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Post by peano on Mar 15, 2023 18:08:09 GMT
I am done to death with your lack of consideration for my personal space. I’m in a medical office waiting for a test and a woman is blaring what sounds like a French lesson on her phone. A couple of chairs down, a guy is watching videos on his phone with volume. It’s cacophony in here.
There’s no tv in here (relief!) and I think that’s the issue. People CANNOT tolerate silence.
Earbuds. Headphones. Avail yourselves of them. Thanks! Rant over.
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Post by naby64 on Mar 15, 2023 18:39:15 GMT
I would be giving looks or asking the office staff if they can remind people to use ear buds or headphones. Maybe it needs to be made into an office policy.
I get you!! It drives me nuts!
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Post by pantsonfire on Mar 15, 2023 18:39:55 GMT
Ds can not tolerate earphones or earbuds due to his sensory needs but I never let him have my phone volume high to where others can hear clearly what he is listening to.
Common courtesy is no longer a thing.
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Post by busy on Mar 15, 2023 18:47:21 GMT
I am done to death with your lack of consideration for my personal space. I’m in a medical office waiting for a test and a woman is blaring what sounds like a French lesson on her phone. A couple of chairs down, a guy is watching videos on his phone with volume. It’s cacophony in here. There’s no tv in here (relief!) and I think that’s the issue. People CANNOT tolerate silence. Earbuds. Headphones. Avail yourselves of them. Thanks! Rant over. Major pet peeve of mine, along with people talking on speakerphone in public. In a confined space like that, I'd say something. Politely ask them to turn the volume down or use headphones.
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Post by krcrafts on Mar 15, 2023 18:58:02 GMT
If there had been someone texting with the keyboard clicks, it would have sent me over the edge with all of that noise. Goodness gracious.
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Post by smasonnc on Mar 15, 2023 19:01:33 GMT
Back during the era of flip phones, I was in the grocery store and a woman was walking around shouting into her cell phone about some medical stuff we shouldn’t have been privy to. Some guy reached out and snapped it shut. And kept walking. 😂
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Post by monklady123 on Mar 15, 2023 19:07:14 GMT
Back during the era of flip phones, I was in the grocery store and a woman was walking around shouting into her cell phone about some medical stuff we shouldn’t have been privy to. Some guy reached out and snapped it shut. And kept walking. 😂 hahahahaha Love it!
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Post by Country Ham on Mar 15, 2023 19:19:26 GMT
Ds can not tolerate earphones or earbuds due to his sensory needs but I never let him have my phone volume high to where others can hear clearly what he is listening to. Common courtesy is no longer a thing. Clearly hear? or sound off completely?
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Post by pantsonfire on Mar 15, 2023 19:27:01 GMT
Ds can not tolerate earphones or earbuds due to his sensory needs but I never let him have my phone volume high to where others can hear clearly what he is listening to. Common courtesy is no longer a thing. Clearly hear? or sound off completely? If a person was sitting next to us they wouldn't be able to make out what the music is or what the show is saying. Ds likes to feel the air coming from the phone speaker so we have it low and he holds it near his ear and rocks if music or close to face due to visual disabilities so it isn't far away so no need to blast the sound. I, sitting next to him, can hardly hear it.
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Post by bianca42 on Mar 15, 2023 19:35:14 GMT
I was waiting in a very crowded waiting room for blood work last week. There was a family with a brand new baby (like 2 weeks maybe) getting bloodwork because the screening in the hospital didn't have enough or was lost. Anyways, the new Mom and another mom were loudly sharing childbirth war stories...including details of tearing and wishing their doctor gave them a stitch so bedroom activities felt better later. That was a little TMI for me....and for the kids in the room.
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Post by katlady on Mar 15, 2023 20:25:09 GMT
And people want to be able to use their phones on the airplane! Oh, hell no! And you know, since they are farther away from the person, they'll talk louder! So, what is the difference between two people talking to each other in person. To me, it is the rhythm. With someone on the phone, there is pause - talk - pause - talk, etc. It is like a sudden noise, just when you think it is all quiet. For me, it is easier to tune out a constant noise than a sudden noise.
