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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Jul 15, 2024 13:12:24 GMT
Since having various health issues culminating in last year's hysterectomy, and recent Covid, all making me feel permanently tired out, I've become a past master at procrastinating. I mean I'm really, REALLY good at leaving anything important until the last moment. I currently have a list in front of me, yet here I sit. I could quite happily go back to bed at 2 in the afternoon if it wasn't for that list - not that I'm accomplishing anything on that list by being awake either.
Has anyone got any kick-up-the-rear tips that help you get moving and achieving?
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jul 15, 2024 13:20:46 GMT
Yes, I do. A schedule. I have a planner. But I plan things so loose that there is ample time between tasks. Like I will block an hour for a task that might only take me 30-40 minutes. I schedule from the start of my workday 7am - 5 pm every day except Sunday. I also use a cube timer. I have a 15-20-30-60 minute one. It is an ADHD trick. I sit down to do a task and I set the timer for the time I have allotted in my planner for that task and I try to beat the timer. Then if I finish before the timer goes off, I can pea for 10 or 15 minutes or get up and walk around for a bit. And I will tell you, this makes me very, very efficient at work. When I am on a task, I am on a task. But I never feel like I am running to catch up with anything because there is unexpected downtime all day.
The only thing I will say, is that I also build in review time at work. Because I tend to be very efficient and I do have a bipolar/ADHD brain I need to go back to a report or project and review it before I submit it. I also block off 15 minutes before a meeting I'm leading (like expenditure report meetings) and pull out my documents to review and prep before the meeting.
But all of these strategies help my executive functioning. I am smart, very smart. I do quality work. But I could/would not if I didn't have these strategies in place.
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Post by librarylady on Jul 15, 2024 13:31:48 GMT
I assign deadlines to tasks especially if I don't want to do it in the first place.
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 15, 2024 14:29:07 GMT
The more time I have to do nothing, the more time I waste. My friend is the opposite and sees a weekend of no obligations as 48 hours to get stuff done. Bleh! I love Cass from Clutterbug on YouTube. One of her big pushes is that you do the stuff that is the easiest first. Get that checked off the list. I like to do the thing that will take me the least time or is the most fun. That way I see progress without hitting the he heaviest stuff first. I am currently purging closets that I usually do in May. Having a hard time getting motivated. When I see how good it looks when something is done, it does help me to move onto the next space a little more.
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Post by grammadee on Jul 15, 2024 14:36:09 GMT
I set small goals. Big goals are scary. Write them down. I usually do this in the evening when I have no energy for morning when I usually do. When I wake up, I take a look at the list, pick one goal, and accomplish it. Check it off. Feel good about myself. Sometimes that good feeling carries me through to take on the next little task on the list...
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Post by caangel on Jul 15, 2024 14:39:45 GMT
When I have a long list of to dos I highlight 2-4 things as must dos for the day and focus on them. If that's all I get done it is a win. If I have more energy then I can look at the rest of my list and usually pick something easy that is similar to what I'm already doing (computer work, cleaning, creating, etc).
Time blocking works really well for me when I have a busy day and lots of must dos. I am also better at getting things done early in the day or when no one else is home so I plan around that too.
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Jul 15, 2024 15:46:37 GMT
Yes, I do. A schedule. I have a planner. But I plan things so loose that there is ample time between tasks. Like I will block an hour for a task that might only take me 30-40 minutes. I schedule from the start of my workday 7am - 5 pm every day except Sunday. I also use a cube timer. I have a 15-20-30-60 minute one. It is an ADHD trick. I sit down to do a task and I set the timer for the time I have allotted in my planner for that task and I try to beat the timer. Then if I finish before the timer goes off, I can pea for 10 or 15 minutes or get up and walk around for a bit. And I will tell you, this makes me very, very efficient at work. When I am on a task, I am on a task. But I never feel like I am running to catch up with anything because there is unexpected downtime all day. The only thing I will say, is that I also build in review time at work. Because I tend to be very efficient and I do have a bipolar/ADHD brain I need to go back to a report or project and review it before I submit it. I also block off 15 minutes before a meeting I'm leading (like expenditure report meetings) and pull out my documents to review and prep before the meeting. But all of these strategies help my executive functioning. I am smart, very smart. I do quality work. But I could/would not if I didn't have these strategies in place. That's similar to the way I plan my time at work, and it works. I don't know why I can't do that on my days off too. At home, I find that even if I have my list and time blocked off, I only manage the appointments, then things that are either fun or with an urgent deadline. I never used to be like this. I used to be able to burn the candle at both ends, be up early ticking things off my list for the day already and feeling good about myself. Now it takes me hours to get started. I'm blaming the menopause. You're smarter than I ever was, even before menopause-brain.
