice rack on the fridge that wasn't even winning the "function" argument since it's keeping a door from opening fully, holding rarely-used items.
Maybe it can be moved inside a door, if there is room for it to still shut? I was able to do that in my last kitchen.
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Post by gar on Aug 5, 2022 22:28:41 GMT
It would never cross Dh’s mind to buy or install a spice rack - I can’t get past that bit 😁
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Post by paulao on Aug 5, 2022 22:33:07 GMT
The female wins. Female judgment/opinion/choice always trumps male.
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casii
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Post by casii on Aug 5, 2022 22:43:41 GMT
Well, it doesn't work if you can't open the cabinet fully but for arguments sake, who is the primary cook?
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edie3
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Post by edie3 on Aug 5, 2022 22:49:04 GMT
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Post by casii on Aug 5, 2022 22:56:16 GMT
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Post by cmpeter on Aug 5, 2022 22:59:30 GMT
I agree...if it's blocking a cabinet and not bringing the cook joy, then it needs to go somewhere else (or go totally).
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Post by hmp on Aug 5, 2022 22:59:38 GMT
Cabinet door won’t fully open, you cook, and for aesthetics alone you win!! But I’d really like to know how he came up with this idea? It’s head scratchingly odd
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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 5, 2022 23:16:46 GMT
A stick up spice rack on the fridge? Hell no!
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edie3
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Post by edie3 on Aug 5, 2022 23:40:42 GMT
It’s head scratchingly odd His decor choices can be odd. It is just a magnet, and he wasn't surprised or upset when I said it has to go!
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Post by Merge on Aug 5, 2022 23:49:55 GMT
DH “decorates” by festooning the place with guitar parts and other hobby items. Other than that, he generally trusts my decor choices.
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Post by padresfan619 on Aug 5, 2022 23:55:38 GMT
My husband is colorblind, like extremely colorblind so all decor choices are left to me. He even will have me check his outfit to make sure it matches if he’s not sure.
He does like to make things, he built a table that goes behind our couch. That is where I let him make design choices but he still lets me choose the color.
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Post by AussieMeg on Aug 6, 2022 0:11:05 GMT
Speaking of spice racks, DSO built me a big timber spice rack years ago. The only place we could put it was on the wall. It wasn't ideal, but it was functional. We took it down when we renovated our kitchen and got rid of all traces of timber.
For the most part, DSO and I agree on decor choices. When we got together and he moved in with me, he had some artwork that he'd got for his 21st birthday. I wanted him to make the house his own, so we put the paintings up in the lounge room. They went well with the decor at the time, but now they don't match. I would love to replace them but as it's one of the only things he brought with him to the house, I feel like they should stay.
When we renovated our kitchen and bathrooms, there were certain things that I really really wanted, but DSO wanted different things - I'm talking about tiles and floor boards etc. I very strategically let him choose the things that didn't mean as much to me, so that I could 'win' with the things that were very important to me. I'm still not entirely happy with the shower tile colour, but at least I got the floor and wall tiles I wanted.
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Post by paget on Aug 6, 2022 0:15:46 GMT
My dh cares about design a lot. He loves to look at furniture and chose things for remodel, etc. that said, he would never buy something on his own. He mentions to me what he likes and we talk about stuff. He does defer to me, though. I like many styles so I never choose anything he would hate. I make sure we are both happy about it.
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edie3
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Post by edie3 on Aug 6, 2022 0:17:11 GMT
There are some things I will compromise on, but there are some things that are just no way. And I know a spice rack is a minor thing, but I hate it!
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Post by smcast on Aug 6, 2022 0:19:46 GMT
That spice rack would disappear in my kitchen.
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Post by ntsf on Aug 6, 2022 0:53:47 GMT
we compromise a lot, but since I do most of the cooking, the kitchen is my territory.
we try not to make decor a hill to die on.. so it is not that hard to find a way.
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Post by gizzy on Aug 6, 2022 1:45:32 GMT
If you do most of the cooking, I'd say to move it. Otherwise, you're just going to be irritated.