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Post by teddyw on Mar 15, 2023 21:30:27 GMT
Also the people who sit in the public restroom stalls on their phones. I just don’t understand why they can’t wait til their done.
Most of my medical providers have signs everywhere saying no phones in the waiting area. Then when you get in the exam room more signs.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Mar 15, 2023 21:50:28 GMT
It is is rude and inconsiderate. Multiple noises, send me into sensory overload. I carry ear plugs in my purse, and use them often.
The gym I go to blasts the overhead music so loud. Looking around, 95% of the people(including the staff) have their own device with their own ear piece, head phones, ear buds, etc.. I don't understand why the overhead music has to be at nightclub or concert level. I use ear buds in my ears, and added a set of head phones over the ear buds, and can still hear the overhead music. I have been thinking about what I can layer in the ear part of the head phones to help mute the overhead noise even more.
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Post by peano on Mar 15, 2023 22:31:52 GMT
Thanks for the validation, Peas! I was afraid I was being a "you kids get off my lawn!" old fogie.
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Post by craftedbys on Mar 15, 2023 23:24:28 GMT
Preach!!
I was at the eye doctor with DH yesterday and while he was in the back I was so looking forward to a fee quiet minutes to play a sudoku game on my phone *with the sound OFF*.
Sitting behind me was an older lady holding an infant and maintaining a constant stream of "don't do that"and "come back here" to the small toddler with her.
For Peas of a certain age, think Bill Cosby's Jeffrey routine.
OMG I just wanted to concentrate on my game! I smiled and spoke to small child when it came over to try to unzip my purse but I was not in a mood to entertain him!
My pet peeve is the inordinate number of people who walk through a store with their phone on speaker.
It is a phone! STOP HOLDING IT IN FRONT OF YOU LIKE A POPTART! Put the damn thing up to your head and speak on it like you are supposed to.
And while you are at it, stop pushing your buggy down the wrong side of the aisle while you are speaking into your electronic poptart.
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Post by christinec68 on Mar 16, 2023 0:02:51 GMT
If there had been someone texting with the keyboard clicks, it would have sent me over the edge with all of that noise. Goodness gracious. So much this! Why in earth would someone not change that?
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Post by twistedscissors on Mar 16, 2023 0:09:58 GMT
I am a hairdresser, and I absolutely hate when my clients play a constant stream of tik toks the entire time they’re in my chair. The non stop 20-30 seconds of noise then immediately to another noise and another and another……. 🤯🤯🤯🤯
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Post by tmarschall on Mar 16, 2023 0:23:56 GMT
Preach!! I was at the eye doctor with DH yesterday and while he was in the back I was so looking forward to a fee quiet minutes to play a sudoku game on my phone *with the sound OFF*. Sitting behind me was an older lady holding an infant and maintaining a constant stream of "don't do that"and "come back here" to the small toddler with her. For Peas of a certain age, think Bill Cosby's Jeffrey routine. OMG I just wanted to concentrate on my game! I smiled and spoke to small child when it came over to try to unzip my purse but I was not in a mood to entertain him! My pet peeve is the inordinate number of people who walk through a store with their phone on speaker. It is a phone! STOP HOLDING IT IN FRONT OF YOU LIKE A POPTART! Put the damn thing up to your head and speak on it like you are supposed to. And while you are at it, stop pushing your buggy down the wrong side of the aisle while you are speaking into your electronic poptart. Electric poptart....I'm dead! 🤣🤣🤣 Also, Jeffrey! You are my people.
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Post by tenakee on Mar 16, 2023 1:20:57 GMT
Ds can not tolerate earphones or earbuds due to his sensory needs but I never let him have my phone volume high to where others can hear clearly what he is listening to. Common courtesy is no longer a thing. Clearly hear? or sound off completely? This was my question too. Just to gently share, a continuous sound (song, dialogue, etc) that is just at the edge of hearing can be just as... unpleasant? unwelcome? as louder sounds. I find that my brain constantly focuses in on that, picking up just enough that it's trying to sort out what it's hearing, making it almost impossible to focus on anything else.
