breetheflea
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Post by breetheflea on Dec 6, 2023 18:22:29 GMT
He works from home out of our dining room. I am one wall, and 50 feet away at the other end of the house (in my scrap corner.) There is an air filter, and a heater between us. I can't hear him when he talks to me. He also talks to himself a lot, so that doesn't help. I am thinking of getting him walkie talkies for Christmas... he doesn't understand why I keep stomping across the house saying "I can't hear you" in an annoyed voice. And then the important thing is something like an update on when such and such box on Amazon will be arriving.
The other thing is I will try to watch a TV show. The kids will talk through it, stand in front of the TV, or make me pause the thing so often (they come into the room one by one) that I'll give up and turn it off. Then DH will see I'm frustrated, send the kids off to do something, and then proceed to do the exact same thing he just told the kids not to do.
I am trying to have patience but somedays!
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scrappert
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Post by scrappert on Dec 6, 2023 18:32:54 GMT
Complete silence in the house, sneaks off to read. Opens book and BAM, everyone is there and ready to talk.
I see you and hear you! GAH!
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Post by mikklynn on Dec 6, 2023 18:36:50 GMT
That sounds about right! Even DD's dog does it to her when she tries to talk on the phone!
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Post by scrapmaven on Dec 6, 2023 18:59:03 GMT
My husband WFH. We What'sapp eachother when he's in his office. It saves us having to scream or get up everytime we have something to say to the other. I hate screaming from room to room. Your naughty family needs to learn to let you have your time and not disturb you. There's no ALL OF YOU in ME time.
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Post by KikiPea on Dec 6, 2023 19:05:24 GMT
When we have that problem, we just text each other.
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Post by peasapie on Dec 6, 2023 19:06:36 GMT
I feel your pain!
We had a three-floor condo for a few years and would text each other. I think I'd do the same thing in your situation!
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DEX
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Post by DEX on Dec 6, 2023 19:11:56 GMT
Alexa will allow you to talk to different speakers in your home also.
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Post by Lurkingpea on Dec 6, 2023 20:31:17 GMT
I feel your pain. My husband loves to start conversations when I heading to the bathroom or right when I am walking out the door to go to work. He also will start talking about something he has been thinking about but for which I have no context. He will suddenly say "I can't believe he is getting away with that." Or "I wonder what they will do about the car." Completely out of the blue and expect me to know what he is talking about.
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Post by 950nancy on Dec 6, 2023 20:45:38 GMT
When we have that problem, we just text each other. Used to live in a house that you could pretty much just give a yell. We added a third floor and now that is impossible. Texting. My kids make fun of it, but they used to do that all of the time at our old house. Neither of us work from home, so that part isn't a problem. We do have Ring and if there is a package, I go get it. If it is a salesperson/unkown person, husband goes to get it. Thankfully that very rarely happens though. |
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Post by Basket1lady on Dec 6, 2023 20:46:50 GMT
I share your pain. To the point where I don't even turn on a program that just I watch unless dh is in bed. And on the days that DH works from home, I listen to my podcasts or audio books with earbuds. Otherwise, it’s like a siren call and he comes to find me. I tell him that he isn’t respecting my space and he says it’s how he knows that I’m not busy.  |
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Post by workingclassdog on Dec 6, 2023 20:51:06 GMT
I feel ya... when I am at home, in my office (aka bedroom) and DH is home (he is usually gone, he drives a truck and is gone a month to six weeks at a time).. but when he is home during my WFH days, he is telling me I need to be quiet while he is sleeping and keep the light off. Like YEAH RIGHT DUDE... get yer butt up and go fishing.. or something... (he really doesn't say anything but I know...haha)
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breetheflea
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Post by breetheflea on Dec 6, 2023 20:58:07 GMT
Alexa will allow you to talk to different speakers in your home also. What's funny is our house has an intercom system (70s house, it also could hook up to a stereo  ) but the closest speaker is about halfway between DH desk and my end of the house. Our Alexa is in the kitchen, maybe I should move it... |
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Post by padresfan619 on Dec 6, 2023 21:04:47 GMT
I didn’t realize I married a finger drummer/tapper until my husband started working from home in 2020. It drives me NUTS. I love the two days a week he goes into the office and I get some silence, I feel for his coworkers.
