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Post by tangtastesgood on Dec 7, 2023 16:11:37 GMT
DD 17 has missed the deadline for having her photo in the yearbook. Somewhat inexplicably to me we have a senior portrait session scheduled today.
She says she doesn't care. I'm not about to go momma bear over a missed deadline to something she was in charge of (bash me if you want but they gotta learn to do this stuff somehow and learning by doing is her style, so she has been in charge of all "senior year" activities). I worry that she'll regret it but the only other option is a senior ad in the back of the yearbook with a photo I already possess since the deadline for senior ads would be before the portraits from today would be ready. But yeah, ads are like $150.
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Post by milocat on Dec 7, 2023 16:19:09 GMT
If she already says she doesn't care then she will care so much less as the years go on.
I have my yearbooks, was on the yearbook committee, small school of 300 kids grades 7-12, I still live in this small town and I've never looked at my yearbooks.
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Post by shanniebananie on Dec 7, 2023 16:45:16 GMT
I am extremely sentimental, so that would be hard for me. I know at our high school, reminders for high school senior portraits are numerous and very public. If your daughter chose to ignore the deadline, I guess it is not very important to her. I wouldn't bother with an ad at this point.
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Post by katiekaty on Dec 7, 2023 16:50:38 GMT
You could call and speak to the yearbook advisor and see if they have sent the pages in to the publisher yet and if it can still be submitted. This happens frequently so there may be a bit of a give by a few days. It can’t hurt to try.
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Post by Susie_Homemaker on Dec 7, 2023 16:57:37 GMT
Since we have hindsight in how important HS yearbooks are later in life, I'd say to not worry about the $150 ad.
Back in the day, we basically only had a yearbook to "see" our classmates again, but now with social media that doesn't really matter anymore. If years from now someone wants to "see" your DD, they can look her up online. She said she doesn't care, so let it go.
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Post by cmpeter on Dec 7, 2023 17:00:47 GMT
I would have been devastated. But, neither of my kids would have cared.
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Post by RosieKat on Dec 7, 2023 17:02:13 GMT
I would have been really upset, as would my DD. However, my DH and DS wouldn't care/have cared one bit. Different people are definitely different!
I think for me, it would have been more the fact that I went to 3 high schools (due to things like moving, not getting kicked out or something!) and found a welcoming home at the last one, so I really wanted to be a part of their memories from that year.
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Post by RosieKat on Dec 7, 2023 17:02:58 GMT
Also, if your DD was in charge of it, it's not really on you, is it? Let your mind be at ease.
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Post by anaterra on Dec 7, 2023 17:12:09 GMT
At the time I wouldve been devastated... sad for months....
Years and years later...i cut up my yearbooks.... made scrapbook layouts of the pics I wanted to keep... the groups I was in.. my friends.. my boyfriend... teachers I loved... then I tossed the rest....
If your dd isn't stressed then Id let it go... if she wants the ad then Id pay it and put 1 in...
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Post by Merge on Dec 7, 2023 17:18:28 GMT
Is it possible a group of kids have decided it’s uncool to care about the yearbook and have opted out? Something similar happened my older DD’s senior year. They decided that only very odd, abstract photos were “cool” and traditional portraits were too embarrassing. I paid for very well done traditional portraits and DD ended up deciding that one of them looked artsy enough to suit her. But I think I still had to be the one to send it in.
Teenage girls can be very strange.
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Post by KikiPea on Dec 7, 2023 18:12:00 GMT
I’d be bummed at the time, but haven’t looked at my year book in years, so probably wouldn’t care for long.
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Post by mom on Dec 7, 2023 18:30:32 GMT
Eh, I wouldn't stress over this. If she says she doesn't care, she probably doesn't care. If you feel like you need to do something, and have the cash, do the ad. Otherwise, I would just let it go.
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Post by Crack-a-lackin on Dec 7, 2023 18:35:29 GMT
My kids would not have cared at all. I had to practically force them to get one and they now sit in a box of stuff left at my house.
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Post by Rhondito on Dec 7, 2023 18:47:58 GMT
At the time I would've been devastated. Not so much now.
If she were my daughter I would do a senior ad - I would want her included.
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Post by myshelly on Dec 7, 2023 18:49:53 GMT
She made a decision and she seems fine with it, so I would just let it be 🤷🏻♀️
Senior portraits here are most commonly done the summer before senior year starts, so an appointment in Dec is VERY late. She had to have known that - the deadline is announced multiple times in multiple ways.
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Post by workingclassdog on Dec 7, 2023 18:50:12 GMT
My son's name was missing out of the graduate list they pass out at graduation. No fault of our own. They did print us four sheets for us but the never ending question that day was "isn't Zach graduating?" So it was kinda a big deal then. Now not even on our radar. So yeah, kinda upsetting, but not life altering. In our case, I was more upset than he was by far. He is a boy and not into that stuff, so there ya go.  |
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Post by littlemama on Dec 7, 2023 20:47:21 GMT
How many days did she miss the deadline by?
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Post by tracylynn on Dec 7, 2023 21:04:05 GMT
Our Senior pictures were due the first week or two after school started.
If you wanted Senior pictures done you had your appointment in the summer.
We did have someone on the Yearbook group who had a nice camera and for those that didn't get professional pictures they would take them outside on the grounds and take a nice picture that way.
