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Post by 950nancy on Nov 18, 2022 0:53:14 GMT
I would say that is a true statement for me.
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Post by Linda on Nov 18, 2022 4:48:54 GMT
when I actually stopped to think about this...I realised, I don't really have any IRL friends. I mean, I'm still friends with my best friend from high school but haven't seen her in 3 years and she lives a two-day road trip away. The friends I thought I made through Girl Scouts all disappeared as girls aged out and troops dissolved (my youngest is still a Girl Scout but her troop is an hour away and I'm no longer an active volunteer)...and the one remaining friend from that group ...we've grown apart over Covid due to differences in political beliefs.
Online parenting friends? Some of whom I've known for over 20 years? They range in age from mid-30s to 80a. Online scrapbooking friends? what's the age spread here, lol? I'm 52 fwiw
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Post by brynn on Nov 18, 2022 4:56:40 GMT
I have a very dear friend who won't tell me her age, but I know she is in her 80s. I am 48. She is an absolute gem and so very important to me. She is very wise and reminds me often that we should be intentional about making friends of all ages. I really try to do that. I was blessed with a friend like this. She was over 20 years older than me and sassy.
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Post by trixiecat on Nov 18, 2022 13:09:31 GMT
I am an older parent. One of my closest friends is 11 years younger. The other is 8 years younger. My husband is 4 years older than me. We feel most similar hanging with couples our own age and can relate to them the best. I have things in common with my younger friends (kids the same age, crafts, etc.) but my husband always says (about my friend 11 years younger) that she is so immature and naive.
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Post by karenlou on Nov 18, 2022 13:29:34 GMT
I have a friend who is 20+ years younger than I, otherwise my BFF is only 3 months older than I, another who is 5 years older ....Then there is my DS, KelleeM who is 8 years younger....
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Post by Merge on Nov 18, 2022 13:38:13 GMT
Most of my friends are around my age, but I have a couple that are about 15 years older than me - both are former co-workers who became good friends.
Our couple friends who moved away were ten years older than me and DH. DH especially tends to hang out and make friends with people of all ages.
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Post by Gennifer on Nov 18, 2022 14:25:49 GMT
when I actually stopped to think about this...I realised, I don't really have any IRL friends. Yeah, this is true for me, too. I only see my best friend from high school (same age) maybe once a year, but we text a few times a month. My old “work besties” are in their early 20’s (so 20ish years younger) but it was more of an older sister/aunt vibe, and now that we don’t work together our texts have dropped drastically. So my “friends” are my husband (3 years older) and my sisters and brothers’ wives, who range from 10 years older to 17 years younger than me. And, frankly, maintaining meaningful relationships with 5 sisters and 2 sisters-in-law is hard enough; I don’t have the emotional bandwidth for more.
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Post by Nanner on Nov 18, 2022 14:35:45 GMT
My friends are between 10 years younger and 15 years older than I am.
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Post by bluebird71 on Nov 18, 2022 15:20:11 GMT
My dear friend who is sitting across the room at her computer is 18 years younger than me. We have been friends for 12 years!
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Post by janet on Nov 18, 2022 15:23:55 GMT
My best friend just turned 40 and I'm 53. I like to say I'm young at heart
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Post by refugeepea on Nov 18, 2022 15:32:40 GMT
They are close in age to me, but I wouldn't say we are super close. I feel like as I get older, I'm fine not having friends. I have other things I have to deal with and I don't want any more commitments. I'm an introvert. I need alone time.
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Post by melanell on Nov 18, 2022 19:40:02 GMT
...not acquaintances, but real friends.
I'm reading a book about ageism and the author says it is rare to have a friend whose age is 10 or more years different from yours. (either older or younger)
It is true for me. What about you?
