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Post by Deleted on Oct 18, 2023 22:56:01 GMT
I’d like to start a mental health/self care journal and scrapbook combo. I’m inspired by the syncopation designs kits burnbright linked in the October goals thread but I have a few privacy concerns. Has anyone scrapped about their mental health or self care? How do you approach it? Are you concerned about privacy if others view your albums? My family suffers from generational trauma. Unfortunately, some members continue the cycle. I’m concerned a scrapbook about mental health and self care may give them information to later use as exploitation. My albums are stored in a shared space because it’s the only place where I have room for them and my supplies. I’d rather stick with 12x12 because they fit neatly on the shelf and I already have the albums. I’m wondering how to approach this. Has anyone had similar concerns? Does anyone have any thoughts or ideas on how I can move forward in starting this scrapbook without feeling vulnerable? I don’t want to look over my shoulder when I’m scrapping (shared space) but I don’t want to miss an opportunity for creative expression. I’d appreciate any thoughts or advice.
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Post by artbabe on Oct 18, 2023 23:03:21 GMT
My entire life has been shaped and in some ways destroyed by my bipolar disorder. No way I’m scrapping that. That part of my life needs to remain undocumented.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 18, 2023 23:19:18 GMT
My entire life has been shaped and in some ways destroyed by my bipolar disorder. No way I’m scrapping that. That part of my life needs to remain undocumented. That is completely valid. I understand not wanting to scrap about it. I noticed the kit had cards for mood boosters, celebrating progress, self care wins, etc. I have anxiety exacerbated by familial trauma. I thought a scrapbook of my “wins” would be great to look at when times are tough but I can also see my family making fun of me and exploiting my safe spaces if I document them.
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Post by joblackford on Oct 19, 2023 0:12:04 GMT
I’m sorry you have to worry about people making fun of you for things you’re proud of. That really sucks. It’s a tricky situation, if you don’t feel like you have the privacy or safe space to create and display your albums. I love the idea of creating something that gathers together your wins and happiness. Would leaving the album unlabeled allow it to remain more private? Or giving it a title that would discourage interest from people you’d rather not view it? I know some people who make art journals hide their writing, sometimes by obliterating it under more layers of art, which means you process the feelings without having to read them again. In scrapbook form creating hidden pockets for words or making the journaling difficult to pull out (like having to take the whole page out of the album to access the pocket) might create the same effect. The words are there for you to seek out but not visible to a casual browser. I don’t know if you’ll be able to find out if doing this makes you feel empowered or exposed except by doing it, which is a bit scary. I wish you luck though. I hope you can find a way to celebrate your goodness
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Post by Deleted on Oct 19, 2023 0:22:43 GMT
joblackford I love the idea of hiding journaling under layers! It will also encourage me to step up my layering game and incorporate unique elements.
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Post by FuzzyMutt on Oct 19, 2023 0:45:21 GMT
I think journaling is so helpful, do it! That said, I agree, I don’t want people to read some of the things I think, feel, or write. In fact, there was another Pea recently who posted her daughter shared a list of grievances that included a line she’d written for a layout and the daughter took it differently than the Pea intended.
My scrapbooks are in a bedroom that is my “office.” Over 20 years of scrapbooks. FWIW… I’ve been with my SO for about a quarter of that. I’ve told him, please, when you flip through the scrapbooks, please don’t feel weird- I scrapbook for me. My story. And maybe someday, someone else may care. My son and daughter will likely take what they want and pitch the rest. The first 5 or so years, journaling was written sort of as a letter to my son… that was before Ali Edwards’ emphasis on story, and honestly, as my kids have grown, it’s 100% for me and no longer written that way.
Anyway, plenty of history and trauma in this family. And I need to do a lot more journaling and getting it down on paper than I want people to be able to see. I fully want my family to feel welcome to flip through my scrapbooks (that’s what they are for!!!) But, that said….. I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings and I always want my scrapbooks to be uplifting, and someday, when I’m likely in a nursing home, I want the good stuff to keep me company and be reinforced in my mind and reminiscing with my loved ones.
