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Post by leannec on May 4, 2024 2:03:18 GMT
I have been single for a number of years ... I'm happy and I consider myself to be an expert at online dating ... I write a great profile and recognize fakers and losers right away.  My girlfriend is also single and neither of us are finding much on the websites of much quality ... I'm 57 and men my age just don't even try ... they don't even know how to take a decent selfie!  We have come across a local company organizing Speed Dating ... we are attending an event Sunday evening ... I'm going in with no expectations ... I am just hoping that the men there at least smell good because my last date smelled BAD! Seriously gross!  Have you ever been to a Speed Dating Event? Thoughts on Speed Dating? FYI: You spend 7 minutes with each guy and then move to the next ... if you both are interested your information is given by the organizers. UPDATE: This event was a lot of fun! The time went by so fast! The men were, except for a couple, all really interesting and friendly! There were two or three who gave off a creepy vibe ... Lots of engineers and accountants ... Here is my scorecard ... I was VERY picky so I only said yes to three ...  I got the notification a couple of hours ago that no one was a match for me ... I'm fine with that! I will definitely do this again!  |
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Post by chaosisapony on May 4, 2024 2:19:28 GMT
I have not but a friend of mine goes every so often. She always has good stories to tell from it LOL.
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Post by Bridget in MD on May 4, 2024 15:35:21 GMT
i have not but i did read a Christmas romanace book The 12 Dates of Christmas that I thought was a very cute idea! I think 7 minutes is a really short time to get a feeling - I am shocked it is THAT speedy!
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Post by Lexica on May 4, 2024 18:53:07 GMT
I have not, but I have seen a few shows where speed dating is featured. I think it would be fun.
Also, I am appalled that your last date smelled! Was it that he just didn’t shower prior to the date or did he smell like stale alcohol seeping out of his skin? Showering prior to a date is a must! If he smelled that bad on a first date, can you imagine how bad it would get after knowing him a while? My neighbor is an alcoholic and he smells like stale booze all the time. He recently came over to talk to me as I was leaving at 7 a.m. and absolutely reeked of booze. I have told him multiple times when he has asked me out that I will never date an alcoholic, nor will any of the other single women in the neighborhood that he has tried to date. He has had two heart attacks and a stroke just in the last year since I have lived here and has mentioned that his doctors are always talking about his drinking. I asked him after his last hospitalization two weeks ago if he didn’t want to live and he thought about it for a minute and answered that he did not. It is so sad to see someone throw their life away.
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Post by leannec on May 4, 2024 19:13:30 GMT
Also, I am appalled that your last date smelled! Was it that he just didn’t shower prior to the date or did he smell like stale alcohol seeping out of his skin? He smelled like sour beer so I believe he is an alcoholic ... We met up at about 6pm and it was obvious that he had been day drinking ... I had to scoot away from his seat to not be downwind of him because of his smell.  When I told him that I did not feel any chemistry and there would be no second date he went batshit crazy ... not dangerous, just very surprised and verbal about it.  He is obviously new to online dating and needs to get a thicker skin ... and deal with his drinking problem.  |
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Post by AussieMeg on May 4, 2024 23:42:33 GMT
I would rather be stranded in the woods with the bear AND the man, than do something as terrifying as speed dating!
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Post by leannec on May 5, 2024 0:18:02 GMT
I would rather be stranded in the woods with the bear AND the man, than do something as terrifying as speed dating! Hahahahaha!!! I'm looking forward to it! It can't be any worse than online dating! .  |
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Post by Zee on May 5, 2024 16:52:09 GMT
I'm not looking to be dating but it seems like a stressful yet fun experiment if I was! I've seen it on TV. I'd try it. Online dating seems horrible, this can't be any worse and at least they're putting themselves out there rather than a pic holding a fish or whatever (biggest complaint I hear from singles are the men with their latest kill profile pics)
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Post by mich5481 on May 5, 2024 21:10:56 GMT
I'm not looking to be dating but it seems like a stressful yet fun experiment if I was! I've seen it on TV. I'd try it. Online dating seems horrible, this can't be any worse and at least they're putting themselves out there rather than a pic holding a fish or whatever (biggest complaint I hear from singles are the men with their latest kill profile pics) or hunting photos or big trucks or big beards or group photos where you just know the guy is the shortest and/or ugliest in the group. Dating in my 40s is awful. I scrolled through FB dating yesterday and I noped out of there pretty quickly. I would try speed dating though - if it is awful with one guy, you can move on within 7 minutes without him being offended/taking it personally. 🤣 |
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Post by seaexplore on May 6, 2024 13:21:58 GMT
How did it go?