It is not true for me. Most of the friends who I spend time with are at least 10 years older than me. Interestingly, my mother's best friend is also 10 years older than her, and a few others of her friends are several years older than her as well.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Nov 18, 2022 20:04:20 GMT
I'm 46 and most of my friends are 60's/70's. I've had so many of my friends pass away in the last few years that I recently told my husband that I needed to make younger friends! DH and I have mentioned this to each other too. Both of us have mostly older friends, some of whom have passed away and some who are aging out of previously shared interests (especially for DH who enjoys snowmobiling, riding ATVs and motorcycles, bowling, shooting sports, hunting, etc.). It’s hard when the people who used to love doing the same things you still like doing no longer want to do those shared activities and that’s what you had in common.
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Nov 18, 2022 20:06:08 GMT
I have three very best friends that I have had for years and years
1. Is 10 years older than me. 2 Is 10 years younger than me. 3. is about 5 years younger than me.
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Post by sean&marysmommy on Nov 18, 2022 20:27:48 GMT
My best friend is 10 years younger than me, but she is definitely an "old soul". (I'm 45; she's 35.) We met via a crafty group 7 years ago. We also hang out with a few other ladies from the same group a few times a month, and they are older than us. (One is in her 60's, and the other is 75.) Common interests definitely brought us together- the craft stuff, but also my best friend and I have kids around the same age that are best friends, and we both homeschool and often teach together.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Nov 18, 2022 20:41:45 GMT
when I actually stopped to think about this...I realised, I don't really have any IRL friends. I’m kind of in this boat. While I do have friends IRL, almost none of them are local to me. A good number of my friends to begin with lived in other states and I would see them once or twice a year at events that I would attend and/or help out with and/or participate as a vendor. Due to bad timing in some instances or circumstances beyond my control followed by two years of Covid, I haven’t been able to attend any of those events (or they haven’t been held) for probably the last four or five years so I haven’t seen any of them in quite a while. My friends who used to be local that I used to always do stuff with have either passed away, moved far out of the area or we’ve just grown apart. We have some older couples friends that we go to dinner with occasionally, but I don’t have anybody local anymore that has any interest in the things I specifically like doing. I have some newer friends too from a shared interest but they also live several to many states away. All of my brothers have gotten divorced except one and I’m not very close with his second wife. One of my sisters I no longer speak to at all and the other lives several states away. I don’t have too many parent friends because as an older mom, most of my kid’s friend’s parents are 15-20 years younger than me and we really don’t seem to have a lot in common. I tend to have more in common with DD’s friend’s grandparents than with their parents. Even our neighbors are mostly older and retired. I think our house was the second one on our block to turn over from the original owners who built these houses in the early 80’s. The new families slowly moving in are way younger than we are with much younger kids.
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Post by eventhinker on Nov 18, 2022 22:24:45 GMT
My closest friend is my age. I have several good friends around my age, but I literally just spent 2 hours with the daughter of a deceased friend of mine, and we just “get” each other. She’s half my age.
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Post by scorpeao on Nov 18, 2022 22:32:05 GMT
I have fourpretty good friends who are 13 years my senior, and a couple good friends who are 10 years younger than me. I have very few friends that are my age.
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Post by luckyjune on Nov 18, 2022 22:38:43 GMT
Besides DH, who is my forever bestie, my BFF is 15 years younger than me. We taught together forever. We have the same thoughts at the same time, finish each other's sentences. Kids at school would test it out and ask both of us the same questions (not in each others presence) and 9/10, they'd get the same answer. We joke about sharing a brain.
I have other friends who are in their mid to late 60's. My youngest friend is 27, which is the same age as my twins...which is kinda weird. A big group of us went away on a women's weekend a couple of weeks ago. Our age range was 65-27. You'd never know there was an age difference by our conversations while sitting around playing "What Do You Meme?"
Love them all dearly.
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Post by kate on Nov 18, 2022 22:47:14 GMT
Most of my friends are within 10 yrs either direction, but I have a few who are older. DH is more than 10 yrs older than me, so we have "couple friends" on the older side.
