Just T
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Post by Just T on May 29, 2024 13:13:56 GMT
Someone reached out to me on IG to let me know some peas were wondering about me. Thank you so much, and I’m sorry I’ve been out of touch after my last post. Not only have I had a really busy couple of months, but things are not going great with my divorce. Our trial date is coming up at the end of July, and he is not going down without a fight.
Again, I hesitate to give too many details, but I will say this. He was scheduled for a deposition, but it seems as if his attorney didn’t want him to give that as he is a pathological liar, and my attorney told me a couple of months ago that the deposition would not go well for him. A week before the scheduled deposition, he and his attorney sent me a settlement offer that is the biggest bunch of BS I’ve seen yet. Seriously, a ridiculously low ball offer that is honestly insulting considering the amount of money he has and is still spending every month on his fun trips. Of course, I turned it down.
So he had to go through with the deposition, which as my attorney predicted, did not go well for him. At all. I was out of town at a conference, and she ended up telling me afterward that she is worried for my safety and that I should find somewhere else to stay. When I got home from the conference, I ended up staying at my daughter’s house last week while she and her husband were on vacation. I also have a couple of friends who have told me I can stay with them whenever I need to.
My attorney told me a long time ago that she thought his deposition would be the turning point, that after that, she thought his attorney would encourage him to come to a settlement to avoid going to trial. I asked her if she thought they would offer something else, she said no, he seems determined to take it to the bitter end. I was so hoping it wouldn’t have to go to a trial. The thought of it makes me ill, and I just want it all to be over. However, I am not willing to cave into what he offered, so if it takes a trial, so be it.
That’s it in a nutshell. Thanks for thinking of me.
I can’t wait until it’s all over and I can really give you all the disgusting details of what I have been dealing with for the last 3 years.
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Post by christine58 on May 29, 2024 13:20:15 GMT
Please be safe. It sounds like he’s a real creep and I’m glad you posted because I think a lot of us were worried about your safety. After the comment you made about him having a gun. Make sure somebody knows where you are at all times. Maybe share your location at all times on your phone with someone
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Post by compeateropeator on May 29, 2024 13:25:39 GMT
Although words do not help, I want to express how sorry I am that you are having to endure so much. I am really not a revengeful person but every time I read your post I just so want there to be/hear that there was justice served and karma experienced. Sending good thoughts to you.
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Post by gramasue on May 29, 2024 13:26:30 GMT
Yes, we were a bit worried about you! Thanks for checking in. Take care!
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Post by KelleeM on May 29, 2024 13:27:39 GMT
Hugs. I can’t even imagine.
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Post by crazy4scraps on May 29, 2024 13:33:06 GMT
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Post by mikklynn on May 29, 2024 13:49:06 GMT
I'm so sorry. I am really, really happy you have a great attorney. I pray this will be over soon.
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Post by workingclassdog on May 29, 2024 13:57:12 GMT
Stay safe!! Sounds like a real douche bag. Sorry you have to go through all of this! You and Freecharlie should meet for drinks one day and swap stories when you guys are ready!
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Post by mom on May 29, 2024 13:58:10 GMT
Stay safe and keep your head up! One day you will look back and be so proud of yourself for making thru this hell.
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lisaknits
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Post by lisaknits on May 29, 2024 14:02:21 GMT
Hugs to you and please take every precaution to stay safe. The peas stand with you!
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Tearisci
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Post by Tearisci on May 29, 2024 14:04:22 GMT
Ugh I'm so sorry to read this. I was hoping you'd avoid going to trial but it seems like the only way you'll get your fair share. I hope it all goes smoothly for you in a few months and then you can put it in your rearview mirror.
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naby64
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Post by naby64 on May 29, 2024 14:07:49 GMT
Hugs to you and please stay alert!
That statement makes me so angry! Why should we even have to stay alert? Why are men(some men) such teeny weeny d**ks?
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Post by ~summer~ on May 29, 2024 14:20:22 GMT
Sorry to hear this - hoping it is over for you soon.
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Post by lucyg on May 29, 2024 14:36:39 GMT
Wishing you well, and a quick end to his legal nonsense. Stay safe!!
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Post by cakediva on May 29, 2024 14:44:52 GMT
I’m so sorry this keeps dragging on for you.
Stay safe!!
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Post by quinlove on May 29, 2024 14:46:44 GMT
((( JustT ))) Sending love to you. ❤️
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Post by lisae on May 29, 2024 14:47:34 GMT
I'm so sorry you have to deal with all this. Stay safe.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on May 29, 2024 14:58:57 GMT
Sorry you're in this situation. Please, please be careful. Your safety is a priority.
