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Post by lavawalker1 on Aug 8, 2024 14:50:48 GMT
A close friends father died suddenly and I’d like to send something, but not a plant or flowers. They’ve already had the funeral and have tons of flowers and plants. We don’t live close to each other, so it will need to be delivered. Not sure what I’m looking for, maybe something more of a keepsake. Thx in advance.
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Post by RosieKat on Aug 8, 2024 14:55:19 GMT
I don't know what her or your "love language" may be - but when my Mom died this summer, I honestly just appreciated people sending notes, sharing memories if they had them. I don't know how well you knew her Dad, if at all, but just knowing someone was thinking about me meant the world.
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Post by librarylady on Aug 8, 2024 14:56:15 GMT
Do you have some photos of them together?
I think a nice note about your memory of the man and how that memory is meaningful to you will be treasured more than a material item.
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Post by epeanymous on Aug 8, 2024 15:13:05 GMT
When my dad died, the most thoughtful thing people gave me were doordash cards. It’s not a keepsake, but it helped me through some days.
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Post by twinks on Aug 8, 2024 16:00:25 GMT
I have given some nice wind chimes before. My SIL absolutely loves the ones I purchased for her when her brother died.
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Post by quiltz on Aug 8, 2024 16:01:48 GMT
I agree with writing a note to your friend. IF you have any pictures or memories, include that in your note.
A gift card to a restaurant is really great, especially if it is a restaurant that is one that was enjoyed by both of them.
Please make a note in your calendar and write a note or send a text on the anniversary of this death. There are special Christmas cards for the bereaved at Hallmark that are perfect for Christmas. Thanks for being a caring friend.
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Post by heckofagal on Aug 8, 2024 16:05:57 GMT
If you go to Amazon and search Grief gifts or some phrase that you think is appropriate you can find lovely gifts you can have delivered to their address. When my dad passed away my BFF sent me the angel with the phrase 'Perhaps they are not Stars, but rather openings where our Loved ones shine down to let us know they are Happy' etched on the front.
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Post by katiescarlett on Aug 8, 2024 16:12:39 GMT
I have given some nice wind chimes before. My SIL absolutely loves the ones I purchased for her when her brother died. I got wind chimes that were personalized with my mom's date of birth and death that I love. Someone also gave me tulip bulbs to plant in my yard to remind me of my mom. My favorite gift was a brick in memory of my mom with her name on it and date of birth and death placed in my hometown downtown area. |
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Post by snyder on Aug 8, 2024 16:18:30 GMT
When my friend's mother passed away, I sent her a garden stone with her mom's name and dates on it. She loved it, but she had a huge flower garden, so that would probably only work if you knew they had a place for something like that.
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Post by MDscrapaholic on Aug 8, 2024 16:22:04 GMT
When my DH passed away, my cousin got me an angel figurine, about 7” high, that lights up at dusk and goes off at dawn. I love it.
It’s a beautiful reminder of a beautiful soul.
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Post by littlemama on Aug 8, 2024 16:24:08 GMT
MIL received so many garden stones, windchimes, and figurines. It was way too much. I would send a gc to a favorite restsurant or Door Dash.
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Post by smcast on Aug 8, 2024 16:42:18 GMT
A Christmas ornament with a picture of them in it. There are some nice choices on Amazon to personalize.
Eta: I guess that is if they celebrate Christmas.
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Post by shescrafty on Aug 8, 2024 19:44:33 GMT
I had a necklace made in Etsy that had the nautical direction of the spot where they put his ashes in the ocean.
Another friend had a similar idea and had a necklace made with the nickname her dad always used for her.
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Post by barbarac on Aug 8, 2024 20:24:21 GMT
Many years ago, my friend got me a heart necklace made of amber when my dad passed. I loved that necklace and it would make me feel better just wearing it. Several years later I re-gifted it to someone who lost their mom.
