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Post by Zee on Aug 15, 2022 19:45:44 GMT
I usually say no unless it's the local humane society.
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Post by katlady on Aug 15, 2022 19:46:05 GMT
“Round up” is popular here. I always decline, even if it is $0.01. I don’t feel guilty. I’ve never experienced any push back from the sales person. For the stores that try to get you to open a credit card, I just keep saying “No thank you.” Some times have to say it twice during a transaction. Annoying, but I try to stay polite with my “No”. 😆
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Post by 950nancy on Aug 15, 2022 19:51:27 GMT
The only one I ever do is our local Panda Express usually has the "round up your order" and it goes to a local hospital. Yeah, sure, the change was just going to get lost under my car seat probably anyway. I'll round up at Goodwill. They've asked for a long time and I usually do. The rest would be a no. If a place says they are raising money for schools, I just say I'm a teacher and already donate daily. I don't donate daily, but I used to spend at least $80-100 a month on breakfast/lunch for kids and other things that were needed.
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Aug 15, 2022 20:10:40 GMT
This totally irks me. It seems like everyplace is asking for a donation.
The other day I was in the Taco Bell drive thru and the the cashier asked me if I wanted to donate "to the kids" that's all he said. What kids are we exactly talking about? It pissed me off and of course I said NO.
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Post by Rhondito on Aug 15, 2022 20:12:53 GMT
I am sure the cashiers are required to ask, but I never do this. They are. Anytime I've worked retail we've had to ask, but never thought anything negative of people who decline. The best thing is just to say no, no thank you, not today and leave it at that.
I'm shocked the cashier said something to the OP!
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Aug 15, 2022 20:53:41 GMT
I say no every time. I give to the charities of MY choice, NOT someone else's choice. I don't feel guilty about it at all. It is annoying to be asked, every single transaction for a charitable donation, at the same place. The same goes for being asked every single time, do you want to apply for a credit card. If I want a credit card to that store, I would have already applied for one. I get tired of the "upsell" by the same old places. It's annoying. The only thing I liked to be asked is >> Do you want to buy some Girl Scout Cookies?
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Aug 15, 2022 21:03:25 GMT
I do not ever donate to these - just so used to saying no to the donation and the credit card application I hardly blink anymore and never feel guilty. I don’t think I’ve ever gotten push back on the donation but I have many times with the store credit card and that sets me off. No I DON’T Want to open a stupid store card and ding my credit by having you check it so I can save like $5 of whatever lame amount. . It's become an automatic response for me, no matter the charity they are collecting for. Regarding the store credit cards, most of them are fine when I say no. However, J Jill has lost a customer for life because of the saleswoman who was extra pushy about it, then proceeded to say I wasn't being smart to take advantage of the savings. I put the stuff on the counter and walked out.
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Post by lanena on Aug 15, 2022 23:00:58 GMT
I'm pretty sure the cashier was new. She was surprised that I didn't want to donate, probably because it was for the schools, and I was surprised that there were suggested donation amounts on the keypad that I needed to bypass. At the grocery store, they usually ask if I'd like to round up, and the cashiers are fine with me saying, "Not today, thanks."
I just find it strange that this has become such an accepted part of our culture. I'm already making a purchase, and the company I'm buying from should be pleased that I'm already giving them my money. Instead, the whole transaction takes on a negative tone if I decide not to donate.
I'm retired and on a fixed income, so I'm careful with my spending. There are several organizations that I continually support, and I check out any new charities through Charity Navigator. There's no way to do that when a business puts you on the spot.
Deep down, I know I shouldn't feel bad, but something about saying "no" to education must have triggered me. I still have a soft spot in my heart for students and teachers.
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Post by Laurie on Aug 15, 2022 23:04:41 GMT
I also don’t because I don’t want the business to get the tax write off. The only exception is at HyVee when they do it for T1D. That is a cause that I support and would feel like a shitty any if I said no.
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Post by scrapngranny on Aug 15, 2022 23:25:18 GMT
I have no guilt in saying no. The business collects all the donations, donates the money to the charity, and collects the tax write off. I’ll do my own donations.
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Post by melanieg on Aug 15, 2022 23:35:20 GMT
I just reply "No thanks. I donate directly."
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Post by AussieMeg on Aug 15, 2022 23:37:10 GMT
I've only ever been asked to donate an extra dollar or 50 cents, and I don't have a problem doing that. I would baulk at donating $10 or $20! And I wouldn't appreciate being made to feel guilty for not doing so.
When you say that "the cashier couldn’t believe I wasn’t donating", what do you mean? What did they say?
I doubt very much that the 16yo boy or girl working the register at my supermarket is going to care much one way or another. They're more than likely pissed off that they have to ask in the first place.
