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Post by sunnyd on May 26, 2024 6:45:36 GMT
My sibling & I are planning a dinner at a restaurant for dad's 80th birthday. We are inviting extended family, around 30 people. Sibling & I will split the bill for everyone. Should we state on the invite that dinner is on us? If so, how do we say that? A couple of people will be more inclined to attend if they know we are paying. I think it's to be expected that we would pay but should we spell it out on the invite? TIA!
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Post by katlady on May 26, 2024 7:42:10 GMT
I would think that if you say you are “Hosting” a party it is assumed that you (the host) are paying for everything. We’ve been to parties held at restaurants before and unless it is stated otherwise, we assume the host is paying. Happy Birthday to your dad!
ETA - Are you paying for alcohol too? If not, you may want to say “No host bar” on the invite.
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Post by gillyp on May 26, 2024 11:30:53 GMT
We would love you to be our guest at . . . . . .
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Post by lisae on May 26, 2024 11:35:10 GMT
Many of these types of dinners at restaurants that I have attended have not been paid for by the hosts. Dessert was provided but we paid for our own meal. So I do think you need a way to communicate it. I had an aunt who always gathered the family for dinner that she paid for when she would come in for a visit. Word got around and she just announced it before we ordered that the meal was on her and to enjoy.
Is alcohol involved? Are you paying for drinks also?
And it is very nice for you and your sibling to do this for your dad!
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Post by Rhondito on May 26, 2024 14:47:15 GMT
I would put a small note at the bottom "Dinner and cake/dessert provided" or dinner and drinks - whatever you and your sister are covering.
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Post by quiltz on May 26, 2024 14:49:10 GMT
Please join us, as our guest, to honor the birthday of John Smith.
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Post by peabay on May 26, 2024 14:57:33 GMT
I really like the previous suggestions, but I also agree to make it clear if it's an open bar or not.
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Post by KikiPea on May 26, 2024 16:11:07 GMT
I understand why some would think it should be paid for, but we had a party of 12 last night for my husband, and every couple refused to let us pay, brought extras for fun, and even brought gifts (which were NOT expected. I didn’t even mention them.)
So, not everyone believes things should be covered by the hosts.
If you ARE covering the cost, I would definitely provide that information to the guests.
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Post by lurker on May 26, 2024 22:04:04 GMT
DH and I did the same for my Mom's 80th several years ago. The invitations read please be our guest at a birthday celebration.
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Post by AllieC on May 26, 2024 22:57:05 GMT
I think you do need to be clear, even saying you are hosting (for me) doesn’t spell it out. I would saying something like “dinner and beer/wine provided” or similar.
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Post by kenziekeeper on May 26, 2024 23:03:47 GMT
I think you do need to be clear, even saying you are hosting (for me) doesn’t spell it out. I would saying something like “dinner and beer/wine provided” or similar. I agree with this, I don’t think “be our guest” is going to send a clear message, especially if you think it would make or break someone attending - they’re just going to wonder. I would do “dinner and drinks provided” at the bottom or something along those lines. |
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Post by snyder on May 26, 2024 23:21:51 GMT
My sibling & I are planning a dinner at a restaurant for dad's 80th birthday. We are inviting extended family, around 30 people. Sibling & I will split the bill for everyone. Should we state on the invite that dinner is on us? If so, how do we say that? A couple of people will be more inclined to attend if they know we are paying. I think it's to be expected that we would pay but should we spell it out on the invite? TIA! I do a lot of online invites for family gatherings that are not really my "party", so like I'm the 3rd party involed.
As an example, for Mother's Day, we got together, but my sister insisted on paying for all the food. For Easter, my brother and sister paid for all the food.
I would include in the invites, A "Big Thank You" to Jackie and Kurt for providing this Easter meal for us to enjoy.
But, if you are sending the invites out yourself, that would be a bit awkward. I like the other's suggestions of being clear though and indicating the meal and X will be provided.
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Post by samantha25 on May 27, 2024 0:39:26 GMT
Yes, say be our guest and depending on the crowd say food and booze provided or depending on the venue, sometimes two drinks/person, so say drinks up to two provided. Being transparent is good and doesn't mean rudeness.
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Post by lucyg on May 27, 2024 0:48:32 GMT
I would say “hosted by XXX” and expect people to understand that means we are paying for the meal. That’s what we said for my niece’s baby shower invitations recently (held at a tea room), hosted by my sisters and me, and no one expected to pay their own way.
On the other hand, you never know what other people mean exactly by their wording choices, so if I receive a similar invitation, I am always prepared to pay my own way if need be.
If you have people who won’t show up if they need to pay for themselves, I would contact them separately and make sure they understand you are hosting the event.
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Post by Miss Ang on May 27, 2024 10:56:03 GMT
Dinner and drinks provided
Or if it's a cash bar, Dinner provided - Cash bar available
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