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Post by lisae on Dec 7, 2023 21:23:24 GMT
Somewhere between upset and devastated for life. I was on the yearbook staff so this was important to me at the time. Passing around yearbooks and having everyone write something in them was a really big part of senior year for me.
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Post by mamallama on Dec 7, 2023 22:09:21 GMT
Our high school has a picture day for seniors just like the rest of the students so they are included no matter what. I don’t understand why more schools don’t do this.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Dec 7, 2023 22:49:14 GMT
At the time I probably would have cared somewhat but now 30-odd years later I couldn’t care less. I still have my yearbooks but haven’t looked at them in over a decade.
And this thread reminds me that I still need to order one for DD since this is her last year at her current school. The deadline to order is sometime in January and they never buy extras so if you don’t buy one before the deadline, you snooze you lose.
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Post by melodyesch on Dec 8, 2023 0:34:52 GMT
Our high school has a picture day for seniors just like the rest of the students so they are included no matter what. I don’t understand why more schools don’t do this. That’s how it was back in the day when I graduated. We all had the same off the shoulder drape things for the girls and coats/ties for the boys. Not sure when it changed to independent, on location photo shoots with multiple wardrobe changes. |
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Post by gina on Dec 8, 2023 0:51:03 GMT
I would have been extremely upset, and so would my kids. I loved HS.
ETA: I would absolutely do an ad for her with a photo.
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Post by Zee on Dec 8, 2023 10:33:46 GMT
I would have been really pissed to miss mine and would have been really sad to not have my kids' photos in the yearbook. I kind of had to force DS to go get a pic taken on senior portrait day (DD didn't have that, different school and she had a whole portrait session at a studio).
But I would have found a senior ad embarrassing. Only nerds whose parents paid for them had those in my day. 🤣
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Post by artbabe on Dec 8, 2023 12:49:03 GMT
High school was the worst time in my life. I have a senior yearbook but I've only looked at it 2-3 times in 30+ years. Being left out probably would have bugged me at the time but it matters not at all now. Actually, it probably mattered not at all by the first week of college (loved college).
If she didn't care enough to get it in on time I don't think it matters. She doesn't care.
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Post by smasonnc on Dec 8, 2023 13:06:43 GMT
I'd have been upset for life, but it was more important to people then. We have had regular reunions so I'd have been reminded of my own irresponsibility every 5-10 years. It was important enough to me to get myself to my senior appointment the summer before. I wouldn't have dreamed of asking my mom to sort it out if I screwed it up and she certainly wouldn't have bought an ad just because I was irresponsible. Not sure when it changed to independent, on location photo shoots with multiple wardrobe changes. When professional photographers realized that senior portraits could be an additional revenue stream. About 20 years ago, I worked for another photographer shooting and doing tech stuff. A Minnesota photographer named Fuzzy Dunkel did presentations about his senior portrait business at Professional Photographers of America conventions in a lot of states, including ours. His work was excellent and his business model was sound so on-location senior portraiture took off. You're welcome for the history lesson. |
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Post by iowgirl on Dec 8, 2023 14:27:06 GMT
Back in the day, we basically only had a yearbook to "see" our classmates again, but now with social media that doesn't really matter anymore. This! I think what was important in the past has changed greatly with the advent of social media, and who knows what it will be 20 years down the road. Passing around yearbooks and having everyone write something in them was a really big part of senior year for me. (My yearbook, and the same for my kids) didn't even arrive until summer was nearly over and everyone had scattered. No one ever signed yearbooks. I actually had a 'memories' book, that was basically a scrapbook. I added photos and trinkets to it. That is what everyone signed. None of my kids did any of this. They text each other! LOL In our yearbooks, if your Senior portrait wasn't submitted, they just used your Junior year photo that the school photographer took. You could check and see if they do that - then at least she will be in there. |
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Post by smalltowngirlie on Dec 8, 2023 14:49:59 GMT
I am not in half of the group photos I should have been in in my Senior yearbook. For some reason picture days were always scheduled when I was on a trip with some other group. Looking back it is actually funny to say, I should have been in that one. My friends insisted I was in the group senior photo. They looked for 15 minutes and could not find me, I said I was gone.
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Post by Linda on Dec 8, 2023 15:51:16 GMT
Our high school has a picture day for seniors just like the rest of the students so they are included no matter what. I don’t understand why more schools don’t do this. ours does also but it's by appointment with a (relatively small) sitting fee and during the summer before senior year - they do the tux/gown drape and that IS the yearbook picture - and then you can pay extra for more poses with outfits of your choice AND then there's yet another fee ($$$) to actually get prints of the yearbook pose and/or the others. I'm expecting a bit of a tussle with my youngest next summer - they will want the tux option and given that I live in Florida, I'm not expecting that to be allowed and that they will only be offered the gown drape. I don't personally care - this teen has worn suits to homecoming throughout high school and has plans to wear a suit to prom next year - but our governor has BIG opinions that he's welcome to have for himself but I sure wish he would not insist on everyone else having as well. |
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Post by workingclassdog on Dec 8, 2023 17:11:59 GMT
I didn't even know they still did tux and drapes. In fact, I never heard of it until I lived in Tennessee where they did it (in the 80s). When I moved to Missouri, no one even heard of tux/drapes. We just used our senior picture that the school set up.. Josten's or whoever. It wasn't a thing yet to do independent pictures. I was always kinda sad that I moved and didn't get to do the drape thing. Those pics always looked so grown up. lol
Sorry to hijack that for a second.
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