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Post by waffles on Aug 25, 2024 23:51:50 GMT
I’m curious about myshelly.
Haven’t seen her around in a while.
Is she on an epic summer trip?
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Post by Crack-a-lackin on Aug 26, 2024 1:03:25 GMT
I’m assuming it’s an epic summer break but I thought she would be back by now. I hope she posts again soon.
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Post by gar on Aug 26, 2024 8:19:18 GMT
I had noticed she was MIA too.
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Post by Bridget in MD on Aug 26, 2024 11:17:31 GMT
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anaterra
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Post by anaterra on Aug 26, 2024 13:06:33 GMT
Maybe she got tired of always having to defend her point of view...
Its not like this board was the nicest group of women to her...
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Post by Tearisci on Aug 26, 2024 13:08:54 GMT
I've been wondering where she was as well.
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Post by pantsonfire on Aug 26, 2024 13:18:28 GMT
Maybe she got tired of always having to defend her point of view... Its not like this board was the nicest group of women to her... I think she is jus taking a break. And because of this. The last time she posted she was defending herself and seemed frustrated. |
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Post by Lurkingpea on Aug 26, 2024 13:42:15 GMT
Maybe she got tired of always having to defend her point of view... Its not like this board was the nicest group of women to her... She isn't exactly nice to anyone here. You get what you give. She lives to just post on a thread for the mere sake of correcting people. She will post her correction and not contribute anything else to the thread. She is condescending. She is flat out rude and superior to everyone. She isn't as nasty as Lauren is, but of all the peas missing I am honestly surprised she is one people miss. |
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Post by FuzzyMutt on Aug 26, 2024 14:25:44 GMT
I actually find her refreshing. Direct, not simpering, not rude and abrasive.
But, I tend to be an open minded person, and willing to see other peoples points of view. I’m also a live and let live if you’re not hurting anybody else kind of person.
I do hope all is well, and look forward to seeing her again.
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Post by Bridget in MD on Aug 26, 2024 14:43:39 GMT
I actually find her refreshing. Direct, not simpering, not rude and abrasive. But, I tend to be an open minded person, and willing to see other peoples points of view. I’m also a live and let live if you’re not hurting anybody else kind of person. I do hope all is well, and look forward to seeing her again. I totally agree. |
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Post by Lurkingpea on Aug 26, 2024 14:50:09 GMT
I actually find her refreshing. Direct, not simpering, not rude and abrasive. But, I tend to be an open minded person, and willing to see other peoples points of view. I’m also a live and let live if you’re not hurting anybody else kind of person. I do hope all is well, and look forward to seeing her again. I am open minded as well. She is not. I find her abrasive. I personally think posting in a thread ONLY to correct someone's typo or misuse of a word is rude. Has nothing to do with being open-minded or not. She does hurt people by her rudeness. Maybe you have never been the brunt of it, but as someone who's second language of English is, I have. I have also witnessed her rudeness to other people. I think it is funny you post about being able to see other people's point of view. Something she is never able to do. We will have to agree to disagree, but I do resent the implication that I am not open minded. |
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Post by compeateropeator on Aug 26, 2024 15:09:06 GMT
I am another that hopes all is well and she is (you are) just taking a break or decided to no longer participate.
I do not think she is a warm and fuzzy pea by any means. Her lifestyle and many of her world experiences are so different than mine (IMO from her post) but I am always intrigued and curious about them and her comments and thoughts. She is direct but also (IMO) can be on the rude side. But she takes what she gives and accepts what is thrown back at her knowing she is in the minority of whatever controversy 😉 she is weighing in on.
I think that in any IRL community you have a variety of personalities, lifestyles, world experiences, and interaction styles (for the lack of a better term) and an online community is no different if you want something other than a board that caters to one particular type of person. So, again IMO, I enjoy having a diverse bunch of peas here and will take the good and bad with that. The nice thing with an online board is it is a lot easier to avoid interactions and conversations with peas that bother you or on subjects that don’t interest you.
Hopefully no one takes anything I have said as a negative toward their post or feelings, as it truly isn’t. It is purely my opinion.
