What would you expect - Update

I’m not vegan or vegetarian; I like meat and dairy as well as fish. However, it’s not at all unusual for me to have meals that don’t include meat or dairy products.

If I were going to your house, knew you were both vegan, I’d most likely expect a vegan meal - and wouldn’t have a problem eating it. I love beans so I’m not averse to trying a bean burger if that’s what you are serving.

If I were having someone over with specific dietary needs, I’d try to have some items that work for them. I'd most likely even try to provide for some of their likes and their taste, if I knew them. If it’s simply that someone doesn’t like a food I’m serving, I’d expect them to decline any and I wouldn’t keep pushing them to try it. I'd expect the same in return, and no one should be offended. Do I expect anyone to cater specifically to my preferences? No. I can’t eat uncooked bananas and a friend forgot that and made banana cream pie. She felt horrible about it but I was not offended or upset.

Making the comment that they’d stop and get McDonald's was rude. If I left somewhere and were still hungry because there wasn’t much I could eat or liked, I might stop and get something, but I’d never announce that to the hosts.

Accepting a meal invitation isn’t specifically about the meal - it’s getting together with people, socializing, having a good time. Good food adds to that, but it isn't the only thing that matters. I would hope people appreciate the effort if I’m the one hosting, but they can appreciate the effort without loving everything I provided.

I would 100% expect a vegan meal in a vegan home.

If I went to dinner at a paleo home, I would expect paleo food. And I'd expect I might go home a bit hungry (I'm vegetarian). I would NOT make a fuss or comment that I needed to stop for fast food on the way home!

If I were having a paleo friend over for dinner, I would make a dish that accommodated both diets. If I were having a larger group of people over for dinner, I would make sure everyone had SOMEthing they could eat. I would not, however, cook any meat. 1) I have no idea how to do it well, and 2) I don't really want it in my pots and pans.

I don't demand vegetarian food at dinner parties. I can usually find something to eat - I always tell the host, "Please don't worry about me - I rarely go hungry!" If it's just the host and I for dinner, I will mention that I'm veg, because it would be awful for someone to go to a lot of trouble to make a lovely dish *for me* that I can't eat.

I'd let the rude couple go on with their bad selves. Ignore the comments, and focus on the compliments you're sure to earn with that amazing menu!

Ok but she's not the vegans you know and she provided the menu, which is not just a plate of mushrooms.
No one would care if you hit Wendy's on the way home, as long as you don't say it in a rude way like her friends did.

I’d expect a vegan meal. Your meal sound delicious btw

They were rude.

I have a friend who is gluten free. She bakes a lot. I have tried it once or twice & I just don't like it. If I am going to eat bread, a cookie, etc, I am not wasting the calories on a gluten free version.

In terms of your meal, I do have admittedly have a limited vegetable repertoire. I'm not sure what I would eat at that meal, and I'd feel weird being there at meal time sitting at the table with everyone & just having gnocchi, which is the only thing on your list that I know I normally like. I wouldn't feel comfortable trying the vegan strawberry soup? Non vegan sound great.

It's not just about meat. It's about the dairy. I do NOT like vegan cheese. Or non-dairy milk.

Nope, I have enough class to say nothing. I will shut up and would never mention my other plans.

I'd expect vegan food. I wouldn't say anything, try the food, eat it if I liked it, not eat it if I don't. Just like any other dish

I would expect a delicious dinner and great conversation with my friends.

Don't get me wrong... I like vegetables, too. But I am very limited.. carrots, broccoli, corn, potatoes, asparagus is ok, and I'll eat anything pureed in a cream soup.

The problem for me would be the beans in the burgers. Normally the soup would be great but without the dairy... I would be leery.

I can't do tomatoes unless they're totally sauce - like literally no little bits - because I can't break them down. Too acidic, too. If I buy canned tomatoes I will cook them down, put them through the immersion blender, and then strain them via my metal colander with the very tiny holes that will catch ALL the bits.

I am genuinely curious, how many vegans do you know? I'm sorry that this has been your experience.

If I am going to the home of a vegan, then I would expect all food offered to be vegan.

Now, I fully know and have experienced situations when vegetarians & vegans did offer animal based foods at parties or whatnot, but I would never expect to find that.

I am definitely a meat eater as is dh, there is usually some form of it at most of our meals. I am also somewhat picky about what I will eat

and your meal sounds delicious! If I was invited I would of course expect a vegan meal to be served in a vegan household - and I would be excited to get to try some new foods - and I would probably ask you for the recipes afterwards!

I'd be happy to have dinner at your house! I promise I wouldn't even think of going to McDonald's on the way home. 

Everything looks delicious.

Wow, that is one gorgeous dinner! Glad everything went well.

Next time, please don't forget to invite your old pal Kate...