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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Nov 7, 2022 10:05:55 GMT
I teach junior high in a very multicultural school ... that name is easy peasy for me compared to some I deal with ... Mubaligh anyone? I would think she was a boy at first because of the "Drake" ... that becomes no problem after the first couple of days of school when I see her face. How do you say Mubaligh? I'm not bothered by the spelling of Wesleigh, although my brain tripped up halfway through reading it and produced it We Sleigh. I do think the whole thing is more masculine than feminine, but there is a current shift away from gender-specific names. With so many different {I don't even know what the term is for words to describe people who don't fit the male or female mould} maybe the parents are giving their child the space to be whatever the child becomes.
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Post by malibou on Nov 7, 2022 10:11:23 GMT
I quite like Wesleigh, but I could do with out the middle name Drake.
My name is a combo name from my parents names. It is unusual enough that I've not heard of another with the name, but nothing unusual about the spelling of either name. I always have to spell it and pronounce it, because people want to "femininze" it. I was in the Army, and all my stuff said I was a male, for all 4 years.
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Post by lesley on Nov 7, 2022 10:15:18 GMT
Not for me. I don’t see the point of alternative spelling, thereby condemning the person to have to spell out their name for their whole life. And I can’t think why you would give a baby girl a name that means male duck. 🤷♀️
And while we’re here, 😄 it bemuses me that traditionally male names are being given to baby girls, but not the other way round. Girls called Miller, Carson, Carter etc, but no boys called Laura, Amelia, Emily? What’s that about?
Ok, off my soapbox now. 😊
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Post by leannec on Nov 7, 2022 11:31:18 GMT
Moo-ba-lig ... emphasis on the "ba".
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Nov 7, 2022 11:51:26 GMT
Moo-ba-lig ... emphasis on the "ba". Thank you. ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/MNrJDkDuSwqIMVw33MdD.jpg)
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Post by peasapie on Nov 7, 2022 12:00:47 GMT
I like it. I like gender crossing names.
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Post by artbabe on Nov 7, 2022 12:25:29 GMT
I'd like it better if it was spelled the usual way. Wesley is fine.
I have no problem with it being a traditionally boys' name. Then again, my name is Tracy. There were both boys and girls in my graduating class with that name- it was very popular back in the day. I've had male addressed to "Mr." before. It doesn't bother me.
I've taught thousands (yes, literally) of kids. Lots of gender-crossing names.
Jordan, Quinn, Shannon, Ryan, Aaron (yes, spelled that way), Sheldon, Riley, Kelly, Cameron, Harley, Nicky, Lee, etc.
When I hear Drake, I don't think of a duck, I think of a musician.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Nov 7, 2022 12:30:54 GMT
I don’t like when girls have names that are traditionally for boys. As a boy mom, there aren’t as many names to choose from so when people start using them for girls it is one less option.
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Post by monklady123 on Nov 7, 2022 12:35:15 GMT
I teach junior high in a very multicultural school ... that name is easy peasy for me compared to some I deal with ... Mubaligh anyone? I would think she was a boy at first because of the "Drake" ... that becomes no problem after the first couple of days of school when I see her face. How do you say Mubaligh? I'm not bothered by the spelling of Wesleigh, although my brain tripped up halfway through reading it and produced it We Sleigh. I do think the whole thing is more masculine than feminine, but there is a current shift away from gender-specific names. With so many different {I don't even know what the term is for words to describe people who don't fit the male or female mould} maybe the parents are giving their child the space to be whatever the child becomes. Lol. I immediately read "Wes-lee" when I first saw the OP, but now that you've put "we-sleigh" in my head that's all I hear. hahaha I also work in a demographically diverse school so "Wesleigh" would hardly slow me down. And the whole girl name/boy name thing has totally changed these days. I remember the first "Taylor" I ever knew was a girl in the moms group I joined when ds was born. And the first "Riley" was a boy, a classmate of ds's. Now I know someone whose first child, a boy, is named Taylor, and her second child, a girl, is named Riley. lol -- If someone had asked me way back before I had my own kids I would have said that both Taylor and Riley were boys' names.
