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Post by bc2ca on Aug 15, 2022 20:09:24 GMT
We didn't attend any of our 12 niblings graduations.
It really seems to vary hugely by families though based on what I saw at the events for my kids though.
DD's event was moved to a ridiculously inconvenient venue because it allowed for more than 5 allotted tickets per family.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 15, 2022 20:12:07 GMT
We do if we are able, but we live quite a distance so it has not worked out that way yet. We did attend a graduation party at the beginning of the summer for my nephew. It was a 4 hour drive - we made a week out of it.
My dad/step mom have committed to go to each grandchild's graduation if we want them there. They drove 2 1/2 hours to come to my DS and will come next spring to my DD. My sister came to DS as well and will come to DD's - she is super close with my kids (and my BFF), so she is always included. <3
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Post by twinsmomfla99 on Aug 15, 2022 20:13:20 GMT
My nephew’s graduation would have required a 6.5 hour drive. We did not attend. We did go to his party a week later though.
No grandparents, aunts or uncles came to any of my children’s graduations (2 high school ceremonies, one associates, two bachelors, and one masters). They would have involved drive times ranging from 6 to 11 hours, and I would never expect anyone to drive that far for the ceremony.
I might go to my other two nephews’ graduations since they are only 1.5 miles away, but I doubt it. It just isn’t a “thing” with my extended family.
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Post by compeateropeator on Aug 15, 2022 20:17:49 GMT
For me it would be absolutely if there was any way possible. But it depends on how close you are to them. I talk or FaceTime with my niece and nephew a few times a week at least, sometimes daily. I also only live an hour away so I go and see them a lot. I actually took some vacation hours, just this spring, to go to my nieces 6th grade graduation. 😄. We didn’t have those 46 years ago when I went into Jr high.
When I graduated from highschool 40 years ago I had a bunch of family. All my grandparents. At least some of my aunts and uncles. My great aunt came up for it. It was kind of a family affair, but we are within driving proximity and did holidays and things together also.
Our graduation was outside so you could have as many people as you wanted. If it had rained it would have been a different story as we would have been limited to the number of people.
ETA - I didn’t even go to my college graduation (I actually finished in January) so no one from my family went to that. 😆😆. But my grandmothers, one of my aunts, and my great aunt did go to my brother’s.
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Post by cmpeter on Aug 15, 2022 20:20:24 GMT
High school no - but they both lived in Hawaii then. If they were a car drive away, then yes.
College - yes. One was a three hour drive and the other a three hour flight.
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Post by Linda on Aug 15, 2022 20:25:15 GMT
I'm a firm no - I don't expect aunts/uncles to attend for my kids and I certainly don't attend for nieces/nephews etc...
I've had 2 kids graduate high school so far - kid #1 both grandparents, aunt, and me and DH attended (godmother watched the younger sibs). Kid #2 - dh and I attended as did kid #3, one of our nieces (adult) came also but she was passing through our area and made plans to stop for ceremony. (kid#1 was stationed overseas and couldn't attend). Kid #3 graduates in 2025 - I suspect it'll just be me and DH as the grandparents are all gone now and kids 1 and 2 live out of state.
Nieces and Nephews? we have 14 between us - the oldest of which graduated in 1990 (for context I graduated in 88 and dh in 89) and the youngest of which graduates in 2024. There are 28 grand nieces and nephews so far (and likely a few more to come). And if I counting correctly, the great grand nieces and nephews count is at 3, maybe 4 already.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Aug 15, 2022 20:40:48 GMT
My answer is pre-covid.
High School: Local, I attend if there are enough tickets to go around. If tickets are limited, I am fine with attending graduation party only.
College out of state. I did not attend. I streamed the ceremony and watched it live. I sent a gift. There was no local Graduation party, if there had been I would have attended.
In general, these types of ceremonies are long and boring. Especially if the class has several hundred Graduates. I think it's fine to not attend, especially for children (siblings, cousins, etc...).
In your situation, I think you not attending is fine. Since your Husbands Mother needs a ride and escort, send you Husband to represent the both of you, as well as give them (Husband and Mother) quality time together by themselves on the drive (and maybe lunch out) to and from. A previous commitment is a valid excuse to not attend. Your sister in laws priority of her kid Graduation, is top priority for HER, but much lower of YOUR priority list.
