pantsonfire
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Post by pantsonfire on Aug 26, 2024 22:12:48 GMT
We wouldn't be the peas if we were all raised the same, lived the same, thought the same.
It's not all campy good vibes here. We all bring something to the table and you can either ignore the whack-a-doodleness or engage.
Her sheltered life gives her a point of view others so not have.
Nothing wrong with it. Her opinion.
I do hope all is well and she is enjoying her break.
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Post by h2ohdog on Aug 27, 2024 0:18:59 GMT
@scrapbookmylife I needed to hear this as I am opposite of this and my bestie has similar experience and behavior as you. As we get older (we are in our 60s and have known each other 40 years), she gets, IMO, “worse” about her rigidity so it is hard to be around her sometimes. However, I still love her and your view gives me a different perspective— maybe I can be a little more understanding. Thank you so much for your words.
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Post by AussieMeg on Aug 27, 2024 0:39:53 GMT
Maybe she got tired of always having to defend her point of view... Its not like this board was the nicest group of women to her... She isn't exactly nice to anyone here. You get what you give. She lives to just post on a thread for the mere sake of correcting people. She will post her correction and not contribute anything else to the thread. She is condescending. She is flat out rude and superior to everyone. She isn't as nasty as Lauren is, but of all the peas missing I am honestly surprised she is one people miss. I honestly enjoy Myshelly's contributions. I have said to her before that I either agree wholeheartedly with her or vehemently disagree with her - there is no in-between  But I have to agree with Lurkingpea: You get what you give. And I have to admit that my last interaction with her was not very nice (from my side). I thought about it later, and realised that if it had been almost anyone else, I would have never have worded my post the same way. I wouldn't have been a smart arse like I was. |
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Post by theshyone on Aug 27, 2024 8:55:42 GMT
She isn't exactly nice to anyone here. You get what you give. She lives to just post on a thread for the mere sake of correcting people. She will post her correction and not contribute anything else to the thread. She is condescending. She is flat out rude and superior to everyone. She isn't as nasty as Lauren is, but of all the peas missing I am honestly surprised she is one people miss. I honestly enjoy Myshelly's contributions. I have said to her before that I either agree wholeheartedly with her or vehemently disagree with her - there is no in-between I agree with you, it’s one way or other for me too. |
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Post by lisacharlotte on Aug 27, 2024 10:48:35 GMT
The good about the peas is our diversity of opinion. The bad about the peas is our decreasing diversity of opinion. I appreciated that Myshelley had a point of view and shared it unapologetically. She definitely made me examine my position as I contemplated hers. Without peas expressing unpopular opinions, this place becomes a very boring place of "I agree with everything you said and how you said it".
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Post by heckofagal on Aug 27, 2024 14:30:57 GMT
I used to get bent out of shape over comments made by keyboard warriors...then I started seeing comments made by a family friend on other social media. This fella has no room to judge anyone! He is probably 600 pounds, has no job, has no home, barely leaves his sister's house. Yet I see him posting comments on social media all the time like he is some superior being that is smarter than everyone. So now when people comment like that on my comments, I think about him.
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Post by mom on Aug 27, 2024 14:49:01 GMT
The good about the peas is our diversity of opinion. The bad about the peas is our decreasing diversity of opinion. I appreciated that Myshelley had a point of view and shared it unapologetically. She definitely made me examine my position as I contemplated hers. Without peas expressing unpopular opinions, this place becomes a very boring place of "I agree with everything you said and how you said it". Right? The NSBR can be a very 'agree with us or else' opinions and I appreciate someone who isn't afraid to bring diversity of opinion to the board. I know I usually don't bother posting different opinions because it's just easier not to reply at all. I don't always agree with how she says things or even everything she says, but I really appreciate her legal knowledge as well. IMHO she is probably is just one of the many who are tired of the 'agree with us' politics that bombard the board. |
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Post by malibou on Aug 27, 2024 15:09:48 GMT
Dh once said to me that if we were all the same, most of us would be unnecessary. I try to remember that in my interactions with others.
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Post by pinklady on Aug 27, 2024 15:39:10 GMT
A bunch of middle aged white women making excuses for a bigot. Shocker...not really.