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Post by CardBoxer on Nov 7, 2022 13:38:27 GMT
How do you say Mubaligh? I'm not bothered by the spelling of Wesleigh, although my brain tripped up halfway through reading it and produced it We Sleigh. I do think the whole thing is more masculine than feminine, but there is a current shift away from gender-specific names. With so many different {I don't even know what the term is for words to describe people who don't fit the male or female mould} maybe the parents are giving their child the space to be whatever the child becomes. Lol. I immediately read "Wes-lee" when I first saw the OP, but now that you've put "we-sleigh" in my head that's all I hear. hahaha I also work in a demographically diverse school so "Wesleigh" would hardly slow me down. And the whole girl name/boy name thing has totally changed these days. I remember the first "Taylor" I ever knew was a girl in the moms group I joined when ds was born. And the first "Riley" was a boy, a classmate of ds's. Now I know someone whose first child, a boy, is named Taylor, and her second child, a girl, is named Riley. lol -- If someone had asked me way back before I had my own kids I would have said that both Taylor and Riley were boys' names. My 30-year-old hair stylist is a Taylor, and I knew another woman named Taylor years ago, so I automatically think “female” even though it’s clearly a boy’s name too.
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Post by paulao on Nov 7, 2022 13:43:52 GMT
What’s with the cutesy spelling? Bad enough to essentially have a boy’s name, but add insult to injury with the “unique” spelling.
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Post by CardBoxer on Nov 7, 2022 13:52:53 GMT
What’s with the cutesy spelling? Bad enough to essentially have a boy’s name, but add insult to injury with the “unique” spelling. Just a guess, but Leigh has been a standard female spelling (I knew a Leigh in high school way back when), and Lee the male version.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Nov 7, 2022 14:03:51 GMT
Seems that moms of girls only think about how the girl will like having a “boy” name. But as a boy mom I recognize that there is even more stigma when girls start to have their names. My oldest has a name that I had only heard of boys having, but there were some girls in his school that had names that sounded the same but spelled differently (kind of like wesleigh here). It isn’t a huge deal, but he has mentioned several times over the years that he doesn’t like that and it makes his name seem like a girls name. After we had my youngest I started seeing more girls with his name as well. I was really hoping it wasn’t going to become more popular for girls than boys.
I get that people don’t have to consider other people’s feelings when they name their kids, but wanted to share a different perspective.
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Post by buddysmom on Nov 7, 2022 14:18:06 GMT
When I named our kids I knew I wanted them to be easy to spell common names. Our last name is unspellable/unpronounceable so I didn't want both names to be that way.
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Post by Sanibel on Nov 7, 2022 14:19:44 GMT
I think the Leigh part of her name feminizes it, but only on paper. Saying it without ever reading it would cause me to believe it’s a boys name.
My grandchildren have rather unique names with the youngest girl named Atlas. Hated it at first, but it fits her now. After she was born I started to read her name more often but always associated as a boys name.
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Post by JustTricia on Nov 7, 2022 14:21:27 GMT
I have spelled both my first and last name for people my whole life (thought it would stop when I married someone with a VERY common last name, but alas no). I had people mispronounce it constantly when I was younger (Theresa, Try-see-a, Trick-ia) and just a little bit now. I never found my name on bike license plates or keychains.
Even with all that I would never change my name for anything in the world. I love my name so much I have no problem spelling it for people. The only time it annoys me is in emails when my name is there minimum three times (address, I sign all of them, and have it in an automated signature as well). Then it drives me INSANE.
With all that said, I named my son Sam. 😂 Purely so he would never have to spell it. Every once in a blue moon people think he says Pam, but that’s it.
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Post by gar on Nov 7, 2022 14:22:10 GMT
As a boy mom, there aren’t as many names to choose from so when people start using them for girls it is one less option. Aren't there??
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Post by Deleted on Nov 7, 2022 14:26:24 GMT
Sounds like they were expecting a boy or really wanted a boy and were dead set on having Wesley Drake as a name.
"It's a girl!" Shit. "Her name is Wesleigh."
Stupid creative spellings.
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Post by aprilfay21 on Nov 7, 2022 14:57:27 GMT
I hate the creative spelling but I love the name for a girl! It's no different IMO than Taylor, Jordan, Logan, Avery. We know both males and females with all of those names.
My kids have uncommon names but with normal spellings.
Our first two also have gender neutral middle names (Morgan and Jackie).
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Post by aprilfay21 on Nov 7, 2022 15:03:20 GMT
I don’t like when girls have names that are traditionally for boys. As a boy mom, there aren’t as many names to choose from so when people start using them for girls it is one less option. Really? When we were naming our second boy I looked at literally THOUSANDS of baby names before we decided.
