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Post by freecharlie on Aug 17, 2022 14:55:12 GMT
My youngest moves into his dorm today. I will be an empty nester with an asshole living in the basement.
Yds and I have gotten even closer over the last year and especially this summer. I am going to miss him like crazy.
Anybody else dropping their kid off today (or soon)? Three of ds's friends leave today as well.
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Post by Basket1lady on Aug 17, 2022 14:57:39 GMT
It’s a hard thing to do, but I have loved watching our kids become awesome adults. Good luck today. We support you!
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Post by christine58 on Aug 17, 2022 14:58:32 GMT
My youngest moves into his dorm today. I will be an empty nester with an asshole living in the basement. Yds and I have gotten even closer over the last year and especially this summer. I am going to miss him like crazy. Anybody else dropping their kid off today (or soon)? Three of ds's friends leave today as well. Praying with the judge makes his decision soon as far as you selling the house etc. and that asshole is gone ASAP. Just keep reminding yourself that there’s a light at the end of the tunnel
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Post by Merge on Aug 17, 2022 14:59:03 GMT
Awwww, it's hard! At least he's not going too far - you should be able to see him often. I love having my girls nearby for now.
Sorry about the asshole in the basement - when will he be gone?
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 17, 2022 15:05:17 GMT
Awwww, it's hard! At least he's not going too far - you should be able to see him often. I love having my girls nearby for now. Sorry about the asshole in the basement - when will he be gone? no later than Oct 1. I don't know when the judge will make us sell
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Post by casii on Aug 17, 2022 15:07:53 GMT
I'm seeing a lot of college drop off posts this week. Big hugs Mama! My youngest was the one that went the furthest away for college too, so it was weird.
Hoping you get answers from the judge soon so you're not living in limbo for too much longer.
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Post by workingclassdog on Aug 17, 2022 15:13:11 GMT
My boss is dropping her son off at CSU today. She is a basket case.. 2nd kiddo out of 7 in her family to leave the nest.
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Post by auntkelly on Aug 17, 2022 15:48:33 GMT
It's so hard dropping them off at college, but it's so exciting to think that one of the most exciting chapters of their adult life is beginning.
I hope he has a great year and strikes a good balance between academics and social activities.
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Post by scrapmaven on Aug 17, 2022 16:02:48 GMT
You have big changes this year, but you're going to get through this and have so many joyous experiences. When the youngest child leaves the nest it's so quiet, but it's also a beginning for you. Your son will thrive and grow and experience such good things. Now you can focus on yourself and growing a new, happy life. Don't be afraid of therapy if you are feeling truly lost w/everything that is happening. Though I know that you're very busy teaching, this might be a good time to start a new hobby, join a group or class. Start creating things to look fwd to and feel free to take up floor banging at 2am just to annoy asshat! That he's living in the basement just makes him even scummier.
You are going to adjust to all of this. You are a good, kind, person and you deserve every happiness. Best wishes to your son. He's embarking on the most fun years of his life.
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Post by katiescarlett on Aug 17, 2022 16:08:46 GMT
I dropped mine off 2 weeks ago at a college 1300 miles from home! It was hard but she is loving every moment of it and keeping in touch really well with texts and face timing. We are also in the process of a huge downsize and move so it's keeping me busy and distracted from missing her! I hope you get the asshole out of the basement soon!
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Post by peabay on Aug 17, 2022 16:14:47 GMT
Dropping my baby off Labor Day weekend. And then dh and I will be true empty nesters. It was supposed to happen 2 years ago but we all know what happened then. can't wait til you can renovate that basement!
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Post by destined2bmom on Aug 17, 2022 16:27:15 GMT
You have big changes this year, but you're going to get through this and have so many joyous experiences. When the youngest child leaves the nest it's so quiet, but it's also a beginning for you. Your son will thrive and grow and experience such good things. Now you can focus on yourself and growing a new, happy life. Don't be afraid of therapy if you are feeling truly lost w/everything that is happening. Though I know that you're very busy teaching, this might be a good time to start a new hobby, join a group or class. Start creating things to look fwd to and feel free to take up floor banging at 2am just to annoy asshat! That he's living in the basement just makes him even scummier. You are going to adjust to all of this. You are a good, kind, person and you deserve every happiness. Best wishes to your son. He's embarking on the most fun years of his life. We are dropping off ODS on Saturday. I completely understand missing him like crazy.
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Post by scrappinwithoutpeas on Aug 17, 2022 16:46:48 GMT
Awww, good luck today - such a bittersweet moment in time!
My youngest went to college close to home, but now he is the furthest away (studying abroad) - it does get easier with time.
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Post by Skellinton on Aug 17, 2022 16:48:28 GMT
Oh, hugs to you! I hope he has a wonderful time at college. What a lot of changes for you. I am sure it was super hard dropping him off, I hope you can do something for yourself today or in the near future. You deserve it!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2022 16:57:43 GMT
I have a Senior this year (high school) and a Sophomore (college). My Wheatie will be going back to school next Monday. I cannot wait to get back into some sort of a schedule. I work from home and that has been really challenging this summer!
Here's to a great school year!
