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Post by scrapmaven on Nov 13, 2022 3:28:08 GMT
He can no longer hold anything over your head. Nor can he steal money from you. He has to honor the settlement terms. FTR-you just dumped a douche canoe. You can find a new place to live that will be entirely yours. Even better, there won't be a loser in the basement. You are starting a new, happier, much better life. The doggie is w/you and that in itself is a win.
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samantha25
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Post by samantha25 on Nov 13, 2022 3:41:56 GMT
I didn't get everything I wanted, but I'm glad it is done. My one concern is the house and whether it will sell for enough. 60% of the proceeds of the house, his 403 b and our possessions go to me. The proceeds of the house will be after we pay our student loans and solar panels, so there likely won't be much left. We are supposed to list yhe house by Jan 7th. With interest rates where they are, I will not be able to buy it He has pay pay $150 per month in maintenance for 10 years and child support until July + back cs yo December of last year. And the most important part...THE DOG STAYS WITH ME!!! Thank you all for the support this past year. I'm pretty aure I caught him either Nov 8th or 9th, 2021, so it was almost exactly a year to this point. I'm in a good place. I'm sad and will mourn ny house and will likely struggle to fund something to live in, but I'll figure it out. Did you guys refinance your student loans and put them together? That's one thing that I've read as to not do this as your spouse is not responsible for your specific student loan debt and if you are in good standing with your student loans, why do you have to pay them off with the proceeds of the house? Wouldn't it be like a car loan that you have in your name and could keep paying on the loan after divorce? Just wondering.. seems a bit off, buy not a finance person.
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used2scrap
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Post by used2scrap on Nov 13, 2022 4:31:45 GMT
I’m thinking maybe the student loans are for the kids?
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Post by marmargirl on Nov 13, 2022 4:43:00 GMT
I’m so glad you are finally able to move forward with your life!
You have been so strong and an inspiration, and I’m so happy for you to be able to start fresh with the dog!
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Post by lucyg on Nov 13, 2022 4:44:16 GMT
Hugs to you. May the good outweigh the bad for you every time.
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Post by papersilly on Nov 13, 2022 4:44:20 GMT
You're in a good place. That's all that matters.
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gramma
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Post by gramma on Nov 13, 2022 6:17:23 GMT
Great to see this over for you. I've been stalking the site looking for an update. Happy freedom!
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Post by peasapie on Nov 13, 2022 8:59:28 GMT
Ready to turn the page and begun the next chapter of your life story. Oh the places you’ll go!
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Post by Deleted on Nov 13, 2022 9:16:23 GMT
I am really so happy for you that you can close this chapter and on to a new exciting chapter of your life. My biggest wish for you is that the BEST is yet to come!!!!!
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rickmer
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Post by rickmer on Nov 13, 2022 12:58:29 GMT
it's good to be through it. i understand about the house, it was my biggest regret as well. i cannot afford to buy, prices finally going down a bit here, but interest rates so high it cancels it out. i will tell you i am happy in my rental that i have made into a home. wishing you all the best in the next stage of your life. you got this!!
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Post by lisae on Nov 13, 2022 13:19:10 GMT
I'm sure it is a relief to get this part behind you. Good for you for standing up for yourself and your children.
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Post by Restless Spirit on Nov 13, 2022 13:46:58 GMT
Oh dear heart, I’m so happy for you.
You have the kids, the dog (yeah!) and most importantly your self esteem and self worth. He didn’t take you down with his miserable old self.
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Post by gizzy on Nov 13, 2022 15:12:22 GMT
I'm glad this is finally over for you and so happy that you get to keep your dog.
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Post by silverlining on Nov 13, 2022 17:06:01 GMT
I'm so glad this is finally resolved and you can move on. You will have your dog and a good relationship with your sons. You won't be carrying any debt and you will have his 403B to add to your pension. In the future, when you are settled into a home or condo that you love and are looking at retirement, and remember the stress of being with your ex, I think you will be very happy with how it all worked out. I hope you feel very proud of yourself for how you looked after yourself and your kids and got through this terrible time.
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Post by MZF on Nov 13, 2022 17:19:54 GMT
Wishing you the best for your future.
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Post by SallyPA on Nov 13, 2022 17:31:25 GMT
So glad it’s over for you. Now you can enjoy the holidays and look towards your next step. Real estate here is absolute crap for buyers right now. Don’t be afraid to rent until that market improves.
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Nanner
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Post by Nanner on Nov 13, 2022 17:41:17 GMT
It's good that it's over. You can go ahead now. I know you won't have the house, but at least you'll be going forward with no debt. And with your dog!!
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Post by auntkelly on Nov 13, 2022 18:43:39 GMT
I'm glad it's over. I hope the sale of your house goes smoothly and that you find much happiness in the future.
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Post by maryland on Nov 13, 2022 18:48:27 GMT
I am sorry about the house, I can't imagine how hard that must be. But I am so happy you get the dog! I bet the dog is thrilled too!
I hope you can find something that you love.
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Post by Really Red on Nov 13, 2022 21:41:48 GMT
I hope you are finding peace. I am so glad you got the dogs!
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Nov 13, 2022 23:22:03 GMT
(((Hugs)))
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scrappyesq
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You have always been a part of the heist. You're only mad now because you don't like your cut.
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Jun 26, 2014 19:29:07 GMT
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Post by scrappyesq on Nov 14, 2022 2:37:03 GMT
Hugs to you.
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SuPeaNatural
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Jun 27, 2014 8:49:11 GMT
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Post by SuPeaNatural on Nov 14, 2022 12:12:45 GMT
Such a load off your shoulders now. I'm sorry about the house, but hopefully you will be able to buy something else, a nice little cottage or unit, and start your new life fresh, in your own place, making new memories.
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Jili
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Post by Jili on Nov 14, 2022 13:10:57 GMT
I’m glad that it’s finally over for you. Although it’s sad to have to sell the house, it might ultimately be for the best. I can see you in a cute little condo, living your best life. I’m also glad you’ll be getting some maintenance/child support. You’ll need it, and stbx (I know it’s official but that seems to be his identity here 😏) needs the monthly reminder of what a shit he has been.
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Post by sabrinae on Nov 14, 2022 13:33:46 GMT
You might want to talk to your attorney and see if you can get the back child support taken out of the proceeds from the house sale as well. Otherwise you might have a hard time collecting. I would also encourage you to think of the spousal support as bonus money and not rely on it for anything important because again enforcing the order may be a challenge given his current behavior
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Post by scrapcat on Nov 14, 2022 15:25:47 GMT
Glad you will be able to move forward. The messiness of finances and getting untangled takes a bit, but I'm sure you will be better off for it and find what you want. I had to bring money to the table to sell our house, which was just horrible...but eventually I was able to save up and buy a better house in a better market and couldn't be happier where I'm at. It really does take time. Be gentle with yourself, but also celebrate the little things!
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Post by essiejean on Nov 14, 2022 16:24:26 GMT
Best of luck to you on your journey. I truly hope a fresh start in your own place will help you heal. Take care of yourself!
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Post by workingclassdog on Nov 14, 2022 16:39:25 GMT
Yea!!! Glad it's over and you have the dog!
Is he out of the house now? (I might have missed that)
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huskergal
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Post by huskergal on Nov 14, 2022 16:57:12 GMT
Good luck with your next chapter. I hope the house sells at a good price for you. And so happy you got the dog!
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peabay
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Post by peabay on Nov 14, 2022 17:01:20 GMT
I'm so glad you can now move on.
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