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Post by ellen on May 6, 2024 13:40:47 GMT
I think I’d rather do something like this than deal with the dating apps. It would seem less stressful to go with a friend. How was it?
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Post by leannec on May 6, 2024 20:59:56 GMT
Hey everyone, I just posted an update in the OP!
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Post by Zee on May 6, 2024 21:18:24 GMT
Glad you had fun! I don't know what Ramon looked like but his name puts him at the front of the pack for me 😁☺️
Engineers, not the most romantic bunch. Lots of facts, coldly analytical, poor eye contact, super smart, uncomfortable with emotions. I'm married to one who is the exception but company dinners with his colleagues is usually a pretty nerdy affair where I'm the stupidest person there 🤣🤣
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Post by Lexica on May 6, 2024 21:27:08 GMT
I think this would be both fun and interesting to meet so many different personalities. I see you didn’t match with anyone, which as you said is fine, but do they let you know if anyone picked you? I’m thinking there might be someone you were on the fence about and knowing he wanted to get to know you better might be just the little bit to tip the scales.
You are not under any obligation to meet with any of them again, are you? A possible strategy might be to mark the maybe guys as well and if you match with any maybe guy, take a few minutes and think over the conversation with them again. It has to be difficult to express who you are in such a short amount of time. Although, I guess you could sense whether or not there was any chemistry fairly quickly.
At least you had fun!
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Post by ~summer~ on May 6, 2024 22:34:00 GMT
Good for you - glad it was fun.
Is there any sort of age range? Or do you know anything about them before you start talking?
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Post by leannec on May 6, 2024 22:43:45 GMT
Good for you - glad it was fun. Is there any sort of age range? Or do you know anything about them before you start talking? The age range was 40-59 ... I'm 57 so I was on the high side of the range but I didn't feel out of place ... most of the men were older too ... We are given a sheet with short answer information from everyone when we arrive ... it helped a bit but I didn't use it much ... |
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Post by leannec on May 6, 2024 22:46:20 GMT
I think this would be both fun and interesting to meet so many different personalities. I see you didn’t match with anyone, which as you said is fine, but do they let you know if anyone picked you? I’m thinking there might be someone you were on the fence about and knowing he wanted to get to know you better might be just the little bit to tip the scales. You are not under any obligation to meet with any of them again, are you? A possible strategy might be to mark the maybe guys as well and if you match with any maybe guy, take a few minutes and think over the conversation with them again. It has to be difficult to express who you are in such a short amount of time. Although, I guess you could sense whether or not there was any chemistry fairly quickly. At least you had fun! They let me know that one person did pick me (but I didn't pick him) ... I was not on the fence about anyone ... I have a very decisive personality!  There is no way for me to see them again unless they attend another event and I do too ... There is an event next month that I think I will go to! |
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Post by Lexica on May 7, 2024 0:32:39 GMT
I had a thought just now. Just said you write a fantastic profile and find that most men do not. Have you ever considered starting up a small side business of writing dating profiles? I think you could just talk to them on the phone to get a feel for how to best showcase them. This would also give you a preview look at many of the newer men signing up. I don’t know how busy your regular job is and whether or not you would even have the time or interest to do something like this. It sounds like you are good at it and that there is a definite need.
