Thought I would check in with you all
Jun 17, 2023 19:08:40 GMT
Country Ham, **GypsyGirl**, and 68 more like this
Post by Just T on Jun 17, 2023 19:08:40 GMT
It’s been a while.
My life is crazy, the divorce is kicking my you know what right now, and it’s been a difficult time for me, so I’ve been laying low.
This week, I turned 60, and I celebrated with a trip to the beach with a couple of friends. I rented a condo on Orange Beach, AL back in February, not even sure who would be joining me, but I was determined to spend my birthday on the beach. My anniversary is a few days before my birthday, and last year, I decided I was going to be on the beach. LOL One friend decided to go with me, then at the last minute, another one, and she asked if she could bring her best friend, who I had met but didn’t really know that well, so I said of course, the more the merrier!
I ended up having the best time. We were only there for 3 full days (two spent driving there and back). We didn’t do much—just hung out on the beach in chairs with our feet in the water, read books, listened to music, cooked meals together in the condo, went out for one fun beachy dinner on my actual birthday, had drinks, drank coffee and had breakfast on a balcony overlooking the Gulf of Mexico. It was perfect. My two friends who went didn’t know each other, and neither of us knew my one friend’s friend. LOL
Two highlights of the trip:
On my birthday, we had dinner then went to a bar called FloraBama which sits in Florida at the border of Florida and Alabama. The bartender showed us a palm tree that he said is right smack on the border, so I had my photo taken there. One of my friends said it was fitting, that I had one foot in the past and one in hope.
Another highlight was when we were driving there, tooling down a highway in Mississippi, and I saw an exit sign for Laurel. I immediately told my friend who was navigating while I drove, “Get on maps and see how far Laurel is!” It was only 29 miles off the highway, so we made a detour and spent an hour or so walking around downtown Laurel into some fun shops and had ice cream. It was fun, and worth our delay arriving at the beach.
Another cool thing—the place we stayed was called Phoenix, and the pool, which was right under our balcony, had a phoenix tiled into the bottom. Every time I looked at the pool, I envisioned myself rising from the flames of my imploding life and marriage, and it strangely brought me some comfort and made me think that while things are suuuuuper shitty right now, in the end, I may just be okay.
All in all, it was a fantastic trip, just what I needed. I felt like life was being breathed into my soul every day I was there. It was quiet, I took a long walk on the beach each morning by myself, my friends and I took turns playing each other’s favorite songs playlists when we were in our condo, we made snack trays for meals, drank too much wine and bourbon, watched sunsets, and had THE best time.
My STBX is being a total douchebag a$$hole right now, but I am determined to rise above it and not let the hatred and anger I have for him right now bleed into the rest of my life, but I have had some really bad moments/days over the past few weeks. I sent a venting email to my attorney yesterday, and she wrote me back this morning and said, “his day of reckoning is coming!” I wish I could hold onto that and believe it.
Here are a few pics from my trip.
My life is crazy, the divorce is kicking my you know what right now, and it’s been a difficult time for me, so I’ve been laying low.
This week, I turned 60, and I celebrated with a trip to the beach with a couple of friends. I rented a condo on Orange Beach, AL back in February, not even sure who would be joining me, but I was determined to spend my birthday on the beach. My anniversary is a few days before my birthday, and last year, I decided I was going to be on the beach. LOL One friend decided to go with me, then at the last minute, another one, and she asked if she could bring her best friend, who I had met but didn’t really know that well, so I said of course, the more the merrier!
I ended up having the best time. We were only there for 3 full days (two spent driving there and back). We didn’t do much—just hung out on the beach in chairs with our feet in the water, read books, listened to music, cooked meals together in the condo, went out for one fun beachy dinner on my actual birthday, had drinks, drank coffee and had breakfast on a balcony overlooking the Gulf of Mexico. It was perfect. My two friends who went didn’t know each other, and neither of us knew my one friend’s friend. LOL
Two highlights of the trip:
On my birthday, we had dinner then went to a bar called FloraBama which sits in Florida at the border of Florida and Alabama. The bartender showed us a palm tree that he said is right smack on the border, so I had my photo taken there. One of my friends said it was fitting, that I had one foot in the past and one in hope.
Another highlight was when we were driving there, tooling down a highway in Mississippi, and I saw an exit sign for Laurel. I immediately told my friend who was navigating while I drove, “Get on maps and see how far Laurel is!” It was only 29 miles off the highway, so we made a detour and spent an hour or so walking around downtown Laurel into some fun shops and had ice cream. It was fun, and worth our delay arriving at the beach.
Another cool thing—the place we stayed was called Phoenix, and the pool, which was right under our balcony, had a phoenix tiled into the bottom. Every time I looked at the pool, I envisioned myself rising from the flames of my imploding life and marriage, and it strangely brought me some comfort and made me think that while things are suuuuuper shitty right now, in the end, I may just be okay.
All in all, it was a fantastic trip, just what I needed. I felt like life was being breathed into my soul every day I was there. It was quiet, I took a long walk on the beach each morning by myself, my friends and I took turns playing each other’s favorite songs playlists when we were in our condo, we made snack trays for meals, drank too much wine and bourbon, watched sunsets, and had THE best time.
My STBX is being a total douchebag a$$hole right now, but I am determined to rise above it and not let the hatred and anger I have for him right now bleed into the rest of my life, but I have had some really bad moments/days over the past few weeks. I sent a venting email to my attorney yesterday, and she wrote me back this morning and said, “his day of reckoning is coming!” I wish I could hold onto that and believe it.
Here are a few pics from my trip.