For us, it's more about life phase than about age, per se. As we look toward retirement and an empty nest, I imagine it would be harder to have true friends who are young marrieds.
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Post by Ryann on Nov 18, 2022 23:00:29 GMT
I’m 44. My BFFs are 45 and 55.
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Post by scrappyesq on Nov 19, 2022 2:26:48 GMT
My closest friends are my age, but I do have one friend who is 17 years younger than me (49/32).
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Post by Linda on Nov 19, 2022 3:34:38 GMT
I don’t have too many parent friends because as an older mom, most of my kid’s friend’s parents are 15-20 years younger than me and we really don’t seem to have a lot in common. I tend to have more in common with DD’s friend’s grandparents than with their parents. similar place here - when I had my oldest at 21 I didn't have many parent friends because where I was living then, mums tended to be in their 30s and 40s. By the time I had my youngest at 36 we had moved and - my age-peers here were becoming grandparents. When she was in K, my oldest and I would volunteer in her class...he was 21 and the class mums were all in their 20s...the ones my age were the grandmas. Even our neighbors are mostly older and retired. I think our house was the second one on our block to turn over from the original owners who built these houses in the early 80’s. The new families slowly moving in are way younger than we are with much younger kids. same - our subdivision was mostly built in the 80s also and many original homeowners are still here (and retired). We really haven't gotten to know any neighbours (possibly because we bought at the end of 2020).
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Post by freecharlie on Nov 19, 2022 3:47:35 GMT
My friends range in age from early 30s to 75. I am 46.
The ones on the far ends, I worked with or met through someone from work at one time or another.
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Post by workingclassdog on Nov 19, 2022 3:47:45 GMT
My bff is six months older than me.
My other friends are mostly within a few years.
I had one friend who was like my moms age.. she passed away.
And currently I have one friend who is 14 years younger.
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Post by Lexica on Nov 19, 2022 4:48:19 GMT
No, it isn't true for me. I have always had friends that were several years younger than I am and several years older as well.
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Post by my3freaks on Nov 19, 2022 6:01:34 GMT
For people I consider close friends (even though I don't get to see them on a regular basis), I have 1 that I've been friends with since high school who's a few months younger than me, another I met at a scrapbook store when we lived in OH for a couple years (many years ago) who's a couple of years older than me, and another I met through work, probably close to 15 years ago who is 2 years younger than me. Locally I have 2 more friends I made through that same job, closer to 20 years ago. One is 10 years older than me, and I see her a few time a year, chat more often. The other is my best friend, who is 9 years younger than me. She's my other half. Thankfully I usually see her about once a week (we live about 45 mins apart), and we talk multiple times a day.
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Post by hannahruth on Nov 19, 2022 11:00:47 GMT
I have several groups of people that I consider friends.
There is a group of 10-12 ladies that I worked with beginning in 1972. We meet up every 8-12 weeks for lunch and have done for years. This group was the baby years, our kids school years, adolescent years, loss of parents years. I usually see this group without DH - girls only 😁 I am one of the oldest at 68 and the youngest would be mid 50’s.
We lived in a cul-de-sac and had amazing neighbours and even though now we have all moved away we have maintained our friendship. This group was moving houses, more lunching, retiring, and now ageing gracefully!
I am the youngest in this group with the oldest being 80 now so there is a reasonable gap.
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Post by peace on Nov 19, 2022 14:34:54 GMT
Most of my good friends are around my age- 58- but I have a married couple I am close to that is 29, 30 years old. I just love them. It's harder to have older friends because I am in Florida. And they have all had that kool-aid. And it ALWAYS comes up.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Nov 19, 2022 15:53:11 GMT
My very best friend is exactly my age, by 2 days. We have been friends since birth. I was truly blessed with her. My other friends are mainly younger then me by 10-20 yrs. I seem to have a problem having anything in common with women my age up here. They are either too in to themselves, or too republican.
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