What I do… when I’m in “write it out mode” I always feel the need to be thorough, wordy and full of facts and information. Typing works wayyy better than handwritten.. It doesn’t do my family or me any good for my kids or grands to have to sift through all that crap. Someday I’ll be gone. I want to let it GO! So.. I keep a word document for journaling for every year. I batch print and batch scrap, but I want all the journaling details. I just write it allllllllll out. The stuff I don’t want anyone to read if I get hit by a bus tomorrow, I highlight in red. What I plan to put in the books is highlighted in green, and the stuff I already put in the scrapbooks, that gets highlighted in yellow.
So, super wordy answer. I use digital to house all that stuff I hope no one ever reads. But it’s there for me.
Ps: years ago before I started doing that, 2006-13ish I would take two chipboard dividers, write it out. Put a divider on either side, and wrap it in duct tape, packing tape or many many staples. Basically a serious deterrent for either me, or an album reader to look at it. I’ve never opened one up.
I’ve used hidden journaling, but that tends to be the stuff I just would rather not see or share casually.
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Post by joblackford on Oct 19, 2023 1:08:25 GMT
joblackford I love the idea of hiding journaling under layers! It will also encourage me to step up my layering game and incorporate unique elements. You might want to check out some of the scrappy posts by this IGer. Lately I think she’s been sharing different stuff since she had a baby, but her older travel pages are very layered and embellished but she hides extremely wordy journaling inside (glassine?) envelopes on all of them. Here’s a quick example I found, but it’s hard to see - she often writes a few pages of notes and folds it into the envelope partially hidden behind the photos. http://instagram.com/p/CNzkyDmgpM1
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Post by FuzzyMutt on Oct 19, 2023 1:29:45 GMT
Well then joblackford.. you shoulda warned me about all the tiny baby sweetness on that page! Gah!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 19, 2023 1:44:58 GMT
It’s the adorable picture with the matching socks that got me. So so cute!
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Post by scrappyrabbit on Oct 19, 2023 2:05:39 GMT
Do people look at your current albums? You can always incorporate pages here and there in your current albums, using hidden journaling. I don’t scrap about hard things very often but I have done a page about a medical procedure etc that just flows in the album chronologically. I have used the hidden journaling technique, or no journaling and only I know what the page is about.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Oct 19, 2023 3:47:54 GMT
I have a scrapbook-mixed media style journal.
My thoughts about certain people in my life, marital abuse, narcissist Parent, being teased-bullied-picked as a child and the passive aggressive commentary and bully behavior I've endured as an adult.......are in there. My journal is for my personal use and for the release of my feelings and thoughts that are within me, in my heart and soul. It's therapeutic for me to write it down. I don't hold back in my journal, because to truly heal..... I must face some unpleasant and honest truths and some extreme hurt. Doing so, helps me heal and makes me stronger. I have shared some, but not all of my story on the NSBR board. Some of the abuse and humiliating things I endured, is hard for me to talk about. I've only shared with a couple-few trusted individuals in my inner circle.
My journal is to help me heal my wounded heart and soul. My journal, is not for public knowledge and consumption.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 19, 2023 4:01:19 GMT
After reading the replies in this thread I think I’ve decided on going with the hidden layered journaling in a smaller format I can keep in my room.
It’s a difficult situation because some of my family lives with me and I don’t want to restrict them from seeing other family members in any way. That said it’s clear they have looked through my albums when I’m not home because they’ve moved them around and pages have gone missing. Some family members (who don’t live with me) admitted to taking the pages but they’re not giving them back, so I finally stopped asking.
