Just T
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Post by Just T on Jun 26, 2024 18:49:50 GMT
UGH Too much going on in my life! I finally got the transcript from the court reporter of my stbx's deposition. OMG. Sooooo many lies! Did he not know he was under oath??? He lied about so many things that can be proven he lied about. I think the document was full of more lies than truths! Some of the lies were huge things, others, small things that he had no real reason to even lie about at all. The hilarious thing is that over and over, he made the point that his "lady friend" is just a friend. Never has been more than that. But with all the stuff I know about the two of them, and the amount of money he has sent to her...He also said at one point that he doesn't have her phone number. LMAO He really does think we are both dumb. My attorney asked him if they run marathons together, and he said that sometimes, they end up at the same place!! OMG...they run together pretty much every weekend and have for YEARS. Their race numbers are usually right next to each other. They usually have the exact same times. Gosh, I cannot wait until this is over and I can tell you just how deep the shit is with this a$$hole. You probably won't even believe me. On another note, I found out yesterday that my daughter is pregnant with a BOY.  I know before she does because I am making some things for her gender reveal party that is on Friday, so she had the doctor's office send the results to me. But...a week or so ago, she told me she had been having a lot of cramps and wondered if it is too early for Braxton Hicks contractions. I told her she should call her doctor, who told her if she has 4 or more in an hour, to call. Yesterday, she told me she is having a lot of anxiety about her pregnancy, and she still has some cramping off and on. (She is 16 weeks). Today, she texted me and said she is going to the doctor at 2:15 because she is not feeling good and is having a lot of anxiety about the pregnancy. She is going to see her doctor for the first time--every other appointment has been with the nurse practitioner. So of course, my anxiety is in high gear now! Today is her birthday, too. Think some good thoughts for my sweet daughter and her little boy.  UPDATE on my daughter: Everything looks good. The doctor checked her cervix, which she said looks great. Baby boy looks good, good heartbeat. She is a bit concerned about some upper abdominal pain she is having and did some blood work to check her liver. But everything seems to be fine. |
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Post by Linda on Jun 26, 2024 18:52:12 GMT
prayers for your daughter and her baby - and for you...I hope this divorce finally wraps up soon and the judge sees him for what he is
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Post by Tearisci on Jun 26, 2024 18:58:23 GMT
What an idiot he must be to lie about things that can be proven truthful. Is he really that delusional that he believes these lies to be true? What an awakening he'll get when the truth comes out and think about how validated you'll be. I'm sure it is very stressful but just think about how you'll feel when his lies are exposed. I'd be really looking forward to that!
Sending good thoughts about your daughter's pregnancy. I hope she has a good dr. appointment.
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Post by christine58 on Jun 26, 2024 19:09:28 GMT
I can’t wait for the day when you come on here and you tell us that he’s been caught in all of his boatload of lies. Hang in there you got this. Prayers to your daughter too.
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Post by Zee on Jun 26, 2024 19:10:32 GMT
Of all the shitty STBX I've read about over the years, yours is one of the ones that make me the maddest. Fuck this guy.
I hope all goes well at the doctor for your DD and her baby. ❤️🙏
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Jun 26, 2024 19:25:09 GMT
Hope your DD's appointment goes well!!
Your STBX has created his own problem. You will prevail!!
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Post by gillyp on Jun 26, 2024 19:45:31 GMT
I wonder if SHE knows she's nothing more than a friend?!
All the best vibes to your daughter and grandson for a good appointment.
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Post by cakediva on Jun 26, 2024 19:54:18 GMT
Sending all the hugs….
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Post by librarylady on Jun 26, 2024 20:01:47 GMT
So, you are married to Donald Trump's twin?
I look forward to the day you can be free of the jerk.
Good karma sent for you daughter and her pregnancy.
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Post by malibou on Jun 26, 2024 20:05:08 GMT
I really don't like lying liars who lie. I hope your atty is going thru that depo with a fine tooth comb and documenting everything you can prove is a lie.
I hope your daughter feels better after meeting with her doctor and that it all turns out to be nothing.
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Post by Scrapper100 on Jun 26, 2024 20:19:49 GMT
Best if wishes to your daughter.
