peaname
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Post by peaname on Dec 26, 2022 20:39:42 GMT
Are you saving anything you got this year to regift? Do you have any good regift stories?
Apparently Martha Stewart says just say no to regifting but I’m a huge fan. If I heard someone regifted something I gave them it would not bother me a bit. In fact I’d hope it was a good regift for them because I’ve had some perfect opportunities where I get a nice gift one day and need a nice gift the next and it’s just easier to pass it on.
This year my boss gave me a 2023 planner along with some fancy chocolate. I don’t need it and I don’t have anyone to give it to so I left it on a table in the entryway at church on Christmas Eve with a free post it attached. I hope whoever got it will use it well!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 26, 2022 20:46:26 GMT
I got a couple of seasonal dish towels that might be more my SIL's style. I thought about regifting them to her but it's obvious. Bleh. I think they're going to be donated.
The bottle of wine on the other hand? I don't even know who I would pass it on to.
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Post by KiwiJo on Dec 26, 2022 20:48:56 GMT
I am intrigued by your post - I had always thought of regifting as something almost secretly done…. “Gosh, I hope the person who gave this to me doesn’t find out I regifted it!”. But you say that it wouldn’t bother you to know. Tell me, do you put a lot of time and effort into finding a gift for each person, or are you more of a “that will do” type of giver?
Neither way is right or wrong of course, but I confess that I would feel hurt if I knew something I gave to a family member was subsequently regifted, so I am interested to hear other viewpoints.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Dec 26, 2022 20:53:10 GMT
I think a lot of wedding gifts were re-gifted back in the day. I've heard stories of people receiving gifts that had a card enclosed to the original recipient that they forgot to remove before re-gifting. I have a friend who throws a huge Christmas party every year and lots of people bring her gifts. I imagine she re-gifts some of those items. We had them over after Christmas a while back and she brought me two adorable Christmassy bowls and I wondered if they were a re-gift. Didn't matter to me as I loved them. So to answer your question, I don't mind if I receive a re-gift as long as it's something I can use.
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Post by littlemama on Dec 26, 2022 20:54:40 GMT
I don't "regift" generally. If I receive something that is not my style, I would either give it to someone I know- not as a gift, just give it to them. Or, I would donate it
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Post by AussieMeg on Dec 26, 2022 20:55:57 GMT
Apparently Martha Stewart says just say no to regifting but I’m a huge fan. If I heard someone regifted something I gave them it would not bother me a bit. I think you're maybe in the minority here. I think most people would be at least a little bit upset or offended if someone regifted something they'd given them. I know that I would be a little bit sad, maybe embarrassed. Then I would feel guilty and have to go out and buy the person something else, because now, for all intents and purposes, that person didn't get a gift from me. I would only regift if the person I'm regifting it to doesn't know the person who gave it to me, and if it's something that the original giver wouldn't expect to see sitting out on display.
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Post by myshelly on Dec 26, 2022 20:56:32 GMT
I think regifting happens with generic gifts - candles, blankets, etc.
I do not enjoy giving or receiving generic gifts.
It seems utterly pointless to me to buy that type of gift.
These aren’t “nice” gifts to me. A nice gift to me means you bought something specific to that person that they wanted or needed.
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Post by Zee on Dec 26, 2022 20:57:30 GMT
I feel guilty about this I don't do it in general.
But I have re-gifted alcohol. I can't drink a bottle of whiskey and I'm not sure why anyone would think I could. I found someone much younger who might still enjoy that type of challenge.
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Post by busy on Dec 26, 2022 21:02:21 GMT
I wish regifting didn't have such a stigma. I personally rarely give tangible things and much more often give experiences, but when I do give things, I wouldn't be hurt if someone regifted. I do try to pick things out with care and intention but that's no guarantee that someone actually has room for that lovely planter that's perfectly their style. Or maybe a former friend had one that was so similar, the new one reminds them of that person and it's unpleasant. A gift could be appreciated, thoughtful, and a good match and still not be wanted/needed. I would never want someone to feel obligated to keep something just because I gave it to them.
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Post by peaname on Dec 26, 2022 21:02:45 GMT
I’m almost the opposite of a hoarder in that I don’t attach a lot of sentimentality or emotion onto material things. I’ve also learned to 100% accept the wonderful thoughtful intention part of receiving a gift but not attach any obligation to the gift. I do know that I’m odd and keep regifting quiet because I would not want to hurt someone’s feelings.
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Post by gar on Dec 26, 2022 21:05:40 GMT
Are you saving anything you got this year to regift? Saving as opposed to what?
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Post by pantsonfire on Dec 26, 2022 21:06:49 GMT
I don't regift. I just pass it along to someone who could use it.
