Tearisci
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Nov 6, 2018 16:34:30 GMT
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Post by Tearisci on Dec 15, 2023 21:33:47 GMT
Anyone else late to the season like me?
I've had my trees up since mid November and have been listening to Christmas music but I just couldn't seem to get into the spirit. Now 10 days away, I might finally watch some Christmas movies this weekend (After I finish The Crown's new episodes).
My family might get together and bake cookies tomorrow which is my mom's favorite thing to do but since she's in rehab, we'll have to take over. Sunday is an extended family get together with a white elephant gift exchange.
I think with everything going on with my parents, it's been a struggle to think of much beyond that, but I'm hoping to keep this feeling going through the end of the year.
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Post by Legacy Girl on Dec 16, 2023 4:05:25 GMT
I've pretty much been in the spirit, but this has been a difficult week for me, as I had doctors' appointments four days in a row. But my DD came home from college tonight for winter break, and it looks like the medical issues are going to resolve themselves (with treatment), so I'm getting back on track for the home stretch. Glad to hear you've found your celebratory spirit as well. Enjoy the holidays!
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Post by jeremysgirl on Dec 16, 2023 11:12:12 GMT
I'm going in and out of the holiday mind set. My problem is grief. Some days I feel like I want to do all things Christmas. And some days I feel like I'm walking through 10 ft deep of mud. We also put our old dog down two weeks ago and that hurt me terribly too.
I will tell you this, yesterday we went and got a new pup. I even have mixed feelings about that. I love animals and my house has felt empty without Amelia. But I wasn't quite ready for a new pup. But my stepdaughter had a friend who needed to re-home her. So we didn't quite have the luxury of time to decide. Jeremy wanted her and as he was really out Amelia's person, I let him make the decision. She seems like a sweet dog.
All this to say really that I'm digging deep to find the holiday spirit.
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Post by peasapie on Dec 16, 2023 11:57:12 GMT
I'm going in and out of the holiday mind set. My problem is grief. Some days I feel like I want to do all things Christmas. And some days I feel like I'm walking through 10 ft deep of mud. We also put our old dog down two weeks ago and that hurt me terribly too. I will tell you this, yesterday we went and got a new pup. I even have mixed feelings about that. I love animals and my house has felt empty without Amelia. But I wasn't quite ready for a new pup. But my stepdaughter had a friend who needed to re-home her. So we didn't quite have the luxury of time to decide. Jeremy wanted her and as he was really out Amelia's person, I let him make the decision. She seems like a sweet dog. All this to say really that I'm digging deep to find the holiday spirit. I’m so sorry. Please know we all think of you so often. My dear friend lost her son five years ago to an opioid overdose. Then she lost her husband. She has never recovered, though she does manage to go to work and be present for her remaining daughter and grandchildren. She recently decided to create a rock garden where she can paint rocks and arrange them in her son’s memory and she is finding some comfort in that. I hope your new dog will bring you some comfort. Dogs have that way about them. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Dec 16, 2023 12:04:35 GMT
I'm going in and out of the holiday mind set. My problem is grief. Some days I feel like I want to do all things Christmas. And some days I feel like I'm walking through 10 ft deep of mud. We also put our old dog down two weeks ago and that hurt me terribly too. I will tell you this, yesterday we went and got a new pup. I even have mixed feelings about that. I love animals and my house has felt empty without Amelia. But I wasn't quite ready for a new pup. But my stepdaughter had a friend who needed to re-home her. So we didn't quite have the luxury of time to decide. Jeremy wanted her and as he was really out Amelia's person, I let him make the decision. She seems like a sweet dog. All this to say really that I'm digging deep to find the holiday spirit. I’m so sorry. Please know we all think of you so often. My dear friend lost her son five years ago to an opioid overdose. Then she lost her husband. She has never recovered, though she does manage to go to work and be present for her remaining daughter and grandchildren. She recently decided to create a rock garden where she can paint rocks and arrange them in her son’s memory and she is finding some comfort in that. I hope your new dog will bring you some comfort. Dogs have that way about them. I received a beautiful hydrangea for Esther's funeral from my brother in laws family. I also received a gorgeous engraved wind chime from my coworkers. I bought more hydrangeas to go with the gifted one and I built Esther a little hydrangea garden with her windchime above it.. |
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Post by peasapie on Dec 16, 2023 12:07:52 GMT
I’m so sorry. Please know we all think of you so often. My dear friend lost her son five years ago to an opioid overdose. Then she lost her husband. She has never recovered, though she does manage to go to work and be present for her remaining daughter and grandchildren. She recently decided to create a rock garden where she can paint rocks and arrange them in her son’s memory and she is finding some comfort in that. I hope your new dog will bring you some comfort. Dogs have that way about them. I received a beautiful hydrangea for Esther's funeral from my brother in laws family. I also received a gorgeous engraved wind chime from my coworkers. I bought more hydrangeas to go with the gifted one and I built Esther a little hydrangea garden with her windchime above it.. That’s beautiful. Such a great idea. |
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Post by librarylady on Dec 16, 2023 15:37:05 GMT
I just can't get in the festive mood this year. No specific reason, but I can't.
