Have you ever given a tribute/eulogy at a memorial service?

Not me personally, but my DH gave the eulogy for his step-father, sister and mother when they all passed. DH did such a good job each time. I agree it's not easy. DH had to work hard at what he wrote then had to get up there and spreak.

It was more of a memorial party. My best friend, Fancy Nancy, died of pancreatic cancer. She declared that instead of a funeral she wanted a party with all of her friends so that's what we did. Her mom drew the line at her wish that her ashes be there. Several of us who were closest to her were asked to do a tribute, then guests could share their thoughts. It was very nice.

I've also done readings several times. Very nerve racking. The best you can hope for is you don't screw it up. I've also been asked to play the flute at many funerals. Nobody I knew, just requests from families at church.

I gave an off-the-cuff eulogy at my mom's wake. I have no idea what I even said. It hadn't occurred to us that one of us would need to say something. I'm the oldest, so I did it.

No I have never had to give a eulogy or tribute, and tbh I don't think I would be able to.

A good friend of mine lost her father in 2022. She had planned to speak at his funeral, but just couldn't do it, so the celebrant read it out for her. I know that in her place I wouldn't have been able to do it either.

I admire those of you who are able to do that, it's such an honour.

I gave an eulogy at mom's service and at my dad's service. For my dad, my brother talked about his skiing and outdoor career (which was extensive) and I talked about the rest of my dad's life. I have done a lot of public speaking.. so made an outline.. and finished by quoting a ski song he taught us in the 1960's.. it went well.

my mom's service was 25 yrs ago.. three of us spoke. I think I was the only kid who spoke of the 4 of us.

I don't expect I will ever speak at another one.

I have not but I will always remember that my cousin who is really good at public speaking gave such a wonderful eulogy at our grandmothers funeral that a woman came up to him afterwards and said “I know you don’t know me but that was the best eulogy I’ve ever heard and I’d like you to give my eulogy someday.”

My sister, cousin and I wrote and gave the eulogy at my grandma's funeral. We spent most of a day reminiscing and writing it. Finding it hard to write down what we wanted to say and then to make it flow.

My best friend spoke at my mom’s this summer. It meant the world to me. She's an excellent writer and she did a fabulous job including the ideas I wanted. She could do that as a part time job! I wasn’t able to have the pastor that I wanted, and my friend should have been the only one to speak.

I wouldn’t be able to speak at one.

I did one of the readings at my mum's funeral Mass; my dad spoke the eulogy. Even doing a bible reading was hard for me. Mum knew she was dying (brain tumor) and she organised nearly all of her Mass in advance - what readings she wanted, her favourite hymns, what flowers we should have. There are still hymns that I find difficult to sing to this day - nearly 38 years later.

My dad is now 87 and in failing health. I don't know if I'll be able to speak at his funeral, but I am also not sure who else of my 6 siblings would be willing to do so.

I spoke at both of my parents' funerals. I wrote out what I wanted to say for Daddy's and practiced. I did not look at my notes when the time came and it went well. For Mother's, I spoke more spontaneously. I'd had days to think about it and I said most of what I wanted but I don't think it was that eloquent. Also a lot of people could not hear me because we had a graveside service.

I'm very glad I did this in both cases. Personally I like a funeral to be a lot more eulogy and a lot less sermon.  One of the most moving funerals I attended was for a former boss.  Many of the young men he had mentored in his time as a business owner spoke on how he had impacted their lives.  

I did for my uncle's service. He and I were very close. I didn't think I could do it but when I thought about how it was the very last thing I could do for him (I helped care for him through cancer treatments) I mustered the strength. I hate public speaking and my voice cracked a few times. In the end, I was told by a few folks that I should speak for their services and they weren't even sick yet.

I'd be honored if you were to give the eulogy at my funeral.

I've never been asked, nor have I ever stood up when there is the opportunity to speak.  

I did for my mom and for my BIL.

I did not really know the BIL having only met him one time. He met my sis online via AOL chat, told her he was the new lead guitarist for Sister Hazel because their guitarist had died, gave her a whole song and dance including that he was 6ft2in and resembled Tom Cruise. When I found out they were going to be eloping, I called to say to maybe wait and date for a while especially since he had lied about everything. She yelled that I was a nothing, my life amounted to nothing and I would never know what true love is (been married for 35 years last October, so I guess I'm still in the dark, ha).

Met him once. He was 5ft4in, balding, at least 40 or rode hard, put away wet Made his famous chicken teriyaki which was basically poaching chicken thighs in a bottle of teriyaki sauce. He couldn't play a guitar either because I brought one as a wedding gift, yes that was petty. Besides Mom and Dad, I was the only family member to have met him, so I drew the short straw for a eulogy. I was kind because I believe in his own way, he did love my sister.