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Post by heckofagal on Aug 27, 2024 22:57:54 GMT
Hey Peas, I know there was a POTS thread about 4 months ago and I was going to reply and bump that old thread but I started typing and my reply seemed pretty lengthly so I decided to just start a new post. Anyways I have some questions for those of you who have POTS or who have DDs with POTS and my DD has been unofficially diagnosed.
What symptoms lead you or your DDs to seek a diagnosis?
Is POTS hereditary?
Does anyone know of a POTS specialist in St. Lous or the closest one?
I myself have had health issues for the past 15 years or so. Dizziness or lightheadedness was my biggest issue, but I've never passed out, just felt like I was going to. I was diagnosed hypothyroid and with high blood pressure but after treating both of those I still didn't feel well. Found a dr that tested for a bunch of other things and tried tweaking my thyroid meds. I would have good days and bad days, but often just felt 'off' or unwell and couldn't really explain why. Since then, I've been told I have chronic Epstein Barr and apparently my dizziness and lightheadedness stems from Vestibular Migraines.
My DD unfortunately has followed in my unwell footsteps. She was diagnosed late middle school with ADHD. Started ADHD meds that helped tremendously but she went off thru the summer per her dr. Started meds back up when school started and she had a VERY depressive episode that the dr said was caused by ADHD meds, so she was switched to a different kind, and that depression lifted. But she's had bouts of depression and anxiety since then so has also been on antidepressants since then. Started passing out occasionally in high school. She also got very thin at the time as the ADHD meds made her not want to eat. A doctor we saw at the time said he suspected she had POTS, but he was not real familiar with POTS. He did strt her on a med to see if it helped. Her thyroid numbers were also off but that dr did not want to treat the thyroid at that time. The passing out stopped but the feeling unwell did not. She stopped taking the meds for the POTS and actually struggled to remember to take any of her meds around that time. Diagnosed hypothyrod on her 19th birthday. I was not surprised since thyroid issues run through our family and she was already exhibiting signs of Raynauds so I knew the autoimmune stuff was already an issue (her grandmother on her father's side has this so we knew what was happening there).
Through college she struggled mostly with the ADHD. Then Covid hit and I thought she was doing okay. She was getting heavier, but my other DD and I are both overweight so I didn't think much of it. She turned 21 during Covid so I did not mind if she had a drink in her room while playing video games online with her friends.
Not sure how but she graduated, Covid restrictions lifted and she got a job. Right after graduation she was struggling with her depression and when I questioned her about taking her meds regularly she finally broke down sobbing and telling me she quit taking ALL her meds. I told her that was not an option and told her about Myxedema coma and that she NEEDS to always take her thyroid meds especially. (Suddenly made sense why she looked SO puffy!) She started her meds back up and things were normal for a bit. Then we found out she was drinking a LOT more than we ever imagined and that she was an alcoholic. I went in her room with her and we cleaned out all the empty vodka bottles hidden in her room, wow...I felt like such a bad mother because I had NO idea. That was almost 3 years ago. She stopped drinking immediately, got a better job and really seemed to be doing well for a couple years. Last summer she had another depressive episode, but a new boyfriend entered the picture and she seemed to snap out of it.
Then a couple months ago she hit a wall. Biggest depressive episode, her job was really stressing her out, she said she never feels good and just didn't want to be alive anymore. We've discussed taking her to the local psych hospital but she always begs us not to take her there as her and her sister know people who have gone there and its not a good place to be. She always says, don't worry, I will not k!ll myself. It's been a rough couple of months! Her psychiatrist has been changing her meds, but DD does not have confidence in him anymore as he had her take a $300 test to determine which drugs would work best, then tried to put her on one of the worst ones for her. She quit going to the therapist she had a couple years, as it turned out that therapist actually practiced witchcraft and Tarot cards are fun for a girls night out but I don't think they have any place in a clinical therapist setting. She tried to see a new therapist recently that was not taking our insurance and DD was going to pay out of pocket. She told the therapist she was looking for a new psychiatrist as this one was not treating her ADHD effectively. This therapist told her she can't help her mentally until she gets her ADHD straightened out and did not want to set up another appointment with her. And now after those 2 experiences she is gun shy to find a new therapist.
