compeateropeator
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Post by compeateropeator on Jun 23, 2024 14:53:55 GMT
I am one who easily could avoid actually meeting up with people and be happy most days not actually seeing people. I always message or FaceTime with people daily but don’t have to leave my house to do so. I’ve worked 2nd shift for over 20 years. There is only one other person on my shift. Therefore if we are both working, we only work Mon - Wed together. We are now work from home but other than those 3 days it really makes no difference if I am in office or at home as I live alone also. All this to say I really have no need to specifically avoid people but I absolutely love weekends where I have nothing I need to go to or leave the house for.
I find that I often accept or make plans and then end up spending more time than I should trying to think of a good way to get out of them. So I find that it is better for me to follow through if I have already agreed to something. Now I just think about it but if I give myself permission to cancel without a true need to I am afraid I will do so more and more.
Good luck with your decision and hope you enjoy your day whatever you do. ETA - I just read the responses and see that you stayed home. I am glad it was a good decision and that you enjoyed your day.
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Post by scrapmaven on Jun 23, 2024 15:44:33 GMT
Good for you for staying home. I would do the same. You can get ahead w/work, but promise yourself that you'll craft and do whatever you want today. Make it a YOU day.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Jun 23, 2024 15:54:23 GMT
I need at least one, preferably two (or more) days "to myself". Meaning >> home, in pajamas, QUIET, no interaction or socializing with others.
In this situation of yours, I would not attend. I would send a polite text saying >> "I am not feeling well, so I will not be coming with Jeremy. Hope you all have a wonderful time".
I am a firm believer of taking care of my emotional and mental health. I NEED my me time, alone time, taking care of myself time.
Feeling >> tired, worn out, drained, etc... is a symptom of not feeling well emotionally and mentally.
Put your wellbeing first....stay home and take care of you.
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Post by Tearisci on Jun 23, 2024 15:54:27 GMT
Most of my family knows that I need time to myself. I can extrovert a bit but it wears me out so I need to have time to myself.
When I lived in DC, my BFF at the time was the same way so we had an agreement that either one of us could cancel plans if we needed down time and we'd be understanding.
I'd definitely take the day, especially if you just saw them.
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Post by littlemama on Jun 23, 2024 15:59:19 GMT
We generally stay home on Sundays, especially in the winter. In the summer, we dont stick as strongly to that. I am a person who doesnt want to go places but Im generally fine when I get there; however, 4 hours in the car for an hour at Top Golf is too much travel for little reward for me. On the other hand, H*****k's will be horribly crowded at this time of day, so that would also be miserable. 😂😂 Yeah but if I get my work done, I can shop at Horrocks at 7 am tomorrow.  Top Golf is all the way in Auburn Hills. That's a hike from Lansing. I figured when you said 2 hours, that is where you were headed! That is a long haul and traffic out thay was isnt generally fun. (I *** out the name of the store so I didnt reveal the area where you are in case you didnt want that! 😘) |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jun 23, 2024 16:02:59 GMT
Yeah but if I get my work done, I can shop at Horrocks at 7 am tomorrow. Top Golf is all the way in Auburn Hills. That's a hike from Lansing. I figured when you said 2 hours, that is where you were headed! That is a long haul and traffic out thay was isnt generally fun. (I *** out the name of the store so I didnt reveal the area where you are in case you didnt want that! 😘) I appreciate that. I just know that I've revealed enough about myself that if someone wanted to track me down, it'd be pretty easy. 😂 |
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Post by katlady on Jun 23, 2024 16:15:06 GMT
I am an introvert and your weekend would have me feeling wiped out. But, if this is just an occasional thing and doesn’t happen often, I would probably still go. If this was my weekend, every weekend, I would stay home.
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Post by KelleeM on Jun 23, 2024 16:30:53 GMT
I have to have time alone. I work a 9 / 80 schedule so I’m off every other Friday.
I had a friend in town from Canada last week. She specifically came to visit me but stayed at a hotel. I took Friday and Monday off from work. We went to a museum on Friday then lunch and hung out at my house. Saturday we went to the beach, lunch/dinner and later out for ice cream. Sunday I took her to a touristy shopping area then lunch. Monday I decompressed.