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Post by bethany102399 on Nov 7, 2022 15:07:49 GMT
misery is having to spell and pronounce your name your whole life. We inadvertently did this to our son. To me, it's not that hard of a name to spell/pronounce but he's spent every school year correcting teachers who keep adding letters. He hates it and I hate that it's my own fault. It was not intentional!
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Post by bbkeef on Nov 7, 2022 15:11:36 GMT
Me too. I don't mind Wesleigh, but if Drake is not a family name, then it's a no for me as the middle name. I recently ran across a baby boy named Braiedy. Why? Why would you do that to him?
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Post by Ryann on Nov 7, 2022 15:18:25 GMT
This thread really proves the point that (IMO) we (society) are way too focused on forcing everyone into their presumed gender boxes.
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Post by myshelly on Nov 7, 2022 15:44:52 GMT
I don’t like when girls have names that are traditionally for boys. As a boy mom, there aren’t as many names to choose from so when people start using them for girls it is one less option. This is so weird. If you buy The Baby Name Book there are literally the same number of pages for boys names as girl names. I’m a huge fan of all names being for both genders. It’s 2022. If your kids are upset bc a girl has their name I consider that a parenting fail. I like Wesleigh. Hate Drake.
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Post by smalltowngirlie on Nov 7, 2022 15:46:57 GMT
I know male and female Tracy's and Stacy's. I know a male Noel and Miah. My DH's name can be male of female. Names can easily be made gender nuetral.
My brain went to "The Princess Bride" I know that is Westley, but close enough.
Like others have said, Wesleigh is cute, but no to Drake.
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Post by J u l e e on Nov 7, 2022 15:49:13 GMT
Seems that moms of girls only think about how the girl will like having a “boy” name. But as a boy mom I recognize that there is even more stigma when girls start to have their names. My oldest has a name that I had only heard of boys having, but there were some girls in his school that had names that sounded the same but spelled differently (kind of like wesleigh here). It isn’t a huge deal, but he has mentioned several times over the years that he doesn’t like that and it makes his name seem like a girls name. After we had my youngest I started seeing more girls with his name as well. I was really hoping it wasn’t going to become more popular for girls than boys. I get that people don’t have to consider other people’s feelings when they name their kids, but wanted to share a different perspective. I think choosing a name is hard regardless. And since I’m one of the offenders, in my defense, Quinn was never a hugely popular “boy name” either, so it’s not like I was taking Michael or Nicholas. My challenge in naming a girl was that I dislike traditional “girl names”. My age group is filled with Susan, Lisa, Jennifer, etc. and I don’t much care for Katie, Emma, Elizabeth, Olivia type names of the next generations. It’s just not an easy task all around.
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Post by J u l e e on Nov 7, 2022 15:51:39 GMT
Me too. I don't mind Wesleigh, but if Drake is not a family name, then it's a no for me as the middle name. I recently ran across a baby boy named Braiedy. Why? Why would you do that to him? Or her
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Nov 7, 2022 15:59:42 GMT
I don't like the first name all that much, but my opinion doesn't matter to them, so... having grown up with one of the most popular names for YEARS when I was born, which meant having at least two or three other Jennifers around me in school, I can see the appeal of an uncommon name, for sure. I would assume the 'Drake' middle name was after some family name, so that doesn't bother me, at all. I think Drake as a name for a girl is kind of cute, even though it is the term for a male duck. it bemuses me that traditionally male names are being given to baby girls, but not the other way round. Girls called Miller, Carson, Carter etc, but no boys called Laura, Amelia, Emily? What’s that about? VERY good point!!!
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Nov 7, 2022 16:23:04 GMT
This thread really proves the point that (IMO) we (society) are way too focused on forcing everyone into their presumed gender boxes. I kind of touched on that further up-thread. Biologically, that's how every living thing reproduces; in almost all, the male fertilises the female which bears the young. Yes there are some species in which this is different. But stripping the continuation of a species back to bare basics, the most important part is gender followed by health. Of course social awareness of and sensitivity to difference is important, but IMO it's not natural to try to suppress the gender instinct.
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Post by oh yvonne on Nov 7, 2022 16:32:06 GMT
I'm thinking at some point soon putting "she/her" or "he/him" or "they/them" is going to be the standard signature in all written communication. I'm seeing it already.
No more Ms Mr. Mrs, on with the pronouns instead.
Oh and I think Drake is just dumb sounding. Wesleigh is way too cutesy for my taste but I don't hate it.
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