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Post by peaname on Dec 26, 2022 21:07:26 GMT
When my kids were younger I participated in a gift exchange with the moms from our playgroup. I took the most beautifully wrapped gift and we didn’t open them in front of the others which was kind of weird. When I got home I discovered a wine bottle shaped cutting board that said Bill & Linda’s vineyard. The hostess was named Linda and I’m guessing this was a wedding gift for her and her husband who went by the name William! I got the last laugh though because my husband has an Aunt Linda and uncle Bill and they loved receiving my regift.
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Post by pantsonfire on Dec 26, 2022 21:07:30 GMT
Are you saving anything you got this year to regift? Saving as opposed to what? Ask for a return receipt, donate, offer to someone not as a gift, throw away...
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Post by Bitchy Rich on Dec 26, 2022 21:08:45 GMT
I have regifted before, when I was secure in the knowledge that the original gifter would never find out. Such as receiving from a neighbor and giving to a coworker. Their paths don't cross. It has happened that I received an item that I thought was okay, but realized someone else in my life would appreciate more.
I can see how feelings would be hurt if someone realized you regifted. It's basically saying "I don't like what you picked out for me."
Every year a few people give me scratch off lotto tickets and I have saved every single one for my son's stocking. He gets a kick out of it, and I think it's a waste of money.
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Post by gar on Dec 26, 2022 21:10:34 GMT
Saving as opposed to what? Ask for a return receipt, donate, offer to someone not as a gift, throw away... Hmm ok I get it, it was the word saving that made me query it. Ignore me.
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Post by GiantsFan on Dec 26, 2022 21:11:44 GMT
I think a lot of wedding gifts were re-gifted back in the day. I've heard stories of people receiving gifts that had a card enclosed to the original recipient that they forgot to remove before re-gifting. I have a friend who throws a huge Christmas party every year and lots of people bring her gifts. I imagine she re-gifts some of those items. We had them over after Christmas a while back and she brought me two adorable Christmassy bowls and I wondered if they were a re-gift. Didn't matter to me as I loved them. So to answer your question, I don't mind if I receive a re-gift as long as it's something I can use. At my wedding in 1987 we received an air popcorn popper. It was the days when the price was printed on the packaging and we clearly knew it was from K-Mart. We tried to return it and we were told by CS that they hadn't sold that model for at least 10 years! LOL! (We kept it and we did use it but not often. I don't like uni-taskers taking up room in my life and a popcorn popper IMO is a uni-tasker.)
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Post by AussieMeg on Dec 26, 2022 21:19:29 GMT
I think regifting happens with generic gifts - candles, blankets, etc. I do not enjoy giving or receiving generic gifts. It seems utterly pointless to me to buy that type of gift. These aren’t “nice” gifts to me. A nice gift to me means you bought something specific to that person that they wanted or needed. Ha, I got a hand made blanket and THREE candles for Christmas, but that's okay because I specifically asked for them. And DD got some candles as well, which she specifically asked for, for her new house. So one person's "generic" is another person's "nice". But I get your point - if someone doesn't want or like candles, then yes, it's kind of a pointless gift, and is likely to be regifted. Hopefully to me haha!
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Post by refugeepea on Dec 26, 2022 21:29:16 GMT
Ask for a return receipt, donate, offer to someone not as a gift, throw away... Asking for a return receipt is something I could never do. Regifting? I don't think I've done it before. More out of fear it might have been given to me by the person I'm giving it to. Unless it's something very unique, I'm not likely to remember where gifts come from.
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Post by pantsonfire on Dec 26, 2022 22:20:43 GMT
Ask for a return receipt, donate, offer to someone not as a gift, throw away... Asking for a return receipt is something I could never do. Regifting? I don't think I've done it before. More out of fear it might have been given to me by the person I'm giving it to. Unless it's something very unique, I'm not likely to remember where gifts come from. I have a few times for an item I asked for that had something wrong with it. I am not going to keep an item that is flaued. But the person knew why I wanted to receipt. A few stores won't do exchanges without one. It's a pita but then I get the perfect item.
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Post by Bitchy Rich on Dec 26, 2022 22:32:55 GMT
Ha, I got a hand made blanket and THREE candles for Christmas, but that's okay because I specifically asked for them. And DD got some candles as well, which she specifically asked for, for her new house. So one person's "generic" is another person's "nice". I love that candles are a go-to generic gift for a lot of people, because I find them brand new all the time at yard sales for $1 or less.
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Post by littlemama on Dec 26, 2022 23:13:13 GMT
I feel guilty about this I don't do it in general. But I have re-gifted alcohol. I can't drink a bottle of whiskey and I'm not sure why anyone would think I could. I found someone much younger who might still enjoy that type of challenge. Alcohol is the one thing I could see regifting, as long as it is something I know the recipient likes. You can't donate it!
