Gennifer
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Post by Gennifer on Jan 10, 2023 15:05:11 GMT
Thanks to this thread, I’m ordering myself some pretty handkerchiefs. I always end up stealing my dad’s at weddings and funerals, and now I won’t have to.
I’m 45. 😜
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Post by librarylady on Jan 10, 2023 15:07:18 GMT
Who uses embroidered hankies any more? Probably 70-year-olds? No handkerchief used at this home---and we are firmly in the elderly category.
I would give the couple a gift card to a nice restaurant.
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Post by paulao on Jan 10, 2023 15:20:24 GMT
The gift of a handkerchief is sweet. It’s not meant to be practical. Get the couple a restaurant gift certificate. Everyone will be happy and nobody will be offended.
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Post by giatocj on Jan 10, 2023 15:48:34 GMT
We got a gift from here (Vermont cheese gift from our cow) when we got married 5 years ago and it was really nice. And pretty unique. Rent Mother Earth |
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pilcas
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Post by pilcas on Jan 10, 2023 15:55:50 GMT
Sorry but I do think a handkerchief is pretty useless. Better not move to a die-hard southern state then. We cling to old traditions like a monkey clings to a banana. No, I’m a New York City girl. I would definitely wilt in the south! |
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Post by Bridget in MD on Jan 10, 2023 16:05:34 GMT
Who uses embroidered hankies any more? Probably 70-year-olds? My friend's DH uses them, and he is early 50s. He is also from Austrailia, but I am not sure if that has anything to do with it. |
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Post by Bridget in MD on Jan 10, 2023 16:07:23 GMT
Sorry but I do think a handkerchief is pretty useless. Better not move to a die-hard southern state then. We cling to old traditions like a monkey clings to a banana. LOL this made me chuckle! |
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Post by workingclassdog on Jan 10, 2023 16:14:11 GMT
Who uses embroidered hankies any more? My FIL uses the male version. |
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Post by bunnyhug on Jan 10, 2023 16:59:00 GMT
My dad has always used a hanky. I think I was the only Brownie who actually had someone to give my "learning to embroider" hanky to when I finished it, lol! He is in his mid70s at the moment, but like I said, he's used them his whole life--even when he was young and it was uncool. I think if you feel like they will use the hankies, then it's a great little gift  Otherwise, when my aunt got remarried in her 60s, many of the family gave "art" gifts--a painting by a favourite artist (not exactly small or cheap, but the cost was shared by many), lovely antique goblets, a small sculpture, pottery wine glasses and a tray. My aunt and her new husband were well off and didn't need the same 'stuff' that younger newlyweds might, but everyone can get some joy out of pretty things, I think. |
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teddyw
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Post by teddyw on Jan 10, 2023 17:12:21 GMT
My dad has always used a hanky. I think I was the only Brownie who actually had someone to give my "learning to embroider" hanky to when I finished it, lol! He is in his mid70s at the moment, but like I said, he's used them his whole life--even when he was young and it was uncool. I think if you feel like they will use the hankies, then it's a great little gift Otherwise, when my aunt got remarried in her 60s, many of the family gave "art" gifts--a painting by a favourite artist (not exactly small or cheap, but the cost was shared by many), lovely antique goblets, a small sculpture, pottery wine glasses and a tray. My aunt and her new husband were well off and didn't need the same 'stuff' that younger newlyweds might, but everyone can get some joy out of pretty things, I think. Love the art idea even for a younger couple. |
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jan 10, 2023 18:12:15 GMT
Thanks to this thread, I’m ordering myself some pretty handkerchiefs. C'mon over to the dark side. It appears there's plenty of room here. Lol. |
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Post by dizzycheermom on Jan 10, 2023 19:57:23 GMT
I think many people are missing the fact that this is a pre wedding gift. There will be a separate wedding gift for the couple.
We are all spread out so no shower.
So just want to give her something at the ladies lunch the day before. And have hubby give something to his dad at their lunch.
Didn’t realize this would be so controversial! lol! 😂😂
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Post by KiwiJo on Jan 10, 2023 20:10:04 GMT
I will be 70 in less than 2 years, and have to say that I would be pretty perplexed to receive a hanky, hand embroidered or not! It would immediately be stuffed into the “what am I expected to do with that!” drawer.  However I would be thrilled to get a houseplant, or a nice pot to put a houseplant in; or even a gift certificate for a garden centre where I could choose my own plant and/or pot. Bonus points for presenting the gift certificate in a hand-made house plant themed card. |
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Post by scrapmaven on Jan 10, 2023 20:35:39 GMT
I would donate to a cause that they support in their honor.
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Post by Basket1lady on Jan 10, 2023 21:05:08 GMT
I love the idea. My dad uses handkerchiefs and I do at some more formal events where i might cry. I don’t get the hate. I get the convenience of paper tissues, but handkerchiefs are sustainable. That seems like a good thing. I have a small collection of beautiful lace and embroidered hankies from my mother and grandmother. I routinely tuck one into my clutch for weddings, funerals, and formal events. I like both the practicality and the sentimentality of that custom. I love this. Mine have come from antique stores. I love looking at all the lines, especially the embroidered items. So much work was pit into them and I’m happy to rescue them from a pile of the like. |
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Post by paulao on Jan 11, 2023 0:19:14 GMT
Why do you feel you have to get them a gift to give at the luncheon if you are already giving them a wedding gift? Seems a little excessive even if it is your husband’s father
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caangel
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Post by caangel on Jan 11, 2023 5:47:14 GMT
If you have evidence that they would use and appreciate a handkerchief, go for it. Wouldn't be my choice but it is something they would appreciate. If you are asking because you don't know if it would be appreciated choose something else.
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Post by dizzycheermom on Jan 11, 2023 6:51:35 GMT
Why do you feel you have to get them a gift to give at the luncheon if you are already giving them a wedding gift? Seems a little excessive even if it is your husband’s father Normally there is a shower and other events. But we are all scattered around the states. So just thought it would be nice at the events the day before. I like to shop and give gifts! |
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Otherwise, when my aunt got remarried in her 60s, many of the family gave "art" gifts--a painting by a favourite artist (not exactly small or cheap, but the cost was shared by many), lovely antique goblets, a small sculpture, pottery wine glasses and a tray. My aunt and her new husband were well off and didn't need the same 'stuff' that younger newlyweds might, but everyone can get some joy out of pretty things, I think.