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Post by basketdiva on Aug 16, 2022 0:00:46 GMT
I always just say, “No thank you, not today.” And leave it at that. If I’m going to give to any charity it’s going to be something where *I* am getting the deduction, thank you very much. As far as I’m concerned, it’s pretty lousy for these multimillion/billion dollar companies to beg their customers for money that THEY will collect and donate and then turn around and get yet another tax deduction. If the cause means that much to them, they can donate some of their own money to it. Companies do not get a tax write off link
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Post by crazy4scraps on Aug 16, 2022 5:20:54 GMT
I always just say, “No thank you, not today.” And leave it at that. If I’m going to give to any charity it’s going to be something where *I* am getting the deduction, thank you very much. As far as I’m concerned, it’s pretty lousy for these multimillion/billion dollar companies to beg their customers for money that THEY will collect and donate and then turn around and get yet another tax deduction. If the cause means that much to them, they can donate some of their own money to it. Companies do not get a tax write off linkI stand corrected. That’s good to know, but it’s still annoying and it puts people on the spot. I still would rather choose to donate to the charities of my own choice and in a way and an amount that I choose.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 16, 2022 5:44:27 GMT
I'm pretty sure the cashier was new. She was surprised that I didn't want to donate, probably because it was for the schools, and I was surprised that there were suggested donation amounts on the keypad that I needed to bypass. At the grocery store, they usually ask if I'd like to round up, and the cashiers are fine with me saying, "Not today, thanks." I just find it strange that this has become such an accepted part of our culture. I'm already making a purchase, and the company I'm buying from should be pleased that I'm already giving them my money. Instead, the whole transaction takes on a negative tone if I decide not to donate. I'm retired and on a fixed income, so I'm careful with my spending. There are several organizations that I continually support, and I check out any new charities through Charity Navigator. There's no way to do that when a business puts you on the spot. Deep down, I know I shouldn't feel bad, but something about saying "no" to education must have triggered me. I still have a soft spot in my heart for students and teachers. Guilt is a powerful motivator and unfortunately they know it...they being the people who implement these arrangements. I notice it becoming a regular thing with shopping online also. I know someone who says to the person asking, "sure, I'll donate what you put in last time. How much was that?" Some people just can't say no thanks I guess.
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Aug 16, 2022 12:16:47 GMT
I always just say, “No thank you, not today.” And leave it at that. If I’m going to give to any charity it’s going to be something where *I* am getting the deduction, thank you very much. As far as I’m concerned, it’s pretty lousy for these multimillion/billion dollar companies to beg their customers for money that THEY will collect and donate and then turn around and get yet another tax deduction. If the cause means that much to them, they can donate some of their own money to it. Companies do not get a tax write off linkThank you so much for taking the time to post this info. Hopefully people will read it and stop spreading misinformation.
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Post by compeateropeator on Aug 16, 2022 12:29:06 GMT
Not a big fan of those or the do you want our credit card offers. I always end up saying the same awkward phrase “I am all set, thanks”. “No thank you” would be much easier. Hahaha.
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Post by maryannscraps on Aug 16, 2022 12:36:14 GMT
I actually got into it with a clerk at J. Crew a few years ago. I said "No thank you" when asked to donate to some charity. She asked if I was sure, and I told her I already said no. Then she looked at what I was buying and told me she thought I could afford a donation if I could afford to buy those clothes! I took her name and contacted corporate about her.
I have charities that I've vetted, and I'll stick to those.
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Post by workingclassdog on Aug 16, 2022 12:49:30 GMT
I 90% of the time say no. I do feel a little awkward but I took this advice from someone I know. She said she will say 'no, I already donate to the causes I support'. And leaves it at that. I will use that line sometimes and sometimes I just say no.