I had Friday off this week and went for a blood draw and then picked up a few things at the grocery store. Yesterday I did very little, aside from a few hours making cards and visiting with a few friends on Zoom. I never left the house. This morning I did laundry and ds and I went grocery shopping. I boiled some eggs, washed fruit and made lunch for myself. I will watch YouTube, do puzzles, play on my phone and that’s about it today. I told my dd no when she asked if I wanted dgd to come visit this weekend. I like my time. I need it and deserve it.
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Post by quinlove on Jun 23, 2024 16:37:13 GMT
Good job choosing what’s best for you. 😊
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Post by quiltz on Jun 23, 2024 16:51:45 GMT
Take the time for yourself. I've done "the drive is longer than the event" several times. I don't do this anymore.
Around here, the QEW and 401 & (400 series Hwy) are so very busy, at any time, day or night.
Enjoy your time at home.
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Post by chaosisapony on Jun 23, 2024 16:56:24 GMT
I work a 9/80 schedule so I get every other Friday off. Those Fridays are sacred. They are my relaxation and decompression days. I try my best not to plan anything on my Fridays off. But sometimes, it can't be avoided. There are some weekends where I have to leave the house and go do things all three days. I hate those weekends. I've been known to take a PTO day here and there just to stay home, sleep in and relax. I just can't function like some people can without true downtime.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jun 23, 2024 17:10:59 GMT
I just spent the past two hours doing my meeting prep for tomorrow. I'm thick into the laundry too. I'm going to have some lunch and then crochet for a while.
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Post by nightnurse on Jun 23, 2024 18:58:11 GMT
I absolutely must have a “do nothing day” on the weekend where I stay in my pjs and don’t leave the house. I’ll do light housework, read, scrapbook, walk the dog. It’s not that I don’t like my friends but I am a person who needs down time and alone time. Our lives are so busy, the chance to relax and recharge is so important and social interactions don’t recharge my batteries, they drain them, no matter how enjoyable. I no longer apologize for it.
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Post by mikklynn on Jun 23, 2024 20:29:03 GMT
I need my alone time at home like I need air.
I refuse to schedule myself for things every day.
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Post by cakediva on Jun 23, 2024 23:44:14 GMT
Because of the career/business I have set myself up in, weekends are never usually my own. But because I am self employed, I can find time during the week to crochet and play video games.
This season is slower than usual, and I’m finding I really love having only two cakes in a weekend - I’m finding I can take the time to do my best work on each cake, and do emails during the day. I’m not sitting down at 9pm to answer emails and sketch cakes for clients. My goal is to only have 2-3 cakes in a weekend max, but target the clients that want the larger, fancier cakes so my bottom line is the same.
Which means I can carve “me” time out of the week without it affecting work, and then the weekends are only broken up by a delivery each day. So then I can have the morning or after delivery for down time.
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Post by AussieMeg on Jun 24, 2024 0:42:58 GMT
Do you feel like you need at least one weekend day to yourself? My fantasy is a three day weekend. One for chores. One for leaving the house/friends fun. And one for inside the house be by myself fun. I absolutely love the idea of a three day weekend, for exactly the reasons you mentioned. (Except let's be honest, there's no way I'd 'waste' one whole day on chores - that shit gets three hours of my time, tops! ) I actually feel "cheated" if I haven't had a day on the weekend, or at least a few hours, to just relax on the couch and Pea or scrapbook. And I prefer that day to be Sunday. I like to relax on Sunday, in preparation for the busy work week ahead. Now, in your scenario...... are the friends that are going to golf a couple? If so, I would feel obliged to go, even though I wouldn't want to. I think it would feel like a snub if I didn't go. And then I would spend the day resenting everyone for taking away my "me" time!  If the friends were both males, I absolutely would NOT go. |
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Post by AussieMeg on Jun 24, 2024 0:59:41 GMT
I had a similar-but-not-quite scenario recently. Most Friday afternoons, DSO has a couple of mates who drop over for a few drinks after work. They sit outside by the fire (in the cooler months). I'm often working until 6pm - 7pm on Fridays, and then all I want to do is plonk my bum down on the couch to unwind in front of the TV after a long work week. The last thing I want to do is sit around a fire with a bunch of blokes talking shit and drinking beer!
