sweetpeasmom
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Post by sweetpeasmom on Jun 15, 2024 23:03:32 GMT
I posted my mom passed in April. We will be having her memorial service in September. I know that normally some kind of program or paper handouts are given. Would a keepsake like a keychain be odd to give out? Or something like that. I am thinking something with a quote and/or a butterfly or something. Nothing with her dates but just something that represents her.
To give you an idea of what my mom wanted, she wants Mexican food to be served and a butterfly pinata.  So it's going to be a celebration of her life. |
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MDscrapaholic
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Post by MDscrapaholic on Jun 15, 2024 23:05:36 GMT
I think that would be a wonderful way to remember your Mom. With Mexican food and a pinata, she was thinking that everyone would remember her joyfully!
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Jun 15, 2024 23:09:38 GMT
There is no need for anything, although some info about you mom would be nice. Something about positives she had done during her life, people she impacted..etc.
Do you have any idea of how many people might attend? That would help me decide what to give out, other then a paper item.
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Post by mich5481 on Jun 15, 2024 23:09:39 GMT
Did she have some kind of collection people associated with her? I've seen at some funerals the family displays the collection and then asks guests to take an item or two home to remember the deceased person. It's one way to keep the memories alive while reducing the burden on the family to deal with sometimes enormous collections.
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Post by KiwiJo on Jun 15, 2024 23:50:02 GMT
I personally wouldn’t like something such as a keychain being given out - if it wasn’t really to my personal taste I would feel awful getting rid of it later, knowing it was in remembrance of someone; and I would feel awkward refusing something being given out to everyone.
And yet I do think it’s a lovely idea, so having some there and asking people during the service to take one if they would like to, would be great.
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Post by snyder on Jun 16, 2024 0:27:34 GMT
Sorry about the passing of your mother. {{{Hugs}}}
I think most memorial handouts end up in the trash unless its an immediate family member saving one for a keepsake/remembrance.
Do you plan on doing a slide show? If so, I would definitely put the pertinent information at the beginning, like her obit, followed by photos of her life and family.
If not, you could print a few and place then near the guest book table and if someone wanted to pick one up they could. I think having a person handing them out to you, one feels obligated to take it. This way would avoid many being disposed of.
I too wouldn't really want a keychain as I like what I have currently.
If you're going to have a pinata, I would fill it with her favorite type of candies, and possible a few other items that are not candy related like these butterflies from Oriental Trading. Fancy Butterflies I would have extra candy available for those older guests that would probably not be scrambling on the floor trying to gather candies. lol Then you could maybe have these little boxes available for the people to take home thetr pinata finds or some of the extra candies. Butterfly Boxes
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Jun 16, 2024 1:23:01 GMT
snyder Like all your butterfly suggestions.
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mich5481
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Post by mich5481 on Jun 16, 2024 1:32:12 GMT
What about seeds for plants that attract butterflies in your area? People could take them if they wanted to, and you could always plant the extras in honor of your mom.
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Post by littlemama on Jun 16, 2024 1:36:08 GMT
I dont think most people want a trinket to take home from a funeral. You could do some butterfly themed flowers in little pots as centerpieces and let people know that they can take one home if they'd like.
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Post by mikklynn on Jun 16, 2024 13:49:35 GMT
I just went to a memorial service for a coworker. They gave out his recipe for biscuits and gravy, plus a jar of his special seasoning blend. It was really a nice way to remember him.
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Post by grammadee on Jun 16, 2024 14:04:27 GMT
I think most memorial handouts end up in the trash unless its an immediate family member saving one for a keepsake/remembrance. Many people in my generation keep those little handouts. I like to have one in my hand when I arrive so I can refresh my memory about the person and their family, while I think about the deceased. Did she have some kind of collection people associated with her? I've seen at some funerals the family displays the collection and then asks guests to take an item or two home to remember the deceased person. It's one way to keep the memories alive while reducing the burden on the family to deal with sometimes enormous collections. This is a nice idea. My cousin's family brought his favourite books, had them on a table at the back and invited attendees to take home any ones they wanted. Not only did they serve as a gift for remembrance, but also as conversation starters, as people browsed through them and talked about his interests. I just went to a memorial service for a coworker. They gave out his recipe for biscuits and gravy, plus a jar of his special seasoning blend. It was really a nice way to remember him. What about seeds for plants that attract butterflies in your area? People could take them if they wanted to, and you could always plant the extras in honor of your mom. If you're going to have a pinata, I would fill it with her favorite type of candies, and possible a few other items that are not candy related like these butterflies from Oriental Trading. Fancy Butterflies I would have extra candy available for those older guests that would probably not be scrambling on the floor trying to gather candies. lol Then you could maybe have these little boxes available for the people to take home thetr pinata finds or some of the extra candies. Butterfly Boxes
These are wonderful ideas! They give the attendees a chance to take home something to remember your mom by that truly represents HER. |
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Post by peabay on Jun 16, 2024 14:11:40 GMT
I would much rather get a keepsake than a memorial card. My aunt gave out keyrings when her dh died and I still have it attached to my car keys.
