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Post by lucyg on Jul 14, 2024 23:39:48 GMT
This has a few pictures on it. It’s lovely - would be lovelier with a signature 😂 So you did receive a thank you note, but it wasn't personalized to your standards? SERIOUSLY?! It wasn’t personalized to any civilized person’s standards. |
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Post by lucyg on Jul 15, 2024 0:02:35 GMT
I never received a thank-you note for my niece’s wedding gift (donation to the honeymoon experience made through their wedding web site) a couple of years ago. I know she was raised to write thank-you notes. I am quite fond of her but the relationship is slightly fragile (her psycho-bitch mother’s doing) so there was no way I was going to ask her or either of her parents if they actually received the gift. My credit card WAS charged for it. Two years later, they have just had a baby. My sisters and I gave a baby shower for them, and I received a thank-you note promptly. I have decided I’m not going to worry about the wedding gift/thank-you note anymore. But it can eat away at you. WHO KNOWS if your $50-$500 gift was ever received if it isn’t acknowledged? peabay, you are one half-step ahead of the game as you at least know your gift was received. But I agree that a generic, printed card with no personalization whatsoever, no personal thank you, is pretty sucky. I have traveled out of state for weddings that were local to the couple getting married. I’ve never been invited to an actual destination wedding. But I would have to feel very, VERY close to the couple to go to that kind of trouble and expense. Like, it would probably have to be my own kid or I’m not going to bother. |
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Post by peabay on Jul 15, 2024 0:25:51 GMT
I never received a thank-you note for my niece’s wedding gift (donation to the honeymoon experience made through their wedding web site) a couple of years ago. I know she was raised to write thank-you notes. I am quite fond of her but the relationship is slightly fragile (her psycho-bitch mother’s doing) so there was no way I was going to ask her or either of her parents if they actually received the gift. My credit card WAS charged for it. Two years later, they have just had a baby. My sisters and I gave a baby shower for them, and I received a thank-you note promptly. I have decided I’m not going to worry about the wedding gift/thank-you note anymore. But it can eat away at you. WHO KNOWS if your $50-$500 gift was ever received if it isn’t acknowledged? peabay , you are one half-step ahead of the game as you at least know your gift was received. But I agree that a generic, printed card with no personalization whatsoever, no personal thank you, is pretty sucky. I have traveled out of state for weddings that were local to the couple getting married. I’ve never been invited to an actual destination wedding. But I would have to feel very, VERY close to the couple to go to that kind of trouble and expense. Like, it would probably have to be my own kid or I’m not going to bother. It was a child raised with my kids - they are very close and we are very close with the parents. And the mom of the child that got married mentioned to me how hurt she was by some people saying they weren’t going to travel for the wedding. There was just no option for us. And we adore this kid - I would’ve been thrilled had they had it in the States. |
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Post by milocat on Jul 15, 2024 1:30:20 GMT
I'm not big on thank you notes but I'd except one from a wedding especially a destination one. I like when they send the photo cards because then you have a nice photo of the couple but I've always gotten a short "thank you for the xyz, signature" on the back.
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Post by TankTop on Jul 15, 2024 2:01:14 GMT
100% not acceptable.
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Post by lucyg on Jul 15, 2024 2:33:01 GMT
I never received a thank-you note for my niece’s wedding gift (donation to the honeymoon experience made through their wedding web site) a couple of years ago. I know she was raised to write thank-you notes. I am quite fond of her but the relationship is slightly fragile (her psycho-bitch mother’s doing) so there was no way I was going to ask her or either of her parents if they actually received the gift. My credit card WAS charged for it. Two years later, they have just had a baby. My sisters and I gave a baby shower for them, and I received a thank-you note promptly. I have decided I’m not going to worry about the wedding gift/thank-you note anymore. But it can eat away at you. WHO KNOWS if your $50-$500 gift was ever received if it isn’t acknowledged? peabay , you are one half-step ahead of the game as you at least know your gift was received. But I agree that a generic, printed card with no personalization whatsoever, no personal thank you, is pretty sucky. I have traveled out of state for weddings that were local to the couple getting married. I’ve never been invited to an actual destination wedding. But I would have to feel very, VERY close to the couple to go to that kind of trouble and expense. Like, it would probably have to be my own kid or I’m not going to bother. It was a child raised with my kids - they are very close and we are very close with the parents. And the mom of the child that got married mentioned to me how hurt she was by some people saying they weren’t going to travel for the wedding. There was just no option for us. And we adore this kid - I would’ve been thrilled had they had it in the States. oops, sorry, I wasn’t criticizing your choice to attend the wedding. Just establishing my own parameters. You get to choose which weddings you attend.  |
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jul 15, 2024 14:48:57 GMT
ETA: I was also raised to write a TY note even if I received the gift in person. I don't think that is needed. I was raised that way as well, and I still practice the habit. I'm probably an over-thanker. Oh, well. There's worse things to be. |
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Post by kristi521 on Jul 15, 2024 14:56:11 GMT
That would bother me as well. I have taught my girls to write thank you notes from an early age. Like another poster said, when they were too small to write their own, I would write them, then graduated to having them tell me what to write and I would write it (those were always pretty cute) to finally them writing them on their own. I was proud to see my oldest write thank you notes for a small get together we did for her recent college graduation with zero prompting from me.
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 15, 2024 15:29:15 GMT
ETA: I was also raised to write a TY note even if I received the gift in person. I don't think that is needed. I was raised that way as well, and I still practice the habit. I'm probably an over-thanker. Oh, well. There's worse things to be. My boss told me I was the most thankful employee. I worked with 70 other people. Many my age-ish. It doesn't take much to say thank you. I always just try to do it immediately. |
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Post by Susie_Homemaker on Jul 15, 2024 17:33:29 GMT
Life long southerner here. I was raised to write thank you notes and I raised our DDs to do the same.
Our youngest is getting married this year and I love the idea of using a wedding pic on the thank you card,,, but with a hand-written note included!
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