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pantsonfire
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Post by pantsonfire on Aug 27, 2024 15:49:52 GMT
The good about the peas is our diversity of opinion. The bad about the peas is our decreasing diversity of opinion. I appreciated that Myshelley had a point of view and shared it unapologetically. She definitely made me examine my position as I contemplated hers. Without peas expressing unpopular opinions, this place becomes a very boring place of "I agree with everything you said and how you said it". Right? The NSBR can be a very 'agree with us or else' opinions and I appreciate someone who isn't afraid to bring diversity of opinion to the board. I know I usually don't bother posting different opinions because it's just easier not to reply at all. I don't always agree with how she says things or even everything she says, but I really appreciate her legal knowledge as well. IMHO she is probably is just one of the many who are tired of the 'agree with us' politics that bombard the board. Or the politics in general. Sometimes I scratch my head and go why did that need a new thread when there are 5 active ones it could have gone on. Then I move on. I gave up because it has gotten hard to read all the info with so many different threads on politics. Not worth my energy. |
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pantsonfire
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Post by pantsonfire on Aug 27, 2024 15:51:34 GMT
A bunch of middle aged white women making excuses for a bigot. Shocker...not really. No one is making excuses. Should narrow minded, secluded persons expand outside their safety net? Yup. But some never will. And their opinions are based on those very tight, closed off views of the world and based off of what they see daily. This is why, to me, public Ed is so important as is college outside your safety bubble. |
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Post by smasonnc on Aug 27, 2024 16:07:13 GMT
The good about the peas is our diversity of opinion. The bad about the peas is our decreasing diversity of opinion. I appreciated that Myshelley had a point of view and shared it unapologetically. She definitely made me examine my position as I contemplated hers. Without peas expressing unpopular opinions, this place becomes a very boring place of "I agree with everything you said and how you said it". Diversity of opinion as long as we all sing from the same hymnal politically. There are a couple of peas who absolutely cannot resist flipping their $#*t if someone doesn't toe the line. I have to remind myself that we're all just 1s and zeros. We can disagree without being disagreeable, at least some of us can, and we learn more from people who don't share our views if we just stop shouting at each other. Do we really need 17 political threads all saying that Trump is a bad man? |
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Post by melanell on Aug 27, 2024 16:39:12 GMT
The good about the peas is our diversity of opinion. The bad about the peas is our decreasing diversity of opinion. I appreciated that Myshelley had a point of view and shared it unapologetically. She definitely made me examine my position as I contemplated hers. Without peas expressing unpopular opinions, this place becomes a very boring place of "I agree with everything you said and how you said it". I'm all for sharing differing opinions, but I do think there are ways to express them that are kinder and more respectful than others. If I find myself avoiding a thread here, it's almost always due to the way people are communicating, and not the opinions they are sharing. |
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Post by Merge on Aug 27, 2024 16:55:27 GMT
The good about the peas is our diversity of opinion. The bad about the peas is our decreasing diversity of opinion. I appreciated that Myshelley had a point of view and shared it unapologetically. She definitely made me examine my position as I contemplated hers. Without peas expressing unpopular opinions, this place becomes a very boring place of "I agree with everything you said and how you said it". Diversity of opinion as long as we all sing from the same hymnal politically. There are a couple of peas who absolutely cannot resist flipping their $#*t if someone doesn't toe the line. I have to remind myself that we're all just 1s and zeros. We can disagree without being disagreeable, at least some of us can, and we learn more from people who don't share our views if we just stop shouting at each other. Do we really need 17 political threads all saying that Trump is a bad man? They're all neatly marked so you can avoid them. Meanwhile, multiple game threads, what's for dinner threads, big brother, etc. and no one cares. Politics actually affects people's lives - in some cases, in very serious or even deadly ways. It's worth discussing. If it hasn't affected your life yet, congratulations, you're very lucky. And if politics continues to not affect your life in a negative way, you can thank those of us who have continued to be vocal about fighting for human rights and voting rights. In terms of "singing from the same hymnal," if by that you mean that we expect basic standards of not supporting policies or actions that dehumanize or disenfranchise our fellow human beings, then yes. We should all be able to rally around those very basic expectations. |
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Post by smasonnc on Aug 27, 2024 16:58:59 GMT
Diversity of opinion as long as we all sing from the same hymnal politically. There are a couple of peas who absolutely cannot resist flipping their $#*t if someone doesn't toe the line. I have to remind myself that we're all just 1s and zeros. We can disagree without being disagreeable, at least some of us can, and we learn more from people who don't share our views if we just stop shouting at each other. Do we really need 17 political threads all saying that Trump is a bad man? They're all neatly marked so you can avoid them. Meanwhile, multiple game threads, what's for dinner threads, big brother, etc. and no one cares. Politics actually affects people's lives - in some cases, in very serious or even deadly ways. It's worth discussing. If it hasn't affected your life yet, congratulations, you're very lucky. And if politics continues to not affect your life in a negative way, you can thank those of us who have continued to be vocal about fighting for human rights and voting rights. In terms of "singing from the same hymnal," if by that you mean that we expect basic standards of not supporting policies that dehumanize or disenfranchise our fellow human beings, then yes. We should all be able to rally around those very basic expectations. I rest my case. |