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Post by katiekaty on Mar 16, 2023 1:40:15 GMT
Clearly hear? or sound off completely? If a person was sitting next to us they wouldn't be able to make out what the music is or what the show is saying. Ds likes to feel the air coming from the phone speaker so we have it low and he holds it near his ear and rocks if music or close to face due to visual disabilities so it isn't far away so no need to blast the sound. I, sitting next to him, can hardly hear it. I have extremely acute hearing, even at 64. You might even call it a heightened sensitivity and not in a good way. As a child and teenager I can remember screaming make it stop when people played a television, radio or a microphone on a podium was too loud. I didn’t date because I couldn’t handle loud noises well. I didn’t go to school games. I stayed the nerd girl because we were quiet and well mannered and “soft spoken” people. If I was sitting next to you and you so I WOULD hear it. I hear whispering across a room. I hear the conversations on the other ends of people’s phone—and I have taken to answering them because I can hear them! I don’t have a problem with people playing on their phones or texting—but for gods sake, turn the sound off. with regards talk to the nursing staff scheduling the appointments for your son. They should be able to help accommodate a first thing in the morning or lady appointment of the day. When I work in the doctors offices, it wasn’t that hard to do.
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Post by pantsonfire on Mar 16, 2023 2:18:57 GMT
If a person was sitting next to us they wouldn't be able to make out what the music is or what the show is saying. Ds likes to feel the air coming from the phone speaker so we have it low and he holds it near his ear and rocks if music or close to face due to visual disabilities so it isn't far away so no need to blast the sound. I, sitting next to him, can hardly hear it. I have extremely acute hearing, even at 64. You might even call it a heightened sensitivity and not in a good way. As a child and teenager I can remember screaming make it stop when people played a television, radio or a microphone on a podium was too loud. I didn’t date because I couldn’t handle loud noises well. I didn’t go to school games. I stayed the nerd girl because we were quiet and well mannered and “soft spoken” people. If I was sitting next to you and you so I WOULD hear it. I hear whispering across a room. I hear the conversations on the other ends of people’s phone—and I have taken to answering them because I can hear them! I don’t have a problem with people playing on their phones or texting—but for gods sake, turn the sound off. with regards talk to the nursing staff scheduling the appointments for your son. They should be able to help accommodate a first thing in the morning or lady appointment of the day. When I work in the doctors offices, it wasn’t that hard to do. First of all, you have no club how specialty team centers work at a Children's Hospital. Second of all, you haven't had 26-32 hour waits in a Children's ER because you have to wait for a specialty room to open up (the only one in the unit) because your child is on TPN, Oxygen, monitors, and IV fluids and meds and needs to connected to the O2 port, and their special monitors. OR close to 40 hours because the ER is receiving trauma 1 after trauma 1 etc etc etc AND its freaking flu season and your child is 1st in line but there are NO beds available and can't not be fast tracked because that area does not services extremely medically complex children. Third, sorry you have such acute hearing but I nor anyone else who has their phone volume at a low and reasonable volume to LISTEN to music or a tv show/movie should turn it down for you. YOU can put on noise blocking headphones. And NO one asked for your opinion on how I should schedule my children's appointments. Jesus...