A few weeks ago, one of DSO's (and now my) female friends dropped over. We hadn't seen her for ages. I finished work about 7pm, then I felt obliged to go and sit outside by the fire with her and DSO. Then I drove her home at about 9:30pm.
The following Friday, two of DSO's male friends, AND the female friend came over again. I had already told DSO that I was not going to come outside that night. So when the female friend came over, I went outside to say hello to her (and the guys), then I told her "I already told DSO that I was NOT going to come outside tonight, even if YOU came over!" Luckily she just laughed, and (hopefully) didn't take offence.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Jun 24, 2024 2:38:51 GMT
Different situation here... Retired.
But the last few years I worked I was able to take off every Monday from Set/Oct until the new year. I could go out for whatever or not, Friday night, Saturday and even Sunday.. and have a totally uninterrupted Monday, all day and evening, all by myself!
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Post by katiekaty on Jun 24, 2024 2:45:36 GMT
I seriously think you have a fever or a stomach bug, maybe a summer cold? Or cold you possibly be having a bit of sinus issues? I really think since you saw them yesterday and it’s two hours, rest at home is required!
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Post by FuzzyMutt on Jun 24, 2024 3:14:02 GMT
WWID?
I’d probably go. I tend to dread anything like that til I get there, then I would totally have fun and be glad I went.
But that’s how I work. I also never agree to anything, my guy is our “fun planner” and he does the agreeing. Again, because I would never plan anything if it’s me having to commit to it. He rarely commits us to something I don’t end up really enjoying. And he is fantastic about begging us both, or just me, off, if I just don’t want to go.
But, as far as having spent all weekend with these folks.. I’m that’s probably too much for me. If you went, I hope you enjoyed it!
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Post by Susie_Homemaker on Jun 24, 2024 13:34:33 GMT
I'm this way too. I'd love that three day weekend! This past weekend DH and I went to the lake on Saturday and then Sunday he knew that I needed a do-nothing day (with a few small chores thrown in) so he asked a friend to go clay shooting with him. He knows that I just can't have two active days on the weekends. I need my down time! Since I didn't do any housework, I'll do a few things here and there this week to get caught up. It's just the two of us at home so there's really not that much to do anyway.
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Post by anaterra on Jun 24, 2024 14:24:37 GMT
I work on a production line... it is a 24hr non stop manufacturing job.... it is set up in 4 12 hour shifts.... 6 am - 6 pm... or if nights 6pm - 6am... 4 days on and 4 days off...
12 hour shifts suck!!!! Its a very long day..
4 days off every week is awesome!! We do have open overtime... so if you want to work extra... you still have 3 days off....
But after 48 hours (week not straight) around non stop machinery.... i have to give my ears n brain a break!!!
So my 1st day off is just hang out at home n get chores done... and unplugged.... no cell phone at all... no emails no texts no calls... ill watch tv or read on my tablet...
Then the next 3 days off are free!!!
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Post by smartypants71 on Jun 24, 2024 15:12:20 GMT
My DH tried to WFH on my most recent 9/80 Friday off. I immediately shut that down and sent him to the office! He knows better!
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Post by grammadee on Jun 24, 2024 17:31:28 GMT
I just spent the past two hours doing my meeting prep for tomorrow. I'm thick into the laundry too. I'm going to have some lunch and then crochet for a while. I hope you DID get to relax and crochet yesterday afternoon. Sounds like you dealt with your "should"s so the afternoon could be all about you. Good job!
Saying NO is one of the hardest things I have ever had to learn. Not "no, but.." or "no, because...", just "No." And I still tend to forget that lesson from time to time. So then I find myself being dragged every whichway by the promises I have made and/or feeling guilty about bailing on some of those promises. A friend reminded me the other day, "You better take some time to rest, soon, or your body will do that FOR you". And my body HAS done that in the past. So I took her advice...
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Post by Deleted on Jun 24, 2024 17:38:08 GMT
OMG yes, if I don't get that at least once or twice a month I get super cranky. It's been a while. Dh is going on a guy's fishing trip in a few weeks and I'm going to spend the weekend and a couple extra days at our camper (we have a seasonal site) and read and craft alone.
I can't wait! Literally I feel on edge and angry when this doesn't happen enough.
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If the friends were both males, I absolutely would NOT go. 
