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Post by crazy4scraps on Jun 10, 2024 13:38:38 GMT
Usually out. If I am having lunch with friends or whatnot, I'll have it out and face down. Will check it here and there in-between discussions. Nothing usually that will come in-between our conversations. I haven't been in the dating world since the olden days. I would assume I would do the same, have it nearby and check when possible. In-between conversations or during a bathroom 'break' type thing. When I am at our game night with friends on Saturday evenings, I'll have it near me and basically check it the same way, in-between things. I have a husband who travels most of the time so I like to be sure to keep it around so in case there is an emergency, plus three kids. They usually don't call if I am busy though, unless needed. Edited to add: While at a doc's office I am usually playing a game while waiting or reading 2peas. Some of the comments are that you use your Apple Watch and keep your phone in your purse. To me there isn't a difference, you are still checking texts or whatnot, so what is the difference if your phone is next to your or you are looking at your watch? Not causing a fight cause I have my phone next to me, so... This is where I am too. I have an Apple Watch now myself and as I was driving the other day and getting various notifications on it, I was thinking, “How is this any different from looking away from the road at your phone? (I wasn’t looking at it, mind you, just thinking how someone *could* and how it would be just as much of a distraction.) When I’m driving if I hear a ding, I usually just ask Siri to read my text only to have her ramble on about yet another political poll or something some rando texted me about that I’ll have to delete later. |
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RedSquirrelUK
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Jun 10, 2024 13:48:07 GMT
DH and I have been together for 30 years. On the rare occasion that we're out on a date, our conversation will start something like "I haven't heard this song in years - who sang it?" and out will come the phones to look it up. Then one of us won't be able to connect to the Wi-Fi so there will be a discussion about how to do it, and why it doesn't work AGAIN and whether it's time to get a better phone. Once we've identified the singer, the phones will stay out while we compare and share photos, and sync To Do lists and diaries. Then we'll use them to take photos of each other with the food, to record that we actually went out together.
You get the idea. We're using the phones, but together, not separately.
We were doing this last weekend over lunch with my mum and brother in an otherwise completely empty pub restaurant. The menu was quite poncy, and we were looking up what various French words meant, and showing each other food pictures. Mum kept telling us all off for leaving our phones out on the table "in case they get stolen". We said "who's going to steal them? The waiter?"
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iowgirl
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Post by iowgirl on Jun 10, 2024 14:07:26 GMT
The question is when you go out does your phone stay in your purse until you need it for something. My phone IS my purse. I very seldom carry a purse anymore. I have a phone case that holds my ID and cards. I either pay with my card or from an app. I do keep a $100 and a couple $20's in it too. I keep in my pants pocket. Curses to those pants that have tiny pockets, because I have a BIG phone. So when I sit down, I usually pull my phone out for comfort and place it face down on the table. But I'll just tell you that I was in the farmers market a couple of months ago and an older lady said to me, you kids can't put your phone down to even shop! I turned it around and showed her my grocery list. That's what I was looking at. I also keep my grocery list on my phone! I also use the Scan N Go app at Walmart or Sams, so I am always using it to scan groceries, that I then place in totes in my cart. When DH & I eat out (just the two of us) - which isn't very often - we are on our phones. I am generally bringing up photos the kids send to me on SnapChat to show him. And he is constantly getting texts. Lordy - who knew farmers had so many friends.. lol ... 90% of the time it is texts about feed/seed/fert or calves to buy. Many days I don't get a single text, but I get a lot of Snaps! He doens't even have the SnapChat app - or any other messaging app other than Text. |
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Post by disneypal on Jun 10, 2024 14:12:03 GMT
Generally, in my pocket. Sometimes my purse (on the rare occasion I am wearing something without pockets)
I never place it on the table, either face up or face down
1) I think it’s kind of rude because in my opinion, it’s telling the person you are with that you’ll interrupt your conversation to check your phone
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2) I am afraid I would forget it and leave it behind
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The Great Carpezio
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Post by The Great Carpezio on Jun 10, 2024 14:17:21 GMT
I usually have it in my purse, and I try to keep it there, but if it is out at say a restaurant, it is face down--not because I am afraid of what will pop up, but because I think it is rude to keep looking at my phone and it is tempting when face-up.
Granted, I am not a 20-something in the dating scene hooking up with guys, but I would like to think that I would be the same general person I am and have been and I wouldn't be looking to hook up with a bunch of people at one time and/or spend time on my phone while on a date with someone I have feelings for/having an emerging romance with.
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Post by mollycoddle on Jun 10, 2024 14:39:10 GMT
Well, ever since I forgot my phone and my car battery died, it is in my purse. i always seem to have to learn things the hard way. ☺️
I don’t take my phone out of my purse unless I am waiting in a long line and get bored.
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River
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Post by River on Jun 10, 2024 14:41:27 GMT
That guy sounds like a controlling ss ! He sounds like he's a jealous nut that wants to know what's happening on his date's phone. I've been dating some lately so I'm looking at this from his stance of being on a date. I don't carry a purse, so I have a case that holds what I need. While on a date, if we are in a booth, phone is beside me on the bench face down. If we are at a regular table, the phone is on the table face down because I have nowhere else to put it. It's face down because 2 reasons... I don't want the distraction of a notification popping up and the most important...my phone, my business! |
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Post by smartypants71 on Jun 10, 2024 14:45:01 GMT
My phone is wherever I want it to be. The guy in the video is weird.
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Post by padresfan619 on Jun 10, 2024 15:47:37 GMT
When I’m out and about walking around it’s either in my pocket or my crossbody bag if I’m not toting my kid with me.If I’m at a restaurant sitting down I keep it in my bag, I carry a backpack 99% of the time with snacks and toys for my preschool kid so it’s easy to put in there but a pain to access if I’m walking around.
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Post by workingclassdog on Jun 10, 2024 15:50:18 GMT
In this day and age, I don't think it is rude to have your phone next to you to randomly check any text/calls coming in. There is so much going on in people's life. Whatever the instances would be. BUT it is rude, to be looking at your phone every few seconds/minutes while talking to another person. But if there are moments of downtime taking a quick peek to see if there is something there, why is it rude? I wouldn't care if the other person is doing that.
Oh I do think it is very rude to be checking your phone at the movies/theater with tons of people close to you. I always have my light as low as possible (ringer off of course) and under a cover if I have to check. I usually don't but in the rare instances if I know my kid was looking for me or didn't know where I was at, I could send a quick 'at movies' back to them under the cover.
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JustTricia
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Post by JustTricia on Jun 10, 2024 20:59:47 GMT
Inside pocket in my purse. Just my personal opinion... I think it's rude and inconsiderate, to be eating (out or at home) and constantly be looking at your phone. I especially dislike when people are on their phone, during the entire meal. I am not one, who needs to look at my phone constantly. I wondered what people thought sometimes when my son and I were out to eat when he was high school aged. Generally we weren’t on our phones much when we were at a restaurant. But sometimes a meal was our downtime ~ we had already spent an entire day together doing something or a trip somewhere just the two of us and we were on our way home. If we had done something like that chances are we talked the whole drive or the whole time we were doing whatever we were doing. We both need our time to recharge and sometimes those meals were that recharge time. Like I said sometimes I wondered what people thought of us sharing a meal and staring at our phones without speaking. Then I would remember that I have a great relationship with my son and other people’s opinions of how we spent our time didn’t matter to me. |
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