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Post by katlady on Jun 15, 2024 23:43:01 GMT
Could you retire and move to a place where you know no one? And by moving, I mean more than a 12-hour drive.
I know lot of people who are retiring, cashing in on the equity of their house (So.Cal.) and moving to places like Tennessee, Florida, and the midwest. We've been asked if we plan to move when we retire. SO and I talked about it briefly, but at our age, we don't want to start over in the sense that we won't know anyone. As we get older, we want to live close to family and to what is familiar. Our boys are here, and they have not talked about leaving the area. Our family is all about an hour drive away, other than those that live in Hawaii. The house will be paid off this year, we belong to a good medical group, we have good neighbors, and we really enjoy the activities we do here. Maybe if we were in our 40's, we wouldn't mind moving to an area where we don't know anyone, but now, I don't think so.
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Post by cmpeter on Jun 15, 2024 23:52:47 GMT
I think I could. We’ve moved before both before and after kids to areas where we knew no one.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Jun 15, 2024 23:54:12 GMT
Could you retire and move to a place where you know no one? And by moving, I mean more than a 12-hour drive. We've done it 18 times in our almost 47 year marriage to 3 states and 6 countries (moving not retiring!). When DH started talking about retirement (he's still working at 68) and moving, I told him I was done starting over and wasn't going anywhere. I did tell him that if he found eutopia I'd hear him out, but otherwise not happening! We are close to two international airports, some of the best medical care in the world, a great arts/museum scene and wonderful restaurants so he had to work against a lot. 10 years later he still hasn't found eutopia!  Meanwhile we have completely remodeled/updated our home of 33 years and upgraded the outside. He will most likely retire by the end of this year and we are set. However, if I had never moved anywhere I might be more inclined to start over somewhere just for the adventure of it. |
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Post by CeeScraps on Jun 15, 2024 23:59:10 GMT
We did that July of 2021!
I love where we live. Most people here are from other places. Everyone and I do mean everyone has been welcoming and very helpful.
We've made good friends already here. We've done all sorts of things and am looking forward to doing more.
If the area wasn't welcoming that would be hard.
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Post by Linda on Jun 16, 2024 0:15:19 GMT
I've moved and started over plenty of times in my lifetime - I grew up a military brat and lived in three states between 20-28 (MA, AZ, and FL). We've been in this area since 1998 though - 3rd house - and tbh, it still doesn't feel like home. I think we have one more move in us and I strongly suspect it'll be to the historic triangle in Virginia - two of our three kids already live there and love it and the third is looking to go to college there. But that won't be a move away from family but towards it.
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Post by ntsf on Jun 16, 2024 0:27:07 GMT
we have been retired 5 yrs.. and are not moving. we have a condo in another state. we like to spend time there. I could move back to seattle, (we both grew up there) but not happening.
we have great medical care, great transport, and we have an ocean view. no real reason to move. it makes sense to remodel our house here and stay.
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Post by teddyw on Jun 16, 2024 1:05:59 GMT
I don’t want to but if all my kids move away I will too.
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Post by caangel on Jun 16, 2024 2:45:16 GMT
I also grew up as a military brat, lived in 3 states and Germany by the time I was 10 and always a multi hour to a 10+ hr flight to the closest family. Thankfully once my dad retired we have stayed in the same place (So Cal). My kids have never known a different home and we have a wonderful community via our neighborhood, schools and extended family who are all near by. I hope that we will be able to stay relatively close in location to our kids as they launch but we still have several years as they are in HS. Beyond finding jobs in the area the big question will be if they can afford a home in So Cal once they are at that stage of life.
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Post by scrapmaven on Jun 16, 2024 2:52:58 GMT
Moving would mean moving my stuff. That's too much like work. I love my home and my entire support system is here. Though I don't care for the politics in my state, I love that there's so much to do here. I'm staying put.
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Post by worrywart on Jun 16, 2024 2:54:20 GMT
It is fun to think about but I'm not sure! I think it would be nice first to rent a place or somehow test out the new area to be a little more sure. Would definitely consider it especially if the new spot had cooler summer temps!
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Post by pilcas on Jun 16, 2024 3:02:03 GMT
I really would not want to move to a place where I don’t know anyone. I don’t have the slightest idea where I would even begin to meet new people, never mind becoming friends with them.
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Post by papersilly on Jun 16, 2024 4:38:20 GMT
We will. It's time for a change in scenery. We are taking our California home equity and moving out of state.
