New Pea Rule! A follow up post.

I don't as a rule like rules, so no!

I’m a fan. If folks took the time to respond, it’s nice to let them know how things worked out.

.  There are a few peas I no longer respond to on these type of posts because they never ever return to the thread with an outcome, a thank you or a kiss my butt.  

I understand OP is saying rule in jest, but still.  People try to at least respond and say thanks!

Not to speak for Peace Sign, but I really think all she means is "We would love it if whenever possible, we got an update!" I don't think she's looking to kick anyone off the board if they don't. (Though I could be wrong on both counts! ) Obviously no one owes a followup, but I think it's nice when we can. I think it's part of the give and take of a community like this.

i would love to see that happen! i don't know about it being a hard rule but an update is always a great.  it's heartwarming to learn that things turned out ok and even if it didn't, there is always lots of support to be found here. plus, i'm a bit of a Sheldon Cooper and i need closure, a point A and point B to satisfy my sense of order. 

She hasn't posted since Aug or Sept. And was last on in Oct. Peas are more worried about her over all not just new state/school and have tagged her with no response.

I get what you mean, and understand that your “rule” comment was made in jest - but with an underlying seriousness!!

I would love to be the kind of person who offered help with no expectation of thanks, but the reality is, if I have gone out of my way to help someone, I believe that it is common courtesy for that person to at least say thank you.

I remember once, years ago, a Pea was after advice / information regarding a particular issue. I spent quite literally hours putting together a ton of information for her. I never received so much as an acknowledgement, let alone a thank you. I didn’t want a medal, but a “thank you for taking the time to help” would have been nice.

The last few times it's happened to me...I've called them out on it in the same thread "hey you got all these replies, and you don't even bother to acknowledge them or thank people?"
Embarrasses them and creates some drama...win/win

I agree. I think it is incredibly rude not to acknowledge help given.

I just would like to request one more thing. Please, if you're giving an update to an older post, update the thread title to include something like "Update on page x" or "Update in OP" or whatever.

I'm asking this in light of all the old posts that get BTT due to spamming. We definitely don't want an update to get lost or ignored because the OP is from like 2019 and the pea poster wants to provide an update that won't get confused with a spamming old post, KWIM?

I agree that I like knowing the outcome. I do think sometimes people get so busy dealing with the issues they have posted about they simply forget to post more.

I think it’s nice when the OP comes back and tells you how things turned out, but I don’t think it’s always necessary. However, it is a pet peeve of mine when I take the time to try and answer someone’s question and the OP can’t be bothered to at least “like” my post so I’ll know it’s been seen.

For example, I’m an avid reader and enjoy responding to threads in which the OP is asking for a book recommendation. Usually before responding on those threads, I google the name of the book I’m recommending  to make sure I spell the name of the book and its author correctly. Then I write out my response, proofread it and often revise it before posting. It sometimes takes me twenty minutes or so to reply to a post.

I know there is a good chance the OP won’t take my advice and may not even like my advice. However, I do appreciate when the OP “likes” my post to acknowledge she has seen it. I wouldn’t expect an OP to “like” a mean spirited post, but if someone is taking the time to respond to a post, it does seem like the least the OP can do is hit the “like” button to acknowledge the response has been seen.