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Jul 15, 2024 15:47:28 GMT
I assign deadlines to tasks especially if I don't want to do it in the first place. Tried that. My brain "knows" that they are not real deadlines, and ignores them. I swear my brain hates me!
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Jul 15, 2024 15:51:47 GMT
The more time I have to do nothing, the more time I waste. My friend is the opposite and sees a weekend of no obligations as 48 hours to get stuff done. Bleh! I love Cass from Clutterbug on YouTube. One of her big pushes is that you do the stuff that is the easiest first. Get that checked off the list. I like to do the thing that will take me the least time or is the most fun. That way I see progress without hitting the he heaviest stuff first. I am currently purging closets that I usually do in May. Having a hard time getting motivated. When I see how good it looks when something is done, it does help me to move onto the next space a little more. It's crazy isn't it? I know how good I feel when I do stuff, and yet I still struggle to get started. AND I read that people who make lists are getting more satisfaction from ticking things off the list than from actually getting the things done. I realised that that is me. I have made To Do lists for the day, then have even added things to them that I've already done today, just so that I can tick something off and it looks as if I've achieved something! I think I have a list problem... Well done doing your closets. That's the kind of thing that I tend to start at 10pm on a Saturday night after I've slept in that morning, then got my second wind just before bedtime. I tell you, I'm broken!
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Jul 15, 2024 15:54:55 GMT
I set small goals. Big goals are scary. Write them down. I usually do this in the evening when I have no energy for morning when I usually do. When I wake up, I take a look at the list, pick one goal, and accomplish it. Check it off. Feel good about myself. Sometimes that good feeling carries me through to take on the next little task on the list... "Sometimes" Haha! How do you manage how you feel about those hated list items that you don't do, that get carried over for days, until finally you realise you will never bother, and cross them off? Or do you always get round to them eventually? Maybe I need a list labelled "nice to have" that I could move them to...
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Post by gar on Jul 15, 2024 15:56:07 GMT
Are you procrastinating or are you really not up to it, physically, yet? With the health issues you've had plus menopause it wouldn't be surprising if you were a little depressed perhaps? Or do you need to build up your physical strength with small increases in walks or some form of gentle exercise? Exercise is great for empowering us with it's natural high and I always find I do more during the day after I've been for a brisk walk in the morning.
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Jul 15, 2024 15:57:37 GMT
When I have a long list of to dos I highlight 2-4 things as must dos for the day and focus on them. If that's all I get done it is a win. If I have more energy then I can look at the rest of my list and usually pick something easy that is similar to what I'm already doing (computer work, cleaning, creating, etc). Time blocking works really well for me when I have a busy day and lots of must dos. I am also better at getting things done early in the day or when no one else is home so I plan around that too. Well done. That's how I used to be. I wish I could get going early and make the most of having nobody else around too. That's when my brain tells me that I deserve/need the rest, despite the red items on my list. Oh dear.
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Post by Tearisci on Jul 15, 2024 16:06:33 GMT
I'm at the middle/end of month work tasks that I don't enjoy. I've broken them down in how many tasks per day do I have to do to make progress and not put them off till the last minute. I have 4 tasks a day for 8 days of work so as long as I am doing that amount, I won't procrastinate and will still see progress.
Today, I really didn't want to work so the 4 tasks are going to be for less challenging things so that I am still accomplishing but being kind to myself on a Monday.
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Jul 15, 2024 16:06:36 GMT
Are you procrastinating or are you really not up to it, physically, yet? With the health issues you've had plus menopause it wouldn't be surprising if you were a little depressed perhaps? Or do you need to build up your physical strength with small increases in walks or some form of gentle exercise? Exercise is great for empowering us with it's natural high and I always find I do more during the day after I've been for a brisk walk in the morning. Probably a combination to be honest. I think I overdid things. This is a crazy time of year with family birthdays. Friday was work then a meal out for nephew's 18th and a late night. We went for a 5 mile walk on Saturday and absolutely loved it but I was worn out. Then yesterday I was shattered and hurt all over before I even got up. I had another busy day with church, then taking elderly friends to buy a rollator, then tea at MIL's, then home for the football and a phone call with my family. Today I crashed. But I haven't got time to crash this week because it's niece's 21st today, and DH's and BFF's birthdays Wednesday with visitors in the evening, church work, hospital appointment and choir practice on Thursday, and working Tu, W & F. The next chance I get to crash is Sunday. I'm knackered just thinking about it.
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Jul 15, 2024 16:07:30 GMT
I'm at the middle/end of month work tasks that I don't enjoy. I've broken them down in how many tasks per day do I have to do to make progress and not put them off till the last minute. I have 4 tasks a day for 8 days of work so as long as I am doing that amount, I won't procrastinate and will still see progress. Today, I really didn't want to work so the 4 tasks are going to be for less challenging things so that I am still accomplishing but being kind to myself on a Monday. Thank you. You're right. I need to pace myself.