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Post by Zee on Jun 16, 2024 4:47:21 GMT
Could you retire and move to a place where you know no one? And by moving, I mean more than a 12-hour drive. I know lot of people who are retiring, cashing in on the equity of their house (So.Cal.) and moving to places like Tennessee, Florida, and the midwest. We've been asked if we plan to move when we retire. SO and I talked about it briefly, but at our age, we don't want to start over in the sense that we won't know anyone. As we get older, we want to live close to family and to what is familiar. Our boys are here, and they have not talked about leaving the area. Our family is all about an hour drive away, other than those that live in Hawaii. The house will be paid off this year, we belong to a good medical group, we have good neighbors, and we really enjoy the activities we do here. Maybe if we were in our 40's, we wouldn't mind moving to an area where we don't know anyone, but now, I don't think so. Yes, I've already done that twice in the past 12 years. As long as I am working, I will be able to find friends. |
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Post by lisacharlotte on Jun 16, 2024 4:49:32 GMT
DH wanted to move back to Texas and buy land and live in the boonies. I nixed that idea. I've moved my entire life until we moved here 19 years ago. I've settled in, made friends, we own our house. We're near a military base where we get our medical care. I am not moving to the middle of nowhere, without emergency services close by. I'm not trying to make new friends while living nowhere near other people. I'm not getting another mortgage. I'm not taking care of multiple acres of land (that's the big one).
Unless you are moving someplace that caters to retirees starting over (usually 55+ communities in Florida or Arizona) you need to think about how you are going to make friends. It's much harder when you don't work and/or don't have kids in school. Even family might not be able to meet your needs. A lot of people don't realize if you've never lived near family, you have to reintegrate. They have built their social network where you are a visitor, not a regular participant.
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Post by sueg on Jun 16, 2024 5:48:52 GMT
We will move when DH retires, and likely to somewhere that we know vey few people, simply because we currently live in a different country to our family and we'll move back home after retirement. We aim to be close to our older DS and his family, but we won't have other family or friends close by.
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Post by snyder on Jun 16, 2024 6:43:22 GMT
20 years ago or so, we thought about it, but wouldn't do it until my parents passed. Never in our wildest dreams did we figue my mother would live to be 93 and still going.
Now I feel I'm too old to do it. I'm not feeling the making new friends and getting to know an area really well, chaanging medical, etc would be fun and advertuous, but kind of stressful. I travel, so that helps
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Post by carhoch on Jun 16, 2024 7:07:52 GMT
Could you retire and move to a place where you know no one? And by moving, I mean more than a 12-hour drive. When I was 23 we move from the French speaking part of Switzerland to the German speaking part of Switzerland didn’t speak German but I learned. When I was 30 we move from Switzerland to Mobile Alabama didn’t speak English, but I learned. When I was 43 we moved to Virginia, three years ago moved into a rv and started traveling full time and now at 60 it’s my last year in the rv ,next year we are going to move in Ellijay Georgia . I didn’t know nobody and all this places now have friends all over and I’m sure I’m going to make friends in Georgia too. Our journey may be a little extreme, but moving/relocating. It’s totally doable. Every time I see it as a new adventure, a challenge. |
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Post by peasapie on Jun 16, 2024 9:18:03 GMT
We moved to a 55+ in 2020. Although my kids are within an hour, we knew no one else and have made a ton of friends. However I think that’s because we’re surrounded by people of the same age and stage in life.
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Post by malibou on Jun 16, 2024 13:39:04 GMT
I can't see us selling our house and moving somewhere else. We will probably split our time between our current house and dh's childhood home 2 hours north. We also travel a lot. Ds would like to eventually be near us. We will see.
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Post by peabay on Jun 16, 2024 14:12:32 GMT
Not in a million years. Dh and I decided a long time ago we'd never move away from the kids (meaning the general area.)
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Post by ~summer~ on Jun 16, 2024 15:22:19 GMT
The adventure part of it appeals to me - but not the moving away from friends and family - I’m suprised so many people are willing to do that.
I have a friend who has her large Bay Area home for sale right now. She is super super social and has a huge friend network.they also sold a Montana house and they are moving to Durango, Colorado this sorta bewilders me….
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Post by karenlou on Jun 16, 2024 15:33:11 GMT
We are both retired...I still do per diem, However I am a nurse so I can do that anywhere.
If something happened to DH I would not keep my home which I do love, however could no keep it up alone.
So would probably stay in the area but would downsize. A condo most likely. Most of my friends/family are local.😊
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Post by katlady on Jun 16, 2024 16:09:40 GMT
The adventure part of it appeals to me - but not the moving away from friends and family Yes! This! I am up for an adventure, but I don't want to move away from my family and friends, especially as the family is getting older. |
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Post by Texas Scrap on Jun 16, 2024 20:55:49 GMT
I agree with those who like the idea of adventure but not leaving family and friends. We are early 50s, recently retired and have lived in Texas our entire lives. Both kids want to stay in Texas so odds are good they will be in near. We are thinking about a possible 2nd home at some point, but even part time I want to really figure out how life would work. We have good local friends about to do his so going to watch how it works for them.
