Bride's Venmo handle on wedding reception and shower invite

wow. Yeah, times they are a-changing.

I've had two weddings in the family in the last 2 years and neither bride did that, so I don't think it's super common.

I'm surprised how many cars I see driving that say things like "I graduated!" and then the Venmo - we're supposed to gift this stranger?

I haven't seen that (yet) but I think it's rude!!! Obviously the purpose of a shower is to "shower the bride" with gifts. So, an actual gift or $ is expected. And usually for weddings, people give a card with $... but to put it on the invitation just rubs me the wrong way.

Oh we just got an invite and the couple has a link included to give them cash for their honeymoon trip. Whatever it's their wedding. It'll definitely make it easy to just gift them some cash.

I don’t use Venmo and wouldn’t get it just for a wedding. They would get a check.

I feel like that’s tacky. DD is 30, her BF IS 34 and if they ever decide to get married I hope that all my talk about being grateful vs expectations have sunk in. I know a Venmo link is modern but I also think - know your audience. Sell a lawnmower = Venmo, wedding = cards which you damn well better read.

I think its tacky, but I'm old and a fuddy-duddy. ha!
But, I'm afraid we will be seeing more and more of this type of thing.
Also, people are so materialitic today, they usually have close to all the "things" they need, so gifts are not as popular as it was years ago when people brought gifts to help the newlyweds set up their home.

Yes, I've seen "Just Married" written on the back windshield of cars with their Venmo info with it. 
Oh yeah, I'm at a stoplight and will just Venmo the car in front of me...sure. 

I honestly do not understand why people are annoyed over this, and would prefer to put cash in a card. At the end of the day, it's all money. One involves more effort (giver and receiver both having to go to a bank to withdraw and deposit - ugh!) and the other is much simpler for everyone. 

Y'all are old fuddy duddies! 

And if the couple wants money to put towards their honeymoon, or even their reception, so be it.... why buy them a toaster or a gift card instead?

Maybe the card is something tangible that would remind them to send a thank you?..!!!

This 100%!

Eh, I love the ease and security of Venmo and hate trying to buy a card. Plus with a cash or check you always risk theft, and you're putting the burden of getting it deposited on the couple as well. (A small burden, but a burden nonetheless.) If a handle was provided I'd probably just use it to send whatever amount I would have spent on them. Easiest for everyone.

I agree with whoever said it isn't materialism that makes people already have most of what they need - it's the fact that people get married later, and you can't just wait around for ten years without a toaster or a decent set of towels so you can hopefully get married someday and finally acquire them. DH and I married right out of grad school and honestly needed a lot of that stuff, but that's not true for most people today.

I know two teachers who were traveling to a girls' weekend and wrote "Broke teachers. Girls Weekend. Buy us a drink? *venmo info*" on the back window of their vehicle. And reportedly, it worked. They said they were shocked that a number of total strangers did venmo them money.

But, back to the topic. I was raised with die-hard adherence to long list of etiquette rules. I fought the good fight for a while, but then decided life's too short. The basic tenet of etiquette anyway to to make others feel comfortable so if this is the way to honor the recipient's wishes, well... I agree with AussieMeg that it's time to stop being fuddy duddies and move on with the times.

Yes, around here I've seen the opposite--the wedding open to more people than the reception. Typically if someone wants to include a large group of people from one place. Perhaps they volunteer at a senior center, they may pot a general invitation to the ceremony. Or the same thing at a place of employment. And so on. A chance to allow people to be there for your big day without creating a reception situation that would be out of budget or too large for the venue of choice.  And typically here, anyway, those ceremony only invitations clearly state "no gifts" as well.

I think this is fun.  It goes back to my thinking about Go Fund Me requests.  I like doing things to make people smile or to help them if possible, and I don't feel I'm often in a position to do that in a big way.

But things like Buy Me a Coffee on YouTube, or this Venmo thing, or overpaying at a kid's lemonade stand, or a Go Fund Me for a kid to go on a trip--they are all super small, super easy ways to make someone smile. To make their day a bit better.  So occasionally I figure why not? I can't be giving out money 10 times a day every day, but once in awhile, sure.  

(Of course, as I said, I don't have Venmo, so that would be an issue, but if I did, I'd Venmo the broke teachers just because their sign made me chuckle, and how is giving them a few bucks going to have any major negative effect my life?     )