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Post by grammadee on Jul 15, 2024 16:07:57 GMT
How do you manage how you feel about those hated list items that you don't do, that get carried over for days, until finally you realise you will never bother, and cross them off? Or do you always get round to them eventually? Maybe I need a list labelled "nice to have" that I could move them to... The trick is not to have an on=going list. My list is day to day; at the most, week to week. Suppose--just suppose-- my garage needs cleaning. That is a huge job. My list might have items on it like collect the recyclables and put in a bin, or clean the garden shelf, or some job that takes an hour or less. So far, I got as far as cleaning the garage fridge and the corner around it. Yay! That's a win. Having a deadline works, too. I DID finish cleaning the area of the basement we use for games, etc last week. Used the same system, one step/area at a time. The motivation for that was my dgk's are planning to come this week, so they needed a place to play. I don't see the rest of the space as a loss, or even an obligation at that point. If I know I will probably not have time or energy to take it on this week, none of the garage jobs even go on the list. And I try to congratulate myself on the job done without kicking myself for what is not done. One thing about procrastinating a long time, the cleaning I DID do is really obvious and satisfying ! Another thing I forgot to mention is that if I am taking a break from a job, or have promised myself I will move on to a second job after a break, I set an alarm on my stove. When it dings, I get up and go to the next task.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jul 15, 2024 16:15:07 GMT
I never used to be like this. I used to be able to burn the candle at both ends, be up early ticking things off my list for the day already and feeling good about myself. Now it takes me hours to get started. I'm blaming the menopause. I don't want you to get the wrong idea, I *don't* burn the candle at both ends. I don't overbook or overcommit. If I have to leave the house twice in one weekend, I feel overwhelmed. After reading your post above this one, plus the response to Gar, I totally think you do. If you still aren't feeling well then you need to take extra special care of yourself.
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Jul 15, 2024 18:52:47 GMT
How do you manage how you feel about those hated list items that you don't do, that get carried over for days, until finally you realise you will never bother, and cross them off? Or do you always get round to them eventually? Maybe I need a list labelled "nice to have" that I could move them to... The trick is not to have an on=going list. My list is day to day; at the most, week to week. Suppose--just suppose-- my garage needs cleaning. That is a huge job. My list might have items on it like collect the recyclables and put in a bin, or clean the garden shelf, or some job that takes an hour or less. So far, I got as far as cleaning the garage fridge and the corner around it. Yay! That's a win. Having a deadline works, too. I DID finish cleaning the area of the basement we use for games, etc last week. Used the same system, one step/area at a time. The motivation for that was my dgk's are planning to come this week, so they needed a place to play. I don't see the rest of the space as a loss, or even an obligation at that point. If I know I will probably not have time or energy to take it on this week, none of the garage jobs even go on the list. And I try to congratulate myself on the job done without kicking myself for what is not done. One thing about procrastinating a long time, the cleaning I DID do is really obvious and satisfying ! Another thing I forgot to mention is that if I am taking a break from a job, or have promised myself I will move on to a second job after a break, I set an alarm on my stove. When it dings, I get up and go to the next task.That's a great idea!
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Jul 15, 2024 18:58:06 GMT
I never used to be like this. I used to be able to burn the candle at both ends, be up early ticking things off my list for the day already and feeling good about myself. Now it takes me hours to get started. I'm blaming the menopause. I don't want you to get the wrong idea, I *don't* burn the candle at both ends. I don't overbook or overcommit. If I have to leave the house twice in one weekend, I feel overwhelmed. After reading your post above this one, plus the response to Gar, I totally think you do. If you still aren't feeling well then you need to take extra special care of yourself. Yes, I think you're both (all) right. I'm just so fed up with waking up tired, however much or little sleep I get. The only times I don't wish I was at home in bed are when I'm burning adrenaline making other things happen. Then I feel far worse the next day. I still need to get things done though, and I get easily overwhelmed at this time of year when All The Birthdays happen at once. I wonder whether the doctor might have any suggestions about that...
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Post by RosieKat on Jul 15, 2024 19:56:49 GMT
Sometimes I just challenge myself for 15 minutes and it helps me get motivated overall. If not, well, I did 15 minutes more than I would have done.
I also agree that it sounds like you may just be done in and your body is telling you to rest. Go gently on yourself. If you don't listen to your body, it will force you to listen somehow, maybe not in a nice way. I hear you when you say you can't just 100% rest for now, but maybe you need to figure out how to let a few things go for right now and catch up on them later. Yeah, it might make "later" harder, but just think how hard it will be if you're hospitalized for exhaustion or something?