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Post by tampascrapper on Aug 16, 2022 12:53:41 GMT
I always decline. My donation is not going to help a corporation take a charitable deduction on their taxes. If I feel the charity they are collecting for is one I would like to support, I’ll make my own direct donation to them. This is the reason that I refused to ask customers when I was working in retail. I was upfront with my manager and let her know I would not ask customers to donate. When she responded that the person working the register had to, I told her to not put me on the register then. At a different job, I also refused to ask customers if they wanted to sign up for a credit card. We were supposed to ask them 3 times! I hate it when I’m the customer and I get asked repeatedly so I wasn’t about to do that to the mostly older women buying like $6 tshirts. In both jobs I was lucky that they weren’t my main source of income and the managers knew it.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 16, 2022 14:11:05 GMT
The only one I ever do is our local Panda Express usually has the "round up your order" and it goes to a local hospital. Yeah, sure, the change was just going to get lost under my car seat probably anyway. I'll round up at Goodwill. They've asked for a long time and I usually do. The rest would be a no. If a place says they are raising money for schools, I just say I'm a teacher and already donate daily. I don't donate daily, but I used to spend at least $80-100 a month on breakfast/lunch for kids and other things that were needed. Goodwill really bugs me (we don't shop there anymore). They get all of their merchandise for free and way over pay their top people. So my answer was always no when they asked me to round up.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Aug 16, 2022 14:36:29 GMT
I always decline. My donation is not going to help a corporation take a charitable deduction on their taxes. If I feel the charity they are collecting for is one I would like to support, I’ll make my own direct donation to them. This is the reason that I refused to ask customers when I was working in retail. I was upfront with my manager and let her know I would not ask customers to donate. When she responded that the person working the register had to, I told her to not put me on the register then. At a different job, I also refused to ask customers if they wanted to sign up for a credit card. We were supposed to ask them 3 times! I hate it when I’m the customer and I get asked repeatedly so I wasn’t about to do that to the mostly older women buying like $6 tshirts. In both jobs I was lucky that they weren’t my main source of income and the managers knew it. What’s even worse is when an employee’s job performance is rated on not only asking the customer but also on converting them. I had a job like that at a grocery store bank branch where our performance reviews were based on how many customers we could get to open accounts every month. The manager tracked everyone’s conversions and if you were a consistent underperformer, first you would get written up and eventually you would get fired. We were required to wheel this little cart out into the store aisles or outside the store and basically (harass? accost? pester? Ugh) all the shoppers walking by just going about doing their shopping to come into the bank and open up a new checking account. I *HATED* that! What drove me the most nuts about it was that as the employee you see the same people repeatedly in that environment and after the first encounter you already KNOW certain people won’t qualify (usually because they had an account at the bank before that they ran negative and the bank closed it down) but you still have to ask them. These sales tactics are so predatory that they should be illegal. Not only that but it really isn’t good customer service to sell someone something they really don’t need. Why can’t a cashier just be a cashier? Sheesh. Wells Fargo did the same thing but took it to even greater extremes, to the point where employees were fraudulently opening accounts in existing client’s names and management turned a blind eye to it (and maybe even encouraged it). Wells Fargo ended up being sued and had to pay 3 billion dollars in fines after it was discovered. www.nbcnews.com/news/all/wells-fargo-pay-3-billion-over-fake-account-scandal-n1140541
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Post by grammanisi on Aug 16, 2022 15:54:33 GMT
I usually say, "not today." No one ever says anything unless it is something like, "no problem." This has always been my thoughts on this.
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Post by scrappinmama on Aug 16, 2022 17:12:20 GMT
I say no and leave it at that. The cashier doesn't need to and I'm sure doesn't care what my reason is. I'm always kind and just say no thanks.
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Aug 16, 2022 17:16:59 GMT
I don't have these problems at self-checkout. (Hyvee does ask about rounding up at the end of the transaction but the computer doesn't talk back when you say no.)
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Post by craftedbys on Aug 16, 2022 18:06:02 GMT
I just say "not today" with the inference that other days I might donate, but I never do because we have our own charities we support.
I am a fan of how Buffalo Clothing Exchange in New Orleans raises money. If you opt out of taking a bag for your purchase you are given a token to put into the local charity jar of your choice. There is one for animals, one for the environment, another one (for kids maybe?) and the one we always put our token into is for a teen LGBTQ charity.
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Post by 950nancy on Aug 16, 2022 18:29:07 GMT
I'll round up at Goodwill. They've asked for a long time and I usually do. The rest would be a no. If a place says they are raising money for schools, I just say I'm a teacher and already donate daily. I don't donate daily, but I used to spend at least $80-100 a month on breakfast/lunch for kids and other things that were needed. Goodwill really bugs me (we don't shop there anymore). They get all of their merchandise for free and way over pay their top people. So my answer was always no when they asked me to round up. I agree that their prices have really gone up, but I do appreciate the work they do for people with special needs.
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Post by chaosisapony on Aug 17, 2022 4:28:45 GMT
I always say "not today" and I don't feel bad. I've never had a cashier act weird about me not donating. Honestly, the constant shake downs for donations at retailers anymore is just one more thing that pushes me to online shopping. I just want a simple transaction; I do not want to give my email address or phone number, I do not want to open a credit card, I do not want to make a donation. I want the item they have for sale and I would like to pay for that item and move on with my life. The more complicated stores make this process the less likely I am to shop there.
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Post by smasonnc on Aug 17, 2022 12:02:17 GMT
The cashier couldn’t believe I wasn’t donating, and I felt the need to explain that I had already spent a lot of my own money over the 31 years I taught. Either the cashier was out of line or you were making yourself feel guilty. Now that you've heard from the peas, you can absolve yourself. I say, "No, thank you." End of story. I don't give a rat's @$$ about what a stranger thinks of me. I'm unlikely to see them again and they are unlikely to remember me if I do. I donate where I want and it's none of their business.
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Post by artbabe on Aug 17, 2022 14:29:41 GMT
Goodwill really bugs me (we don't shop there anymore). They get all of their merchandise for free and way over pay their top people. So my answer was always no when they asked me to round up. I agree that their prices have really gone up, but I do appreciate the work they do for people with special needs. Goodwill is problematic. It doesn't even pay its disabled workers minimum wage. There have been issues also with how much of the money taken in goes to charity work and how much of it goes to administrative salaries.
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