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Post by Merge on Aug 27, 2024 16:59:40 GMT
They're all neatly marked so you can avoid them. Meanwhile, multiple game threads, what's for dinner threads, big brother, etc. and no one cares. Politics actually affects people's lives - in some cases, in very serious or even deadly ways. It's worth discussing. If it hasn't affected your life yet, congratulations, you're very lucky. And if politics continues to not affect your life in a negative way, you can thank those of us who have continued to be vocal about fighting for human rights and voting rights. In terms of "singing from the same hymnal," if by that you mean that we expect basic standards of not supporting policies that dehumanize or disenfranchise our fellow human beings, then yes. We should all be able to rally around those very basic expectations. I rest my case. I'm sorry you can't get behind basic human rights expectations. And you're welcome for the work we do to protect your rights, even as you disparage us for doing so. |
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pantsonfire
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Post by pantsonfire on Aug 27, 2024 17:49:19 GMT
I'm sorry you can't get behind basic human rights expectations. And you're welcome for the work we do to protect your rights, even as you disparage us for doing so. This is the tone that pisses me off. The holy than thou frame of mind. Do we need to stand in a circle and pat you on the back and say thanks? Are you looking for extrinsic value for what you do? So because others don't have the time or energy to do allllllllllllllll that you do, we are lesser than? So our vote doesn't matter as much because we didn't bleed protecting rights? I see this is the group I was part of. The we are like so much better because we spend our time tracking down every movement and thought of these locals who think they can take down democratic policies. Yet they ask for help and then tell others to stand down or not share because THEY need to be the ones to break the news. It's allllllll about them. I mean more power to you for doing something YOU want to do. But don't get all pissed at others for not doing the same. We all do what we can with what we have. And props to those who do it without needing to show off. |
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Post by Merge on Aug 27, 2024 18:02:42 GMT
I'm sorry you can't get behind basic human rights expectations. And you're welcome for the work we do to protect your rights, even as you disparage us for doing so. This is the tone that pisses me off. The holy than thou frame of mind. Do we need to stand in a circle and pat you on the back and say thanks? Are you looking for extrinsic value for what you do? So because others don't have the time or energy to do allllllllllllllll that you do, we are lesser than? So our vote doesn't matter as much because we didn't bleed protecting rights? I see this is the group I was part of. The we are like so much better because we spend our time tracking down every movement and thought of these locals who think they can take down democratic policies. Yet they ask for help and then tell others to stand down or not share because THEY need to be the ones to break the news. It's allllllll about them. I mean more power to you for doing something YOU want to do. But don't get all pissed at others for not doing the same. We all do what we can with what we have. And props to those who do it without needing to show off. Whoa. You're reading a lot into what I said. I never said anything about being better than anyone else, nor did I criticize anyone else for what they did or didn't do. I have no idea what you mean about "the group you were part of." I can't recall ever "showing off" for political involvement. We're talking about posts on a message board and those who feel those posts shouldn't happen here because people don't want to be bothered by reading them. I made a snarky comment to someone who make a snarky comment to me and that's it. I clapped back at her comment about seeing political threads. If you read more into it than that, that's entirely on you. |
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Aug 27, 2024 18:46:01 GMT
@scrapbookmylife I needed to hear this as I am opposite of this and my bestie has similar experience and behavior as you. As we get older (we are in our 60s and have known each other 40 years), she gets, IMO, “worse” about her rigidity so it is hard to be around her sometimes. However, I still love her and your view gives me a different perspective— maybe I can be a little more understanding. Thank you so much for your words. Thank you for saying this. Figuring out myself hasn't been easy. Healing wounds and accepting truths and realities is hard. The work and effort it takes, is absolutely worth it. We are all on our own paths. If just one thing helps me, then perhaps it can help another. I share my story, because I have learned >> if just one sentence, one paragraph, one conversation, one song lyric, one poem, etc... stands out or speaks to me......it can make me think, explore, help heal, help guide through me the roughness, through the deep, through hell, through it all. |
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Post by MichyM on Aug 27, 2024 19:02:35 GMT
I just want to add my .02 worth regarding political threads and game threads. There are one or two people who started the games threads, as well as the "save our animals" (or whatever the name of that thread is). I don't think either of them post to peas any longer.