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Post by gar on Aug 26, 2024 15:18:26 GMT
I am another that hopes all is well and she is (you are) just taking a break or decided to no longer participate. I do not think she is a warm and fuzzy pea by any means. Her lifestyle and many of her world experiences are so different than mine (IMO from her post) but I am always intrigued and curious about them and her comments and thoughts. She is direct but also (IMO) can be on the rude side. But she takes what she gives and accepts what is thrown back at her knowing she is in the minority of whatever controversy 😉 she is weighing in on. I think that in any IRL community you have a variety of personalities, lifestyles, world experiences, and interaction styles (for the lack of a better term) and an online community is no different if you want something other than a board that caters to one particular type of person. So, again IMO, I enjoy having a diverse bunch of peas here and will take the good and bad with that. The nice thing with an online board is it is a lot easier to avoid interactions and conversations with peas that bother you or on subjects that don’t interest you. Hopefully no one takes anything I have said as a negative toward their post or feelings, as it truly isn’t. It is purely my opinion. You posted exactly what I was thinking  |
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Post by katlady on Aug 26, 2024 15:30:34 GMT
I hope all is well with her and her family. Although totally different from me, I do find her postings interesting to read. She does seem to have a black and white, no shades of gray view of the world. That can irritate people, especially in some discussions. I hope they had a wonderful summer doing all the things they do.
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Post by Bridget in MD on Aug 26, 2024 15:45:33 GMT
I am another that hopes all is well and she is (you are) just taking a break or decided to no longer participate. I do not think she is a warm and fuzzy pea by any means. Her lifestyle and many of her world experiences are so different than mine (IMO from her post) but I am always intrigued and curious about them and her comments and thoughts. She is direct but also (IMO) can be on the rude side. But she takes what she gives and accepts what is thrown back at her knowing she is in the minority of whatever controversy 😉 she is weighing in on. I think that in any IRL community you have a variety of personalities, lifestyles, world experiences, and interaction styles (for the lack of a better term) and an online community is no different if you want something other than a board that caters to one particular type of person. So, again IMO, I enjoy having a diverse bunch of peas here and will take the good and bad with that. The nice thing with an online board is it is a lot easier to avoid interactions and conversations with peas that bother you or on subjects that don’t interest you. Hopefully no one takes anything I have said as a negative toward their post or feelings, as it truly isn’t. It is purely my opinion. I also agree with everything said! |
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Post by ~summer~ on Aug 26, 2024 15:50:35 GMT
I agree she can be abrasive but I enjoy her.
She does correct peas, but I (think) her corrections are usually accurate so in turn add a further dimension to the conversation. I realize some peas don’t appreciate this.
I’m sometimes shocked at how rude peas can be to her.
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Post by snyder on Aug 26, 2024 16:14:54 GMT
I hope all is well with her and her family. Although totally different from me, I do find her postings interesting to read. She does seem to have a black and white, no shades of gray view of the world. That can irritate people, especially in some discussions. I hope they had a wonderful summer doing all the things they do. She is so black and white, that I often think its fake and what she posts is only to get a reaction from others. |
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Post by Lurkingpea on Aug 26, 2024 16:15:55 GMT
I agree she can be abrasive but I enjoy her. She does correct peas, but I (think) her corrections are usually accurate so in turn add a further dimension to the conversation. I realize some peas don’t appreciate this. I’m sometimes shocked at how rude peas can be to her. I don't see how merely correcting someone's grammar ir spelling mistake can add a further dimension to the conversation, but I guess you do. I don't wish her ill, I just miss her about as much as I miss Lauren and her various alters. There are plenty of peas who I sincerely miss and it always amazes me when they disappear and no one brings them up. But they bring up peas who are divisive. I know peas love to say there are no popular peas and there is no hierarchy, but there obviously is. And to deny it is laughable. With that, I am out of this thread. I have been thinking about going back to lurking anyway. I was a very prolific pea on the old board who switched to lurking when Lauren and her ilk became so ugly after Obama was elected. I lurked here for a long time too after the old board closed. I think it is probably best for me to just read from now on. ETA this isn't a hair flip or a request for validation. I just think it is what is best. |
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Post by gar on Aug 26, 2024 16:19:05 GMT