I took her to our doctor who ran a bazillion tests. She also had been previously diagnosed with chronic Epstein Barr and apparently hers was reactived and so she was having Mono-like symptoms again. She put her on short term disability as she said the constant stress at work would not allow her to fight this infection, and put her on an anti-viral. She also said she suspected POTS and recommended some things to help. She's been wearing compression socks or tights, increasing her water intake, increasing her Vit C, electrolytes, trying to get enough sleep.
It's been a month. She had to go back to work yesterday as her boss is going to be out for 2 weeks starting next Monday and they moved her to a new property while she was off so there are things she needed to catch up on. She is still not feeling well. She's worn down and afraid that this is how the rest of her life is going to be... and she is only 25.
Sorry this got so long!
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Post by pantsonfire on Aug 27, 2024 23:51:49 GMT
What symptoms lead you or your DDs to seek a diagnosis?
Super high heart rate, blood pooling, feeling dizzy, having Dysautonomia.
Is POTS hereditary?
Yes and no. It itself is not an X linked gene. So in that sense no. But yes because it is also part of X linked genetic problems like hEDS.
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Post by pantsonfire on Aug 28, 2024 0:06:32 GMT
With POTS it is water AND salt increase.
Also there are a ton of meds that make POTS worse.
Dd had to come off all of her meds for anxiety, impulse control, and pain (risoersol, gabapentin, and guafacine). All 3 caused POTS to worsen and there are many more.
Has she had the tilt table test or poor man's tilt table test and seen cardiology?
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Post by pantsonfire on Aug 28, 2024 0:07:14 GMT
Also if she is having mono like symptoms and anxiety and depression are worsening has she been tested for PANDAS?
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Post by pantsonfire on Aug 28, 2024 0:10:19 GMT
Sorry, I randomly get thoughts here. Brain is turning off for the day.
Is she on Propanoral? Just know many POTS meds can make other symptoms worse and most have to stack meds.
It's ideal to not take any meds for it as they can worsen other symptoms or cause new ones.
Our cardiology team only does the meds for those with severe, uncontrolled by other means POTS. We see a cardiology team at the International Heart Institute at a major Uni medical center. And other care teams have agreed with this.
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Post by scrapmaven on Aug 28, 2024 0:12:22 GMT
I think that your dd needs to be evaluated by a dysautonomic clinic at a large university hospital and treated by a great pscyhiatrist and therapist at the same time. You might have to travel, but if that is what's necessary it could be a game changer for your dd.
POTS isn't just a simple thing. It can be a product of other stuff, like her recurrent Epstein Barre virus, as well as depression. The sympathetic and para sympathetic nervous system can go haywire and the key will be learning how to calm all of it down, so that your dd can live well.
I, too had a long term virus and it wreaked havoc on my body. It took a lot of trial and error, but I have a fantastic team in place and I am a self advocate. Your dd can be her own advocate, but right now she needs your help. Finding great doctors is not impossible, but think larger hospital and alternative treatments.
Your dd needs to be on the right meds and she needs to feel heard and supported by her medical team. So far, she's had a raw deal. Oddly, POTS is the least of my problems. However, the things that have caused POTS really knock me out, sometimes.
I wish your dd well and I hope that she finds a great team to help her navigate this stuff and learn to embrace and enjoy her life. I'm quite ill, but I'm also quite happy. Both are possible.
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Post by pantsonfire on Aug 28, 2024 0:13:14 GMT
Oh and monthly cycles can make POTS worse. There is new research that shows the hormone changes trigger more episodes.
So when DD had had her period for exactly 1 year, she started BCP. 3 months on pills, then 1 cycle. 3 months, 1 cycle. The controlled hormones has really helped.
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Post by River on Aug 28, 2024 14:12:33 GMT
I have POTS and Dysautonomia. My DS26 has just started having lots of unexplainable heath issues and our doctor thinks he has POTS. It's not as common in males as females, but we are having him tested with the tilt table test in the next few weeks. He's feeling a little better by doing the things I do to help keep it controlled as best as possible.
1. Increase water intake 2. Increase salt intake (like double or triple) 3. Raise the head of the mattress so as not to lay flat (we had to play with the right angle until we found what worked best) This can be a game changer! 4. Keep an eye on heartrate. (I occasionally have to take Propanol for it when it continues to run too high)
Feelings of anxiety and fatigue is my biggest sign that POTS is acting up and I have to really increase my salt and sometimes water. The anxiety and fatigue also lead me into a depression if I don't stay diligent on the 4 things I listed.
