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Post by callmenutz on Jun 15, 2024 3:04:50 GMT
Prayers for your safety and your sanity! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
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Post by KikiPea on Jun 15, 2024 3:18:51 GMT
I’m so sorry. Lifting you in prayer, and hoping the delay is really beneficial to you. Big hugs!
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Post by quietgirl on Jun 15, 2024 4:29:34 GMT
Thinking of you, wishing you all the good thoughts. Im glad that the delay benefits you, though. I know its hard to wait, and you've been thru so much as it is. It sucks. But I'm relieved it'll help you.
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Post by hop2 on Jun 15, 2024 10:29:52 GMT
You’ve got this!
I’m sorry you’re going to have to wait. Having it done will be a release from tension. Although don’t let your guard down
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Post by AussieMeg on Jun 15, 2024 12:18:20 GMT
Oh no! It really feels like it's dragging on to me, I can only imagine how much worse and longer it feels for you! I know you can't go into details, but this sounds very positive for you, even though the extra time is going to be so difficult to handle.
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Post by mikklynn on Jun 15, 2024 13:51:25 GMT
Oh, honey. I am so sorry this is continuing to drag on. You are being so smart, listening to your attorney and your intuition.
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Post by Rhondito on Jun 15, 2024 14:11:19 GMT
Hang in there - your time is coming!
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Post by Bridget in MD on Jun 15, 2024 18:49:14 GMT
I was looking forward to July for your sake. I hope the delay only means awesome things for you!
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Post by Just T on Jun 16, 2024 16:31:20 GMT
First of all, thank you all sooooo much for always saying such encouraging things. I appreciate all of you! I can't wait until the day when I can really tell you all of the crap that he has done and what I have been dealing with. It's really like an episode of Dateline in the making. LOL I couldn't make this shit up. Just a comment. If you have not already removed valuables: jewelry, papers, pictures, memorable items/heirlooms, do so this weekend!! I don't have much of value, but yes, I do have a few things away from my house.  Also, make sure he has no way to track your location. I have no idea about that. How would I find out if he does?? We've never had that locator app on our phones. Can he have done that without my approval?? Sounds like you have an awesome lawyer!!! I am not always happy with her communication, but she is definitely someone he will end up wishing he wouldn't have messed with. At least I hope so! Whatever your attorney has on him, I hope it sticks. Me too! I honestly don't see why it wouldn't as we have concrete proof of almost everything. but it does sound like your atty has a good plan to put the screws to the asshat. She does! We were texting on Friday, and his attorney will find out tomorrow what she is doing next. So tomorrow could be a turning point (a good one, hopefully!) to them encouraging him to come up with a settlement I can accept. Do you have a code word friends and family know that you can quickly text or say if you feel you are in danger? Yes, I do! I have a good friend who also just went through a divorce who doesn't live very far away, and that was her idea to have a code to text her if I need to. Although, a lot of time from now on, I will probably be staying with her. Please, please be careful, your post has me very worried for your well being Thank you. I really am being careful. I have two friends who say I can stay with them however long I need to. They both have finished basements with a bedroom and a bathroom, so I can not necessarily have to feel like a "guest." It sucks that I have to do it, but I will. The other alternative was to stay with my mom, but she is 90 minutes away, so the commute to work would suck. (Right now, my commute is about 6 minutes). But again, I don't have a great relationship with her, and living with her would be sooooooo bad for my mental health. I'm just glad I don't have to. |
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Post by Just T on Jun 16, 2024 16:35:49 GMT
Is there a concern that your life could be in danger here? I mean, living in the same house with an angry soon-to-be ex husband is certainly not enjoyable, but it is typically just very stressful, not really dangerous. If you think your husband is capable of doing you harm, I would strongly advise you to stay with a friend or family member until the trial date in October. And certainly speak to your attorney first so that they can advise you on whether leaving the shared home will damage your position in the divorce settlement. Hopefully you have already removed anything sentimental from the home and have documented all shared property that has to stay there. If you think for a second that this delay in the trial date is going to infuriate your husband and cause him to lose control, please get out of there if at all possible. Leaving for two weeks will give you a bit of a break, but will it be safe to return? You know him best. My lawyer told me about 4 weeks ago that she is concerned for my safety. Since then, I have only spent one night alone with him in the house. He was out of town for 2 weeks so that helped. Then this week, I had 3 house guests. I am going to a friend's after work tomorrow and will stay there all week until he leaves again. I would never ever have thought he was capable of doing me harm. He has rarely even yelled at me over the 40 years we have been together. But as my attorney says, the walls are closing in on him and his double life, and she is worried. I already talked to her about leaving the house, and she said not to worry about that. Also, he is gone for weeks, sometimes more than a month at a time, so it would be hard for him to say I am the one who left. |
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Post by christine58 on Jun 16, 2024 16:45:31 GMT
Since then, I have only spent one night alone with him in the house. He was out of town for 2 weeks so that helped. WAIT.He's still in the house?? Do not stay there anytime he is there. Go stay with a girlfriend until this is over BUT make sure leaving there doesn't cause anything to change as far as the divorce. |
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Post by Just T on Jun 16, 2024 16:51:34 GMT
Since then, I have only spent one night alone with him in the house. He was out of town for 2 weeks so that helped. WAIT.He's still in the house?? Do not stay there anytime he is there. Go stay with a girlfriend until this is over BUT make sure leaving there doesn't cause anything to change as far as the divorce. Oh yes indeed, he is still in the house. He won't leave. He's never threatened me or been violent or anything else. We don't even speak to each other. But yes, he is in the house. He is gone a lot thankfully. After tomorrow, I will most definitely NOT stay in the house if he is here. I have a good plan in place to stay at two different friends' houses. I am spending part of today packing up some things so that after tomorrow, when he finds out what my attorney is doing next, I will not come home. The friend I am staying with is out of town, but she left me a key so I can go to her house tomorrow. |
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Post by seaexplore on Jun 16, 2024 19:57:32 GMT
WAIT.He's still in the house?? Do not stay there anytime he is there. Go stay with a girlfriend until this is over BUT make sure leaving there doesn't cause anything to change as far as the divorce. Oh yes indeed, he is still in the house. He won't leave. He's never threatened me or been violent or anything else. We don't even speak to each other. But yes, he is in the house. He is gone a lot thankfully. After tomorrow, I will most definitely NOT stay in the house if he is here. I have a good plan in place to stay at two different friends' houses. I am spending part of today packing up some things so that after tomorrow, when he finds out what my attorney is doing next, I will not come home. The friend I am staying with is out of town, but she left me a key so I can go to her house tomorrow. Also please be aware when out and about. I just have a gut feeling here. |
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