There are also 3-4 peas who start the majority of the political threads.
If you put those thread starters on ignore (or whatever the button is), you no longer see those threads AT ALL if you're logged in while Peaing. I can "unignore them" if I want to see a post they made on another thread. Anyhow, it's a solution that has worked for me, and might for you.
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Post by gar on Aug 27, 2024 19:06:45 GMT
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pantsonfire
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Post by pantsonfire on Aug 27, 2024 19:51:36 GMT
I just want to add my .02 worth regarding political threads and game threads. There are one or two people who started the games threads, as well as the "save our animals" (or whatever the name of that thread is). I don't think either of them post to peas any longer. There are also 3-4 peas who start the majority of the political threads. If you put those thread starters on ignore (or whatever the button is), you no longer see those threads AT ALL if you're logged in while Peaing. I can "unignore them" if I want to see a post they made on another thread. Anyhow, it's a solution that has worked for me, and might for you. Just wish it worked on the mobile version. I can only see blocked peas when on my computer on the desktop version. I still see all threads and posts by blocked peas. There is also no flags or different colors. |
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Post by Zee on Aug 27, 2024 19:54:06 GMT
I just want to add my .02 worth regarding political threads and game threads. There are one or two people who started the games threads, as well as the "save our animals" (or whatever the name of that thread is). I don't think either of them post to peas any longer. There are also 3-4 peas who start the majority of the political threads. If you put those thread starters on ignore (or whatever the button is), you no longer see those threads AT ALL if you're logged in while Peaing. I can "unignore them" if I want to see a post they made on another thread. Anyhow, it's a solution that has worked for me, and might for you. Just wish it worked on the mobile version. I can only see blocked peas when on my computer on the desktop version. I still see all threads and posts by blocked peas. There is also no flags or different colors. Yep, and while we can still scroll past, it would be easier to just know to ignore in the first place. I hate when a thread is started by someone who has me on ignore and I bother to respond and waste my time typing out a response. Oh well, her loss 😜 |
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Post by MichyM on Aug 27, 2024 20:09:43 GMT
I just want to add my .02 worth regarding political threads and game threads. There are one or two people who started the games threads, as well as the "save our animals" (or whatever the name of that thread is). I don't think either of them post to peas any longer. There are also 3-4 peas who start the majority of the political threads. If you put those thread starters on ignore (or whatever the button is), you no longer see those threads AT ALL if you're logged in while Peaing. I can "unignore them" if I want to see a post they made on another thread. Anyhow, it's a solution that has worked for me, and might for you. Just wish it worked on the mobile version. I can only see blocked peas when on my computer on the desktop version. I still see all threads and posts by blocked peas. There is also no flags or different colors. True :/ it's not 100% all of the time...but it does help on a computer. Also, it works for me on my iPad because I don't use an app, I just have the site saved like I do on my laptop. |
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Post by smasonnc on Aug 28, 2024 0:18:04 GMT
I'm sorry you can't get behind basic human rights expectations. And you're welcome for the work we do to protect your rights, even as you disparage us for doing so. I don't know why you assume I can't get behind basic human rights expectations. It's just that I do it in person and not by pounding on my keyboard. You defend our democracy by being sarcastic and condescending, but please accept the thanks of a grateful nation. |
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Post by Merge on Aug 28, 2024 0:58:50 GMT
I'm sorry you can't get behind basic human rights expectations. And you're welcome for the work we do to protect your rights, even as you disparage us for doing so. I don't know why you assume I can't get behind basic human rights expectations. It's just that I do it in person and not by pounding on my keyboard. You defend our democracy by being sarcastic and condescending, but please accept the thanks of a grateful nation. “I rest my case” after my reply to a fairly snotty post about the motives of political posters here wasn’t sarcastic and condescending? Calling out political posts *again* in an unrelated/nonpolitcal thread when we’re already tagging them to suit you isn’t a little bit mean and condescending? YOU made this thread political. My sarcasm meter must be broken. Or maybe you need a hard look in the mirror. ETA: I tested positive for Covid today and feel like crap. That is NOT a request for well wishes or attention. I suspect you’ll tell me to go F myself. But it is letting you know why I will not be participating in this thread any further. |
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Post by peasapie on Aug 28, 2024 8:51:15 GMT
Nothing more pea-like than calling out someone for being missing and then watching them get trashed in the same thread.
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