Vent: about the word "unalive"

I actually think of words as being quite powerful, ones generally deemed offensive or not. 

(Of course, words deemed "offensive" do tend to change sometimes.  There are words today that could lead to one being asked to leave a public place, or even lead to one being fired, that in the past would have been deemed "un-offensive" by many.)

But yeah, words in general are powerful in my mind.  Sounds (including words), like smells, trigger memories, and I think many people have some word or words that spark difficult memories or emotions for them.

My mother dislikes a specific word due to it being one used by a man who frightened her as a child.

My DH dislikes, not a single word, but a phrase: "drive me to drink", because someone close to him was an alcoholic, and it bothers him to hear people toss around that phrase, especially when used towards a person, as if to say to someone YOU drive me to drink.  He hates the idea of "blaming" someone for your drinking, basically.

In this situation, while words such as "suicide" may be a trigger for some who have grappled with that themselves, or who have known others who have.  Unfortunately, since people don't have the same trigger words, for someone else "suicide" may be something they can use despite having had that in their life, but they may struggle with "unalive" instead.

People all being different, we all have different triggers, so unfortunately, while we can probably avoid using phrases or words that upset those closest to us (my mom or DH), it's hard to avoid triggers on a public forum, since we may have opposing words that rattle us.

Triggers aside, words classified as "curses" or words considered to be vulgar can be viewed differently from one person to another as well, and some people are quite bothered by those.  Some only find 3 or 4 words offensive, while some use them all with gusto, and others have a list as long as your arm of words they deem inappropriate for use in any circumstance.  

Ultimately, I don't think we can always choose what does or does not bother us, and/or to what degree.  We can try our best, but sometimes something just rankles us no matter how we may try to think about it only from a logical perspective.  And sometimes we want to vent about that. 

(I'm sorry for the length of this and if it came across as lecture-y.  That was certainly not my intent.  I just find that when people say they don't understand something, my first instinct is to talk my head off trying to give them possible explanations.    )

I admit it annoyed me at first, but I am so used to hearing it now, that it really doesn't bother me anymore. Like others have said, TT has a tendency to pull or shadow-ban videos that mention murder, suicide, etc... and it at least started as a work around the algorithm and then just became part of the culture as online, and other in-groups, tend to do.

I mean there are a lot of words that have annoyed me over the years--I don't like derivatives like kiddo, hubby, littles, etc... so on one hand, I don't judge your annoyance, and on the other hand, meh, we all have our crosses to bear. LOL

Suicide is one of those taboo subjects. I wish we could talk more openly about it. People suffer in silence, including the loved ones who remain behind. I'm glad it's being discussed, even if the choice of word isn't popular.

I used the word "punch" as in punch in the face and IG deleted the comment.  

Ok, whatever.