Current viral debate: Do women pick man or bear?

I have been SA twice. I am very sorry to those who also have been SA, raped, or otherwise assaulted by a man. Or have someone close to them that has been.

I’ll take the bear.

I'm saddened to hear how many in such a small sampling have dealt with SA. It makes my heart ache for each of you.

Agreed ❤️❤️❤️
Though I can bet not a single one of us here hasn't experienced harassment at the very least.
I'm still more scared of a bear but it appears I'm an outlier and, I do get it. I was thinking more along the lines of hiking and coming upon a fellow hiker, not just some random man lurking behind a tree. I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt but I'm always wary.

I'll still choose the man over the grizzly or polar bear; it's a draw on the black bear mama with cubs.

I was walking alone in the woods last week on Jekyll Island and came upon a 5 foot gator just off the path. I was relieved to see a man after that and warned him. I also saw a couple and an older lady so it wasn't threatening to come upon a man alone. He was just exercising like I was.

THIS!!!!!!! If you're weighing the differences between a man and a literal bear you've missed the point.

Bear, all day. I asked my husband (2 daughters) and my dad (3 daughters) and they both chose bear. My husband said at least the bear won't rape you first before/if he kills her, and my dad said the chances the bear would harm you are statistically minute, and the bear could be legally killed if something happened.

I read a statistic (I can't find it now) that said something like a handful of women have been killed by bears in the last few years, and less than 20 injured. Men's attacks on women in the same time period were like 22k or something.

Found the post I saw with the stats, but can't find the source for the stats.
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There is a question going around the internet, the original question is would you rather have your daughter in the woods with a random unknown man or a random bear. Its been morphed a bit now that its been shared to would you as a woman rather be in the woods with a random unknown man OR a bear.

Almost without fail posed this question the answer of the women/mothers have been a bear and it has men feeling some type of way that women almost universally trust a bear more then a strange man. But here are the top 10 reasons woman have given for choosing a bear over a man:

10) No one would question me about what I was wearing if the bear attacked me.
9) No one would accuse me of liking the bear attack
😎 A bears motives are easier to understand.
7) A bear won't accuse me of leading them on by being nice to them.
6) I would not be forced to carry the bears babies to term in 27 states.
5) The bear will either kill me or leave me alone there are not 400 other horrible ways a bear can hurt me.
4) Bears do not traffic women.
3) A bears friends won't come out to say how nice the bear is and how attacking me is ruining its life.
2) No one will question if the bear attack really happened.
1) The bear sees me as a human being.

But here are a few others that are sad but true:

If I survive the bear attack I will not have to see the bear at family reunions.

The bear did not pretend to be my friend for months before hand.

A bear would not film it and send it to his friends.

NOW lets talk. Soooo many males are mad about this. I have seen some comments replying to a woman choosing the bear that make my skin crawl. Most of them give off vibes that tell me they are literally part of sect of men that are the reason we chose the bear. When this question was posed, man or bear, to woman 9 out of every 10 chose the bear. 9 out of every 10. We cannot agree about hair color, makeup, or Taylor Swift but we almost entirely as a gender agree about this. In fact when asked 7 out of 10 did not even take time to think the answer was instantly bear.

We understand the bear may kill us. We understand there are fates worse then dying. A bear will simply kill us or ignore us.

Statistically women are safer with bears then men sorry not sorry. In the last 4 years 7 women were killed by bears and 15 were attacked and survived. Do you wanna know the rape/murder statistics for the same time range of men killing/raping women?

We are safer with the bear.

Sorry, not sorry.

- Credit to the respective author

Yeah, I’m choosing the bear. No doubt about it.

I’m a DV survivor but it was 31 years ago. Still, it taught me a lot. It really opened my eyes about men, the violence they are capable of, and how some can be very manipulative and look completely innocent.

A bear is a bear. He/she will more than likely ignore you if you pose no threat. If a mother bear sees you as a threat to her cubs she will attack. If it’s a grizzly or polar bear (and let’s face it, polar bears only live in specific areas) these species are more aggressive, but I’d still rather take my chances with a bear vs a human man with a weapon.

If I came across a bear when on a walk in the woods I would be terrified. If I came across a man in the woods I would not be worried unless he did something that seemed off. I don't live my life scared of men and thinking the worst about their actions and intentions simply because they are men.

That's the crux of the matter, isn't it?

The bear is a bear. It never pretends to be anything other than a bear. You will never mistake it for a potential friend, partner, spouse, or family member. It's 100% obvious that it's a large, powerful animal with the potential to hurt you. Bonus, bears generally just want to be left alone.

Women have to exist in spaces where our primary predator can be virtually invisible and cannot be avoided.

While I dont discount your feelings because they are yours and you are entitled to them, I highly recommend you find the TikTok that Dadchats made on this subject.

As I have said years ago, you are one of the strongest woman I know!!

Bears don't catcall, try to convince you that they're a "nice guy," mansplain, insist that your lady-brain is too undeveloped to understand what they're saying, get you drunk in order to assault you, r*pe you and say you deserved it, tell all their friends that you are a wh*re whether you sleep with them or not, gaslight you into believing their lies, cheat on you, post a naked photo of you on the Internet, stalk you at work or home, or abandon you when you're seriously injured or ill. 

Ask me how many of those things a man has done to me.

Bears don't have reputations to protect, egos to stroke, or infinite second chances. Bears don't tell me that I can't do what I want with my own body. Bears don't participate in stripping me and my children of our basic human rights. Bears don't own multiple assault weapons and shoot up schools, concerts, malls, grocery stores, playgrounds, and work places.

Bears aren't why I get my keys out of my purse before I leave the store. Bears aren't why I don't go to the gym at night. Bears aren't why I insisted that my now-husband and I met in a public place in a city different from mine on our first date and aren't why my friends insisted that I give them the address as well as send them multiple texts that I was okay after we met.

Always, always, always the bear.