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Post by whipea on Jun 16, 2024 21:43:38 GMT
I may consider retiring in about two years and we have talked about moving but no idea where. I live in South Florida and have been here my whole life. Between the political weirdness, crushing over development and homeowners insurance cost may consider leaving.
Do not have any family so that is not an issue, but not a fan of cold weather and have never driven in snow. As far as friends go, I only have one close friend who I rarely see in person and have no social life and absolutely not concerned about that aspect.
Have considered Tennessee or Nevada, but do not want to be far from medical services or civilization, though D/H thinks he wants to live in a rural area. We should be able to compromise.
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Post by lisae on Jun 16, 2024 22:02:39 GMT
We considered it, but ultimately decided to stay put. We made the decision pre-pandemic so housing costs weren't as much a factor as they are now. Though we would have to put more into housing than we would get from our home here for less space to go most anywhere we wanted to go. The curse of a low cost of living area.
I decided to stay put because all of my extended family is here. Without children of my own or nieces and nephews, I'm going to need my extended family one day. There are also many benefits to the area we live in, not the least of which, is little traffic. I think we will be comfortable driving here much later in life than we would in a busier area. DH is hoping one of his daughters will move here eventually but I think that unlikely. They talked about it but if her son settles down where they are, she won't want to move either.
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Post by epeanymous on Jun 16, 2024 22:09:26 GMT
My advice is that if anyone is considering doing so you have realistic expectations about the ability of your kids (if you have them) to visit and have concrete plans for what happens when your health and mobility decline. My inlaws moved a plane flight away from all family and I can’t tell you what a nightmare it has been and will probably continue to be for another 15 years.
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Post by epeanymous on Jun 16, 2024 22:10:28 GMT
We considered it, but ultimately decided to stay put. We made the decision pre-pandemic so housing costs weren't as much a factor as they are now. Though we would have to put more into housing than we would get from our home here for less space to go most anywhere we wanted to go. The curse of a low cost of living area. I decided to stay put because all of my extended family is here. Without children of my own or nieces and nephews, I'm going to need my extended family one day. There are also many benefits to the area we live in, not the least of which, is little traffic. I think we will be comfortable driving here much later in life than we would in a busier area. DH is hoping one of his daughters will move here eventually but I think that unlikely. They talked about it but if her son settles down where they are, she won't want to move either. Even for people who do have kids, it can impose an extremely heavy burden on them to move far away and expect them to visit and help. |
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Post by KikiPea on Jun 17, 2024 1:56:16 GMT
It’s in the plans. It may be really hard though, because our best friend couples are all here.
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Post by mimi3566 on Jun 17, 2024 12:01:52 GMT
We are in the middle of doing this very thing. Sold our Florida house, took the equity to pay cash for a new built cabin in North Carolina. We will travel for months at a time in our Class B motorhome. We will spend the winter months...(Christmas - end of March) in Florida visiting our family and friends....return to the cabin for the spring where we will plan our summer trip to northern parts of the country, then return to the cabin for the fall months until Christmas then start the cycle over again.
Reasoning is to be able to live debt free in retirement so we can travel....I still owe a mortgage on my home, albeit a small one, but the taxes and insurance on properties here in Florida have sky rocketed. Then there's the weather....it's so damned hot from March until Thanksgiving which also means the added expense of running AC on a house I would not even be in while we were traveling during the summer months (to get away from the heat), then there's the monthly HOA fees that seem to go up every year, then I would also have to pay a landscaping company to mow my yard, etc.....bottom line is, even if I had no mortgage, it would still cost me about $1,000 a month to maintain a home, I only plan to spend about 5 or 6 months at most, a year in....just doesn't make financial sense to me. We thought about renting it but that brings its own set of challenges and headaches so we ruled that out. We're not able to do short term rentals per the county ordinances and in addition to the HOA rules so after much thought and throwing out all the scenarios, we opted to move to a smaller house in a much cooler area of the country (all 4 seasons) that's about an 8 hour drive away from family here in Florida for a better quality of life...at least for this season of life we're in which is the honeymoon phase of retirement or better referred to as the go, go, go years....LOL.
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Meanwhile we have completely remodeled/updated our home of 33 years and upgraded the outside. He will most likely retire by the end of this year and we are set. 