I wish you all the best!! Please message me anytime if you have questions.
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Post by River on Aug 28, 2024 14:15:08 GMT
Also, I'm not sure if you saw this article on the other post, but it really helps explain the crazy symptoms. What to know about POTS
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Post by heckofagal on Aug 28, 2024 19:27:56 GMT
With POTS it is water AND salt increase. Also there are a ton of meds that make POTS worse. Dd had to come off all of her meds for anxiety, impulse control, and pain (risoersol, gabapentin, and guafacine). All 3 caused POTS to worsen and there are many more. Has she had the tilt table test or poor man's tilt table test and seen cardiology? She has not had any tilt table test yet, nor tested for PANDAS, as far as I know. Is that a blood test? I know they tested for mold exposure, Lyme disease, Cortisol levels and I'm sure a bunch more I'm not remembering or even knew for sure. She does not take Propranolol. She has recently been put on Pristiq for the depression (dropped the Prozac) and Qelbree for the ADHD. She also lowered her Vyvanse for the ADHD. Vyvanse is known to cause circulation issues but its been the one ADHD med that has helped her the most. She went off birth control 8-12 months ago to see if that helped her feel better. She was bad about taking it regularly so never felt safe about relying on that for birth control. She wanted to get an IUD but she had issues after getting her ears pierced at an early age where her ears started to swell up around the earring and I said 'imagine that happening inside you where you can't see it'. I think maybe she should get back on the pill then, might be why she is struggling more. And she does have frequent mottled skin all up and down her legs. I thought it was bad circulation from the Vyvanse and Raynauds but now I guess that is blood pooling? She's had a high heart rate for years. And the fatigue has been really bad lately.
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Post by heckofagal on Aug 28, 2024 19:32:56 GMT
I have POTS and Dysautonomia. My DS26 has just started having lots of unexplainable heath issues and our doctor thinks he has POTS. It's not as common in males as females, but we are having him tested with the tilt table test in the next few weeks. He's feeling a little better by doing the things I do to help keep it controlled as best as possible. 1. Increase water intake 2. Increase salt intake (like double or triple) 3. Raise the head of the mattress so as not to lay flat (we had to play with the right angle until we found what worked best) This can be a game changer! 4. Keep an eye on heartrate. (I occasionally have to take Propanol for it when it continues to run too high) Feelings of anxiety and fatigue is my biggest sign that POTS is acting up and I have to really increase my salt and sometimes water. The anxiety and fatigue also lead me into a depression if I don't stay diligent on the 4 things I listed. I wish you all the best!! Please message me anytime if you have questions. She has increased her water and salt intake. Could she use one of those foam wedges instead of raising the head of her bed. She sits on her bed a lot and I think it might be annoying if its completely slanted, but if it would help she would just have to get used to it. I would think having a high heartrate would be exhausting itself. Thanks for the link for the article. I did read it but will also forward it to my DD.
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Post by pantsonfire on Aug 28, 2024 19:47:20 GMT
With POTS it is water AND salt increase. Also there are a ton of meds that make POTS worse. Dd had to come off all of her meds for anxiety, impulse control, and pain (risoersol, gabapentin, and guafacine). All 3 caused POTS to worsen and there are many more. Has she had the tilt table test or poor man's tilt table test and seen cardiology? She has not had any tilt table test yet, nor tested for PANDAS, as far as I know. Is that a blood test? I know they tested for mold exposure, Lyme disease, Cortisol levels and I'm sure a bunch more I'm not remembering or even knew for sure. She does not take Propranolol. She has recently been put on Pristiq for the depression (dropped the Prozac) and Qelbree for the ADHD. She also lowered her Vyvanse for the ADHD. Vyvanse is known to cause circulation issues but its been the one ADHD med that has helped her the most. She went off birth control 8-12 months ago to see if that helped her feel better. She was bad about taking it regularly so never felt safe about relying on that for birth control. She wanted to get an IUD but she had issues after getting her ears pierced at an early age where her ears started to swell up around the earring and I said 'imagine that happening inside you where you can't see it'. I think maybe she should get back on the pill then, might be why she is struggling more. And she does have frequent mottled skin all up and down her legs. I thought it was bad circulation from the Vyvanse and Raynauds but now I guess that is blood pooling? She's had a high heart rate for years. And the fatigue has been really bad lately. Blood pooling is when the feet, ankles, lower legs, hands, fingers, and lower arms are deep red. That is blood pooling. The mottled skin and lacey rash are associated with Dysautonomia and POTS
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Post by pantsonfire on Aug 28, 2024 19:49:10 GMT
This is blood pooling:
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Post by pantsonfire on Aug 28, 2024 19:51:24 GMT
DD gets even redder. This can cause fainting because the blood is not being properly pushed back up. She gets her blood pooling about 10 min in after standing if she is not moving, about 5 to 6 min in colder weather. So she has to be very mindful of long lines. We take her wheelchair most of the time. But even sitting still can cause it. We both have had tachy events sitting. You will notice POTSIEs will sit criss cross or with their legs up in weird positions to stop them from having a tachy event.
