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Post by gar on May 22, 2024 16:09:14 GMT
I really noticed recently that on an evening when Dh and I are both home, nothing special going on, that we really do things in much the same way every time We'll sit in the same place on the same sofa, usually whatever we're streaming we'll stop at 10 so we can watch the 10pm news. Then one of us will say "Time for bed?", turn the tv off, take glasses/tea cup out to the kitchen, lock the front door, turn out the lights and say "See you in bed". Dh goes to the downstairs bathroom to get ready, I go up...I'll be in bed before him as a rule, he'll come in and say "Ready to turn the light out? Sounds like a riot doesn't it! What a pair of old fuddy duddies I should say we do have a social life, together and separately, we eat out, we see friends etc...we have fun, we don't do this 7 nights a week but it made me smile when I realised how set in our ways we were with some things. Do you always sit in the same chair?
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Post by sueg on May 22, 2024 16:24:01 GMT
Your evening routine sounds exactly like ours when DH is home. Sometimes (mostly?) when he's away, I sit in his spot on the sofa, as it's closer to the door, but when he's home, he sits on the left and I sit on the right. Apart from that, there are a few other 'habits' - we have our own seats at the dining table (I don't even sit in his place when he's away) and I nearly always do my laundry on Wednesday, as it's the day I am least likely to have anything else happening.
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Post by katlady on May 22, 2024 16:24:05 GMT
I think you are pretty normal. We both sit on the same chairs at the dining table, we sit in the same spots when watching tv, we go to the bed at the same time, unless one of us has to finish up some work, etc. We are all creatures of habit. Makes life easier at times. 😂
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Post by gar on May 22, 2024 16:28:44 GMT
We are all creatures of habit. Makes life easier at times. 😂 You’re probably right 😊
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Post by Zee on May 22, 2024 16:41:33 GMT
Yes we're pretty boring at home most of the time 😁 I realized we sit on the same side of the couch that we sleep in in bed. Also, if we're out of town, he needs me to sleep on the same side of that bed that I do at home, apparently. He made me move last time lol
My dog likes the routine also, and even the cats know when we'll be heading up to bed because they gather, ready for their bedtime treat. One of them usually comes with to let the dog out for the last time of the night, which is my favorite thing in our routine. He likes to sniff the night air from the safety of my arms.
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Post by papersilly on May 22, 2024 17:05:48 GMT
i am absolutely a creature of habit. i find a sense of order in it.
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Post by scrappert on May 22, 2024 17:10:34 GMT
My one dog gets irritated if we don't go to bed at the same time every night!
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Post by malibou on May 22, 2024 17:11:11 GMT
Definitely creatures of habit here.
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Post by ~summer~ on May 22, 2024 17:15:01 GMT
I don’t think quite as much as you are…but still yes.
Tea in the kitchen in the morning Walk to coffee Off to work Yoga/barre in evening or another walk. Salad or home cooking for dinner. Weekends we go out.
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Post by craftedbys on May 22, 2024 17:25:56 GMT
Yes, we have the chairs we always sit in, just like Archie and Edith.
We have so many routines, just like an old married couple.
But then again, we ARE an old married couple.
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Post by gar on May 22, 2024 17:27:07 GMT
Yes, we have the chairs we always sit in, just like Archie and Edith. We have so many routines, just like an old married couple. But then again, we ARE an old married couple. Same here I guess 😊
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Post by workingclassdog on May 22, 2024 17:28:50 GMT
It depends, since DH is gone for like six weeks at a time.. So by myself, every night could be different, like crafting in my room, vegging on the couch or working on a puzzle. I always sit in the same spot when vegging on the couch. If DH is there, (while I love him there, he messes with 'my' routine..lol) but he will sit in my spot and I have to move him, because all my cords, blankets are just where I want them. He likes my spot because it is my cozy spot, while his is just empty. haha. Then he usually goes to bed before me, so he is asleep or messing around on his phone. Again my ritual going to bed is turning on the TV and putting on Gilmore Girls and falling asleep to it. I turn it off right before I pass out. He on the other hand, hates it on. So I have to use my phone/headphones to just chill with TV before falling asleep. And there you go.
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Post by monklady123 on May 22, 2024 17:36:31 GMT
Yep, lol. Our evenings are like that also. I have my chair, dh has his. We rarely eat dinner in the dining room. We sit, in our own chairs, in the living room and watch the PBS news from 6:30 to 7:00. Then we turn it off until Jeopardy at 7:30. At 8:00 dh goes down to his hobby room in the basement and I stay upstairs usually watching something on streaming (right now it's "FBI"). At 9:00 or so I get ready for bed, read for awhile, and am usually asleep when he comes to bed. Weekends are different of course, and I do work some weekends... But even if I'm not home he sits in his own chair to watch news. haha
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Post by monklady123 on May 22, 2024 17:37:36 GMT
Yes, we have the chairs we always sit in, just like Archie and Edith. We have so many routines, just like an old married couple. But then again, we ARE an old married couple. lol... yep, us too.
