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Post by leeny on Jun 29, 2024 19:18:56 GMT
I am very out of the loop. Do you bring a gift to an engagement party?
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Post by mom on Jun 29, 2024 19:45:15 GMT
I don't think you have to, but I would not show up empty handed. I would get a nice engagement card and probably something with their monogram on it like a cutting board or nice frame.
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Post by littlemama on Jun 29, 2024 21:21:07 GMT
I wouldn't. There is still presumably a shower and the wedding to go for gifts. A third gift is a bit much to ask.
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Post by epeanymous on Jun 29, 2024 21:53:31 GMT
People usually have brought gifts to the engagement parties I've attended, although honestly I feel like I've seen fewer engagement parties in recent years? I think mine involved a lot of picture frames and vases  . |
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Post by pantsonfire on Jun 29, 2024 22:09:58 GMT
A card.
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Post by lucyg on Jun 29, 2024 22:48:20 GMT
I think I’ve only been to one engagement party, and that was, like, 20 years ago. Pretty sure I gave them a card with a check inside, maybe $50? But I don’t see it as being a necessity. That was for the daughter of close friends and I was all excited. oh, I went to another one a few years later for my late DH’s niece. Same deal. Not sure why I’m even posting. I’m useless.  |
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Post by melanell on Jun 29, 2024 22:58:26 GMT
I haven't ben to an engagement party in ages. The last time was so long ago that I brought a card and gave the bride-to-be a physical wedding planning book. These days I imagine most brides use an app for that. |
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Post by pantsonfire on Jun 30, 2024 3:41:14 GMT
I think I’ve only been to one engagement party, and that was, like, 20 years ago. Pretty sure I gave them a card with a check inside, maybe $50? But I don’t see it as being a necessity. That was for the daughter of close friends and I was all excited. oh, I went to another one a few years later for my late DH’s niece. Same deal. Not sure why I’m even posting. I’m useless. Girl, never!! ❤️ |
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jun 30, 2024 3:59:23 GMT
I’ve never been to one. I’d probably just bring a card since I know I’m going to be hit up later for other gifts. ETA: At that stage they may not even have a date and probably haven’t really started any wedding planning yet so they won’t have registries or anything else set up, so no need to jump the gun IMO.
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Post by lucyg on Jun 30, 2024 4:33:58 GMT
I think I’ve only been to one engagement party, and that was, like, 20 years ago. Pretty sure I gave them a card with a check inside, maybe $50? But I don’t see it as being a necessity. That was for the daughter of close friends and I was all excited. oh, I went to another one a few years later for my late DH’s niece. Same deal. Not sure why I’m even posting. I’m useless. Girl, never!! ❤️ aww, that’s sweet, thanks! |
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Post by Delta Dawn on Jun 30, 2024 4:47:42 GMT
I think I’ve only been to one engagement party, and that was, like, 20 years ago. Pretty sure I gave them a card with a check inside, maybe $50? But I don’t see it as being a necessity. That was for the daughter of close friends and I was all excited. oh, I went to another one a few years later for my late DH’s niece. Same deal. Not sure why I’m even posting. I’m useless. I went to one 29 years ago and we got gifts and stuff. Most people brought wine. lucyg yours experience is more recent than mine!!! |
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Post by peano on Jun 30, 2024 14:20:22 GMT
Family friends threw an engagement party for us. Some people brought presents, some didn't. I think engagement parties have gone the way of the dodo, a relic of the age where the privileged had parties for everything.
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Post by epeanymous on Jun 30, 2024 14:27:22 GMT
Family friends threw an engagement party for us. Some people brought presents, some didn't. I think engagement parties have gone the way of the dodo, a relic of the age where the privileged had parties for everything. I think they used to be events thrown by parents for their kid (mostly daughter), but between the fact that people now spend more on weddings and the rise of things like destination bachelorette parties, engagement parties have become less common. |
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Post by Tearisci on Jun 30, 2024 14:37:03 GMT
I just went to my niece's engagement party and a lot of people brought gifts. They had a gift table set up for those who brought them but I think I just gave her a card.
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Post by peabay on Jun 30, 2024 15:32:06 GMT
I don't show up to anything labeled a "party" empty handed, be it a bottle of wine or a gift. I would bring a card with a check to an engagement party.
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Post by flanz on Jun 30, 2024 17:28:09 GMT
I think I’ve only been to one engagement party, and that was, like, 20 years ago. Pretty sure I gave them a card with a check inside, maybe $50? But I don’t see it as being a necessity. That was for the daughter of close friends and I was all excited. oh, I went to another one a few years later for my late DH’s niece. Same deal. Not sure why I’m even posting. I’m useless. Girl, never!! ❤️ YOU BEAT ME TO IT! NEVER!! I don't think I've ever been invited to an engagement party... I take that back. I was invited to my first and only on Dec 26. It was a surprise party. Bride's parents, our dear friends, knew that he was going to propose to their daughter during a hike that morning. His parents and sister flew in from Ohio and there were about 30 of us in attendance. I am close to the bride and was so very excited for them. Gave a card with $100. I don't think most people brought anything and there was def. no gift table set up. I say go with your gut. |
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Post by gina on Jun 30, 2024 17:58:38 GMT
I would never show up empty handed. I am in NY and engagement parties are fairly big here. We give a card with a check. Gifts are saved for the bridal shower.
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Post by hannahruth on Jul 3, 2024 6:06:42 GMT
Last engagement I attended was own DD’s in 2003!
There were gifts and from what I remember they ranged in size and value. All were appreciated as they were young and really had nothing to begin setting up a home.
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Post by peppermintpatty on Jul 3, 2024 11:19:05 GMT
My dd's future in-laws mentioned something to us about throwing a party when our kids got engaged. My dd didn't really care to do one and since I am paying for the lion's share of the wedding, I told dd that if her they wanted to do one, it would be on them. I'm also doing the bridal shower.
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Post by anniebeth24 on Jul 3, 2024 11:34:24 GMT
DIL's family threw one, but the attendees thought it was just a family BBQ. DS had planned to propose in DIL's hometown when they were visiting. Her immediate family helped him plan everything, so they coordinated a party for that night.
She grinned all night, showing off the ring and letting everyone know that they were getting married!
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Post by Darcy Collins on Jul 3, 2024 12:46:07 GMT
Card and check. The last one I went to was actually thrown by my friend while the couple was in town. The child moved away and their wedding is out of state. I think everyone knew many of the family friends who watched her grow up wouldn't be able to make it to an out of state wedding, so the engagement party was a fun way to celebrate them.
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Post by snyder on Jul 3, 2024 18:03:10 GMT
I have never been to an engagement party. I think they are odd. Seems like a money grab to start collecting money to pay for their wedding. lol
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Post by smasonnc on Jul 3, 2024 20:57:47 GMT
I recently sent a personalized charcuterie board from Etsy. It was fun but not extravagant. I wouldn't have shown up with nothing. I lived in the South too long for that.
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Post by twinsrule on Jul 4, 2024 17:24:10 GMT
They are popular here in NJ. Been to several. Always bring a card and check. I never show up empty handed.
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Post by rahnee on Jul 7, 2024 2:39:00 GMT
All the engagement parties we've been to, guests have bought presents similar to a wedding. But I'm in Australia. And it's been an engagement party and a wedding. No shower. I'm not 100% sure what this is.
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