I don’t understand when they lie about things that are so easily proven wrong. I assume you have copied his FB posts about the two of them with pictures and such and passed them on to your lawyer. He can delete at any time so I hope you have been making hard copies. You know it’s been going on for years but yes it’s only friendship. Yes I know men and women can be friends but to travel together as often as they do and plan races together.
I hope he gets caught in his lies and the judge takes it seriously and remembers that when it comes times to award you your settlement. I really hope he has to pay you half of all of his trips and such.
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Post by Laurie on Jun 26, 2024 20:42:00 GMT
Keeping your daughter and stb grandson in my thoughts.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Jun 26, 2024 20:48:06 GMT
Wishing you strength, as you deal with all of this.
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Post by ILoveToScrapPea on Jun 26, 2024 21:09:17 GMT
Wow! You’ve been through so much. I pray all is well with your daughter and the baby.
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Post by twinks on Jun 26, 2024 21:26:59 GMT
First things first: I hope all is well with your daughter and her baby.
Next, as maddening as this is and as much as you want to shout it from the rooftops that he is not only a total jerk, but a lying total jerk, calm down and act smarter. I would take the transcript and write down your response to absolutely everything. Get the proof organized to support your points. Don’t hold back. If you know they run together, you can write, “liar liar pants on fire!” and show every time you know that he and his “lady friend” have gone out of town together to run a race. This is an exercise for you. Get it all out there.
Once you have your responses, use the Tiffany approach. This is where you spotlight what is really important. Just put the spotlight on a single item or a few items. You don’t want to use the Woolworth approach where you put everything you sale in the window. I would then contact your attorney and discuss what you have determined is important.
For example, if you decide that his running and out of town trips are evidence of him spending the marital assets, then it doesn’t matter whether he is with his “lady friend” or not. It doesn’t matter if he lied in the deposition. You just present the evidence that his amount of race registrations, airfares, hotels, etc are taking from the marital assets and decreasing the amount that was to be split equally or that they are his debt and not your responsibility to pay half. When you present your evidence to the court, you will show that he is lying and that he has a “lady friend” but the important part is you are showing he is decreasing the marital assets or racking up personal debt.
As maddening, unfair, devastating as this whole thing is, the courts don’t care that he is lying or has a “lady friend.” It only speaks to his character. You want to speak well for your character (which you are).
Remember the Tiffany approach and to be like Margaret Thatcher. Screw him with a sweet smile on your face.
Hang in there. You are doing this with your head held high. You are almost through this and in a couple of years it will be history. The best revenge is a life well lived.
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Post by hop2 on Jun 26, 2024 22:03:32 GMT
Good thought to you & your DD
And I wish you freedom & peace from your marriage.
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Just T
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Post by Just T on Jun 26, 2024 22:32:26 GMT
UPDATE on my daughter: Everything looks good. The doctor checked her cervix, which she said looks great. Baby boy looks good, good heartbeat. She is a bit concerned about some upper abdominal pain she is having and did some blood work to check her liver. But everything seems to be fine.