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Post by Deleted on May 22, 2024 17:40:43 GMT
My one dog gets irritated if we don't go to bed at the same time every night! Yes, we are like this and our dogs know when it's bed time. I usually go up and read for an hour or so in bed and they come with me. Our youngest dog gets very annoyed if I decide to stay up later, especially on weekends when I might stay down here a few hours extra. Night night time is her favorite part of the day!
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Post by lainey on May 22, 2024 18:28:28 GMT
My husband has a new job and our routine has gone right out of the window, I don't like it. I'm very much a creature of habit but now I'm a creature who's all discombobulated!
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Post by gar on May 22, 2024 18:30:10 GMT
My husband has a new job and our routine has gone right out of the window, I don't like it. I'm very much a creature of habit but now I'm a creature who's all discombobulated! I feel for you Lainey...feeling unsettled isn't nice ((hugs))
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Post by lainey on May 22, 2024 18:31:56 GMT
My husband has a new job and our routine has gone right out of the window, I don't like it. I'm very much a creature of habit but now I'm a creature who's all discombobulated! I feel for you Lainey...feeling unsettled isn't nice ((hugs)) Thank you
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Post by Lexica on May 22, 2024 18:46:00 GMT
I really noticed recently that on an evening when Dh and I are both home, nothing special going on, that we really do things in much the same way every time We'll sit in the same place on the same sofa, usually whatever we're streaming we'll stop at 10 so we can watch the 10pm news. Then one of us will say "Time for bed?", turn the tv off, take glasses/tea cup out to the kitchen, lock the front door, turn out the lights and say "See you in bed". Dh goes to the downstairs bathroom to get ready, I go up...I'll be in bed before him as a rule, he'll come in and say "Ready to turn the light out? Sounds like a riot doesn't it! What a pair of old fuddy duddies I should say we do have a social life, together and separately, we eat out, we see friends etc...we have fun, we don't do this 7 nights a week but it made me smile when I realised how set in our ways we were with some things. Do you always sit in the same chair? When my parents were still living in their home in the city next to where my son and I lived, we used to go visit them often. Sometimes we called ahead and sometimes we just popped over. We each had keys to each other’s home so my habit was to knock on the door, and immediately unlock it so they didn’t have to get up to come to the door. If they were not expecting us to come over, I would usually yell something silly like, “Ok you two, go get decent. I am bringing your grandson in the house!” And they would always chuckle and Dad invariably would make a comment about trying to remember what being indecent was all about. And my mom would give him a look and say, “Oh papa!” trying to stop him before he said something that my son should not be hearing. I would say that no matter what time of day we went over there, they were almost always sitting in their recliners, either watching television, usually golf, or reading the newspaper. And the house frequently smelled of fried onions. If they were not in their recliners, they were in the kitchen cooking something, and typically that item had fried onions in it. I always took care of their house when they went on vacation. We would unlock the door and step inside and my son would always comment on how weird it was not to see my parents sitting in their respective recliners. And then he would complain that their house smelled like a house instead of fried onions. He missed them terribly when they went away. My dad always had 3 Manila folders sitting on the bar top. They were each labeled in his very neat handwriting with our names on the front of the folder. We were expected to check the folder each time we went over there. Dad would put anything he needed to give me in my folder. Sometimes it was important paperwork, other times it would be a new recipe or a joke he cut out of the newspaper. Then after I gave him a computer and printer, my folder would have many more things in it. Still recipes, important papers, and jokes, but he also started adding printed articles that he had found online that he thought were important enough for me to have a printed copy, usually with highlighted areas and his notes in the margins. For interesting but less critical articles, he would email me a link instead. I loved that he would never tell me to check my folder and rarely discussed what was in it until I had taken it home and read it for myself. I always came over with a little zippered pouch to transfer my “mail” into. Then on the next visit, we would sit at the kitchen table and talk about whatever it was and why he felt it was important for me to have a print of the article. My God, I miss my parents so much.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on May 22, 2024 18:48:20 GMT
I am very routine oriented and very same stuff home oriented. I love my routine. If my routine is unexpectedly disrupted, it throws me and my operating systems off. A do okay with a *planned* disruption in routine....but sometimes I struggle with routine disruptions.
I have the same daily routine. I often eat the same exact thing for many meals in a row. I park in the same area....parking row (depending on where I am). I finally (took years) got my home, to be what I want it to be decor and furniture wise.....and I never want to change it, because I love it.
My routines, way of doing things, how I live, etc.... make me and my home feel safe, content and happy. My life, my ways, etc.. are not for everyone. To each, their own.