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Post by heckofagal on Aug 28, 2024 19:55:45 GMT
I think that your dd needs to be evaluated by a dysautonomic clinic at a large university hospital and treated by a great pscyhiatrist and therapist at the same time. You might have to travel, but if that is what's necessary it could be a game changer for your dd. POTS isn't just a simple thing. It can be a product of other stuff, like her recurrent Epstein Barre virus, as well as depression. The sympathetic and para sympathetic nervous system can go haywire and the key will be learning how to calm all of it down, so that your dd can live well. I, too had a long term virus and it wreaked havoc on my body. It took a lot of trial and error, but I have a fantastic team in place and I am a self advocate. Your dd can be her own advocate, but right now she needs your help. Finding great doctors is not impossible, but think larger hospital and alternative treatments. Your dd needs to be on the right meds and she needs to feel heard and supported by her medical team. So far, she's had a raw deal. Oddly, POTS is the least of my problems. However, the things that have caused POTS really knock me out, sometimes. I wish your dd well and I hope that she finds a great team to help her navigate this stuff and learn to embrace and enjoy her life. I'm quite ill, but I'm also quite happy. Both are possible. Do the dysautonomia clinics have psychiatrist and therapists associated? She has a therapist appointment finally scheduled. I started looking for a POTS or Dysautonomia specialist and stumbled upon Laurence Kinsella while doing my research. Back when my issues were at their worst my GP said she thought it was migraine related and I did not think that was right. She told me to find a neurologist and after doing my research I was convinced I had Dysautonomia so I made an appt with Dr Kinsella because he is touted as a top autonomic specialist. I think I had to wait 4-5 months to see him and my DH drove me to my appt because I was too dizzy to drive. When I got there they told me they had been trying to reach me to reschedule as the dr had to be out of the office that day. So I had to reschedule another 3 MONTHS later! I cried so hard leaving that office and I'm sure everyone who saw me in the office and elevator thought I had just been diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumor or something similar, but I was SOOO excited to get some answers because I felt so ill for so long. When he did finally see me he diagnosed me with Vestibular migraines. I left the office feeling a bit dejected because I could not understand how sights and sounds and scents could set me off but then I started researching about Vestibular Migraines and EVERYTHING made sense. He tried to put me on Topomax and that made everything worse. Then his office called in propranolol and they did not tell me to take that instead of the metoprolol I was taking. But I called up to question that and they were like 'well, of course that was supposed to be switched out not in addition to.' And I never went back to see them as I felt I just needed to figure out how to live with the migraines.