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Post by christine58 on Aug 8, 2024 20:37:32 GMT
A close friends father died suddenly and I’d like to send something, but not a plant or flowers. They’ve already had the funeral and have tons of flowers and plants. We don’t live close to each other, so it will need to be delivered. Not sure what I’m looking for, maybe something more of a keepsake. Thx in advance. After my dad died I bought myself a bracelet off of Etsy that was Morse code for “until we meet again “. I absolutely love it and I wear it every day. |
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Post by peanutterbutter on Aug 8, 2024 22:40:32 GMT
I have had key chains made for people with a picture of them and their loved one or just a picture of their loved one depending on what I could get my hands on, and then is saying on the other side. I've used personalization mall for this with good success. It's a nice Keepsake that they can keep on them or tuck away without taking up much space. They've been really well received.
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Post by lavawalker1 on Aug 9, 2024 5:12:30 GMT
Please make a note in your calendar and write a note or send a text on the anniversary of this death. There are special Christmas cards for the bereaved at Hallmark that are perfect for Christmas. Thanks for being a caring friend. Thanks for the reminder to send a note or text on the anniversary. Someone did this for me, and it meant so much! |
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Post by ladyinpink1969 on Aug 9, 2024 8:06:17 GMT
Please make a note in your calendar and write a note or send a text on the anniversary of this death. There are special Christmas cards for the bereaved at Hallmark that are perfect for Christmas. Thanks for being a caring friend. Thanks for the reminder to send a note or text on the anniversary. Someone did this for me, and it meant so much! Similar to this. Someone told me once that for the first year they would check in on their friend on date the loved one passed each month. So if the loved one passed on the 20th, each month on the 20th, this person would text, call or send a little “thinking of you” note. My Dad passed a year ago in July and I can’t tell you how meaningful this would have been. |
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Post by mikklynn on Aug 9, 2024 12:39:07 GMT
I have given some nice wind chimes before. My SIL absolutely loves the ones I purchased for her when her brother died. I am so glad your SIL loved her wind chimes. A really sweet and dear friend gave me a lovely set of wind chimes when my DH died. I so appreciate the gesture, but I hate wind chimes. I really did not love receiving memorial items or plants. I would have much appreciated a kind note or taking me out to lunch. This is just my opinion for ME. |
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Post by mikklynn on Aug 9, 2024 12:40:59 GMT
I have given some nice wind chimes before. My SIL absolutely loves the ones I purchased for her when her brother died. I got wind chimes that were personalized with my mom's date of birth and death that I love. Someone also gave me tulip bulbs to plant in my yard to remind me of my mom. My favorite gift was a brick in memory of my mom with her name on it and date of birth and death placed in my hometown downtown area.I love that idea! |
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Post by lavawalker1 on Aug 10, 2024 19:49:01 GMT
I have given some nice wind chimes before. My SIL absolutely loves the ones I purchased for her when her brother died. I am so glad your SIL loved her wind chimes. A really sweet and dear friend gave me a lovely set of wind chimes when my DH died. I so appreciate the gesture, but I hate wind chimes. I really did not love receiving memorial items or plants. I would have much appreciated a kind note or taking me out to lunch. This is just my opinion for ME. Thank you. I have been rethinking this over the last few days. Unfortunately her dad died tragically, and there has been a lot of stress and a million things to do. They lived several hours apart, so there’s a lot of travel involved. Her mom passed years ago. I’m now thinking of giving her and her DH a gift card to a coffee place where they liked to go and relax before all this happened. Theres a lake nearby where they take their coffee and walk. It will be large enough for several visits. Thx for everyone’s input 😊 |
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Post by breetheflea on Aug 11, 2024 5:11:27 GMT
My best friend just told me her dad is going into hospice, so I am taking the ideas from this thread.
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Post by waffles on Aug 12, 2024 1:49:43 GMT
I’ve received wind chimes I loved.
I’ve sent a keychain with a picture of his mother to my uncle. He loved it.
I sent a lantern to a family friend and she keeps it on her porch to remember her husband. He was a farmer and was always outside,
I check in with others on the date of passing for 6 months.
To those who send cards at Christmas, is it just for the first year?
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Post by lavawalker1 on Aug 12, 2024 2:03:35 GMT
My best friend just told me her dad is going into hospice, so I am taking the ideas from this thread. So sorry about your friends dad. 😢 There are a lot of great ideas in this thread! |
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Post by peasapie on Aug 12, 2024 9:03:19 GMT
I received a photo in an acrylic block and I truly love it. I have it placed near a lamp and it looks so pretty when I turn on the light. I think she ordered it from a place like shutterfly.
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