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Just T
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Post by Just T on Jun 26, 2024 22:33:36 GMT
So, you are married to Donald Trump's twin? I look forward to the day you can be free of the jerk. LOL You might have caused this thread to get marked political, you trouble maker! LOL |
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Post by Just T on Jun 26, 2024 22:36:05 GMT
First things first: I hope all is well with your daughter and her baby. Next, as maddening as this is and as much as you want to shout it from the rooftops that he is not only a total jerk, but a lying total jerk, calm down and act smarter. I would take the transcript and write down your response to absolutely everything. Get the proof organized to support your points. Don’t hold back. If you know they run together, you can write, “liar liar pants on fire!” and show every time you know that he and his “lady friend” have gone out of town together to run a race. This is an exercise for you. Get it all out there. Once you have your responses, use the Tiffany approach. This is where you spotlight what is really important. Just put the spotlight on a single item or a few items. You don’t want to use the Woolworth approach where you put everything you sale in the window. I would then contact your attorney and discuss what you have determined is important. For example, if you decide that his running and out of town trips are evidence of him spending the marital assets, then it doesn’t matter whether he is with his “lady friend” or not. It doesn’t matter if he lied in the deposition. You just present the evidence that his amount of race registrations, airfares, hotels, etc are taking from the marital assets and decreasing the amount that was to be split equally or that they are his debt and not your responsibility to pay half. When you present your evidence to the court, you will show that he is lying and that he has a “lady friend” but the important part is you are showing he is decreasing the marital assets or racking up personal debt. As maddening, unfair, devastating as this whole thing is, the courts don’t care that he is lying or has a “lady friend.” It only speaks to his character. You want to speak well for your character (which you are). Remember the Tiffany approach and to be like Margaret Thatcher. Screw him with a sweet smile on your face. Hang in there. You are doing this with your head held high. You are almost through this and in a couple of years it will be history. The best revenge is a life well lived. I am definitely focusing on the bigger things. The only reason I mention his "friend" so much is because she is so tied up in what he is doing. I live in a no fault state, so the judge doesn't give a rip that he has cheated with her for years, but the other things he is doing, that she is involved with, the judge does care. For now, you will just have to trust me when I say it is all HUGE, and I am sorry I have to be vague for now. Someday...I will write about it all, and it will seem unreal, like a Lifetime movie. LOL |
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Post by airforcemomof1 on Jun 26, 2024 22:37:19 GMT
Continuing to pray for strength for you til you finally have peace. Do you have a court date or will it be decided by mediation? Glad to see the update re your daughter and baby.
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Post by teddyw on Jun 26, 2024 23:11:31 GMT
I’m glad your dd and baby boy are ok.
I can’t wait for your stbxh to be exposed.
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Post by twinks on Jun 26, 2024 23:25:18 GMT
Thanks for the update on your daughter.
I do trust and believe in you. I just know how hard it is when you are in the middle to loose focus. There were so many times I just wanted to have that he was a horrible lying jerk in a neon sign on Mt Olympus so that the whole city would know what he was like and what he did to me and my DD. After we went to trial and things were decided, the judge actually called me. What he said to me meant a lot.
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Post by flanz on Jun 26, 2024 23:55:58 GMT
Thanks for sharing the good news in your update. ((( hugs )))
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Post by shamrock on Jun 27, 2024 0:09:55 GMT
Glad your daughter was checked out by her doctor and that everything is good. I hope that helps her anxiety. Pregnancy is so tough on anxiety for a lot of us!
Can’t wait for the day that you can shout from the rooftops that you’re done with him!
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Post by CeeScraps on Jun 27, 2024 0:12:13 GMT
Congratulations!!
Suggestion.....she needs to drink more water than she normally drinks. I learned that after being put in the hospital for cramping. Once I increased water I was good.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jun 27, 2024 1:37:04 GMT
I’m glad to hear your daughter and the baby are doing well.
As far as the rest? Hell yes, it’s aggravating and tedious and maddening and depressing and… but hang in there. It will come to an end and life will be sooooo much better. I’m sorry it’s the hard, long slog, but you can do this. And it will be worth it.
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Post by hop2 on Jun 27, 2024 9:54:32 GMT
I’m so glad your DD is doing ok! That great.
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Post by mikklynn on Jun 27, 2024 19:32:30 GMT
Your STBX is such a dumbass! I am picturing your attorney rubbing her hands together in glee, like a villain, at proving he's lying!
I am really, really happy everything looks good with your DD and her baby. I had to have my gall bladder removed right after delivering my first. It could be that causing her pain.
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I know before she does because I am making some things for her gender reveal party that is on Friday, so she had the doctor's office send the results to me. But...a week or so ago, she told me she had been having a lot of cramps and wondered if it is too early for Braxton Hicks contractions. I told her she should call her doctor, who told her if she has 4 or more in an hour, to call. Yesterday, she told me she is having a lot of anxiety about her pregnancy, and she still has some cramping off and on. (She is 16 weeks). Today, she texted me and said she is going to the doctor at 2:15 because she is not feeling good and is having a lot of anxiety about the pregnancy. She is going to see her doctor for the first time--every other appointment has been with the nurse practitioner. So of course, my anxiety is in high gear now! Today is her birthday, too. 