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Post by pantsonfire on Aug 28, 2024 20:13:04 GMT
I think that your dd needs to be evaluated by a dysautonomic clinic at a large university hospital and treated by a great pscyhiatrist and therapist at the same time. You might have to travel, but if that is what's necessary it could be a game changer for your dd. POTS isn't just a simple thing. It can be a product of other stuff, like her recurrent Epstein Barre virus, as well as depression. The sympathetic and para sympathetic nervous system can go haywire and the key will be learning how to calm all of it down, so that your dd can live well. I, too had a long term virus and it wreaked havoc on my body. It took a lot of trial and error, but I have a fantastic team in place and I am a self advocate. Your dd can be her own advocate, but right now she needs your help. Finding great doctors is not impossible, but think larger hospital and alternative treatments. Your dd needs to be on the right meds and she needs to feel heard and supported by her medical team. So far, she's had a raw deal. Oddly, POTS is the least of my problems. However, the things that have caused POTS really knock me out, sometimes. I wish your dd well and I hope that she finds a great team to help her navigate this stuff and learn to embrace and enjoy her life. I'm quite ill, but I'm also quite happy. Both are possible. Do the dysautonomia clinics have psychiatrist and therapists associated? She has a therapist appointment finally scheduled. I started looking for a POTS or Dysautonomia specialist and stumbled upon Laurence Kinsella while doing my research. Back when my issues were at their worst my GP said she thought it was migraine related and I did not think that was right. She told me to find a neurologist and after doing my research I was convinced I had Dysautonomia so I made an appt with Dr Kinsella because he is touted as a top autonomic specialist. I think I had to wait 4-5 months to see him and my DH drove me to my appt because I was too dizzy to drive. When I got there they told me they had been trying to reach me to reschedule as the dr had to be out of the office that day. So I had to reschedule another 3 MONTHS later! I cried so hard leaving that office and I'm sure everyone who saw me in the office and elevator thought I had just been diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumor or something similar, but I was SOOO excited to get some answers because I felt so ill for so long. When he did finally see me he diagnosed me with Vestibular migraines. I left the office feeling a bit dejected because I could not understand how sights and sounds and scents could set me off but then I started researching about Vestibular Migraines and EVERYTHING made sense. He tried to put me on Topomax and that made everything worse. Then his office called in propranolol and they did not tell me to take that instead of the metoprolol I was taking. But I called up to question that and they were like 'well, of course that was supposed to be switched out not in addition to.' And I never went back to see them as I felt I just needed to figure out how to live with the migraines. The 2 clinics DD and I have been to do not have therapists and psychologists associated. I think because a lot of times people are told "its all in your head" "you have severe anxiety" "you need meds" yet its not all in our heads and a lot of the psych meds can cause issues with tachycardia issues. We see several specialty teams (genetics, GI, cardiology, Rheumatology, Orthopedics, Allergy/Immunology, Ophthalmology, and we see Audiology here and there. This is because with hEDS our ears can dislocate and then we get muffled sound or loose hearing.) Anyways DD was seeing a new therapist and they basically denied what she was going through and said it was all in her head. SHe has also had a few teachers that felt she was having "episodes" to get out of work even though she always made up the work and was an A student. PANDAS comes from strep and has its own specific testing required. Treatment is IVIG therapy.
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Post by pantsonfire on Aug 28, 2024 20:15:01 GMT
Because of Covid, there are a lot more people who know about POTS. It is a side effect of having Covid. I have a few friends dealing with post covid POTS. Cardiology is your best bet for proper testing. That is who tested DD and I for Dysautonomia and POTS.
We had poor mans tilt table test, tilt table, wore holter monitors for 7-14 days, had echos, EKGs, and DD even had a cardiac MRI. SHe needs a follow up one.
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My DD has had POTS since she was 16--she will be 30 on Monday. We sought out an electrophysiologist who diagnosed her. She does go to the Dysautonomia Clinic at Duke. She has had all of the usual--tilt table, echo, EKG, etc. Every patient is different. She cannot take showers in the morning--only in the evening. She has to wear compression daily, drink lots of fluids, salt, and exercise actually helps her. She takes bistolic and propranolol. This is the combination of everything that works for her. She also has to know her limits. I highly recommend that you read this. www.dysautonomiainternational.org/page.php?ID=30We do know of a young man that was diagnosed with POTS after Covid but thankfully after about a year, it was gone. For my DD, you can see how long it's been and hers was way before Covid. Hope you find something that works for your DD.
