Just T
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Post by Just T on Jun 16, 2024 16:14:30 GMT
So, I have posted numerous times about my life and my divorce and what a hard time I am having right now. This week has been especially challenging, and I feel like the knot I've tied to hang on at the end of my rope is fraying. LOL But this week has been good. So good. And I thought I would share about it.  My son recently married a lovely girl who is from Mexico. Our entire family just adores her. They are going to live here, and she has been in the states since the end of April. She is really close to her family, especially her mom, and I know it has been hard for her being away from them. Her mom was not able to travel here for the wedding, so she came to visit this week. She stayed at my house, and since she doesn't speak very good English, my son and his wife stayed here with her. I was so anxious about how the week would go. I was told by my son that she speaks no English. Also, life is not easy right now, and I wasn't sure I was in the frame of mind to have a house guest who seemed like she might be a bit challenging. I needn't have worried. She does speak English, she just doesn't like to because she is self conscious and thinks she's not very good at it. She also understands English very well. And oh my goodness, she is absolutely lovely. We had the best time. Tuesday was my birthday. I took the day off and my son and his wife, her mom, and my youngest daughter and her husband and I all went to my favorite winery in the afternoon. The weather was perfect and we all had such a good time. After that, we took her mom to the park where they got married and showed her the exact spot, the places we took photos, etc. It's a beautiful park, and she loved that we did that for her. My son and his wife took a couple of days to show her some of the sights in St. Louis. We spent a lot of time cooking together, just hanging out and I had such a nice time. My favorite part was seeing and listening to my son's wife and her mom. They are like a couple of giggly girls and it warmed my heart. I don't have a great relationship with my mom and never really have, and I'm trying to be different with my kids. I kept telling them that just listening to them made me smile. Yesterday was my son's 30th birthday. Early in the morning, us three girls went to a local Mexican grocery store and a regular grocery store, and they bought what they needed to make a Mexican feast for dinner. My son's wife made flan for dessert. My kitchen was a complete disaster, but again, watching and listening to the two of them, then eating what they so lovingly prepared, was the best day. She left early this morning to return to Mexico, and I miss her already. Okay, now how about you all share some ways you have found joy in the midst of struggling greatly. |
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Post by wellway on Jun 16, 2024 16:26:19 GMT
I'm so happy for you, you deserve this week of joy and I hope you have many many more. Hold on to those memories to get you to the end of your divorce, hugs. I am so very happy for Christian Eriksen, a Danish footballer who has just scored a goal in the Euros. Why am I happy for him particularly?Well, because at the last Euros in 2020 he suffered a cardiac arrest on the pitch while playing. He took him 18 months to get back on a pitch and now he is back in the Euros and scoring. |
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Post by kokomo37 on Jun 16, 2024 16:33:18 GMT
I am so happy for you! I can hear the joy in your voice telling us this story. Here’s to more memory making !
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Just T
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Post by Just T on Jun 16, 2024 16:45:52 GMT
I am so very happy for Christian Eriksen, a Danish footballer who has just scored a goal in the Euros. Why am I happy for him particularly?Well, because at the last Euros in 2020 he suffered a cardiac arrest on the pitch while playing. He took him 18 months to get back on a pitch and now he is back in the Euros and scoring. Wow, that is amazing! |
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Post by Lurkingpea on Jun 16, 2024 16:56:05 GMT
I am glad you had such a lovely time. Your birthday sounds perfect.
What is bringing me joy is all the sweet notes I got from my student's parents at the end of the school year. So many thoughtful and kind things said. The last few weeks of school were really rough. Lots.of big emotions from the kids made for a lot of problem situations. So the kind notes really meant a lot to me.
Right now I am just having a mellow day with one of my pets in my lap. Another source of joy and happiness.
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Post by Just T on Jun 16, 2024 17:01:17 GMT
I am glad you had such a lovely time. Your birthday sounds perfect. What is bringing me joy is all the sweet notes I got from my student's parents at the end of the school year. So many thoughtful and kind things said. The last few weeks of school were really rough. Lots.of big emotions from the kids made for a lot of problem situations. So the kind notes really meant a lot to me. Right now I am just having a mellow day with one of my pets in my lap. Another source of joy and happiness. My youngest daughter is a teacher in a Title 1 school in St. Louis. She loves the notes she gets from parents.  |
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Post by quietgirl on Jun 16, 2024 21:43:34 GMT
Oh, that sounds wonderful. Im really glad you had a lovely visit. It sounds like she's A very nice person, as well as your dil.
