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Post by dizzycheermom on Jan 9, 2023 23:17:25 GMT
Anyone have any ideas - older couple around 70, both widows, buy what they want and need. Wanted to give each something day before at luncheon. Thinking about embroidered hanky for her? Maybe same for him? Thanks in advance!
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Post by tc on Jan 9, 2023 23:19:46 GMT
I'd give experience gift/gifts. Membership somewhere...gift certificate for a "fancy" restaurant...tickets to a show or the movies...etc.
Or I'd get them something personalized with their names/date. Photo frame?
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Post by allison1954 on Jan 9, 2023 23:39:34 GMT
Who uses embroidered hankies any more?
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Post by pilcas on Jan 9, 2023 23:49:08 GMT
When I celebrated my 20th anniversary my favorite gift was 2 tickets to a dinner cruise. A restaurant gift card is something that they might enjoy.
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Post by dizzycheermom on Jan 10, 2023 0:07:17 GMT
So we are probably doing an experience type gift as the wedding gift. Just wanted something to give at the day before luncheon. Only thought of the embroidered hankies bc they are pretty traditional and older. Thanks for all of the suggestions!
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Post by misse336 on Jan 10, 2023 0:28:19 GMT
If you're looking for something more personalized for the day before gift, maybe monogrammed towels or hand towel if you know bathroom colors? Would be more personalized, but maybe get used more than monogramed hankies?
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Post by Bridget in MD on Jan 10, 2023 0:30:16 GMT
So we are probably doing an experience type gift as the wedding gift. Just wanted something to give at the day before luncheon. Only thought of the embroidered hankies bc they are pretty traditional and older. Thanks for all of the suggestions! I actually thought the hanky idea was darling.
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Post by ~summer~ on Jan 10, 2023 0:34:11 GMT
What would they use the hanky for? Just like a pretty keepsake? My parents are mid 70s and still seem very young. I would give them a gift certificate to a nice restaurant.
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Post by dizzycheermom on Jan 10, 2023 1:04:57 GMT
I was thinking of the hankies for during the wedding. It would count for her something new and something blue. This is my FIL and new bride. He has enough home goods for probably 3 families, my MIL was well stocked! And then adding in his new bride's stuff, they don't need any kinds of towels, kitchen stuff etc. He is hard to buy for just with regular gifts bc he just buys what he wants/needs. But also didn't want to go to the ladies luncheon empty handed. And wanted my hubby to have something to give his dad since he is best man. Also ordered a personalized wedding photo frame and will probably do some restaurant gift cards.
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Post by Gennifer on Jan 10, 2023 1:50:03 GMT
Who uses embroidered hankies any more? Probably 70-year-olds?
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jan 10, 2023 1:52:57 GMT
Who uses embroidered hankies any more? Probably 70-year-olds? Any my 61 y/o husband. He carries a handkerchief every day. I have ordered him monogrammed ones several times as a gift.
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Post by lisae on Jan 10, 2023 1:54:05 GMT
Only thought of the embroidered hankies bc they are pretty traditional and older. 70 is not older. Well, it's older than someone but not old enough to want a handkerchief. My dad carried handkerchiefs; my now 70 something husband never has. I think a wedding gift would be sufficient. This isn't a first wedding so any gift is more than required.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jan 10, 2023 1:55:06 GMT
What if you personalized the ones for this couple with something "wedding-y" like Joe's Wife and Jane's Husband. Depending on the couple, that could be both cutesy and romantic.
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Post by gryroagain on Jan 10, 2023 1:59:15 GMT
What if you personalized the ones for this couple with something "wedding-y" like Joe's Wife and Jane's Husband. Depending on the couple, that could be both cutesy and romantic. This is adorable! my best friend here in MX carries hankies everywhere. It’s hot!
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Post by Gennifer on Jan 10, 2023 2:51:27 GMT
Only thought of the embroidered hankies bc they are pretty traditional and older. 70 is not older. Well, it's older than someone but not old enough to want a handkerchief. My dad carried handkerchiefs; my now 70 something husband never has. I think a wedding gift would be sufficient. This isn't a first wedding so any gift is more than required. My dad has always carried around a hanky, too. He’s 72. What do you define as “older?” ETA: Anyone above about 60 is what I would consider older, but now you have me wondering.
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Post by buddysmom on Jan 10, 2023 2:56:34 GMT
Who uses embroidered hankies any more? Probably 70-year-olds? I'm 65 and I would never be caught with one of those. Maybe if they were born in the 1880's like my grandparents but unless they act/seem really old, they actually might be offended. I would be.
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Post by allison1954 on Jan 10, 2023 2:58:51 GMT
Who uses embroidered hankies any more? Probably 70-year-olds? No, we don't. lol
Honestly, I haven't seem them since MY grandmother.