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Post by bklyngal62 on May 22, 2024 18:58:42 GMT
We're creatures of habit here. gar while I was reading your post it made me laugh because your routine almost sounds like ours.
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Post by anaterra on May 22, 2024 21:16:14 GMT
We are not so much... we work a rotation and dh runs every other night... so i come home n will walk on the treadmill or craft or just watch tv... whatever i feel like in the evening... i usually go shower n lay down before he even gets home....
I do spend my 1st day off with my phone on silent n try to stay off all social media... including here....
It is the day i catch on the house... do laundry rest rooms living room kitchen... i do all this while listening to a book...its only me n dh so its never super bad...
When the house is done i bing everything i recorded while i was at work n hadnt watched...
Then the next 3 days are free for all... we live rural so 1 of the days off we go into town to do errands and go out to eat
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Post by Tearisci on May 22, 2024 21:20:12 GMT
Oh I am a 100% creature of habit, especially in the morning.
My dog wakes me up anywhere from 7-7:30 and I -
-make coffee -scroll through FB memories -scroll through regular FB -Play Wordle -Watch the first 20 minutes of the Today show -Take a shower or get dressed -Pea until it's time to start work at 9.
My evenings usually revolve around Bravo or my other shows. I'm an Introvert and am pretty much left to my own devices most all week. Weekends are a bit more social but my morning routine stays the same daily.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on May 22, 2024 23:36:09 GMT
i am absolutely a creature of habit. i find a sense of order in it. We definitely have routines together and I have my own routines about things on my own as well. I'm fine with them being disrupted by company, travel, illness. or whatever but I really do find comfort in them when we can adhere to them. I think this is especially true for our "couple routines" as they seem to reflect our closeness.
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Post by peabay on May 22, 2024 23:42:55 GMT
very, very, very much so. I like things that feel comfortable and habits are comfortable.
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Post by AussieMeg on May 22, 2024 23:52:19 GMT
Hahaha gar that sounds so...... fuddy duddy.... and dull..... and honestly? Simply perfect!! We've never really had our own place on the couch. With our previous couch, whoever got there first would get the chaise lounge part. That couch is now outside under the pergola, and I always sit on the chaise lounge bit. Our new couch also has a chaise lounge bit, and every other chair is a recliner. SO BLOODY GOOD! So it doesn't matter where we sit. Although I do have a favourite spot, that is the perfect angle for the TV. If DSO is in that spot, I just wait until he goes to bed and reclaim it. I am a night owl, and DSO is an early riser. We rarely go to bed at the same time. He goes to bed between 8:30 - 9:30pm, but I stay up until about midnight. That's my "me time", when I can watch what *I* want to watch on TV.
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Post by Merge on May 23, 2024 1:57:40 GMT
Not really? Other than having "my" spot on the sofa and "his" chair. Our day to day is too varied to have much routine in it.
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Post by peasapie on May 23, 2024 22:47:14 GMT
Kind of. Although I will say my husband used to always sit on the same side of the couch and I have recently moved in and taken over, to which he has duly noted he's lost his place.
My husband usually reserves the 7 pm time slot for Jeopardy and Wheel of Fortune, even though half of that time he's walking the dog and brushing/flossing/water pic his teeth and YES -- that means we are definitely COH!!(I'm less so than he is) I think it's like an organizing principle and makes us feel secure to know what to expect. Come to think of it, that applies to our dogs as well.
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Post by wordyphotogbabe on May 24, 2024 2:10:44 GMT
I sit in my late grandfather's leather chair. No one else is allowed to sit in it although DH does on occasion. I sit in the same seat at the dining room table (even though it's now a different table) at my parents' house that I have my entire life. We have "assigned" seats at our dining room table, too. I park in the same aisle at every grocery store I go to and sit in the same section of church every week. DH and I have a nighttime routine where he falls asleep on the couch until I head to bed and then I take my medicine, wake him up, go to the bathroom, change, and watch TikToks while he puts the dogs in their crates, goes to the bathroom, turns his audiobook on, takes a drink or two, and then gets into bed. Once he's in bed, I lay on my side so he can big spoon me with both arms wrapped around until one of us rolls over in 10-15 minutes when we fall asleep. We have no less than 12 different Christmas traditions/events that we do every single year. So yes, I'd say that I'm a creature of habit.
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Post by whipea on May 24, 2024 12:29:19 GMT
Yes. I have limited time outside work and have to maintain a routine to accomplish things at home and still have some free time. I work from about 9:00/9:30AM - 7/7:30PM, Monday through Thursday, then Friday is shorter, try to leave work by 1PM. Fridays I grocery shop and do other errands. I clean the house on Saturday and Sunday Mornings. This routine provides free time in the afternoons and evenings.
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