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Post by lavawalker1 on Jun 15, 2024 21:17:06 GMT
I’m no good at knowing what to say. A close friend lost her sister a few months back, and today is her sisters birthday. She’s having a rough time. Can you help me with what to say? It’s on her FB page. Thx so much.
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Post by christine58 on Jun 15, 2024 21:28:06 GMT
Just let her know you’re thinking of her today on what is probably a very difficult day. That’s all you have to say. Sometimes I might suggest that they do something fun in that person’s honor.
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Post by quietgirl on Jun 15, 2024 21:30:35 GMT
Something along the lines of I'm thinking of you. My best friend lost her daughter4 years ago. I text her on important dates, just saying I love you and I'm thinking of you. She lives close by, we see each other at least once a week and more often then not, more then that. But I know her well, and I find a text with those simple lines conveys my concern and my thoughts.
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Post by Zee on Jun 15, 2024 21:34:52 GMT
"thinking of you 🙏❤️"
I think that works for most anyone, to let them know you're thinking of them and sending good thoughts. Unless they're violently anti-religious, they will accept it in the way you meant it, though you can choose to leave off the pray hands.
I think the hands are a nice gesture and not so much religious as, "I'm thinking of you and hoping for the best for you". But someone will always be offended about something, so, know your audience.
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Post by grammadee on Jun 16, 2024 4:02:27 GMT
His first birthday after my brother passed away, many years ago, his wife invited family to come over for supper and share stories about him. The grandkids sent up messages in balloons. We laughed and cried, and I think, healed a little bit.
What to say? "Thinking of you". Or ask "How are you doing?" and listen to the answer. Or share a story about the sister who has passed. There is comfort in knowing others share your grief.
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Post by lavawalker1 on Jun 16, 2024 4:18:37 GMT
Thanks everyone 😍
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Post by candygurl on Jun 16, 2024 12:59:46 GMT
When my sister passed her friend always texts me on her birthday and holidays telling my family she misses her and is thinking of us. Nothing big but a reminder that my sister is not forgotten, which was one of her biggest fears in life.
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Post by gramasue on Jun 16, 2024 13:30:27 GMT
Keep it simple. 'Thinking of you and sharing your memories' with a heart emoji. People just want to know that others are thinking of them. It really does help a bit to know this.
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Post by peabay on Jun 16, 2024 14:13:48 GMT
Sending you love and thinking about you today. That's all you need to say.
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Post by rickmer on Jun 16, 2024 14:59:25 GMT
I like "hope you can take some comfort in the memories of times you shared together" or something like that.
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Post by Lurkingpea on Jun 16, 2024 15:04:16 GMT
I agree just to let them know you are thinking of them.
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anaterra
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Post by anaterra on Jun 16, 2024 16:24:50 GMT
Hi... i am thinking of you today... i know its a tough time... can i treat you to lunch??? Id really like to spend some time with you...
I have an adult nephew on dhs side of the family... who has lost his father (my brother in law was killed by a drunk driver)... nephew n his wife also have infertility struggles... his wife did get pregnant thru ivf and carried their son for 30 weeks and then no heartbeat was detected...
Anyway on his dads bday n death date n his babys death date... i will text his just to say hey im thinking of you... i text his wife also... but he told me last summer that i am the only person who remembers him on this dates... and that it means a lot to him... it made me tear up because its such a little thing but that someone thought of him and it means something....
So yes just reach out!!
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Post by melanell on Jun 16, 2024 17:17:51 GMT
I'd probably just acknowledge that special days can be particularly difficult and that I am thinking of them.
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