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Post by Jennifer C on Dec 6, 2023 21:11:23 GMT
Best thing my hubby bought me are Sony noise canceling headsets.
Origianlly I got them when we went on vacation.
Now if I have them on, do not mess with me unless it's urgent. I usually put them only on when hubby is home so they have someone to go talk to.
Jennifer
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Post by jenb72 on Dec 6, 2023 22:24:39 GMT
I remember this when my "crafty" room was in our unused dining room. Too much open access to the kitchen and living room where DD2 (home from college during the pandemic) would have no qualms about barging into my room to ask me for things all day long. Or BIL (who lives with us) would make a ton of racket in the kitchen getting a snack, or drop down in his recliner to watch sports (sometimes with DH if it was after work hours). I would get so jealous because DH's office is in our bedroom in the alcove and he's hard of hearing, so nothing really bothers him back there. And he's a gamer, so his personal computer is back there, too. Away from house traffic. Fast forward to today - DD's graduated, has her own job, is living with her SO and now I have her room as my "crafty" room. It has doors.  I can close them whenever I need peace and quiet. Jen |
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Post by crazy4scraps on Dec 6, 2023 23:05:53 GMT
Alexa will allow you to talk to different speakers in your home also. What's funny is our house has an intercom system (70s house, it also could hook up to a stereo  ) but the closest speaker is about halfway between DH desk and my end of the house. Our Alexa is in the kitchen, maybe I should move it... Since you already have an Alexa could you just get a couple of Echo Dots for those two rooms to use as an intercom? It might be cheaper than buying a second Alexa. We have Google Home Minis that we use that way. I will also second getting a set of wireless headphones for when you want to watch something. I have a couple nice sets of E7 over the ear headphones that I got from Woot.com. I love them when I’m trying to do my daily DuoLingo Spanish lessons but people come into the room I’m in and turn on the tv or start talking or whatever and then I can’t hear the subtle differences between some of the words. |
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Post by dewryce on Dec 6, 2023 23:15:52 GMT
Alexa will allow you to talk to different speakers in your home also. We do this between upstairs and downstairs. OP, you’re much nicer than me. After a while, and a warning, I’d just start ignoring all of them until they learned to wait for commercials. Maybe have a premade sign to hold up that simply says “Is a commercial on? No? Then you’ll need to wait” There is a pea that has the perfect avatar, it says something to the effect of “I love the sound you make when you shut up and let me read.” DH and I watch TV/read next to each other a lot and we have a system where we double tap the other when we want to say something and then wait for the person to get to a good stopping point. I have to admit, he’s much better at it than I am. This thread reminds me I need to work on it! |
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Post by ChicagoKTS on Dec 6, 2023 23:24:43 GMT
We have a three story house. My husband’s office is on the top floor and while I was working during Covid mine was on the bottom floor. We texted each other. I’ve now retired so most of the time I am on the middle floor. We still text. He’s often on the phone so I am not going to climb the stairs to just have to turn around and go back down especially since it’s likely I will be accompanied by an energetic puppy who is not quiet.
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Post by busy on Dec 7, 2023 0:10:21 GMT
I’d not continually accommodate the inconsiderate behavior of others. Your DH can come to you, or text you, rather than expecting you to get up and interrupt what you’re doing whenever he has something to say.
Ditto with repeated interruptions during a show or something else you’re doing for yourself. I’d not pause the show over and over. I’d say, I’m doing this right now, happy to talk when I’m done.
You’re putting yourself last and teaching them they don’t need to respect your time or attention. You deserve better. Teach them new ways to treat you.
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hannahruth
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Post by hannahruth on Dec 7, 2023 2:15:05 GMT
Fast forward to today - DD's graduated, has her own job, is living with her SO and now I have her room as my "crafty" room. It has doors. I can close them whenever I need peace and quiet. Jen Things come to those who wait  |
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Post by kluski on Dec 8, 2023 1:16:23 GMT
Get an Amazon echo for each room
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) but the closest speaker is about halfway between DH desk and my end of the house. Our Alexa is in the kitchen, maybe I should move it... 
I can close them whenever I need peace and quiet.
) but the closest speaker is about halfway between DH desk and my end of the house. Our Alexa is in the kitchen, maybe I should move it... 