My sources of joy are very simple. It sounds stupid really. My heart lifts when the sun is out. I love my walks. My pets, too. A dog, 2 parakeets, and 2 fish. And I'm crocheting my first shawl. I had messed up and had to rip it apart and re-start it, but I'm almost half way thru now. I'd wanted to expand my skills, and its happening, albeit slowly.
Anyway, again, I'm really happy for you and continue to wish you peace, good thoughts, and much love and kindness to you.
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Post by manomo on Jun 16, 2024 21:48:08 GMT
Your post is proof to me that you will not only survive the trials you are going through, but you will thrive. Times will continue to be tough for a while and there will be ups and downs when your divorce is finalized but I can feel a day for you when you will come out on top. You have such a positive attitude in this post, and you sound like you have a great support system. Yep, you are going to be okay.
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Post by Zee on Jun 16, 2024 21:49:07 GMT
Sounds like a wonderful visit!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 16, 2024 22:24:08 GMT
What a beautiful story about finding joy amidst challenges! Reading it warmed my heart. Thank you for sharing.
I’m facing several struggles right now. I find joy listening to my kitty’s deep purr as she lays across my lap (even though today’s one of the days she makes me stuffy & sniffly). Memory crafting is also joy inducing because it motivates me to go places and take pictures so I can later scrap them. This forces me to pay attention and seek photographic evidence of glimmers of joy throughout my day.
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Post by AussieMeg on Jun 16, 2024 22:30:14 GMT
I am so very happy for Christian Eriksen, a Danish footballer who has just scored a goal in the Euros. Why am I happy for him particularly?Well, because at the last Euros in 2020 he suffered a cardiac arrest on the pitch while playing. He took him 18 months to get back on a pitch and now he is back in the Euros and scoring. Ah yes, I remember that! I’m glad you shared this story, I hadn’t seen anything about his comeback. It reminds me of and AFL player who was badly injured in the Bali bombing. He worked his arse off to make his comeback in the AFL. He kicked a couple of goals in his first match back, it was so inspirational…..then retired right after the match! |
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Jun 16, 2024 22:46:01 GMT
I am glad that you had a good week.
During the rough moments, days, etc... I try to focus on things I love (reading, scrapbooking). When I do things I love doing, it makes me feel happy.
I also reflect on how far I have come....compared to where I have been.
I also will treat myself to something...a sheet of stickers, a scoop of ice cream, a nap, a cup of hot tea and a cookie, etc... sometimes the "little things" boost my spirits the most.
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Post by mom on Jun 16, 2024 23:40:10 GMT
I love that you are able to find some joy! I hope that one day I get to have a DIL and see her relationship with her mom. I don't have a close relationship with my MIL but I, too, want that to be different for my kids & their spouses.
Let's see....this past week I have been finding joy in getting in our pool and just being. Some days I take a book + float the morning away. Some days I swim. The other night we swam in the rain and I loved it. Life has been hard (DH and I are ok...but lots of heavy stuff dealing with aging parents, and whatnot) and its nice to just turn the phone off and 'hide' in my pool for a bit.
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Post by Judy26 on Jun 17, 2024 0:02:37 GMT
How lucky your children are to have a mother who enjoys spending time with them. I am sure your son’s mother in law is returning home grateful to know her daughter is surrounded by people who love her. Hope the joy from this week carries over into the coming days and helps you navigate the rough spots ahead.
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Post by cat2007 on Jun 17, 2024 0:39:04 GMT
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Post by worrywart on Jun 17, 2024 1:44:38 GMT
Does she text? You could have a texting relationship with her when she is not here in the states..maybe pictures etc. I'm glad that you were able to enjoy her visit so much.
For me, things have been hard lately (aging parent) but I am proud of myself for standing up for myself and dh when a supposed friend said something rude.