I agree she can be abrasive but I enjoy her. She does correct peas, but I (think) her corrections are usually accurate so in turn add a further dimension to the conversation. I realize some peas don’t appreciate this. I’m sometimes shocked at how rude peas can be to her. I don't see how merely correcting someone's grammar ir spelling mistake can add a further dimension to the conversation, but I guess you do. I don't wish her ill, I just miss her about as much as I miss Lauren and her various alters. There are plenty of peas who I sincerely miss and it always amazes me when they disappear and no one brings them up. But they bring up peas who are divisive. I know peas love to say there are no popular peas and there is no hierarchy, but there obviously is. And to deny it is laughable. With that, I am out of this thread. I have been thinking about going back to lurking anyway. I was a very prolific pea on the old board who switched to lurking when Lauren and her ilk became so ugly after Obama was elected. I lurked here for a long time too after the old board closed. I think it is probably best for me to just read from now on.ETA this isn't a hair flip or a request for validation. I just think it is what is best. I don't! I really wish you would reconsider - I enjoy your posts, truly. |
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Post by lainey on Aug 26, 2024 16:28:59 GMT
I hope she's ok but let's not pretend that she can't be incredibly rude. She's mocked older Peas many times, calling them old biddies, she's extremely ageist. Correcting other Pea's spelling and grammar adds nothing to a conversation, there are reasons someone's written English might not be the best and as a fully grown adult she should be able to understand that.
Thinking you're superior isn't the same as having a different point of view.
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Post by compeateropeator on Aug 26, 2024 16:34:54 GMT
@lurkingpea , I know that you said you were done with this thread so I respect that if you do not want to read this. I guess I just wanted to say I really hope that you did not take my post as a negative toward your post as it was really just a very general comment.
Truthfully I have never asked about a pea, although there are so many that I wonder about and truly miss reading their insight, kind comments, interesting comments, or whatever. But I assume they have left for a reason and I respect that. I do think, however, that that the reason others are asked about is because they are the peas who would be less apt to just disappear into the night. 😄. I also assume that there are many who have contact through other social media (I do not) so they are not wondering like I am. And I don’t know about ‘hierarchy’, but there are certainly more prolific peas, more vocal peas, and peas that are known for a variety of things. Signed a pea that is none of those and just an unknown pea. 😀
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Post by Merge on Aug 26, 2024 16:44:52 GMT
The comments she’s made about “bus kids” and those of a lower socioeconomic class put her beyond having a different point of view into unacceptably bigoted IMO. I don’t wish anyone ill, but I don’t miss that viewpoint here.
(ETA: It's not that I feel anyone should be prevented from sharing their viewpoint here. People can say what they like. But they should expect that others may disagree with them or find their views distasteful or harmful, and say so.)
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Aug 26, 2024 17:09:49 GMT
The comments she’s made about “bus kids” and those of a lower socioeconomic class put her beyond having a different point of view into unacceptably bigoted IMO. I don’t wish anyone ill, but I don’t miss her viewpoint here. That is one of the reason I object to correcting other's grammer and spelling. We are not all English first language. We are extremely diverse in our lives, upbringing, education /opportunities. To this day I still have difficulty with the difference between then/than and the very best have explained it to me. I do not retain the info!! But I do know the differences between their, there and they're.. some peas are very well 'spoken'/written but mess the 'theres' up .. I don't think I have mentioned it to any one of the as well as assorted other things. It just NOT necessary. Most times I just read over the 'mistakes' I made mistake, a mixup of words, a pea courteously sent me a PM, which was very thoughtful. She in essence 'saved my face', which was greatly appreciated. |
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Post by anaterra on Aug 26, 2024 17:43:15 GMT
I agree with snyder... i think she was black n white narrow minded... usually on the minority of controversy.... But i think it was to get a rise... to start drama... or stir the pot... Maybe she is like that in real life... who knows??? She isnt a pea i miss the most... didnt even realize she wasnt posting until this thread.. |
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Post by MichyM on Aug 26, 2024 17:47:35 GMT
The comments she’s made about “bus kids” and those of a lower socioeconomic class put her beyond having a different point of view into unacceptably bigoted IMO. I don’t wish anyone ill, but I don’t miss her viewpoint here. Of all of her comments that made me scratch my head, this is the one that REALLY stuck with me. It makes me feel a bit sorry for her since clearly she just doesn't have a clue about how real people live. Some people need to "get out" more. And some meaningful volunteering to help those less fortunate would probably be beneficial to her as well. It also bothers me that she is sharing that type of viewpoint with her children as well :/ |
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Post by ellen on Aug 26, 2024 18:05:07 GMT
She adds interesting comments.