Treat yourself the way you'd tell one of us to treat ourselves. Please.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Jul 15, 2024 23:15:54 GMT
I reward myself with something. Working for something is an incentive. It's silly, but it works for me.
Even if it's something silly, like >> once the household chores are done, I can have a cup of hot tea and a couple cookies, a nap, etc.. If it's a dreaded chore >> like vacuum the inside of the car.......then I get myself some scrapbook goodies.
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Post by MorningPerson on Jul 16, 2024 0:03:07 GMT
I love Cass from Clutterbug on YouTube. One of her big pushes is that you do the stuff that is the easiest first. Get that checked off the list. I like to do the thing that will take me the least time or is the most fun. That way I see progress without hitting the he heaviest stuff first. Yes. I call it starting with the low-hanging fruit. It helps to do something fun or easy to get my momentum going. Another hack I use is to tell myself that if it takes less than a minute to do, do it now. So many to-dos can be broken down into one minute tasks. And again, just getting that start helps me get moving on my projects.
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Post by mikklynn on Jul 16, 2024 12:51:50 GMT
I reward myself with something. Working for something is an incentive. It's silly, but it works for me. Even if it's something silly, like >> once the household chores are done, I can have a cup of hot tea and a couple cookies, a nap, etc.. If it's a dreaded chore >> like vacuum the inside of the car.......then I get myself some scrapbook goodies. I do the same thing with rewarding myself for completing my most hated tasks. I also don't write down dust. I write down dust the main bedroom, dust the guest bedroom, etc. I break it down and really enjoy crossing items off! If it's running errands, I try to do several during the same outing. Yesterday I had to go to the bank to take care of an issue, so I got cash at the ATM, and went to pick up a few groceries. My reward was my favorite mint creams from Whole Foods. Enabler alert - they are by the cheese and taste like improved, larger Junior Mints.
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Post by calgaryscrapper on Jul 16, 2024 15:40:01 GMT
I learned here at two peas that everything doesn’t have to be completed in one day. Some have suggested taking fifteen minutes of time and complete some tasks. Lately, that works for me.
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Post by Mary_K on Jul 16, 2024 16:12:36 GMT
My favorite thing that works for me is that I find if I do just ONE thing, it creates a momentum for other things to get done.
Mary K
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Post by lisae on Jul 16, 2024 17:36:56 GMT
I don't really have anything to add since I'm procrastinating by spending time here rather than other things I ought to be doing. I did want to say that your avatar is so cute! Sometimes when our bodies tell us we need a rest, we need a rest so be sure you aren't pushing yourself too much.
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Jul 16, 2024 18:43:49 GMT
I reward myself with something. Working for something is an incentive. It's silly, but it works for me. Even if it's something silly, like >> once the household chores are done, I can have a cup of hot tea and a couple cookies, a nap, etc.. If it's a dreaded chore >> like vacuum the inside of the car.......then I get myself some scrapbook goodies. I like that idea. It doesn't need to be money spent, does it? Just something fun. Thank you!
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Jul 17, 2024 0:06:19 GMT
I reward myself with something. Working for something is an incentive. It's silly, but it works for me. Even if it's something silly, like >> once the household chores are done, I can have a cup of hot tea and a couple cookies, a nap, etc.. If it's a dreaded chore >> like vacuum the inside of the car.......then I get myself some scrapbook goodies. I like that idea. It doesn't need to be money spent, does it? Just something fun. Thank you! No, money doesn't have to be involved. A nap, a bubble bath, reading in bed for a couple(or three or four) hours, hot tea and cookies....all awesome rewards.
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Post by FuzzyMutt on Jul 17, 2024 0:32:07 GMT
I thought I would find tips to help my procrastinating self procrastinate better! I’m a little bummed!
Seriously though, I am a multitasker to a ridiculous degree, but I am also a “give a mouse a cookie” type cleaner. One thing leads to another and I get soooooo much done in such a short period of time. That said, I definitely get entrenched in sitting on the couch, scrolling and binging tv and wasting my time. I have never been a list maker, or a planner type person. They just feels like one more thing to do, waste time on, and be a reason I don’t get started.
I set a 15 minute timer on my phone, and when that alarm goes off- I HAVE to get up and start something. Anything. I set another timer for 15 minutes, and I have to work at something til it goes off. More often than not, I have laundry in progress, food, a couple cabinets empty for cleaning and organizing, the fridge emptied of old stuff and a drawer or two pulled out and soaking, and the ceiling fan about torn apart for cleaning.
When the time goes off at the end of that 15 minutes, I finish what I was working on lol and try not to start anything else (I always do!) and I feel less like a slug when I go back to scrolling or reading or tv.
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Post by vexedangel on Jul 18, 2024 17:41:59 GMT
Today I have made a list (that helps me the most), assigning 15 minutes to what I can and taking 5-10 minute breaks.
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