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Post by scrappinwithoutpeas on Jun 17, 2024 3:16:13 GMT
Just T, your post makes my heart happy! I'm glad you got to spend time with your son's MIL - sounds like a joyous visit. Happy belated birthday! I am finding joy in preparing & packing for an event DH & I are going to this week. We leave Tuesday and it should be a lot of fun. (Plus 4 days away from work - yay!) I've also been doing a bit of the organizing I've been putting off and today I got an entire linen closet sorted, cleaned, and organized plus did some work on my clothes closet. The latter is a multi-day effort that I'll finish when we get back from our trip. I ended up with 2 bags of stuff for the donation center (and more to come I'm sure). I'm exhausted & heading to bed soon but it feels good to have gotten that linen closet off the to-do list. Another plus from the linen closet project was that it enabled me to clear & reclaim some space in a hallway shelving unit to use for some photo boxes and albums that came home from MIL's house when we helped her downsize and move to her senior living apartment.
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Post by Bridget in MD on Jun 17, 2024 12:22:11 GMT
So, I have posted numerous times about my life and my divorce and what a hard time I am having right now. This week has been especially challenging, and I feel like the knot I've tied to hang on at the end of my rope is fraying. LOL But this week has been good. So good. And I thought I would share about it. My son recently married a lovely girl who is from Mexico. Our entire family just adores her. They are going to live here, and she has been in the states since the end of April. She is really close to her family, especially her mom, and I know it has been hard for her being away from them. Her mom was not able to travel here for the wedding, so she came to visit this week. She stayed at my house, and since she doesn't speak very good English, my son and his wife stayed here with her. I was so anxious about how the week would go. I was told by my son that she speaks no English. Also, life is not easy right now, and I wasn't sure I was in the frame of mind to have a house guest who seemed like she might be a bit challenging. I needn't have worried. She does speak English, she just doesn't like to because she is self conscious and thinks she's not very good at it. She also understands English very well. And oh my goodness, she is absolutely lovely. We had the best time. Tuesday was my birthday. I took the day off and my son and his wife, her mom, and my youngest daughter and her husband and I all went to my favorite winery in the afternoon. The weather was perfect and we all had such a good time. After that, we took her mom to the park where they got married and showed her the exact spot, the places we took photos, etc. It's a beautiful park, and she loved that we did that for her. My son and his wife took a couple of days to show her some of the sights in St. Louis. We spent a lot of time cooking together, just hanging out and I had such a nice time. My favorite part was seeing and listening to my son's wife and her mom. They are like a couple of giggly girls and it warmed my heart. I don't have a great relationship with my mom and never really have, and I'm trying to be different with my kids. I kept telling them that just listening to them made me smile. Yesterday was my son's 30th birthday. Early in the morning, us three girls went to a local Mexican grocery store and a regular grocery store, and they bought what they needed to make a Mexican feast for dinner. My son's wife made flan for dessert. My kitchen was a complete disaster, but again, watching and listening to the two of them, then eating what they so lovingly prepared, was the best day. She left early this morning to return to Mexico, and I miss her already. Okay, now how about you all share some ways you have found joy in the midst of struggling greatly. Happy belated bday Just T and OMG I LOVE LOVE LOVE that they took her to the park and had pics since she couldn't be at at the wedding. that is so so sweet!!!! |
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Post by Tearisci on Jun 17, 2024 13:54:28 GMT
Let's see....this past week I have been finding joy in getting in our pool and just being. Some days I take a book + float the morning away. Some days I swim. The other night we swam in the rain and I loved it. Life has been hard (DH and I are ok...but lots of heavy stuff dealing with aging parents, and whatnot) and its nice to just turn the phone off and 'hide' in my pool for a bit. i love to hang out in my sister's pool. Time just seems to stand still and I can chill and just be in the moment. We are dealing with a lot of aging parent issues too so it's nice to just have that one on one time where we're not playing caregivers for the moment. |
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Post by 3boysnme on Jun 17, 2024 14:40:40 GMT
This post made me smile! I know how hard it is for you right now, so I'm glad you've had this little bit of happiness in your life.  |
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Post by mikklynn on Jun 17, 2024 17:21:23 GMT
How wonderful that your DIL's mom has become a friend! I'm sure she was as nervous to meet you as you were.
I posted that buying myself flowers makes me happy. Bringing home a stack of books from the library makes me happy, too!
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