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Post by littlemama on Aug 15, 2022 20:47:30 GMT
No, not if they are even in my area. High School Graduation is just not a big deal where I live. It is expected that everyone graduates high school. There may be a prom or a graduation party and certainly a ceremony for graduation but only for immediate family and no ticket sales or other stuff. No open houses or other silly, expensive things. No grad invites or announcements. University & College graduations are a bigger deal, but still not a "BIG" thing. Guess us Canadians do things differently. There are no "ticket sales" for high school graduation. Each student is allotted a specified number. They are not purchased.
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Post by busy on Aug 15, 2022 20:52:35 GMT
Tickets for graduation here are generally very limited, so only immediate family can go. Maybe grandparents too for only children or single parent families. So no, I would not expect to go to the actual ceremony. But I absolutely would go to their open house.
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Post by melodyesch on Aug 15, 2022 21:44:52 GMT
Thanks for all of the replies. Obviously it’s a ways off, but it involves plane tickets for me to another destination afterward so I want to make up my mind well in advance.
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on Aug 15, 2022 22:02:17 GMT
I only have one niece, and I definitely would have gone to her graduation had (1) her invitations not been too limited by Covid and (2) it hadn't conflicted with my own DD's senior activities. Instead, I watched online on a phone screen while waiting for DD's band banquet to start. But given that the girls are only 6 weeks apart, there was always a good risk that we couldn't make all of each other's major events.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 15, 2022 22:12:12 GMT
Yep, we have been to all of our nieces and nephews. HS graduation is usually a big deal here in MN. esp in rural smaller schools, there are no tickets, so pretty much the whole town goes. Vs with college for both our girls we only had 4 tickets. So the only family that went was grand-parents.
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Post by Merge on Aug 15, 2022 22:15:47 GMT
No. I don’t even enjoy sitting through my own kids’ graduations! Haha. I’d never ask my brother and sister to do it. We haven’t attended our nieces’ graduations but we do send a gift.
MIL does attend our kids’ graduations with us, but no one would be put out if she didn’t want to. I need to warn her about how long the oldest’s college graduation will be (FSM willing, this May). But we will be there with bells on for that one. That kids has fought demons to get to graduation. We’re all going to celebrate.
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Post by maryland on Aug 15, 2022 22:35:46 GMT
No we don't because we are 5 hrs. away. If we were local and they asked us to go, we would. And we would go to the party. But at our high school, you just get 5 tickets, so we aren't used to having big groups, usually just the immediate family (parents siblings).
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Post by melanieg on Aug 15, 2022 22:38:30 GMT
Yes I will go when the time comes. I am very close w them. They are the closest I have to having my own kids.
I went to her confirmation. I went to grade 5 grads I've travelled for sports when I could. I try to go to whatever I can.
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Post by scrappinmama on Aug 15, 2022 22:52:30 GMT
When I lived in the same town, yes. Now that I'm 1,000 miles away from family, no.
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Post by quiltz on Aug 15, 2022 23:00:29 GMT
No, not if they are even in my area. High School Graduation is just not a big deal where I live. It is expected that everyone graduates high school. There may be a prom or a graduation party and certainly a ceremony for graduation but only for immediate family and no ticket sales or other stuff. No open houses or other silly, expensive things. No grad invites or announcements. University & College graduations are a bigger deal, but still not a "BIG" thing. Guess us Canadians do things differently. There are no "ticket sales" for high school graduation. Each student is allotted a specified number. They are not purchased. Never heard of only a few seats (via a *ticket* reservation or however they divy out the seats) per family. Not a thing here.
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Post by Tamhugh on Aug 15, 2022 23:02:51 GMT
Nephew #1--attended his high school and masters graduations. He did not walk for his bachelors Nephew #2--he did not walk high school and did not attend college Nephew #3--attended high school and bachelors but missed masters Niece #1-attened high school and bachelors
I have one nephew and 2 nieces left to graduate. I am not sure if we will attend theirs. Oldest niece does not like events and I can see us not being invited. Youngest niece and nephew live a 5 hour flight away.
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Post by littlemama on Aug 16, 2022 0:52:51 GMT
There are no "ticket sales" for high school graduation. Each student is allotted a specified number. They are not purchased. Never heard of only a few seats (via a *ticket* reservation or however they divy out the seats) per family. Not a thing here. My graduating class was 600 people. We had graduation at a professional football stadium, so no tickets for that one. Ds' graduating class was around 425, held at a church. 5 tickets per graduate. I think it really depends on the size of the school and the venue. 2 years before I graduated, graduations were still held at the school on the football field. That year, they didnt check tickets. The weather was very hot and storms were threatening, so they moved everyone into the non- airconditioned gym- still not checking tickets. The grandmother of one graduate became over heated and died. After that, graduation was moved to a much larger, indoor facility.