HUGS!!
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Post by scrapmaven on May 29, 2024 15:12:24 GMT
You're a strong lady and if he is stupid enough to go to trial then kick ass and take names. Be safe and thank you for checking in w/us.
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Post by flanz on May 29, 2024 15:17:39 GMT
Oh, I'm so very sorry to hear that you are still dealing with such a horrific situation. I've never really heard of a divorce taking anywhere near this long. I am sending you my very best wishes for your safety and a fair resolution. We care! Please stay safe.
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Post by withapea on May 29, 2024 15:18:01 GMT
I’m so glad you checked in. I can’t wait until this is all over for you. Please take care of yourself.
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Post by quinmm14 on May 29, 2024 15:32:45 GMT
I'm glad to see you checking in. Hang in there, it sounds trite to say that even to my ears.
Wishing you the best outcome possible.
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Post by ntsf on May 29, 2024 16:39:01 GMT
hugs and more hugs.. how terrible!!!
hope things get better.
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Post by Lurkingpea on May 29, 2024 16:59:09 GMT
I am so sorry. Thank you for checking in and thank you to the pea who reached out.
I am sorry he is being an ass and I know you don't want to go to trial but obviously that will result in the best outcome for you.
I am sorry you can't be in your home. Does your lawyer think a restraining order would be beneficial? Maybe then he would have to find a place to stay and wouldn't he have to relinquish the firearm?
Please check in when you can. I know I have posted before that I always worry and wonder about the pea who got married very abruptly when none of her family liked the fellow and as soon as she did she stopped posting. Even though we don't really know each other I worry about the peas and I want you to be safe.
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Post by Darcy Collins on May 29, 2024 17:06:35 GMT
Damn I'm sorry - I still remember an article I read from a divorce attorney that talked about their biggest frustration being women just wanted it to be done and agreed to egregious terms. Hang in there!
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Post by Deleted on May 29, 2024 17:09:22 GMT
I'm so sorry. I do hope the legal system comes through for you and soon!
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Ryann
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Post by Ryann on May 29, 2024 17:13:57 GMT
I'm glad you are fighting to get what you deserve and not accepting his low ball offers. Eff that guy!
Have you already taken him off as your beneficiary for things (insurance, bank accounts, 401k, IRA, etc.)?
Please take care of yourself. Hugs and strength to you!
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Post by Lexica on May 29, 2024 17:38:12 GMT
I am happy that you posted to let us know that you are relatively ok. Don’t fear the trial. Your soon-to-be ex cannot get away with any of his bull in a courtroom. Remember, your judge has presided over countless divorces and can probably spot any lies being told. Your attorney will undoubtedly have documented proof of his financials. I am assuming you are just asking for a fair split of assets, which should be simple for the judge to grant once proof of income and assets are presented. It is all rather cut and dried unless there are unusual circumstances like a child custody issue.
My divorce dragged out for 5 years of my ex cancelling depositions and “ misplacing” critical paperwork and trying to hide things in his girlfriend’s name. I knew he was trying to drag out the process in the hopes that I would change my mind and let him return home. Once the judge granted the bifurcation of issues and formally ending the marriage, my ex finally came to the table and we settled the distribution of assets and child custody within two months. He just had to accept that the marriage was over and the rest was just paperwork. All I was asking for was a split of assets gained during the marriage, physical custody of our son, standard visitation, and child support which was determined by a standard percentage of his provable income. Really, we should have been divorced within a few months of my filing because I just wanted what was fairly mine and to end the marriage. Nothing unusual at all. And once the attorneys were able to make my ex understand that he was not moving back home, everything was hashed out in the cafeteria with us sitting at separate tables. Then the agreed upon terms were taken before a judge and that was it. It was all over.
I hope your ex is able to see that any lying or trying to avoid a fair split is not helping and that you just want what you are legally entitled to and to get on with your life. Of course, I am assuming that there is no major item in dispute to argue over.
Please come back and let us know how it is going and that you are doing well.
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Post by lurker on May 29, 2024 17:40:00 GMT
Sad this has dragged on so long - kudos to you for staying the course.
Take care, stay safe.
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TXMary
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Post by TXMary on May 29, 2024 17:41:46 GMT
I'm so sorry. I know it's hard but good for you for not giving in. Keep fighting for what's yours! Please stay safe.
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