Just T
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Post by Just T on Jun 14, 2024 19:06:59 GMT
HI Pea friends,
It's been a hard week, yet again. We had a pretrial hearing on Monday, and while some good came from it, I've been so down. Basically, for very good reasons, my trial that was supposed to be on July 17 has now been postponed until October. I know the reasons are valid and in the long run, those reasons will hopefully help me immensely, but in the meantime...UGH I have been barely hanging on, but knowing that in a few weeks this will be over has been keeping me going.
I don't know how I can keep this up until October. I am going to have to stay with a friend or two until it is over because the reasons my attorney is delaying it is going to royally piss off and infuriate my stbx. His attorney is going to find out on Monday, and when she tells him, I want to be nowhere near here. The one thing I am holding onto is that after he finds this out, I am hoping that he will be more willing to make a settlement offer that is way better than the shitty one he already offered. I am pretty sure he is absolutely NOT going to want this to go to trial. But he thinks he is so much smarter than the rest of us, so who the heck knows.
I could use some good thoughts, though. I am just about at the end of my rope and don't know how much longer I can keep up.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Jun 14, 2024 19:09:23 GMT
Sending good thoughts your way.
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Post by MichyM on Jun 14, 2024 19:10:17 GMT
UGH, I am so sorry that this is dragging on BUT, I'm glad the reasoning benefits you. Please be extra careful and sending you all my best!
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Post by workingclassdog on Jun 14, 2024 19:19:01 GMT
Hang in there!!! It will be worth it at the end.. just keep going to that finish line!
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Jun 14, 2024 19:28:28 GMT
Just T So sorry for the wait!! It is so hard on you. Just a comment. If you have not already removed valuables: jewelry, papers, pictures, memorable items/heirlooms, do so this weekend!!! HUGS.....
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Post by Linda on Jun 14, 2024 19:36:58 GMT
(((Hugs))) and prayers
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Tearisci
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Post by Tearisci on Jun 14, 2024 19:42:44 GMT
Big hugs and good thoughts. it sounds like the delay is for the best but I understand how long protracted delays can be so hard.
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mich5481
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Post by mich5481 on Jun 14, 2024 19:55:55 GMT
Praying for your safety. As another pea posted, make sure you have anything irreplaceable or valuable out of the house this weekend.
Also, make sure he has no way to track your location.
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peabay
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Post by peabay on Jun 14, 2024 20:02:45 GMT
Sending my best! Sounds like you have an awesome lawyer!!!
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Post by kkrenn on Jun 14, 2024 20:03:01 GMT
Hugs and love! YOU CAN DO THIS! I know it seems like it will never end but it will and you have to hold on to the fact that once it's over YOU will be so much better off without the dead weight. I understand not being able to see through the thick fog you're in, I've been there, the fog will clear and the sky will be so much bluer when it does.
You are strong enough
You are brave enough
You are smart enough
YOU are enough
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Post by 950nancy on Jun 14, 2024 20:05:25 GMT
Whatever your attorney has on him, I hope it sticks. Good luck. It is 90 days. Ninety long days, but in the scheme of things, it it helps your case 90 is doable!
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scrappert
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Jul 11, 2014 21:20:09 GMT
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Post by scrappert on Jun 14, 2024 20:18:30 GMT
It was so close and now more waiting. That really sucks for sure. You CAN do it, hang in there.
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Post by Lexica on Jun 14, 2024 20:29:38 GMT
Is there a concern that your life could be in danger here? I mean, living in the same house with an angry soon-to-be ex husband is certainly not enjoyable, but it is typically just very stressful, not really dangerous. If you think your husband is capable of doing you harm, I would strongly advise you to stay with a friend or family member until the trial date in October. And certainly speak to your attorney first so that they can advise you on whether leaving the shared home will damage your position in the divorce settlement. Hopefully you have already removed anything sentimental from the home and have documented all shared property that has to stay there. If you think for a second that this delay in the trial date is going to infuriate your husband and cause him to lose control, please get out of there if at all possible. Leaving for two weeks will give you a bit of a break, but will it be safe to return? You know him best.
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Post by malibou on Jun 14, 2024 20:37:35 GMT
Damn. Not what I was hoping to hear, but it does sound like your atty has a good plan to put the screws to the asshat.
Stay safe!
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Post by pmm on Jun 14, 2024 20:43:00 GMT
I'm so sorry you are going through this. Big hugs Pea friend.
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pantsonfire
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Post by pantsonfire on Jun 14, 2024 20:51:43 GMT
Lots of positive Carebear stares coming your way.
Do you have a code word friends and family know that you can quickly text or say if you feel you are in danger? Might be worth looking into so they know it is an immediate issue
And try to check in here for ys peas so we know you are safe.
❤️
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The Birdhouse Lady
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Jun 30, 2014 17:15:19 GMT
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Jun 14, 2024 21:03:27 GMT
My heart really goes out to you! Keeping you in my thoughts.
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Post by flanz on Jun 14, 2024 21:41:32 GMT
Sending you love and hoping you will do all you can do to stay safe!
(((( hugs ))))
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TankTop
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Post by TankTop on Jun 14, 2024 21:44:41 GMT
I am so sorry. Please be safe.
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Post by ntsf on Jun 14, 2024 21:46:46 GMT
hugs and more hugs.. stay safe!!
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Post by airforcemomof1 on Jun 14, 2024 22:29:43 GMT
I am so sorry this nightmare will continue longer than you expected. Oh but the relief you will feel when it is actually over! Continuing to pray for you.
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snyder
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Post by snyder on Jun 14, 2024 22:40:47 GMT
Gosh darn! I know when my brother got divorced from a woman he had only been married to for 3 years, she drug it out for 3 fricking years. It really wore him down mentally and physically. I really hope he gives in and will say a prayer for you that he wakes up! {{{Hugs}}}
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Post by KelleeM on Jun 14, 2024 22:43:19 GMT
Ugh. I’m really sorry. Please keep yourself safe.
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Post by lisae on Jun 14, 2024 22:59:59 GMT
I hope you get a good settlement offer and don't have to wait until October.
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Post by karenlou on Jun 14, 2024 23:03:37 GMT
Love and Hugs...BE SAFE!!!!!
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naby64
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Post by naby64 on Jun 14, 2024 23:23:54 GMT
Oh no! Big warm hugs for you.
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Post by mellyw on Jun 15, 2024 0:45:12 GMT
I’m so sorry the trial has been push backed. Please, please be careful, your post has me very worried for your well being
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hutchfan
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Post by hutchfan on Jun 15, 2024 1:09:58 GMT
Sending hugs and wish that you weren't going through this, be safe.
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Post by juanita on Jun 15, 2024 1:40:53 GMT
Hugs and stay safe
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janeinbama
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Post by janeinbama on Jun 15, 2024 1:54:20 GMT
You have done nothing wrong and still getting ALL the crap. Hope times passes fast and you can stay with friends. Praying for you❤️
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