It’s a complicated situation. I wish I had a scrap room with it’s own door.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 19, 2023 4:16:23 GMT
I have a scrapbook-mixed media style journal. My thoughts about certain people in my life, marital abuse, narcissist Parent, being teased-bullied-picked as a child and the passive aggressive commentary and bully behavior I've endured as an adult.......are in there. My journal is for my personal use and for the release of my feelings and thoughts that are within me, in my heart and soul. It's therapeutic for me to write it down. I don't hold back in my journal, because to truly heal..... I must face some unpleasant and honest truths and some extreme hurt. Doing so, helps me heal and makes me stronger. I have shared some, but not all of my story on the NSBR board. Some of the abuse and humiliating things I endured, is hard for me to talk about. I've only shared with a couple-few trusted individuals in my inner circle. My journal is to help me heal my wounded heart and soul. My journal, is not for public knowledge and consumption. I can relate to many of the situations you’ve shared and I’m so sorry you’ve endured this. I think I was trying to censor myself somewhat when journaling the aspects of healing in a scrapbook due to my fear of it being used again me. Your post is making rethink what I want to do. I like the idea of a mixed media journal. I’m now leaning towards doing something similar in a smaller format so I can hide it in my room somewhere. I think mixed media will also give me more opportunities to hide sensitive journaling under layers in case it’s discovered.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Oct 19, 2023 6:13:02 GMT
I have a scrapbook-mixed media style journal. My thoughts about certain people in my life, marital abuse, narcissist Parent, being teased-bullied-picked as a child and the passive aggressive commentary and bully behavior I've endured as an adult.......are in there. My journal is for my personal use and for the release of my feelings and thoughts that are within me, in my heart and soul. It's therapeutic for me to write it down. I don't hold back in my journal, because to truly heal..... I must face some unpleasant and honest truths and some extreme hurt. Doing so, helps me heal and makes me stronger. I have shared some, but not all of my story on the NSBR board. Some of the abuse and humiliating things I endured, is hard for me to talk about. I've only shared with a couple-few trusted individuals in my inner circle. My journal is to help me heal my wounded heart and soul. My journal, is not for public knowledge and consumption. I can relate to many of the situations you’ve shared and I’m so sorry you’ve endured this. I think I was trying to censor myself somewhat when journaling the aspects of healing in a scrapbook due to my fear of it being used again me. Your post is making rethink what I want to do. I like the idea of a mixed media journal. I’m now leaning towards doing something similar in a smaller format so I can hide it in my room somewhere. I think mixed media will also give me more opportunities to hide sensitive journaling under layers in case it’s discovered. If you are worried about someone finding your journal or snooping through your stuff, you can lock it in a small safe.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Oct 19, 2023 6:22:13 GMT
After reading the replies in this thread I think I’ve decided on going with the hidden layered journaling in a smaller format I can keep in my room. It’s a difficult situation because some of my family lives with me and I don’t want to restrict them from seeing other family members in any way. That said it’s clear they have looked through my albums when I’m not home because they’ve moved them around and pages have gone missing. Some family members (who don’t live with me) admitted to taking the pages but they’re not giving them back, so I finally stopped asking. It’s a complicated situation. I wish I had a scrap room with it’s own door. I had a couple pages go missing from one of my scrapbooks, that I had taken to a holiday gathering. I know who took the pages, but a confrontation was not an option (the person in question would have denied it). I'm guessing they took my scrapbook to the formal living room to look at it, that's when they were able to slide the pages out, roll them up and stick them in their purse. I didn't realize the pages were missing until a few days-weeks later, when I looked through it. Then I figured out when it must have occurred. Lesson learned, when showing off my scrapbook(s), it stays in my eyesight at all times. Non negotiable.
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Post by mrssch on Oct 19, 2023 13:55:00 GMT
could you do this type of journaling in a traveler’s notebook? The format is smaller, and could be tucked away for privacy.
I purchased the KP PAPERPERSON new stamp about THERAPY/MENTAL HEALTH. I plan to use it to document my situations, struggles and victories. I don’t have an issue with needing privacy for the most part. I live with my husband and discuss things openly. I don’t worry about future generations because they may need to know in case they have my diagnosis.
Doctors and therapists suggest creative formats as a tool for processing and allaying mental and physical diagnosis. The act of scrapbooking and memory keeping is a huge part of my self care.
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Post by mikklynn on Oct 19, 2023 15:04:07 GMT
After reading the replies in this thread I think I’ve decided on going with the hidden layered journaling in a smaller format I can keep in my room. It’s a difficult situation because some of my family lives with me and I don’t want to restrict them from seeing other family members in any way. That said it’s clear they have looked through my albums when I’m not home because they’ve moved them around and pages have gone missing. Some family members (who don’t live with me) admitted to taking the pages but they’re not giving them back, so I finally stopped asking. It’s a complicated situation. I wish I had a scrap room with it’s own door. Taking your pages is beyond awful. That person or persons would be dead to me. Same for your family member, ScrapbookMyLife.
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Post by mikklynn on Oct 19, 2023 15:06:11 GMT
could you do this type of journaling in a traveler’s notebook? The format is smaller, and could be tucked away for privacy. I purchased the KP PAPERPERSON new stamp about THERAPY/MENTAL HEALTH. I plan to use it to document my situations, struggles and victories. I don’t have an issue with needing privacy for the most part. I live with my husband and discuss things openly. I don’t worry about future generations because they may need to know in case they have my diagnosis. Doctors and therapists suggest creative formats as a tool for processing and allaying mental and physical diagnosis. The act of scrapbooking and memory keeping is a huge part of my self care. That is a great idea. I might do that myself. My therapist has suggested journaling about grief. Writing a letter to my late DH was very helpful. I shredded it, because it was too personal for my adult kids to ever see.