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sweetpeasmom
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Post by sweetpeasmom on Jun 16, 2024 14:24:30 GMT
There is no need for anything, although some info about you mom would be nice. Something about positives she had done during her life, people she impacted..etc. Do you have any idea of how many people might attend? That would help me decide what to give out, other then a paper item. I don't have a headcount at this time. I'm guessing 50-75 people.
Did she have some kind of collection people associated with her? I've seen at some funerals the family displays the collection and then asks guests to take an item or two home to remember the deceased person. It's one way to keep the memories alive while reducing the burden on the family to deal with sometimes enormous collections.
She did not.
Sorry about the passing of your mother. {{{Hugs}}}
I think most memorial handouts end up in the trash unless its an immediate family member saving one for a keepsake/remembrance.
Do you plan on doing a slide show? If so, I would definitely put the pertinent information at the beginning, like her obit, followed by photos of her life and family.
If not, you could print a few and place then near the guest book table and if someone wanted to pick one up they could. I think having a person handing them out to you, one feels obligated to take it. This way would avoid many being disposed of.
I too wouldn't really want a keychain as I like what I have currently.
If you're going to have a pinata, I would fill it with her favorite type of candies, and possible a few other items that are not candy related like these butterflies from Oriental Trading. Fancy Butterflies I would have extra candy available for those older guests that would probably not be scrambling on the floor trying to gather candies. lol Then you could maybe have these little boxes available for the people to take home thetr pinata finds or some of the extra candies. Butterfly Boxes
These are some great suggestions. Thank you!
What about seeds for plants that attract butterflies in your area? People could take them if they wanted to, and you could always plant the extras in honor of your mom.
Another great idea. Thank you!
I dont think most people want a trinket to take home from a funeral. You could do some butterfly themed flowers in little pots as centerpieces and let people know that they can take one home if they'd like.
She said she wanted roses. I could put them in a container with butterflies on them. That's a good thought.
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Post by Restless Spirit on Jun 16, 2024 15:02:59 GMT
I used to work at a funeral home. Typically, the FH will offer custom funeral /memorial pamphlets. Families very often would then provide “keepsakes” based on their budget.
Popular items were custom bookmarks, seed packets, votive candles with custom imprinted matchbooks, recipe cards or booklets (often the family would make one of a special recipe for the gathering, such as cookies, brownies, cake, dip - that type of thing.). Ornaments either from the deceased own personal collection, or a particular ornament that represented the loved ones in someway, such as a cardinal, dove, butterfly shape, etc that the person loved.
One family gave out golf balls because the grandpa loved golfing so much. They personalized them with his name and birth - death dates. It made all of the attendees smile and they really liked them.
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Post by Lurkingpea on Jun 16, 2024 15:03:16 GMT
I like the idea of a flower or plant for people to take home.
I don't want a funeral, but I am going to tell my family if they insist on doing something they take my books out for people to take. I love that idea.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jun 16, 2024 15:53:20 GMT
I do save the little prayer cards or memorial pamphlets that I pick up at a funeral or wake. I don’t think I would take home a memorial key ring unless I personally liked it, only because we already have a pile of them at home from events, businesses and other things.
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Post by MorningPerson on Jun 16, 2024 16:08:11 GMT
An old neighbor had several acres of grapes and he was so proud of his vineyard. At his memorial service we were all given a small clipping from some of the branches, which I thought was so meaningful.
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So it's going to be a celebration of her life. 