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Post by pantsonfire on Mar 16, 2023 2:20:07 GMT
If a person was sitting next to us they wouldn't be able to make out what the music is or what the show is saying. Ds likes to feel the air coming from the phone speaker so we have it low and he holds it near his ear and rocks if music or close to face due to visual disabilities so it isn't far away so no need to blast the sound. I, sitting next to him, can hardly hear it. I have extremely acute hearing, even at 64. You might even call it a heightened sensitivity and not in a good way. As a child and teenager I can remember screaming make it stop when people played a television, radio or a microphone on a podium was too loud. I didn’t date because I couldn’t handle loud noises well. I didn’t go to school games. I stayed the nerd girl because we were quiet and well mannered and “soft spoken” people. If I was sitting next to you and you so I WOULD hear it. I hear whispering across a room. I hear the conversations on the other ends of people’s phone—and I have taken to answering them because I can hear them! I don’t have a problem with people playing on their phones or texting—but for gods sake, turn the sound off. with regards talk to the nursing staff scheduling the appointments for your son. They should be able to help accommodate a first thing in the morning or lady appointment of the day. When I work in the doctors offices, it wasn’t that hard to do. I also hope you NEVER have anyone in your life that has Autism and stims by vocalizing and rocking and hand flapping and clapping because I feel really sorry for them.
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Post by pantsonfire on Mar 16, 2023 2:21:47 GMT
Clearly hear? or sound off completely? This was my question too. Just to gently share, a continuous sound (song, dialogue, etc) that is just at the edge of hearing can be just as... unpleasant? unwelcome? as louder sounds. I find that my brain constantly focuses in on that, picking up just enough that it's trying to sort out what it's hearing, making it almost impossible to focus on anything else. Well would you rather head my son scream and cry due to his medical PTSD? Or head him hum and flap his hands over and over? Like seriouisly people sound happens. If you dont like it, get noise canceling ear buds or headphones. You can solve the problem too and not make others have to deal with your sound issues
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Post by scrappintoee on Mar 16, 2023 2:22:50 GMT
Some guy reached out and snapped it shut. And kept walking. 😂 I would have applauded him! including details of tearing and wishing their doctor gave them a stitch so bedroom activities felt better later. So many people are soooo oblivious and/or self-centered! HOW can you talk about that so loudly, in public? It is a phone! STOP HOLDING IT IN FRONT OF YOU LIKE A POPTART! OMG, thank you for making me LOL!
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Post by teddyw on Mar 16, 2023 3:32:12 GMT
I am a hairdresser, and I absolutely hate when my clients play a constant stream of tik toks the entire time they’re in my chair. The non stop 20-30 seconds of noise then immediately to another noise and another and another……. 🤯🤯🤯🤯 That is so rude. The first thing I do is turn the volume off in my phone and put it in my purse so my short time there is enjoyable.
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Post by katiekaty on Mar 16, 2023 4:00:03 GMT
I have extremely acute hearing, even at 64. You might even call it a heightened sensitivity and not in a good way. As a child and teenager I can remember screaming make it stop when people played a television, radio or a microphone on a podium was too loud. I didn’t date because I couldn’t handle loud noises well. I didn’t go to school games. I stayed the nerd girl because we were quiet and well mannered and “soft spoken” people. If I was sitting next to you and you so I WOULD hear it. I hear whispering across a room. I hear the conversations on the other ends of people’s phone—and I have taken to answering them because I can hear them! I don’t have a problem with people playing on their phones or texting—but for gods sake, turn the sound off. with regards talk to the nursing staff scheduling the appointments for your son. They should be able to help accommodate a first thing in the morning or lady appointment of the day. When I work in the doctors offices, it wasn’t that hard to do. First of all, you have no club how specialty team centers work at a Children's Hospital. Second of all, you haven't had 26-32 hour waits in a Children's ER because you have to wait for a specialty room to open up (the only one in the unit) because your child is on TPN, Oxygen, monitors, and IV fluids and meds and needs to connected to the O2 port, and their special monitors. OR close to 40 hours because the ER is receiving trauma 1 after trauma 1 etc etc etc AND its freaking flu season and your child is 1st in line but there are NO beds available and can't not be fast tracked because that area does not services extremely medically complex children. Third, sorry you have such acute hearing but I nor anyone else who has their phone volume at a low and reasonable volume to LISTEN to music or a tv show/movie should turn it down for you. YOU can put on noise blocking headphones. And NO one asked for your opinion on how I should schedule my children's appointments. Jesus... And yet, I have a contact sensitivity also. Telling me to put on noise cancelling headphones is akin to asking me to fill my ears with red ants and cause me to itch and sweat and also want to scream. And that softness of texture is more than likely due to latex included in the converting which can cause severe blistering and anaphylaxis. But I am certain that might be fine since outwardly like many others, I appear not to have any disabilities, chronic health, immune diseases or anything that might need anyone to make adjustments for. I applaud you for taking very good care of your child but you must remember also that there are other people in this world and some day you may have use for them and if you treat everyone the way you have treated some on this board (yeah, I have read all your posts), I hope you they give you grace and lend that hand when you need it!