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Post by refugeepea on Oct 19, 2023 17:53:49 GMT
That is a great idea. I might do that myself. My therapist has suggested journaling about grief. Writing a letter to my late DH was very helpful. I shredded it, because it was too personal for my adult kids to ever see. I was actually going to suggest this too. Sometimes the feelings are raw and unfiltered. You just want to get them out. Putting the paper through the shredder is quite therapeutic! I understand not wanting to do this for everything though.
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Post by FuzzyMutt on Oct 19, 2023 18:45:18 GMT
After reading the replies in this thread I think I’ve decided on going with the hidden layered journaling in a smaller format I can keep in my room. It’s a difficult situation because some of my family lives with me and I don’t want to restrict them from seeing other family members in any way. That said it’s clear they have looked through my albums when I’m not home because they’ve moved them around and pages have gone missing. Some family members (who don’t live with me) admitted to taking the pages but they’re not giving them back, so I finally stopped asking. It’s a complicated situation. I wish I had a scrap room with it’s own door. OH WOW! Honestly, I wouldn't care if the cleaning lady or my cousin 8 times removed flips through my albums, or even my mail.... lol But to actually TAKE pages or photos?? I would lose my mind! Back in the scrapping days when I was cutting a bunch of stuff up and printing the same photo in black and white, sepia and 3 different sizes, I had a bunch of extra photos left over. It was pretty common for people to look at an album, and want a copy of a photo, and I'd always just turn them loose on the "extra" photos. But an actual scrapped page? They may as well steal your underwear lol I consider that really obnoxious!
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Post by pantsonfire on Oct 19, 2023 18:56:58 GMT
I haven't read through all of the replies yet but here is my suggestion...
Get a junk journal. One that has thick paper that can handle paint and other mixed art mediums.
Journal in it to get your thoughts out and down. Then have at it with cut out paper, paint, mists, gesso, etc.
I think just the act of getting your thoughts out and down on paper and then covering them for privacy would be good.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 19, 2023 19:28:41 GMT
“OH WOW!
…to actually TAKE pages or photos??…I consider that really obnoxious!”
It is obnoxious. Due to similar repeated behavior I no longer speak with them. I had to let it go for my own peace of mind.
I have an elderly relative living with me who does speak with them though, so I don’t want to restrict them from my house.
Like I said. It’s complicated.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 19, 2023 19:37:00 GMT
I love the suggestions for incorporating mixed media but I’m also trying to work with the supplies I already have.
I have some stamps put away somewhere but no ink (it all dried up from lack of use). I’m thinking of getting a multi color mini ink pad set for this project but I don’t want to acquire a bunch of other things I don’t necessarily have the time to learn how to use.
I think a traveler’s notebook may be too small of a format. I like having creative space. A SNAP binder might work though!
Thank you so much for all of the wonderful ideas and support! Super grateful pea over here.
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Post by dewryce on Oct 22, 2023 22:10:56 GMT
I’m sorry you have to worry about people making fun of you for things you’re proud of. That really sucks. It’s a tricky situation, if you don’t feel like you have the privacy or safe space to create and display your albums. I love the idea of creating something that gathers together your wins and happiness. Would leaving the album unlabeled allow it to remain more private? Or giving it a title that would discourage interest from people you’d rather not view it? I know some people who make art journals hide their writing, sometimes by obliterating it under more layers of art, which means you process the feelings without having to read them again. In scrapbook form creating hidden pockets for words or making the journaling difficult to pull out (like having to take the whole page out of the album to access the pocket) might create the same effect. The words are there for you to seek out but not visible to a casual browser. I don’t know if you’ll be able to find out if doing this makes you feel empowered or exposed except by doing it, which is a bit scary. I wish you luck though. I hope you can find a way to celebrate your goodness Love this advice! OP I’m sorry your home is not a safe space for you for this task, and I admire you for working through things through art. Perhaps you can keep the album itself in a private area, and while you’re creating save the journaling for last and only add it when the page is otherwise ready for the album.
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