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Post by peasapie on May 7, 2024 10:29:48 GMT
I had a thought just now. Just said you write a fantastic profile and find that most men do not. Have you ever considered starting up a small side business of writing dating profiles? I think you could just talk to them on the phone to get a feel for how to best showcase them. This would also give you a preview look at many of the newer men signing up. I don’t know how busy your regular job is and whether or not you would even have the time or interest to do something like this. It sounds like you are good at it and that there is a definite need. Clever you! Way to get the early screen on candidates! |
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Post by River on May 7, 2024 18:12:51 GMT
I had a thought just now. Just said you write a fantastic profile and find that most men do not. Have you ever considered starting up a small side business of writing dating profiles? I think you could just talk to them on the phone to get a feel for how to best showcase them. This would also give you a preview look at many of the newer men signing up. I don’t know how busy your regular job is and whether or not you would even have the time or interest to do something like this. It sounds like you are good at it and that there is a definite need. You could write for men and women! Hint, hint.... I could really use help writing one for myself. I truly suck at it and at selfies too. I've never been to a speed dating event but would like to. |
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Post by Lexica on May 7, 2024 18:28:44 GMT
I had a thought just now. Just said you write a fantastic profile and find that most men do not. Have you ever considered starting up a small side business of writing dating profiles? I think you could just talk to them on the phone to get a feel for how to best showcase them. This would also give you a preview look at many of the newer men signing up. I don’t know how busy your regular job is and whether or not you would even have the time or interest to do something like this. It sounds like you are good at it and that there is a definite need. You could write for men and women! Hint, hint.... I could really use help writing one for myself. I truly suck at it and at selfies too. I've never been to a speed dating event but would like to. , it looks like you could start a nice little side job, maybe with a few peas as your first customers. |
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Post by leannec on May 8, 2024 1:42:57 GMT
You could write for men and women! Hint, hint.... I could really use help writing one for myself. I truly suck at it and at selfies too. I've never been to a speed dating event but would like to. , it looks like you could start a nice little side job, maybe with a few peas as your first customers. I'm flattered but no ... I'm a teacher but I actually hate to write!  . I am good at it but it brings me no joy! I'm happy to edit someone's existing profile though ... |
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Post by snyder on May 8, 2024 1:47:27 GMT
I've seen this on TV, but do not know of anyone that has actually done this. Glad you had a good time.
Just curious, does this cost you? I don't know much about dating sites, but do know some charge. I remember 50 years ago, yep that dates me, I was curious about them and looked into them, and most were free to women, but the men were charged to use the service. Guess they had more men looking for women back then.
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Post by leannec on May 8, 2024 3:54:01 GMT
Just curious, does this cost you? I don't know much about dating sites, but do know some charge. I remember 50 years ago, yep that dates me, I was curious about them and looked into them, and most were free to women, but the men were charged to use the service. Guess they had more men looking for women back then. Yes, the company organizing it charges $65 per person (men and women) ... You get a few appetizers and drink specials during the event as well ... |
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Post by snyder on May 8, 2024 4:46:40 GMT
Just curious, does this cost you? I don't know much about dating sites, but do know some charge. I remember 50 years ago, yep that dates me, I was curious about them and looked into them, and most were free to women, but the men were charged to use the service. Guess they had more men looking for women back then. Yes, the company organizing it charges $65 per person (men and women) ... You get a few appetizers and drink specials during the event as well ... Thanks for replying. Sounds reasonable for a night of fun/entertainment. |
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Post by lainey on May 8, 2024 11:05:52 GMT
Was it easy to start the interaction with each guy? I'm not a natural small talker and would find this really difficult once I'd said hello, how are you? Glad you had fun and want to do it again.
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Post by leannec on May 8, 2024 11:35:00 GMT
Was it easy to start the interaction with each guy? I'm not a natural small talker and would find this really difficult once I'd said hello, how are you? Glad you had fun and want to do it again.
It was really easy to talk to everyone! They had us answer a few questions about ourselves in advance and we were each given a copy of those questions and the men's answers ... the men were given ours ... Some people needed to use those questions and others just had so much to say about anything and everything! There were a couple who spent the entire eight minutes talking about themselves ... so rude ... a solid "No" from me! |
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Post by lainey on May 8, 2024 13:53:28 GMT
There were a couple who spent the entire eight minutes talking about themselves ... so rude ... a solid "No" from me! Urgh yes, an immediate turn off. |
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