Step son called to say he and his wife will come on Christmas Eve....which is a shock and should be a joy, but
all I can think is "Now I have to get out the Christmas dishes and prepare a meal." DH said last night, "Let's
just go to a restaurant and save our Christmas meal for us."
---backstory: His ex has worked for the 50 years since the divorce to get their sons to ignore DH. When son was an adult and married, he said, "We will do Christmas with you one year and with her the next." The 2 times they came here on Christmas Day the ex would call every hour or so to "I need to ask DS a short question." They have not come for a Christmas day visit in several years. Last 8-10 years the DIL didn't come, but DS came by one day and brought our gifts. By then, I had mailed theirs. At least this year I have not packed up things and mailed them.
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Tearisci
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Post by Tearisci on Dec 16, 2023 15:50:52 GMT
I just can't get in the festive mood this year. No specific reason, but I can't. Step son called to say he and his wife will come on Christmas Eve....which is a shock and should be a joy, but all I can think is "Now I have to get out the Christmas dishes and prepare a meal." DH said last night, "Let's just go to a restaurant and save our Christmas meal for us." ---backstory: His ex has worked for the 50 years since the divorce to get their sons to ignore DH. When son was an adult and married, he said, "We will do Christmas with you one year and with her the next." The 2 times they came here on Christmas Day the ex would call every hour or so to "I need to ask DS a short question." They have not come for a Christmas day visit in several years. Last 8-10 years the DIL didn't come, but DS came by one day and brought our gifts. By then, I had mailed theirs. At least this year I have not packed up things and mailed them. I'm sorry that you're dealing with this. As a divorced parent, we tried to be respectful of holiday time but it didn't always work out that way. Now that he's grown, DS lives by my ex so they spend all of the holidays together unless DS goes on a trip with friends. He usually does that, I think to avoid having to choose who to spend time with. He was just here a couple of weeks ago for my dad's 92nd birthday and truth be told, I'd rather have him here not during a holiday so we can spend more quality time together. I'll miss him at Christmas but will be busy with family here. |
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Tearisci
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Post by Tearisci on Dec 16, 2023 15:52:19 GMT
I'm going in and out of the holiday mind set. My problem is grief. Some days I feel like I want to do all things Christmas. And some days I feel like I'm walking through 10 ft deep of mud. We also put our old dog down two weeks ago and that hurt me terribly too. I will tell you this, yesterday we went and got a new pup. I even have mixed feelings about that. I love animals and my house has felt empty without Amelia. But I wasn't quite ready for a new pup. But my stepdaughter had a friend who needed to re-home her. So we didn't quite have the luxury of time to decide. Jeremy wanted her and as he was really out Amelia's person, I let him make the decision. She seems like a sweet dog. All this to say really that I'm digging deep to find the holiday spirit. I hope that you get comfort and joy with a new pet. What a nice distraction for you and hopefully not replace but give you a way to transition from the grief of losing your cherished pet to gaining a new furry family member. |
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Post by 950nancy on Dec 16, 2023 16:07:09 GMT
I usually feel it right around now too. Prior to this, it is just too much. It is one holiday that we've turned into a 2.5 month extravaganza. When you have younger kids in the house, I know it can be different. We are still trying to solve a 4 month with no stove debacle. Last night the counter people didn't show up, so the installers that come next week can't install. Maybe after that gets in, I'll feel more in the festive mood.
