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Post by freecharlie on Nov 12, 2022 23:59:29 GMT
I didn't get everything I wanted, but I'm glad it is done. My one concern is the house and whether it will sell for enough.
60% of the proceeds of the house, his 403 b and our possessions go to me. The proceeds of the house will be after we pay our student loans and solar panels, so there likely won't be much left.
We are supposed to list yhe house by Jan 7th. With interest rates where they are, I will not be able to buy it
He has pay pay $150 per month in maintenance for 10 years and child support until July + back cs yo December of last year.
And the most important part...THE DOG STAYS WITH ME!!!
Thank you all for the support this past year. I'm pretty aure I caught him either Nov 8th or 9th, 2021, so it was almost exactly a year to this point.
I'm in a good place. I'm sad and will mourn ny house and will likely struggle to fund something to live in, but I'll figure it out.
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Post by cakediva on Nov 13, 2022 0:01:46 GMT
Hugs…..
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Post by Merge on Nov 13, 2022 0:03:40 GMT
I’m happy for you that it’s over and not hanging over your head for the holidays. You will definitely be OK and yay for the dog!
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Post by ~summer~ on Nov 13, 2022 0:04:02 GMT
Hugs to you. Thanks for the update ❤️
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Post by PLurker on Nov 13, 2022 0:05:01 GMT
Forward! I'm glad it's over and nothing but the best to you in your new future. ((hugs)) Especially glad your four legged friend gets to stay with you.♥️
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Post by Zee on Nov 13, 2022 0:05:44 GMT
I'm glad it's almost over for you. You've been an inspiration for so many here, I'm sure. ❤️
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Post by allison1954 on Nov 13, 2022 0:05:54 GMT
At least your student loans will be paid off.
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Post by seaexplore on Nov 13, 2022 0:09:16 GMT
Deep sigh of weight being lifted from the unknown. I'm sorry you won't be able to keep the house but maybe something smaller? Less yard? Just for you and the kiddo? I'm VERY glad you get the fur ball and that he has to pay SOMETHING at least. Onto better things and a fabulous Christmas for YOU!
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Post by 950nancy on Nov 13, 2022 0:09:36 GMT
Lots of good in your post even if you didn't get everything you wanted. For me, the dog would be very important.
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Post by leannec on Nov 13, 2022 0:12:49 GMT
All the best to you as you move forward in this new chapter of your life!!! Yay that you got the dog!
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Post by supersoda on Nov 13, 2022 0:15:04 GMT
I'm glad you have a resolution, and that you got the dogs! I'm sorry about the house and hope you can find something you love.
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Post by Skellinton on Nov 13, 2022 0:16:00 GMT
Glad it is finally over. Especially glad about the dog, I hope you find a wonderful place to live and find the happiness and peace you so well deserve.
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Post by janeliz on Nov 13, 2022 0:21:08 GMT
I’m so happy to hear the dog will be staying with you. I hope the sale of the house goes really well and 2023 is a wonderful, fresh start for you.
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Post by hop2 on Nov 13, 2022 0:25:18 GMT
I’m glad you have a resolution. I’m so glad you have the dogs. I hope you find peace & strength going forward.
Hugs
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Post by summer on Nov 13, 2022 0:25:59 GMT
I’m glad it’s over. You are going to be ok, you are in charge of your future. That’s great that you get the dog. I know it’s sad to not be able to keep the house but downsizing and starting new memories in a new location can be beneficial.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Nov 13, 2022 0:33:46 GMT
I'm glad you are going to have closure. Wishing you peace and happiness, as you begin as new chapter.
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Post by tentoes on Nov 13, 2022 0:40:23 GMT
I'm glad this step is over. ((HUGS)) to you.
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Post by janeinbama on Nov 13, 2022 0:45:36 GMT
I'm glad too. Home is where your heart is and it will be a lovely home too!!!!
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Post by mfallspea on Nov 13, 2022 0:51:53 GMT
Happy to hear it is finally over! Yay, you keep the dog! You have been a warrior for your boys and yourself this past year. Breathe deep and bask in that accomplishment.
I hope you feel a deep sense of pride in the example you have been to your sons and yourself. Hugs.
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Post by librarylady on Nov 13, 2022 1:00:23 GMT
Glad you can close this door and then run through the new door to a better life. We know you can do it.
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Post by destined2bmom on Nov 13, 2022 1:04:20 GMT
Hugs to you.
I know this has been very hard and sad for you and your kids; but you are going to be much happier and have many positive experiences in your future!
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Post by snyder on Nov 13, 2022 1:06:27 GMT
So happy that this huge cloud is behind you.
That's an odd amount of SM but glad its for 10 years!
Can you take the money from the 403 now or do you have to wait til you or him are 59.5 years old? I was thinking if it was a nice chuck, maybe you could put that towards the purchase of a home to make it easier to afford.
And that's a bummer to tie it to the school loans prior to this loan forgiveness for student debt has been put on hold.
Best of Luck in your new adventures to come.
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Post by malibou on Nov 13, 2022 1:20:47 GMT
I am thrilled to hear it is over. Wish Wishing you peace as you create the rest of your life.
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Post by Basket1lady on Nov 13, 2022 1:45:52 GMT
It must feel good to finally know the outcome. Don’t underestimate the value of debt paid off. I swear it works to double that amount of income.
And most importantly, you have custody of the dog!
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Post by Scrapper100 on Nov 13, 2022 1:46:58 GMT
Glad it is over snd that you got the dog . I hope the sale goes well and that you can find a nice place. Is he finally out of the house?
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Post by chaosisapony on Nov 13, 2022 1:49:43 GMT
I'm so glad you're finally going to be able to close the door on all of this drama and get a start on your new life.
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Post by bc2ca on Nov 13, 2022 1:51:25 GMT
I'm glad you finally have a decision. It's been a brutal year and you have made me and so many others here so proud of the way you have navigated things. Go hug that pup.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Nov 13, 2022 2:59:48 GMT
I’m so happy that you’re finally coming out on the other side of all that mess. Even though losing the house is disappointing, I’m confident you will find a new home that will be perfect for you minus all the emotional baggage plus you can make it totally your own. How awesome you get to keep custody of your pup! That’s the very best part.
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Post by Sanibel on Nov 13, 2022 3:06:23 GMT
Where you were a year ago, and where you are now is drastically different. You are amazing and you did it! Move on and enjoy your life. ❤️
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Post by epeanymous on Nov 13, 2022 3:24:16 GMT
I am glad it is over. You have been a rock star.
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