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Post by heckofagal on Aug 30, 2024 16:01:12 GMT
My DD has had POTS since she was 16--she will be 30 on Monday. We sought out an electrophysiologist who diagnosed her. She does go to the Dysautonomia Clinic at Duke. She has had all of the usual--tilt table, echo, EKG, etc. Every patient is different. She cannot take showers in the morning--only in the evening. She has to wear compression daily, drink lots of fluids, salt, and exercise actually helps her. She takes bistolic and propranolol. This is the combination of everything that works for her. She also has to know her limits. I highly recommend that you read this. www.dysautonomiainternational.org/page.php?ID=30We do know of a young man that was diagnosed with POTS after Covid but thankfully after about a year, it was gone. For my DD, you can see how long it's been and hers was way before Covid. Hope you find something that works for your DD. Is your DD a full functioning adult? What kind of job does she have? My DD has found some message boards and she's freaked out because she keeps hearing about 20-somethings who are wheelchair bound or completely disabled. I've told her there are varying degrees of this and that the healthy more active ones are out living their lives and not posting on message boards. pantsonfire donnab sabrinae dizzycheermom are your children full functioning adults? What kind of jobs do they have? kluski how is your DD doing?
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Post by pantsonfire on Aug 30, 2024 16:21:50 GMT
heckofagal okay first off POTS is a spectrum and we (both dd and I) are part of hEDS, Dysautonomia, and POTS reddit groups. Yes there are those who are wheelchair users BUT are still fully functioning adults. Please do not put down those who use devices and aides as not fully human or not seen as a fully functioning adult. I follow an RN who has hEDS, Dysautonomia, POTS and is a fully functioning adult in a wheelchair. She has a great career, partner, child, has done beauty pageants, speaking events, and started a disabled dance class. Just because a person is in a wheelchair or needs AFOs or crutches or a cane or a scooter or braces doesn't mean they aren't a fully functioning adult. You and dd need to change your view points about disabilities.
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Post by pantsonfire on Aug 30, 2024 16:22:19 GMT
Also a job does not define one as a fully functioning adult. I'm stepping away for my own peace of mind.
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Post by heckofagal on Aug 30, 2024 16:47:54 GMT
pantsonfire I am SO sorry...I absolutely did not mean to offend you! I absolutely agree that those in wheelchairs or using other assistive devices can be full functioning adults, and I did not actually say that. I'm just trying to understand what could be expected here. How hard should she push herself to define her limits. She's finding it difficult to keep up at her job...she's finding it difficult to keep up with her friends...she struggles with depression and this is all sending her in a tailspin. She's been feeling poorly for so long and she just wanted to go to the doctor and get a diagnosis and take a magic pill to make it all better. She's realizing that is not going to happen. My best friend's 25 year old daughter-in-law has recently been diagnosed with something she won't recover from. She needs help bathing and using the toilet and needs 24 hour care. I don't think that is fully functioning adult. All of my DDs friends are getting new apartments or buying houses. She's run out of money and living at home. And yes, a job does not define a fully functioning adult. My husband and I have been spending quite a bit of money on her and if she cannot work she cannot pay her school loans or her car payment.
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Post by River on Aug 30, 2024 17:42:08 GMT
heckofagal POTS has a ton of varying degrees so please keep reiterating that to your DD. What one person experiences can be wildly different than another. I know my experiences are a little different because I didn't get diagnosed until I was 38, although I was having symptoms at 30. I had 2 boys that were 4 and 7 and active in sports, full career and a husband, when I really started having issues. I felt as though I didn't have the time to let my issues slow me down. I went on to have a 3rd son and then it became clear that I had no choice but to slow down. I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer at 40 and was completely down for an entire year. I worked my way back to a new normal. Today at 51, I can do it all, just on a different level/timetable. I work full time and have my youngest DS, his girlfriend and their 5-month-old baby living with me. I'm able to help care for my granddaughter and live a pretty normal life. I do have complete down days that hit like a ton of bricks, but I'm prepared for those days.
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Post by dizzycheermom on Aug 31, 2024 23:08:42 GMT
I will try to come back to post more but my daughter is 25 and works as a nurse at an outpatient surgery center. She does pre op and post op. Will try to tell more later but also happy to talk with you over the phone as there is a lot to tell about her history.
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Post by sabrinae on Sept 1, 2024 13:38:00 GMT
There is a wide spectrum of daily functioning among POTS patients and it depends on what co-occurring conditions also exist. My daughter is 17 and a senior in high school. Life has certainly changed for her but she also has a connective tissue disorder. She’s planning on college though and planning on Physical Therapy school. She has modified her life. She has to plan activities carefully and make modifications based on how she’s feeling. It’s been a challenge for sure but she gets better at managing it every day. We have all reassessed how she’s going to reach her goals and it changes as her symptoms change.
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