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Post by katiekaty on Mar 16, 2023 4:14:12 GMT
I have extremely acute hearing, even at 64. You might even call it a heightened sensitivity and not in a good way. As a child and teenager I can remember screaming make it stop when people played a television, radio or a microphone on a podium was too loud. I didn’t date because I couldn’t handle loud noises well. I didn’t go to school games. I stayed the nerd girl because we were quiet and well mannered and “soft spoken” people. If I was sitting next to you and you so I WOULD hear it. I hear whispering across a room. I hear the conversations on the other ends of people’s phone—and I have taken to answering them because I can hear them! I don’t have a problem with people playing on their phones or texting—but for gods sake, turn the sound off. with regards talk to the nursing staff scheduling the appointments for your son. They should be able to help accommodate a first thing in the morning or lady appointment of the day. When I work in the doctors offices, it wasn’t that hard to do. I also hope you NEVER have anyone in your life that has Autism and stims by vocalizing and rocking and hand flapping and clapping because I feel really sorry for them. Autism would have been a blessing! I have two nephew twins with severe cerebral palsy that in there adult 40s but are mentally between 15-30 MONTHS who use flipper like motions to move about, prefer the floor to their wheel chairs, likes country music blaring, have tube feedings every 4 hours, accuchecks every 6 hours, in hospital at least once a months for respiratory or gastric infections, incontinent, require three home caregivers plus their parents or two others when their parents are at work, round the clock one has a trach, both have ventricular peritoneal drains with old fashioned pump system that must be done every two hours—need I say more? Because I could go on! And that does not include Al the self harm they do or what get inflicted on care givers. I know what he’ll my brother and sister in law go through because I am there as much as I can to give them respite. I also worked brain injury for 22 years. But there is also a lot of joy in it also. Sorry you don’t seem to find any in your life.
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Post by lesley on Mar 16, 2023 9:09:49 GMT
You know pantsonfire, you’re not the only person in the world with medically demanding children. Hell, you’re not even the only person on this board with medically demanding children. I could give you a litany of woe about my own two - autistic DD with EDS and POTS who spent five years trying to destroy herself, and DS with severe ADHD and crippling treatment-resistant depression. Oh, and looking more and more likely to also have EDS. Every morning I wake up wondering if he’s hanged himself during the night because he can’t face another day of mental torture. And there are Peas with even worse situations. We know the struggles you go through. Let’s face it, you never lose an opportunity to tell us. And we know that your own health isn’t the best, because ditto. (Maybe while listing my kids' issues I should have included my own. I also have Ehlers Danlos, rheumatoid arthritis, hidradenitis suppurativa, depression, ongoing mobility issues from a brain haemorrhage three years ago. Etc, etc, etc). But your lack of grace, empathy and understanding towards others who also struggle is breathtakingly arrogant. It’s not a competition you know - just about every one of us is walking a difficult path. You have been shown an astounding amount of support from this board, but the way you repay that seems to be with whining, complaining and rudeness. The very rudeness this thread was started to vent about. Oh the irony.
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Post by smasonnc on Mar 16, 2023 12:56:56 GMT
Didn't this thread start out about listening to devices too loudly? Could we get back to discussing how rude that is? We get it. Some people have difficulties, but do we have to snipe at each other?
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Post by lesley on Mar 16, 2023 13:11:31 GMT
Didn't this thread start out about listening to devices too loudly? Could we get back to discussing how rude that is? We get it. Some people have difficulties, but do we have to snipe at each other? Really? Really?
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