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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2024 1:31:10 GMT
My GrubHub driver said this to me as he was handing over my food. I was so surprised by what he said and the way he was looking at me that I didn’t say anything.
I promptly went inside and thought to myself, you really have to be feeling yourself to think it’s appropriate to call a customer baby? Creepy vibes.
I’m wondering if I should call someone and say something. I keep thinking what if the next person he delivers to is a young girl and it’s late at night? Would you say anything? I’m also wondering if it would matter if I did as I have no proof. The absence of proof is giving me pause.
* Edit - Reiterating here I’ve decided to let it go in case anyone misses it in the comments. While calling me baby and gripping on to my food was misguided, I certainly don’t want anyone to lose their job.
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Post by Basket1lady on Jul 25, 2024 1:42:58 GMT
You know the tone of voice used, but to me it sounds like some guy trying to be cute/friendly. Was he leering or in your personal space?
It seems like something a socially awkward person would say. But truthfully, go with your gut.
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Post by Merge on Jul 25, 2024 1:47:50 GMT
GenZ frequently calls strangers king, queen, baby, honey, dear, etc. Especially if they're part of the LGBTQ community. I wouldn't think too much of it.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Jul 25, 2024 1:50:24 GMT
Unless it was said in a suggestive tone of voice I would think it is similar to a female server or cashier who calls everyone honey, baby (like a southerner) or something similar. For some it can be cultural. I wouldn't report that, but in general I don't like when people lose their jobs over complaints unless they are major issues.
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Post by chaosisapony on Jul 25, 2024 1:51:12 GMT
I wouldn't think much of it unless he was giving off some other kind of vibe that was creepy. A lot of people have pet names just slip off the tongue, he probably didn't even realize he said it.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2024 1:53:45 GMT
You know the tone of voice used, but to me it sounds like some guy trying to be cute/friendly. Was he leering or in your personal space? It seems like something a socially awkward person would say. But truthfully, go with your gut. I think leering is an appropriate word. That said, he also held onto my food with his grip for a few seconds so I couldn’t take it from him. Maybe he was trying to flirt? I know I look younger than I am but the whole thing made me uncomfortable. I’m a bit socially awkward myself so maybe I’m overreacting. There’s a cool vegan ice cream place close by and the young guy who owns it was super nice and would always talk to me. He started comping my orders and I felt super awkward and never went back. I still feel a bit bad about that. I’ll let it be. I certainly don’t want anyone to lose their job. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2024 1:58:21 GMT
Unless it was said in a suggestive tone of voice I would think it is similar to a female server or cashier who calls everyone honey, baby (like a southerner) or something similar. For some it can be cultural. I wouldn't report that, but in general I don't like when people lose their jobs over complaints unless they are major issues. Would someone actually lose their job over this? That sucks. I guess I thought they’d just tell him not to do that or something. I don’t usually call and complain about things. Hence my asking. |
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Post by Zee on Jul 25, 2024 2:01:11 GMT
It's up to you, but "leering" and holding onto your food crosses the line. Very inappropriate.
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Post by chaosisapony on Jul 25, 2024 2:06:58 GMT
Unless it was said in a suggestive tone of voice I would think it is similar to a female server or cashier who calls everyone honey, baby (like a southerner) or something similar. For some it can be cultural. I wouldn't report that, but in general I don't like when people lose their jobs over complaints unless they are major issues. Would someone actually lose their job over this? That sucks. I guess I thought they’d just tell him not to do that or something. I don’t usually call and complain about things. Hence my asking. I doubt it. Admittedly I've never used the service but I thought Grub Hub was essentially like Door Dash. Just independent folks that sign up to deliver food. Not a "real" employee with a supervisor or any type of oversight. I highly doubt your complaint would go anywhere at all. |
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Post by Zee on Jul 25, 2024 2:16:19 GMT
Would someone actually lose their job over this? That sucks. I guess I thought they’d just tell him not to do that or something. I don’t usually call and complain about things. Hence my asking. I doubt it. Admittedly I've never used the service but I thought Grub Hub was essentially like Door Dash. Just independent folks that sign up to deliver food. Not a "real" employee with a supervisor or any type of oversight. I highly doubt your complaint would go anywhere at all. They get violations on their account and can lose their privileges to the app, so yes, they can get "fired". |
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Post by Basket1lady on Jul 25, 2024 2:18:12 GMT
You know the tone of voice used, but to me it sounds like some guy trying to be cute/friendly. Was he leering or in your personal space? It seems like something a socially awkward person would say. But truthfully, go with your gut. I think leering is an appropriate word. That said, he also held onto my food with his grip for a few seconds so I couldn’t take it from him. Maybe he was trying to flirt? I know I look younger than I am but the whole thing made me uncomfortable. I’m a bit socially awkward myself so maybe I’m overreacting. There’s a cool vegan ice cream place close by and the young guy who owns it was super nice and would always talk to me. He started comping my orders and I felt super awkward and never went back. I still feel a bit bad about that. I’ll let it be. I certainly don’t want anyone to lose their job. It certainly does sound rather suspect. I don’t think it’s your imagination. Men! |
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Post by AussieMeg on Jul 25, 2024 3:06:48 GMT
The best time to have said something was right then, to the delivery guy. (And I say that as someone who most likely would NOT have said anything haha!!)
Ideally, you would tell him that he shouldn't speak or act like that because it makes women uncomfortable, and if anyone put in a complaint about it, he could lose his job.
I'm not sure whether I would put in a complaint about it. We want the guy to stop doing that, but do we want him to possibly lose his job? 🤷♀️
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Post by disneypal on Jul 25, 2024 12:12:09 GMT
I wouldn't think much of it unless he was giving off some other kind of vibe that was creepy. A lot of people have pet names just slip off the tongue, he probably didn't even realize he said it. I agree. I have a friend that has a habit of calling everyone “honey”. It just automatically comes out. She doesn’t mean anything by it and he most likely didn’t either |
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Post by peabay on Jul 25, 2024 12:27:20 GMT
Next time you order from them, leave instructions for the food to be left outside, if that’s possible.
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Post by Tearisci on Jul 25, 2024 12:50:32 GMT
I probably wouldn't have thought anything about it but then I live in the south where everyone is honey, baby, darlin'
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Post by anniebeth24 on Jul 25, 2024 15:16:44 GMT
That sounds very uncomfortable, but I don't know that I would do anything about it. Mostly because of my personality, not because it shouldn't be done.
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Post by scrapmaven on Jul 25, 2024 15:27:35 GMT
I'm also sensitive to this stuff. One time in brooklyn I was on my way to a cruise ship. There was a guy directing traffic. He was directing us to cross the street to the pier. I was on a scooter and he said, "That's okay, Baby. Take your time." in his thick Brooklyn accent. He was just being himself and it wasn't sexual or condescending. It struck me as being lead by a guy who is protective of women. I know that sounds strange for me to say. We all got that feeling. I listened to my intuition. On the other hand, I was car shopping many years ago and was w/my folks. The car salesman called me "Sweetheart". My dad was the first to say it, "did you ever say the wrong thing. I'd stand back". Yup, I let the sleezebag have it. ITA w/ peabay. Next time do contactless delivery. |
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