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Post by dizzycheermom on Jan 10, 2023 3:05:06 GMT
LOL! I wasn't thinking that they would carry them around forever! Just like a traditional wedding custom - it could serve as her something new and something blue. May throw in a candle and bath bombs so she can relax the night before. For FIL, will probably throw in some kind of alcohol. My dad still uses hankies, but I've never seen my FIL use one. I was debating for him between a hanky and pocket square. Unfortunately we are not local to them so I'm not privy to all of the wedding plans unless I specifically ask by text. Which I might do!
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Post by buddysmom on Jan 10, 2023 3:12:39 GMT
LOL! I wasn't thinking that they would carry them around forever! Just like a traditional wedding custom - it could serve as her something new and something blue. May throw in a candle and bath bombs so she can relax the night before. For FIL, will probably throw in some kind of alcohol. My dad still uses hankies, but I've never seen my FIL use one. I was debating for him between a hanky and pocket square. Unfortunately we are not local to them so I'm not privy to all of the wedding plans unless I specifically ask by text. Which I might do! I'm glad you didn't say anything about my last comment being snarky Unless they don't drink, booze is always nice. I would sure like it more than a hanky.
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Post by caangel on Jan 10, 2023 3:16:47 GMT
What would they use the hanky for? Just like a pretty keepsake? My parents are mid 70s and still seem very young. I would give them a gift certificate to a nice restaurant. This is what we did for DH's uncle (70s) and his bride (dated for about 20yrs) this summer. They said they used their gift right away, it was to their favorite nice restaurant.
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Post by caangel on Jan 10, 2023 3:18:02 GMT
No, we don't. lol
Honestly, I haven't seem them since MY grandmother. My dad (early 70s) always used on when I was growing up. I can't remember the last time I saw him use one.
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Post by Basket1lady on Jan 10, 2023 3:22:32 GMT
I love the idea. My dad uses handkerchiefs and I do at some more formal events where i might cry.
I don’t get the hate. I get the convenience of paper tissues, but handkerchiefs are sustainable. That seems like a good thing.
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Post by tmarschall on Jan 10, 2023 4:04:55 GMT
What about a nice bottle of wine or champagne with a custom label...maybe their names and the date, for the wedding night or honeymoon? Or a basket with 2 pretty wine glasses, your hankies, candle, maybe some little snacks or sweets? To put in their hotel room or to have after the wedding. I know we were starved!
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Post by lisae on Jan 10, 2023 13:12:12 GMT
What do you define as “older?” ETA: Anyone above about 60 is what I would consider older, but now you have me wondering. What I consider 'older' is a moving target. The older I get, the older the word 'old' gets. In this case though I have just never seen anyone in my DH's generation or younger using a handkerchief. It just seems very old fashioned. When I think about it, I believe even my dad gave up the habit several years before he died.
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Post by teddyw on Jan 10, 2023 13:13:51 GMT
Who uses embroidered hankies any more? I’m sentimental and keep my dad’s in my purse My younger brother keeps one in his pocket for sweat in the summer. I’m not sure why he swears so much because he’s the thinnest man in his 40s that I know.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jan 10, 2023 13:18:03 GMT
I love the idea. My dad uses handkerchiefs and I do at some more formal events where i might cry. I don’t get the hate. I get the convenience of paper tissues, but handkerchiefs are sustainable. That seems like a good thing. I have a small collection of beautiful lace and embroidered hankies from my mother and grandmother. I routinely tuck one into my clutch for weddings, funerals, and formal events. I like both the practicality and the sentimentality of that custom.
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Post by anaterra on Jan 10, 2023 14:10:54 GMT
I keep bandanas in the glove boxes of our car and trucks.. mainly because it is hotter then hell in the middle of a west texas summer.. and sweat happens... a LOT!!! and I use the bandana to wipe my face before the ac kicks in and it gets cool in the car.. I also keep them on hand because my dh runs and i often just get it wet and he can cool down with it... so not quite the same a pretty handkerchief but still sorta same...
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Post by pilcas on Jan 10, 2023 14:14:05 GMT
Sorry but I do think a handkerchief is pretty useless.
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Post by auntkelly on Jan 10, 2023 14:46:54 GMT
I don’t regularly carry a hanky, but if someone embroidered one for me, I would treasure it, and carry it in my purse for special occasions, such as a wedding.
If you decide not to give the hankies, you could always give them embroidered tea towels. Everyone uses tea towels (or at least I think they do). I think a nice bottle of wine or champagne (if you know they both drink) and an embroidered tea towel would be a lovely gift for an older couple who has everything they really need.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jan 10, 2023 14:54:22 GMT
Sorry but I do think a handkerchief is pretty useless. Better not move to a die-hard southern state then. We cling to old traditions like a monkey clings to a banana.
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