My DH usually rolls along with whatever I want. The few times he's actually had an opinion on decorating, I go along with it. I don't like it, but I go along with it. He's a firm believer that everything should be brown. So I went along with that when we were first married. Brown couch, brown chair, brown carpet, brown paneling.
I lasted maybe a year and then started ripping down the paneling & changing things.
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carhoch
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Post by carhoch on Aug 6, 2022 1:54:11 GMT
I do all the cooking so the kitchen is mine and I decided fonction and decor,my husband does whatever he wants with the garage and for the rest of the house I chose most of the decor but I consulted him for the big decision it’s not a dictatorship We don’t have a house right now but it kind of applies for the Rv too .
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Post by leannec on Aug 6, 2022 2:00:35 GMT
I'm pretty lucky ... ex and I have just renovated our house in order to sell ... while I was living here I was quite ill for a lot of the time, and he is a realtor that knows what looks good, so I let him choose everything ... flooring, paint, countertop, backsplash, lighting ... he did an amazing job! There is no way he would stick anything to the fridge Make that spice thing disappear
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Post by callmenutz on Aug 6, 2022 3:33:38 GMT
I’m a, there’s a place for everything and everything in its place person, and the front of the refrigerator isn’t the place for a spice rack. That would drive me crazy!
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Post by voltagain on Aug 6, 2022 4:35:20 GMT
I am more form over function, DH is of course function over form. He bought a stick up spice rack holder he attached to our refrigerator. Not my cup of tea and it keeps you from opening a cabinet all the way now. And they are not spices that we use alot. A little thing, I know, but it pisses me off when I see it. Might just be I am crabby today, and just venting. I lean toward function over form. But a rack the stops a cabinet door from fully opening is super bad function on the rack. It would have to be moved; in the end though the primary cook should have final say over the kitchen as far as where cookware and food supplies are stored. The "bottle washer" can have say over stuff that doesn't impact the cook's area. If one person is both cook and bottle washer the partner/spouse has no say over anything in the kitchen.
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Post by ~summer~ on Aug 6, 2022 4:40:59 GMT
My husband has zero decor opinions so it’s a non issue.
I just can’t picture a stick on spice rack on the fridge. Why would you put it on the fridge? Isn’t that awkward when you open the fridge door? Or is it on the side of the fridge and that’s how it stops a cabinet door from opening? I can’t really picture it….
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Post by auntkelly on Aug 6, 2022 17:07:35 GMT
When it comes to big purchases like a sofa or a dining table, we keep looking until we find something we both agree on.
When it comes to smaller things like a spice rack, one of us it will buy it without consulting the other. However, if the other one hated the spice rack, or hated where it was placed, we'd get rid of it or rehang it.
We're both very opinionated and not afraid to express our opinions, but we seldom argue over decor. We save our fights for the big stuff like politics and religion.
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QueenoftheSloths
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Aug 6, 2022 17:17:28 GMT
The female wins. Female judgment/opinion/choice always trumps male. In this instance, I would say her opinion wins. But I think saying "female judgment always trumps male" is just as bad as saying the opposite. I would never steamroll my spouse by declaring myself always right.
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Post by mollycoddle on Aug 6, 2022 17:43:24 GMT
Then you should have veto power. Honestly, a stick on spice rack? 🥴 Deep six that thing so that he can’t find it and stick it up again. Or take it to Goodwill.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Aug 6, 2022 17:47:51 GMT
We just redecorated our kitchen and my dad was all “YOU Pick out what looks good because I have an ‘eye’. Yeah my taste is very different from his and for whatever reason he trusted me. It tired out great but STRESS!!!
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Post by Delta Dawn on Aug 6, 2022 17:48:18 GMT
Also I have no eye!!!
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Post by finaledition on Aug 6, 2022 19:46:35 GMT
We have to give each other zones which basically means the inside of the house is 90% me and it’s really hard but I zip my house about the other 10%.
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