When you just needed to ugly cry

I do. My mom and my husband. I knew dh was a safe space when we were in the DUI accident and I was going through all the emotions of healing and changes and the battle for the asshole to be in jail.

My mom has always been there through all ups and downs.

I have 2 very good friends too who I can confide in and bitch and rant to about medical stuff for the kids and school (they are in the same boat).

No, I use my cats for that. Minus the yelling, they wouldn't like that.

The judgmental faces they give me usually kind of helps me get a little laugh. They look so disgusted when tears fall on their fur and like they're thinking I need to get it together. It's the kind of emotional support animal I need. My dog just looks uncomfortable and unsure of what to do, lol. The cats know what to do--get away.

I don't normally cry much but got some really bad news a couple weeks ago that had me crying for days. My eyes were swollen. I even cried at work (when I found out) and I NEVER do that. I had to take a Xanax.

I hate crying, it makes my head hurt and my sinuses full. I'm sorry you're hurting.

Thankfully yes, my mom, my sister and my BFF.

I'm sorry you are having a hard time. You may not find someone right out of the gate that you can do that with, but if you get a new counselor, with a bit of time, they may become that person for you.

I have my sister that I can vent to. Sometimes, she is a little toxic positive but I know if I really needed her, she'd listen. She's 9 years older than me and is the caretaker of the family.

Yes I have 2 or 3 wonderful people that I can and have. One is a male friend and the others are long time women friends (almost 60 years as friends).

Not really.
I have some friends who fit that role to a certain point, but none of them live near me and I don't see them often.

I prefer to cry alone, when I do.

Im sorry. I know how you feel. I have one very close friend, but she's had a rough few years between her health and her daughter's passing, and I won't unload on her. My dh is a good man, but he wouldn't understand. He'd tell me I was wrong or I shouldn't feel that way...bla-di-blah. I hope you feel better soon.

I have Jeremy, bless his heart. He is pretty good. I'm not the yelling, cursing sort, but I can cry with the best of them. And I don't have a lot of control over when those tears come either. I have pretty consistently had a therapist for the past ten years. 3 different ones, but I've had that outlet. I really value having a therapist because sometimes they can see something that I can't quite see myself. Sometimes I feel poorly after I cry with someone who's not my therapist because I feel guilt sometimes for burdening them with my feelings.

The one thing I will say is that someone else crying around me doesn't bother me in the least. Hell, depending on what they are crying about, I might cry with them. If you want to talk, I think us peas would help you figure things out, at least, we would "hear" you. We could offer you comfort. So many times the peas have done that for me. I'm willing to be that soft landing for you.

It's so hard to find that person and it takes years to cultivate that comfort level. I'm so sorry for whatever you're going through. I wish there were something we could do, but perhaps just knowing people care can help a little.

I used to have someone, but she died. That was, and sometimes is, some ugly crying. I have wonderful friends who will lift me up if something's wrong, but I mainly keep the ugly crying to myself. My family is more the "suck it up" sort.

I hope you find a sounding board. <<<Hugs>>>

I do not have anyone who fills that role in my life. When I was struggling after my mom died I would go for runs. I would cry and listen to the Avett Brothers while running. It didn’t fix me, but it sure calmed me down.