Rhondito
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Post by Rhondito on Apr 24, 2024 18:40:44 GMT
Ok, maybe I watch too many true crime shows, but his suddenly buying a gun is concerning to me. Are you concerned for your safety at all? You are both in the same house right now, correct? This. I would mention it to my attorney just in case.
Anything he has done, or is doing, has nothing to do with you. It's him that's collecting dirt on his character, not you. |
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anaterra
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Post by anaterra on Apr 24, 2024 19:16:58 GMT
I dont lean to the dramatic.... but will admit to goosebumps when i read he owns a gun... if he isn't an experienced firearm owner....
We have guns but my dh has had then forever...
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Post by quinlove on Apr 24, 2024 20:48:04 GMT
Ok, maybe I watch too many true crime shows, but his suddenly buying a gun is concerning to me. Are you concerned for your safety at all? You are both in the same house right now, correct? I hate to correct you, Lexica, but - You can not watch too many true crime shows !!!! 😊🥰 |
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peabay
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Post by peabay on Apr 24, 2024 20:51:59 GMT
very soon he will be someone else's problem and you will be free. Survive on that alone!
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Post by Laurie on Apr 24, 2024 21:05:34 GMT
Ok, maybe I watch too many true crime shows, but his suddenly buying a gun is concerning to me. Are you concerned for your safety at all? You are both in the same house right now, correct? This was my first thought as well. This is concerning to me. |
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kate
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Post by kate on Apr 24, 2024 21:09:33 GMT
I'm so sorry. You've got quite a cheering section here - please feel free to vent away!
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Post by flanz on Apr 24, 2024 21:28:07 GMT
Oh, I'm so sorry T!
The gun concerns me also.
((( hugs )))
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Apr 24, 2024 22:01:29 GMT
I'm sorry to hear it's having to get so much worse before it gets better. But better IS coming. I can't wish that hard enough for you.
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Post by Lurkingpea on Apr 24, 2024 23:32:25 GMT
Ok, maybe I watch too many true crime shows, but his suddenly buying a gun is concerning to me. Are you concerned for your safety at all? You are both in the same house right now, correct? This. I would mention it to my attorney just in case.
Anything he has done, or is doing, has nothing to do with you. It's him that's collecting dirt on his character, not you. I completely agree. With both points. Tell your attorney about the gun immediately. I don't want to derail this thread but wasn't there a pea who was getting married very suddenly to someone and posted some concerning things who suddenly stopped posting right after the actual wedding? I believe he was a gun owner. I always wondered and worried about her. |
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Post by peasapie on Apr 24, 2024 23:34:16 GMT
Please know you are not alone in finding out your husband isn't the person you thought he was. Mine also had two (and maybe more) sides, and I missed all the clues for 20 years. Life does get better!
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Post by floridagirl on May 9, 2024 18:31:25 GMT
I am really really sorry
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Post by delila on May 10, 2024 16:11:40 GMT
Coming into this late but wanted to tell you that this man picked you because you are an empathic person and he is a narcissist. Narcissistic need people like empaths to keep them going. He saw this as an opportunity to exploit you and you being as kind and loving as you are tried to help him and were blinded by the red flags and just loved him as he was. Women like us easily fall into traps with men like these and by the time we figure them out we are in way deep with their children and our lives are never the same. It’s not our fault that we love as hard as we do, it is who we are.
These type of men can’t even love themselves much less love us. I know it’s not easy but please don’t take any of his shit personal, he will do this to the next supply and then the ones after that. It is who they are, not who you are.
Obviously I am saying all this from experience as I married a narcissist and have been through so much with him for over 40 years now. I can tell you it never gets easier or better for us.
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Post by mikklynn on May 13, 2024 13:05:29 GMT
Just T I'm thinking of you today and hoping you are getting close to dumping your dead weight! I hope you are spending time planning how fabulous your life will be soon.
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Post by Sarah*H on May 29, 2024 0:34:54 GMT
I need to vent, but I unfortunately need to be vague. UGH and UGH and UGH Today I discovered one of the most disturbing things I have discovered yet about my stbx. I am blown away yet again by how horrible he can treat me. In June, it will be 40 years since we have been together. Our first date was my 21st birthday. In June, I will be 61. HOW have I spent 40 years of my life with someone who I clearly did not really know. What the hell is wrong with me to have been soooo blind??  I don't know how to move past how horrible he is and what he has done to me. I don't feel like I can give details right now. But OMG. I'm checking to make sure you are doing okay. I am concerned about what I think you were hinting at in this post and that you haven't been back in so long. If you are here and lurking, could you please let us know that you're okay? |
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Post by freecharlie on May 29, 2024 0:44:28 GMT
I'm so sorry.
I know how frustrating exes can be and I don't think mine is as bad as yours.
My guess is he wasn't this horrible during most of our marriage and has just turned into the asshat he is now.
Eta- re the gun
My guess is he was feeling insecure or midlife crisis and it made him feel powerful...you know, little dick syndrome
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Post by hop2 on May 29, 2024 1:13:44 GMT
((Hugs))
It is not you. You spent 40 years with a master manipulator who is only now showing you who he really is.
I’m so sorry. I hope you can move on soon.
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Post by Lurkingpea on May 29, 2024 4:47:58 GMT
I need to vent, but I unfortunately need to be vague. UGH and UGH and UGH Today I discovered one of the most disturbing things I have discovered yet about my stbx. I am blown away yet again by how horrible he can treat me. In June, it will be 40 years since we have been together. Our first date was my 21st birthday. In June, I will be 61. HOW have I spent 40 years of my life with someone who I clearly did not really know. What the hell is wrong with me to have been soooo blind?? I don't know how to move past how horrible he is and what he has done to me. I don't feel like I can give details right now. But OMG. I'm checking to make sure you are doing okay. I am concerned about what I think you were hinting at in this post and that you haven't been back in so long. If you are here and lurking, could you please let us know that you're okay? I have been worried about her as well. I hope she told her attorney about the gun. I can't believe that that wouldn't raise alarm bells. Does anyone know Just T on any other platform that can just check in on her? |
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seaexplore
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Post by seaexplore on May 29, 2024 4:56:25 GMT
Last login April 30, 2024.
I hope someone knows her IRL.
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Post by krcrafts on May 29, 2024 18:20:38 GMT
I follow her on IG and she posted 4 days ago. I sent her a message that she’s being asked about.
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Post by Lurkingpea on May 29, 2024 18:34:28 GMT
I follow her on IG and she posted 4 days ago. I sent her a message that she’s being asked about. Thank you. She created a new thread to let us know. I appreciate you reaching out to her. |
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Post by Scrapper100 on May 29, 2024 21:43:47 GMT
I follow her on IG and she posted 4 days ago. I sent her a message that she’s being asked about. I’m glad someone else is in contact with her. This post was very worrying. She posted the card swap a few days ago so I know she came on here at least for that. |
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