That is an example of “Minnesota Nice.”
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Post by Zee on Aug 26, 2024 21:14:34 GMT
She's kind of an ageist asshole and she has a weird inflexible life view, but she's also liberal on many points and often has valuable insight on legal matters and things of that nature.
She makes fascinating statements about her life and beliefs that sometimes feel like they couldn't possibly be real, but also makes her a vivid personality here.
I picture her as a younger Mrs Roper with kids wearing matching theater outfits, being marched off to the show nightly to HAVE SOME FUCKING FUN GODDAMMIT. I often wonder what will happen if they ever, God forbid, decide to break out across the country on their own.
Anyway, she makes you think. Sometimes she tries a little hard to be insulting and misses, like when she said I "in particular" don't get young kids and parenting. I don't remember what the argument was about but it was silly as usual.
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Post by ~summer~ on Aug 26, 2024 21:26:35 GMT
I agree she can be abrasive but I enjoy her. She does correct peas, but I (think) her corrections are usually accurate so in turn add a further dimension to the conversation. I realize some peas don’t appreciate this. I’m sometimes shocked at how rude peas can be to her. I don't see how merely correcting someone's grammar ir spelling mistake can add a further dimension to the conversation, but I guess you do. I don't wish her ill, I just miss her about as much as I miss Lauren and her various alters. There are plenty of peas who I sincerely miss and it always amazes me when they disappear and no one brings them up. But they bring up peas who are divisive. I know peas love to say there are no popular peas and there is no hierarchy, but there obviously is. And to deny it is laughable. With that, I am out of this thread. I have been thinking about going back to lurking anyway. I was a very prolific pea on the old board who switched to lurking when Lauren and her ilk became so ugly after Obama was elected. I lurked here for a long time too after the old board closed. I think it is probably best for me to just read from now on. ETA this isn't a hair flip or a request for validation. I just think it is what is best. I actually meant she often corrects a statement- not grammar or spelling. Personally I don’t mind if someone corrects my grammar though, but I can see how it’s annoying to some. |
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Post by gar on Aug 26, 2024 21:42:56 GMT
I often wonder what will happen if they ever, God forbid, decide to break out across the country on their own. She once said her children ‘wouldn’t be allowed’ to leave the area where she and all her family live. That has always stuck with me. |
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Aug 26, 2024 22:03:20 GMT
She has been rude to me before, but I opt for "in one ear, out the other" and I am not going to like everyone and everyone is not going to like me.
I can relate to her, in regards to the way she lives her life. Her way is her way and her way is for lack of better words >> rigid and inflexible, she comes across as she does NOT vary from her way of doing things and she does not vary from her way of living life.
I say this, because I myself am like this. For me it's psychological.
I live my life my way and I don't care what others think about it.
Some people consider it and me to be stubborn, inflexible, regimented.....and all of that is true, but being that way makes me feel safe, happy and in control of my life, my emotions and my wellbeing.
I am not very go with the flow or spontaneous (it is something that I am well aware of and actively am working on) and I don't like to venture outside my world and my proverbial box.
For me, a part of it is >> in the past I would easily concede, give in and go against what I wanted or what made me happy. I don't do that anymore, but it makes me come across as very inflexible and rigid , when *I* feel like it's more like >> I am standing up for myself and I am standing my ground and only doing what makes me happy. I struggle to be balanced, and not so black and white.
I do however try to be kind, polite and humble, when expressing my opinion.....although it does sometimes come across as rude and inflexible.
Just my humble perspective on why someone (myself included), is the way they are.
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