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Dec 26, 2022 23:32:11 GMT
Regifting is better then putting it in the garbage..
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Post by peasapie on Dec 26, 2022 23:33:24 GMT
I got some ridiculous cups in a white elephant exchange and gave them to my twin grandsons who LOVE getting their first grownup coffee cups. I say regift away!
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Dec 27, 2022 0:04:36 GMT
I "re-gift" but not as an actual gift. It's more of a "do you want this?" giveaway, if I think it's something that someone I know would want. Otherwise it goes in the donation box or bag.
Anytime I receive gift cards that I don't want, then I give them to a specific Niece. Usually Starbucks or a chain restaurant or fast food that I don't care for.
I've received re-gifted gifts in the past, I know it was re-gifted because the giver forgot to remove the original tag hanging from the gift bag or packaging. Once was a box of Godiva chocolates(which I kept for myself). Once was the stacked boxes that looks like a snowman or Santa...each box has generic chocolate-generic cookies-nuts-etc... I gave it to someone (not as a gift, as a giveaway to whomever wants it).
I am all about not keeping gifts that I don't want, need, won't use, doesn't match my stuff, etc... My home is very small, and I don't like a lot of unwanted stuff sitting around in my storage closet. I am a believer of "it's the thought , that counts". I profusely thank the giver and comment on how kind they are to think of me. I feel zero guilt, if I don't keep something that was given to me. I do put the blankets away, until I have a pile of them.....then I drop them off at the animal shelter instead of putting them in the general donation pile.
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Post by Anita on Dec 27, 2022 1:43:31 GMT
Funny story this year. My kids both like a lot of similar items, and I thought I did a good job of keeping their gifts separate. However, the DD who still lives at home opened gifts first and one item she said she liked, but it was for a different kind of phone than she had. So she had the bright idea to just rewrap it and put it back under the tree for her sister immediately. Big sister came over later in the day, unwrapped it, and said "Yay! You got this from my list!" Um...yup, that's totally what happened.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Dec 27, 2022 2:03:21 GMT
I will regift if it’s something I can’t use or don’t want and know someone that thing would be perfect for. I might or might not wait for an occasion though. My MIL was a terrible gift giver and she would never include gift receipts for anything she gave us. If the item was something nice (rare) I would either give it to someone who could use it or I’d donate it. If it was something junky or pointless I’d throw it away or recycle it if possible. I don’t drink at all and DH only rarely does and is pretty specific about what he likes, so almost all alcohol that people give us gets regifted to someone who will actually drink it.
I think it would really depend on how much effort I put into choosing the gift as to how offended I would be if someone regifted what I gave them. I would be more hurt if I spent a lot of time making something with someone specifically in mind and then discovered that they didn’t like it. If I gave someone a bottle of wine or something similar it wouldn’t bother me at all if they gave it to someone else.
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Post by FuzzyMutt on Dec 27, 2022 4:02:28 GMT
I absolutely have no qualms about regifting certain things.
This year for Christmas, I got an amazing bag of goodies, that was VERY thoughtful. I love to cook, and I love unique flavors and textures. Most of the items came from a quaint little kitchen store in a place people love to go to shop for such things.
Without being too specific… the jams look soooo yum! Some of the savory items look questionable (to my taste lol.)
There are also a number of kitchen gadgets/decor that are 100% not to my taste. They are very nice, but I’m more Williams Sonoma European or classic…. These items are coastal or… decorative only (I don’t do decorative in the kitchen…)
My sister just moved into her new place (sadly marriage split) and her apt is very Spartan. She will love or hate half of it lol, and I would rather gift it to her, and let her keep what she likes and pass the rest on however she wants to. We are having a late Christmas, so I’ll add it in along with what I’ve already given her.
I would never tell the original gifted I didn’t like something so passed it on. And as a gifter- I’d rather someone pass things along so they get used, rather that stick them in the back of a cabinet.
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Post by SuPeaNatural on Dec 27, 2022 7:49:49 GMT
I've regifted several times, including this year, but only when the giver and new recipient are not connected in any way, so there's no chance of the giver finding out.
I also tell people to feel free to regift if I detect they're less than thrilled with what I've bought them. I look at it as I've spared them having to go out and shop for something. I want my recipients to get use out of my gift, and if that use is to regift, then that's fine with me.
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Post by dantemia on Dec 27, 2022 9:41:04 GMT
I’ve regifted gift cards, wine, boxes of chocolate and if my kids get a toy/kids item they won’t use or don’t like , I save to donate to the school.
I don’t mind receiving a regift or regifting if it’s something the person would like.
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