sweetpeasmom
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Post by sweetpeasmom on Apr 12, 2024 14:15:44 GMT
I have shared here that my mom had a stroke last January and has been in a nursing home since last May. She went on hospice in October. I had a feeling about a month and half ago that she wasn't going to be with us much longer. Nothing major, just my gut feeling based on what I was seeing. Last Tuesday, we were able to do something so special for her. We were able to take her fishing, her favorite past time. She was able to see the horses that visited the facility on Thursday. I visited with her Sat and she seemed ok. She did have a UTI but the hospice nurse that evaluated her didn't see anything else. In fact, she really didn't show the standard signs of a UTI (never did).
I got a call on Sunday morning at 11:15 that she was alert, aware and knew who she was. But that her vitals didn't look good. My husband and I immediately went up there. They think she might have aspirated on her medications. I think she might have had another stroke.
My sister and our kids were able to get there too while she was still alert. Mom went unresponsive at around 4pm on Sunday. She held on for 4 days. Me, my sister and my niece never left. We stayed the entire time. We all had been able to say our I love yous and goodbyes. She was able to hear from all her siblings but 1 (that's a whole other story). After 4 days, we couldn't understand why she was still holding on. We tried even leaving the room the night before in case she as wanting to be alone. Around 3:15pm on Wednesday, while the nurse was giving her her morphine and swabbing her mouth, mom opened her eyes. I knew what was about to happen. I had just told my sister to go to her car to take a nap. She has her own health issues and was feeling some sort of way. I called her back in.
It was quick and peaceful. While I will miss her so very much, I am at peace that she is no longer in pain, suffering or has any sadness. It is an odd place to be in. Knowing your mother is no longer with you but being ok about that at the same time.
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Post by gar on Apr 12, 2024 14:19:02 GMT
I’m so sorry.
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Post by KikiPea on Apr 12, 2024 14:20:58 GMT
I’m so sorry for your loss. Big hugs, and prayers for your family.
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bklyngal62
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Post by bklyngal62 on Apr 12, 2024 14:21:04 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Apr 12, 2024 14:21:20 GMT
I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m so glad you were able to be with your mom while you could still communicate with her and that her passing was peaceful. I can totally relate to your last point too. My mom had Alzheimer’s so I felt like I had “lost” her long before she actually passed. May your good memories of your mom bring you comfort.
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Post by sudie on Apr 12, 2024 14:21:21 GMT
I'm so sorry to hear of your mom's passing. Your story is very similar to mine in many ways from when my mom passed a year ago. I treasure the fact that we were all able to say our goodbyes and I hope you feel the same way.
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Post by airforcemomof1 on Apr 12, 2024 14:22:10 GMT
Bless you and your family.
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Post by koontz on Apr 12, 2024 14:22:15 GMT
I am very sorry for your loss
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Apr 12, 2024 14:22:39 GMT
So very sorry for the loss of your mom. May you keep your fond memories close.
HUGS!!
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Post by compeateropeator on Apr 12, 2024 14:32:08 GMT
I am so sorry for the loss of your mom.
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Post by gillyp on Apr 12, 2024 14:34:25 GMT
My condolences to you and your family.
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teddyw
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Post by teddyw on Apr 12, 2024 14:38:25 GMT
I’m so sorry for your loss.
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Post by Linda on Apr 12, 2024 14:57:21 GMT
(((Hugs))) and prayers I'm so sorry for your loss
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Apr 12, 2024 14:58:02 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss.
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peasquared
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Post by peasquared on Apr 12, 2024 14:58:11 GMT
Oh, sweetpeasmom, I am so sorry! I wish you peace and comfort in the days ahead. My heart hurts for you.  |
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Post by hop2 on Apr 12, 2024 15:00:27 GMT
I’m so sorry
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Post by lucyg on Apr 12, 2024 15:01:57 GMT
I am so sorry over the loss of your mom. You've been a very caring, devoted daughter, and I’m glad you're feeling somewhat at peace right now. Many hugs.
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Post by KelleeM on Apr 12, 2024 15:05:58 GMT
I’m so sorry for your loss and understand very well how you’re feeling. Be gentle with yourself.
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River
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Post by River on Apr 12, 2024 15:07:48 GMT
I'm so very sorry for your loss!
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Post by karenlou on Apr 12, 2024 15:13:23 GMT
I'm so very sorry (((HUGS)))
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3boysnme
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Post by 3boysnme on Apr 12, 2024 15:16:13 GMT
I am so very sorry for your loss. Hugs to you and your siblings.
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Post by ntsf on Apr 12, 2024 15:17:02 GMT
may you find peace. sorry for your loss
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iowgirl
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Post by iowgirl on Apr 12, 2024 15:21:58 GMT
It is an odd place to be in. Knowing your mother is no longer with you but being ok about that at the same time. I understand this 100%. My sympathy to you and your family. |
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Post by quinlove on Apr 12, 2024 15:25:54 GMT
I’m so sorry for your loss. ❤️
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Post by workingclassdog on Apr 12, 2024 15:45:49 GMT
I'm so sorry... I'm glad she is at peace and in no pain. I can't even imagine how your heart must be breaking. I am dreading the day for my turn with my mom. I can't stand to bear the thought. Hang in there..  |
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Post by littlemama on Apr 12, 2024 15:47:22 GMT
Im so sorry for your loss.
I also wanted to say that feeling relieved is a perfectly normal, healthy feeling when someone dies after a long illness.
When FIL died a few weeks ago, we were sad, of course, but also relieved and happy that he was no longer suffering.
My mom had told me that she felt guilty for feeling relieved when my stepdad died, but she had mourned him for 3 years at the point that he died (dementia).
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Post by stampnscrap1128 on Apr 12, 2024 15:55:43 GMT
I'm so sorry. May her memory be eternal.
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RosieKat
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Post by RosieKat on Apr 12, 2024 15:59:40 GMT
I'm terribly sorry.
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Post by MadamG2U on Apr 12, 2024 16:38:55 GMT
I'm so sorry.
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Post by lurker on Apr 12, 2024 16:55:50 GMT
I am sorry for your loss. This feeling is shared by so many, myself included. I wish you peace.
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