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Post by sweetpeasmom on Aug 16, 2022 1:07:59 GMT
Both my sils were at my kids’ HS graduations. I plan on attending my nieces’ when they graduate (they are 1st and K this year, so it’s a ways off). But that’s just what we do in our family.
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Post by paulao on Aug 16, 2022 1:29:56 GMT
If it’s local, I would go. If it’s more than an hour drive, nope.
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Post by quiltz on Aug 16, 2022 2:02:05 GMT
Never heard of only a few seats (via a *ticket* reservation or however they divy out the seats) per family. Not a thing here. My graduating class was 600 people. We had graduation at a professional football stadium, so no tickets for that one. Ds' graduating class was around 425, held at a church. 5 tickets per graduate. I think it really depends on the size of the school and the venue. 2 years before I graduated, graduations were still held at the school on the football field. That year, they didnt check tickets. The weather was very hot and storms were threatening, so they moved everyone into the non- airconditioned gym- still not checking tickets. The grandmother of one graduate became over heated and died. After that, graduation was moved to a much larger, indoor facility. I truly don't care about what your school(s) do(es). You do you.
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Post by cecilia on Aug 16, 2022 2:41:59 GMT
My parents didn't, even when they were invited. They were working, my aunts/uncles didn't attend mine when invited, etc. Parents sent a card and $, which was what was done for me.
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Post by grammadee on Aug 16, 2022 3:20:06 GMT
Aunts and uncles were always part of graduations for my kids and for my nieces and nephews. But that was before all the ticket issues with the ceremony. Usually only the grad and escort and the parents attended the banquet. But they were a family affair. We usually made a weekend of it with a barbecue on the yard and lots of family.
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Post by gar on Aug 16, 2022 8:13:21 GMT
My graduating class was 600 people. We had graduation at a professional football stadium, so no tickets for that one. Ds' graduating class was around 425, held at a church. 5 tickets per graduate. I think it really depends on the size of the school and the venue. 2 years before I graduated, graduations were still held at the school on the football field. That year, they didnt check tickets. The weather was very hot and storms were threatening, so they moved everyone into the non- airconditioned gym- still not checking tickets. The grandmother of one graduate became over heated and died. After that, graduation was moved to a much larger, indoor facility. I truly don't care about what your school(s) do(es). You do you. Why so rude? You said you'd never heard of 'only a few tickets per family' so you were offered an explanation.
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Post by epeanymous on Aug 16, 2022 8:54:18 GMT
It would never occur to me to do that. Attending graduations (at least on both sides of our family) is a strictly parent/maybe grandparent thing.
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Post by rickmer on Aug 16, 2022 13:39:46 GMT
no, just parents/siblings and possibly grandparents (if tickets available) and usually just ones that live locally.
also never heard of a high school graduation party here but that seems to be the norm in the US.
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Post by luckyjune on Aug 16, 2022 15:03:19 GMT
Nope.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Aug 16, 2022 15:09:51 GMT
Sure - growing up wrangling more tickets was the norm for my family - I think 10 or 12 attended my high school graduation, the rest of the family came to the party afterwards. College was harder as it was a very long flight, but 3 aunts made it. I've attended all of my nieces and nephews graduations for both me and my husband with the exception of one nephew who graduated during Covid and there was no ceremony and no party. Our families are much smaller now, so it's really not that much of a burden. My parents with 30+ nieces and nephews went to a whole lot of grad parties - now almost all were local and there were a fair number of combined parties so that did help.
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Post by workingclassdog on Aug 16, 2022 15:35:39 GMT
Of course we go. Neither DH or I come from large families so there aren't THAT many events for the nieces and nephews. I just don't understand not wanting to attend graduations and weddings for family. Weddings I get but graduations are horrible. My son's graduation was in 100 degree weather with around 1,000 graduating. I wouldn't put my worst enemy through that. It was just us and grandma/grandpa that was in town and could withstand the heat. My sister would be pissed if I made her sit through that. And I would agree. LOL.. I would say it is our family dynamics that we don't feel we have to do certain things out of obligations. My sister and her kids were unable to attend my daughter's wedding.. I didn't think twice about it. Neither did anyone else.
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