I do blame part of my resistance to early celebrations with working at the mall during high school and college. So much Christmas. Whenever I watch A Christmas Story and see Ralphie triggered by Santa, it brings me back to freezing cold icy walks to my car, people yelling, and long lines. It also started my distaste for Christmas music. The speakers will filled with high pitched voices of children's choirs.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Dec 16, 2023 16:08:36 GMT
I'm skipping the holiday spirit this year. We were on vacation October, then unexpected trip to see MIL end of October. Then Sunday before Thanksgiving MIL died unexpectedly (we had to call police for well check and they found her). So then back to TN for two weeks to sort stuff and get service arranged. We didn't get back home til Dec 1st. I was over it by then. I was going to get a tree but didn't and now it's too late to bother. I'm the one who decorates and I'm not doing it just to have to take it all down in two weeks. Right now, I'm not even interested in wrapping gifts, and that's the one chore I love. DH has also mentioned not feeling the spirit this year. Everything is just gloomy and dead.
It doesn't help that I absolutely love Thanksgiving and it didn't happen. But, since we couldn't cook Thanksgiving this year, we're doing it for Christmas.
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Tearisci
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Post by Tearisci on Dec 16, 2023 16:10:59 GMT
I'm skipping the holiday spirit this year. We were on vacation October, then unexpected trip to see MIL end of October. Then Sunday before Thanksgiving MIL died unexpectedly (we had to call police for well check and they found her). So then back to TN for two weeks to sort stuff and get service arranged. We didn't get back home til Dec 1st. I was over it by then. I was going to get a tree but didn't and now it's too late to bother. I'm the one who decorates and I'm not doing it just to have to take it all down in two weeks. Right now, I'm not even interested in wrapping gifts, and that's the one chore I love. DH has also mentioned not feeling the spirit this year. Everything is just gloomy and dead. It doesn't help that I absolutely love Thanksgiving and it didn't happen. But, since we couldn't cook Thanksgiving this year, we're doing it for Christmas. Ugh, I'm so sorry to hear this. You have a lot on you have had a lot on your plate so it makes sense that the holidays would take a back seat. We're not sure whether mom will be released from rehab by Christmas but hopefully we can take her for the day to spend with the family. |
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Post by 950nancy on Dec 16, 2023 16:16:58 GMT
I'm skipping the holiday spirit this year. We were on vacation October, then unexpected trip to see MIL end of October. Then Sunday before Thanksgiving MIL died unexpectedly (we had to call police for well check and they found her). So then back to TN for two weeks to sort stuff and get service arranged. We didn't get back home til Dec 1st. I was over it by then. I was going to get a tree but didn't and now it's too late to bother. I'm the one who decorates and I'm not doing it just to have to take it all down in two weeks. Right now, I'm not even interested in wrapping gifts, and that's the one chore I love. DH has also mentioned not feeling the spirit this year. Everything is just gloomy and dead. It doesn't help that I absolutely love Thanksgiving and it didn't happen. But, since we couldn't cook Thanksgiving this year, we're doing it for Christmas. Thanksgiving dinner on Christmas Day sounds perfect. It is a lot of work, but it sounds like having something to do on Christmas is the right thing this year. One year we had a lot of travel and I ended up just putting up a 4 foot tree for something to be up. It took about 30 minutes and take down wasn't bad either. I hope your holiday season is at least relaxing after all of the stress you have had. My MIL passed on Christmas Day very late in the night. |
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Post by scrapmaven on Dec 16, 2023 16:33:22 GMT
Last year my mil was doing home hospice in my living room and passed away a few days before Christmas. Still, I went through the motions for dh and my adult ds's. Honestly, none of us were in the mood to celebrate, but we made the best of it. This year I'm ill and putting together the holiday in bits and pieces. I'm a bit more into the spirit, but for some reason I'm really missing my parents who have been gone for many years and of course, mil w/whom I was very close. I'm trying to get into the joyous parts of the season, but I don't have any wind. Tearisci, it's hard to celebrate when both parents are so ill and your mom is in rehab. Just do what you can. Mil hated fake trees and last year everytime we'd wheel her to the kitchen table she'd look at the tree and complain. The last time she came to the table she looked at it and said, "Scrapmaven, that's a very pretty tree. Good job". We all were laughing so hard. I hope that your mom will be home in time for christmas. jeremysgirl, I think your new doggie friend might be very comforting for you. We have a golden doodle in our neighborhood and whenever I see him he's the happiest, sweetest doggie. You need as many cuddles as you can get right now. Maggie will come back to the bed. She has to get used to the new interloper. I have a feeling they'll be buddies in no time. You'll get through this season and just know that many of us care about you and are thinking about Esther, too. |
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