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Post by luckyjune on Aug 17, 2022 17:19:52 GMT
It was a few years ago, but I do remember that feeling of driving away and LEAVING them in their dorms! I guess it is when you have to trust that you raised good, confident, and smart kids! Our kids went to a university that was 1.5 hours from home, so that was always a comfort. I always knew I could be there quickly, if need be. I also had friends who lived in town and could be there even faster than me. I don't know how the mamas who have kids going to school across the country manage!
Thinking of all of you sending your babies to college this year!
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Post by anniebeth24 on Aug 17, 2022 17:26:59 GMT
When we dropped off our youngest, we continued driving to a hotel for an out of town wedding. I was grateful for that distraction and not having to drive straight home.
I was a blubbering mess, but only for a bit. His excitement gave me courage.
Good luck to all the mommas!
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Post by flanz on Aug 17, 2022 17:33:52 GMT
I will be so happy for you when you get that SOAB PITA out of your house!!!
Empty nest is different for you than for some, with so much turmoil recently. It sounds like your son will be nearby which will prob. help both of you, but try to give him space to settle in and make new friends. You've already shown us, and more importantly, yourself, how strong you are! You can do this!
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Post by PLurker on Aug 17, 2022 17:35:13 GMT
My eldest drove themselves away (hour and a half away) so no drop off. Very independent and it made it easier in a way. That and being close enough and in a town that I had to visit once a month anyway.
Youngest chose local college with no driving away that didn't involve a return trip home.
It's both the best and worst, all rolled up into one, watching them grow up and move on. Being the good people they've become make it so much easier. Concentrate on that part, the happy and proud, as much as possible. It helps. ((hugs))
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Post by belgiangal on Aug 17, 2022 17:41:09 GMT
Me! Well not today but 2 weeks from today In 2 weeks I will drive 10 hours across country to drop my only child off at college. I am SO excited for him and struggling SO hard myself. I can't even type that without tearing up. I know he will be fine. I know he is ready. I know I will be fine...I'm just not ready!
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on Aug 17, 2022 17:52:23 GMT
DD moves back into her dorm tomorrow. However, with a drive of 20 minutes and on a campus I have other business on frequently, she isn't too far away.
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Post by janeliz on Aug 17, 2022 19:19:12 GMT
Aw, I hope he has a terrific experience! My oldest is now a Junior, and we’ll help her move back in this weekend.
I’m sorry about that squatter in your basement. He sucks.
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Post by malibou on Aug 17, 2022 19:49:44 GMT
Dh and Ds left last Friday to drive Ds up to Boise for his 3rd year. Dh got back last night. I did pretty well and didn't cry in front of him and he didn't cry. Dh, during the day on Friday, repeatedly came to me crying and he was getting to leave on a 5 day road trip with him!
When Ds dropped off Dh at the airport, he was then heading to my sister's house. He stopped at the end of her street and called Dh and then me sobbing. Damn that makes my mama heart hurt.
He is really such a fantastic kid. He has always been so easy going. I love love love the little family we are!
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Post by malibou on Aug 17, 2022 19:50:15 GMT
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Post by used2scrap on Aug 17, 2022 20:00:07 GMT
Oldest left to go back to school last week, taking dd this coming weekend. I’m a nervous wreck how she’ll do this year (second year) in her own apartment. Last year was bumpy and she’s matured some but not in many areas. 😬
I now have a going on year 4 tradition of staying a couple of days near the kids’ schools each, and I relax and order food and spend time with myself processing this stage of life. And I get one last dinner or lunch when they want a quick break and someone else to pay before I leave town!
Sure hope your basement troll is gone soon.
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Post by scraphollie27 on Aug 17, 2022 20:00:51 GMT
We dropped our baby off last weekend, three hours away. I was more upset during the week before and when my DH sent pictures of them loading the truck on Friday than I was when we left her. We are now empty nesters (this was a permanent move for her) so coming home to an empty house was awful. Thank god for the dog. The past three mornings have been hard because she would always come up and chat with me during breakfast so I’m missing that.
I wish you all the best. Your circumstances are definitely unique.
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Post by flanz on Aug 17, 2022 20:33:13 GMT
Me! Well not today but 2 weeks from today In 2 weeks I will drive 10 hours across country to drop my only child off at college. I am SO excited for him and struggling SO hard myself. I can't even type that without tearing up. I know he will be fine. I know he is ready. I know I will be fine...I'm just not ready! huge hugs to you and all struggling with this big milestone...
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Post by gigito7 on Aug 17, 2022 22:02:47 GMT
It’s particularly hard to drop the last kid off. You’ll do well after a few days and after you settle into your new normal. I don’t know who the asshole is but I can guess. So sorry.
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Post by mags243 on Aug 17, 2022 22:06:57 GMT
My twins are sophomores this year. One moved in a couple of weeks ago for RA training. We're taking the other one tomorrow. It doesn't get easier, but they're both happy. They're each about 3 hours away at opposite ends of the state so I do wish they were closer. We still have one at home, but I'm going to miss them terribly.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2022 22:19:10 GMT
Moving my daughter in tomorrow. Her mental health is very shaky but she wants to try. I'm hoping everything goes surprisingly well and also just feeling sad to let go. I'm trying to just stay in the moment and not freak out.
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